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female
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30-35,
*ember
writes:My ex has come back!I don't know what to do. I had this ex, that I thought I had gotten rid of. He used to lie to me all the time about everything but I gave him a chance anyway :( but it didn't work and I left him. We're nothing but a huge mess but we're still madly in love with each other. And the other night he called me crying saying he missed me and wanted me back. I can't ever be with him or I'll get hurt again but I can never lose him. We always come back into each other's lives. Advice please? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): He is just an over-grown child deprived of his favorite toy and that's precisely how he is acting. Tell him to grow up and as far away from you as is possible without having to change address. If you don't take a firm stance with these people they will chew you up and spit you out. You don't need that. Nobody does.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 September 2010):
No, no. You may love him, but he couldn't care a less about you. Don't be fooled by the tears and all that. Men like this aren't totally stupid when it comes to gaining control over women. But women can be naive at times, and will fall for this behaviour. So, tell him straight that there is no way you will let him back in, and to stop contacting you. Then ignore him for the rest of your life.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 You will have to be stern with this one and make sure he knows not to contact you again. Then you both can move on. Don't respond to his crying and begging to get back together, you have to tell him that its over without being too mean but you have to get your point across. As long as you two are in each others lives neither one of you will be able to heal.
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