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writes:I have a guy friend named 'Nick'. We have been friends for 6 months. In that time, we have been throughso much together, and he is now one of my closest friends. Until a month ago, he was also going out with my BFF.They had a nasty breakup, but she is now dating someone else. He is the one who broke it off, but he's single, and still looking. At a party recently, we spent the entire time together. When I got home, I realized that I do have feelings for him, way more than those of a friend.My question...Is it a good idea for him to know the way I feel? Or will it just ruin everything?Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): Below is bad advice. Don't talk to anyone about your feelings. If you value your friendship with your BFF then forget about the guy that dumped her. You considering him as boyfriend material will be seen as a total act of betrayal. He is scum for rejecting her, and you need to steer clear. At 13-15 age you will not be staying with him very long, and you will be trading your BFF for a few months, at most, of some guy. Bottom line: Don't date this guy.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 I would talk with your best friend over this. Try to understand it from her point of view. Things did not end well between them and it was HIM who broke up with her.
I could understand her being very upset.
If she disagrees and gets upset you have a choice to make. Him or Her...
My advice is to NOT pick a boy over your bff.
Good Luck!
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reader, The Realist +, writes (13 September 2010):
 If you don't want to risk losing the frienship over this guy I would ask your friend if its ok if you were to date him. If she says no then you really have to be prepared for the concequences but if she says yes then you don't have anything to worry about it.
He may be interested in you so I hope that you can let him know how you feel so that you don't have to wonder what could have happened between you two.
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