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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello!me and my boyfriend have been sleeping together for a year. we were both virgins before we met.when we have sex he cums within the first few minutes. so i dont have a chance to even start enjoying it really.why does this happen?thanks for the advise xx
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Happens with youngsters a lot, especially if you're very tight (you must be). As others have said, he will learn control over time. Another option is for you to get him off orally, indulge in some foreplay and then have a go again. They always last longer the second time around. You may also look at increasing the frequency in general. They always come faster if they've had to wait a long while.
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reader, loopy +, writes (13 September 2010):
 I have had this "often" my cure is so simple it will make you angry that you didn't think of it first. OraGel toothache medicine. or Ora films if your drugist has them . I put a tiny little dab IN side his condom[or if you trust bareback then on the tip glands,underside]None on anypart of your self allow about 20 minuets make out time, if RAW. then procced as normal,
BUT the other side of that coin is Encourage him to PLAY more, deepen your involvement in the act, not just hump and hope. You know they sell 'INTENSE' for the ladys enhanced enjoyment. get it, use it. self experimental with training on faster oRgasm as the primary goal.IF you know he is going to be over for a BOOT-AH call. get your self orgaZoomed a few times, so when he gets, roundtoit,she is cocked an primed for his rapid fire.
I( have a fine YOUNGER occational lover who is not into control at all. but he is so cute, I wait till he is gone and fantasize my own orgasm. I reiciently tried this , I put and ora FILM on my tongue and went down on him for a breif moment before He took me from the back side while I was trying to make him solid. He was shocked by the fact IT didn't explode on impact.I got my First orgasm with him inside me and finished a second with him just done he changed entry points to finish, so I was able to find my own way HOME in the DARK. I was his Drivers ED coach in the summer so he could get his permit early, he has lost the privilage to Drive until he is 18 , So he bikes around town. We didn't START this until a month after my Tutallage was finished. He may settle down and drive right now, in both new diversions.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): Try "her pleasure condoms". Those should work just fine. They numb the male slightly so he can last longer, and also are ribbed. I don't use condoms, but supposedly that feels good.
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female
reader, Miamine +, writes (13 September 2010):
 He's young, the pleasure is too intense and he doesn't know how to control himself. It should come with practice. If it remains a problem, then come back and we will help you with a few techniques.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): First of all you guys were both virgins which infact you are probably super tight and he has never felt anything so amazing in his life so he doesn't know what to do with all the sensations so he cums he will get used to it after a while and not do it so quick hopefully
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): A few minutes isn't all that fast. I remember my little brother complaining that he could only last 30 seconds; so just keep in mind that it could be worse.
Control may take a while for him to learn. If he were to masturbate more frequently he would start to have more control. Also, try to have sex multiple times in the same setting, ie: have sex, he cums in 2 minutes, manual/oral stimulation continues, he gets hard, sex some more, he cums in 5 mins, repeat as necessary.
I know that the first time I had sex, I lasted an hour. But I had also masturbated every day for like 3 years before that. I know for a fact had I just had sex right out of the gate it would have been a quick release.
Good lick...er... luck.
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 Men who are not circumcised** pardon my spelling
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reader, misfitschik66 +, writes (13 September 2010):
is he circumcised? men she are not circumcised tend to be more sensitive down there leading them to ejaculate a lot faster
OR he is just super turned on and can't hold himself back
are you using condoms? if you are not try using them they decrease sensitivity causing the erection to last longer
OR true the cooling lubricant that also decreases sensitivity
try having sex slower if you are having it quiet rough he may be sensitive to the force on his erection causing him to ejaculate easy as well
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (13 September 2010):
 Just get him to get you off before you have sex. You cum during foreplay he cums during sex problem solved.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (13 September 2010):
 He is probably really sensitive and the simulation is too much for him. There are desensitizing creals out there but if you're not up for that one you can get him to orgasm then wait till he can become hard again. He should last longer the second time.
On a side note, this one is only semi serious because I had an old gf do this and I could never cum. Dig your nails into his back so that it gives him that pain to focus on and he shouldn't be able to finish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): He's young (I assume he's around your age), it happens. There are some exercises that he can use to help slow things down (that's if you want to address it with him and take a chance on hurting or embarrassing him--men can be a little sensitive about criticism when it comes to this type of thing).
One way he can help you get pleasure is to extend the foreplay!
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