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female
age
30-35,
*kimduong
writes:I've been dating or seeing this guy for 4 months. We were seriously dating August 2010 and things were going find. He asked me to be his gf. He text me almost everyday, we say goodnight, mornings and we spent time with each other a couple of times a week.But after his birthday Aug 26th, we got into an argument because he went to LA with his family for his bday party and didnt come back til the following day. I told him that this upsets me because he promise to try to be back by evening. I got him a cake and had everything planned out for his bday night. He didnt come back. Couple days later, things cooled off and he called me saying sorry and everything. I haven't seen him for 3 weeks since. We do still text occassionally but he's too busy to hang out with me now. He said he was relocated to another location at work which was an hr from home. I could no longer visit him =[But one day, his former manager told me. "Hey, you must miss him now because he works in La Jolla."I was like what? Suprised because, La Jolla is only 20 mins away. He lied to me, why? He havent had time to spend with me because he SUPPOSIVELY got relocated farWe text on and off, i didnt text him for 5 days, to see if he would text me first like he used to. But got nothing all week. I decide to surprised him at his place, showed up. OMG the most fucked up thingUsually he would carry my bag and walk me upstairs. This time he heard my heels and walk down stairs and sort of push me back out the parking lot where my car was. He said come one lets talk this way and walked away from his house. His house lights turned off as soon as he hear my heels walking up stairshe said, he have his brother and buddy up there. Why couldnt he let me in? He could intro me to them since he said he wants me to meet his other friend from work. He wasnt too happy to have me there that day, looked frustrated and didnt say much. He was pushy about me going home so he can go back up with his bro and buddy. Is there a girl out there like all my friends said? He said sry for not calling me for days cuz his phone was off for 3 days and it was on that day. But its been all day since he texted me. I showed up at his place cuz he didnt returned my call. What should i do?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Its still just not sounding good for you. I don't want you to get stuck in this routine of him only being in this relationship when its convienient for him. Take some time to think over everything that he is doing and ask yourself if this is what you want for your relationship.
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reader, akimduong +, writes (13 September 2010):
akimduong is verified as being by the original poster of the question He said he was going to call me back that night, but never did. The next morning he said sorry, he did ending up passing out. He said he felt bad that night and he haven't contacted me for days. But now its been 2 days, I haven't heard from him.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (13 September 2010):
I would get rid of him asap. It does sound like there was something being hidden when he wouldn't let you in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): I'm sorry this will sound harsh. It seems like he doesn't want to be with you anymore OR he's doing drugs or something he's hiding from you.
You are right, he should have brought you upstairs and introduced you--unless he was hiding a girl or drugs or something else.
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