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*oulie
writes:Last year i was meant to have an abortion after me and my boyfriend split up, but i never. I never told my ex i was pregnant either.I gave birth to a healthy baby boy called Levi on 24th January.I have seen my ex 1 or 2 times since we split up and he doesn't think the baby is his. My current boyfriend who was there through the pregnancy wants to raise Levi as his own and is fully committed to us both, but my mum says it is wrong what i am doing and I should tell my ex the truth. He walked out on me and there is nothing stopping him walking out on his son either. He needs stability and a role-model and he has got that with my bf.Is it wrong what i am doing? Should I tell my ex the truth?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 It is your responsibility to inform him and whether he can accept it or not is his problem. You have discharged your responsibilities and move on.
You will not feel guilty over it. It will not come back to haunt you in later life .
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reader, always.you  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 defiantly tell him he has a right to know and people are right if he walks he walks you still have your boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): YES! Tell him he has a baby son. If he walks out on the child, then so be it! It will be his loss. But you need to tell him the truth anyway.
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reader, bayleex +, writes (16 February 2008):
 I think you should call your ex and tell him the truth. Although you may think you are doing this for all the right reasons your not. The only person who is going to be hurt the most is you son.All you can do is try. If he walks out on his son then fine, his loss. Because you have got somebody there willing to look after you and your son. And if your son finds out when he is older who his real father and he didn't want to be involved it won't be your fault because you tried.All you can do is try.Good luck huni and congrats on the birth of Levix Baylee x
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reader, vixie +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Theres only one way to find out if your ex would walk out on his son and thats by telling him it is his son. your current bf can still be there and be treated like the father but its best to find out off your ex what he thinks before its to late and the child would know whats going on its better for him to run away from his child now rather than when the child is old enough to know what his dad is doing good luck
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Yes it is wrong what you're doing. It may be your feeling to have your boyfriend raise him. It's normal to feel that way, but your baby deserves to know who his real father is. If the dad walks out, allow that to be his choice, but it's wrong to predetermine his decision.
Imagine 20 years down the road and your child finds out, he's going to be questioning you why you never told him, and more often than not that conversation doesn't turn out well for the parent withholding information.
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