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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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How can I know if she still likes me without asking?
Q. i just moved states and when i was here for about 1month me and this guy became friends and later on his sister started hanging out with us and later i found out she liked me and i liked her too. so then me and her started dating and then she broke ...
A. 6 June 2010: If she broke up with you just like that, she doesn't like you enough and you shouldn't like a girl like that. She wants a guy she can smother and I am sure you don't want that. Let this break up be the one last time and find a girl who doesn't bring ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my obsessive ex?
Q. Hi, I was dating a girl for a couple of months. I realized that we didn't share much in common for things to work out in the long term. But she seemed very into me that I found it difficult o break-up, which I finally finally did. She didn't seem ...
A. 4 June 2010: Tell her only when she asks about your past relationships. I personally don't care if you tell me this I would be like, "why do I need to know this." That obsessive girl doesn't count as an ex because it didn't proceed into a relationship. Just ... (read in full...)
Friends with benfits? Yes or no?
Q. Hey everybody, i was wondering what your opioion on friends with benfits is. I have a male friend to who i am sexually attracted to, he shares these feeling as well. We want to start a friend with benfits type of relationship that includes ...
A. 4 June 2010: Are you of legal age of consent in you state. Sorry, routine check. I sense that you are trying to protect your feelings in case he's not into anything serious. Unless you are depressed or have a mental problem, you should always give relationships ... (read in full...)
Suspect boyfriend lying about porn/photos/etc...
Q. Real quick to begin in the past I was with a guy who was in my opinion addicted. He even was watching it while I was lying next to him asleep and would go to bathroom to relieve himself. Ever since then I've found it to be disgusting in a ...
A. 4 June 2010: Every guy likes looking at naked women pics, but not every guy does sex chat when they have girlfriends already. I don't think this guy is trustworthy. Hammering and snooping are the only way to find out the truth. But as far as stopping his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont do anything in bed for me because he says I am too wet!
Q. im really worried because while in bed with my boyfriend i will play about with him by giving him a handjob and i will give him a blowjob and he wont do anything for me i try to drop hints like saying what do i get and he says sex, i spoke to him ...
A. 3 June 2010: I've never heard of this excuse before. Is he allergic to pussy juice? Is he a neat freak? I don't know what his problem is. A lot of people look at pussy juice as sacred, hence the name amrita. When you are turned on, you are turned on. It's ... (read in full...)
What do I do with a person I thought I knew?
Q. "OPs Own Title" I am 33 years old and I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. I love this guy, but I know it's a very unhealthy situation. His mood changes daily. One day I am the best thing that happened to him and then next I am full ...
A. 3 June 2010: You need to develop a more assertive personality so that your self esteem stays strong no matter what people say about you. If you have a healthy self-esteem, you won't spend so much energy getting his approval. You love him for who he was at the ... (read in full...)
The guy I like is my dad's age! How do I tell my parents?
Q. Okay… I’ll try to make a long story (kind of) short here. I am 17, turning 18 in several months, and I’m a girl. There’s this guy I had a crush on from the time I was 14. He is 30 years older than me. I saw him on a regular basis for a couple of ...
A. 3 June 2010: You are not my daughter, so I can tell you my opinion without freaking out. This guy is 47, he met you when he was 43. If he's as innocent as he sounds online. He would remain celibate for 3 years, until you turn 18. He has options to meet other ol... (read in full...)
He treated me badly and I terminated my pregnancy, Will I trust him in the future?
Q. Am 32 and by boyfriend of one year is 29. I accidentally fell pregnant two months ago but had an abortion. Things were ok before i got pregnant and we had intentions of marrying. The moment i broke the news, he started avoiding me, and was getting ...
A. 2 June 2010: You put him to the test when he's not up for it. An abortion means convenience at the moment, at the same time it's telling everybody he's not man enough to be a dad. He felt shameful and then blames you for what he's feeling. He made you go through ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend behaving so strange ever since we have started getting intimate?
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] 8 months into the relationship and I am starting to give her oral. She wants me to turn the lights out(even if we are the only ones in the building), and she won'...
A. 2 June 2010: Have you heard "one thing led to another?" I think she's sure of herself. She's sure she doesn't want to have penetration sex right now. It's very normal, nothing strange. The more you test her boundaries, the more frustrated and antsy for wanting ... (read in full...)
Friends, FWB, or more... I'm being used but why don't I want to stop?
Q. I met a guy about a year ago through a mutual friend. He had been out of a relationship for about 3 years and hadn't dated since the break-up. He and this woman had been together for almost 5 years. He had "f**kbuddies" but never really tried for ...
A. 2 June 2010: He'd never been emotionally available from the start and you knew that. You went along with his ups and downs and somehow hoped that he's able to love you with your patience and persistence. You could not change him and felt like you failed a test. ... (read in full...)
As time goes by our relationship seems to be getting worse, how do I rectify this?
Q. Hi all, I'm in a pretty wierd situation with a girl I've only recently admitted to liking. She's liked me for a long while tho, but I have never seen her as more than that before. We have always been good friends, but since we both told each ...
A. 2 June 2010: Nothing would happen if you just chat, text, and bump into her occasionally. Saying you like each other is not enough. You like her enough to do what? You have to ask her out. Don't ask her what she likes to do. Reserve a table and tell her you ... (read in full...)
Is my bad gut feeling something I should listen to?
Q. so my girlfriend and i had a brake up but we are trying to make things work up she lied to me and said she was going over to a friends how but really she she went to a party a languire party at that and she had a crush on another guy but she wont ...
A. 2 June 2010: Going to a lingerie party does not sound like working things out. She did this to you? You don't have to put up with her behavior. End it now. Set her free and set yourself free.... (read in full...)
What should I say to the boy I like? I really struggle to find the words when I am with him!
Q. can you help me by telling me what to say to a boy that i like but he doesnt know that i like him.... everytime i call him i just say hello and there is a big pause after that because i dont know what to say. remember that he doesnt know i like him....
A. 1 June 2010: If he shares a class with you, ask him if he has time after class to help with homework. If he doesn't, that's even better. Tell him what interests you about him, whether it's his eye color, his hair or his lips. Basically, you want to know more ... (read in full...)
Why do I always keep running back to him?
Q. dear cupid,i ve being in a flunctuating relationship that is almost lasting for 5 years now.we have not being able to keep it normal and cool, we always argue curse and then settle,untill it gets to a point of big obsession for me that i cnt let go ...
A. 1 June 2010: I know this is hard. Many times relationships like these only end when the police has to be involved. You can end this before he gets locked up, or you getting killed. The only lesson you will learn is that you don't need another experience like ... (read in full...)
How can I make my relationship with my boyfriend better?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year, and we still love each other every much. i am sure of that. it's just we're both busy, and stuff with our work. and i want a little more "fun" in our realtionship, like we used to have. there ...
A. 1 June 2010: A relationship doesn't just fall apart because it got a little boring. At the beginning, just hanging out doing nothing, is fun. Right now you feel like you have to work hard at it. The next movie, the next carnival won't be more fun than the last ... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong here? How can I cope with all of this?
Q. Hello I'm new here just looking for help, I have a constant cling onto hope, as long as im alive.. Anyways, my hometown is in oregon US. and i had a first love here and that didnt work out, it caused me to start having panic attacks and anxi...
A. 1 June 2010: Hi Josef, I just noticed you are 21. Psychologists say we go through changes, hurdles every 7 years. It's like we get a new body, new mind. You can pull through this. Next year you may be a different person and would be more careful in choosing ... (read in full...)
How can I win over his mother?
Q. Hi, I am 26 and my boyfriend is 31. He's Muslim and I'm Christian. I am learning Arabic and plan to convert to Islam. We have been together for over a year. We have been seriously discussing marriage recently. He plans to introduce me to ...
A. 1 June 2010: Treat her like any other in law, with respect and sincere interest. She is just another mom worrying about her son's happiness. A warm heart melts cultural boundaries. You sound like you are doing a lot already. With more time your in law will see ... (read in full...)
We broke up, got back together but he doesn't treat me right now1
Q. My boyfriend and I just got back together,after a two month break. I don't drive,and sometimes it's hard to hang out. This Friday,I asked him if we were hanging out, and he responds with, "Umm I dont know?".."What are we going to do?" As if it ma...
A. 31 May 2010: First, I don't believe in getting back after breaking up. This may be a trial period and he may treat you as a friend only. Right now he doesn't know if the feelings can be the same. I wouldn't ask when you would be gf/bf again until you get in ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my sugar daddy with my ex, to satisfy my sexual needs?
Q. I broke up wth my boyfriend of 2yrs,who was 3yrs my senior.an orphan,colege graduate and unemployd.i have a grade 11 younga brother that i need to provide for.so i met this guy. 20 yrs my senior!he is rich,very rich.he owns bussineses and drives the ...
A. 30 May 2010: You can only have one man at a time. There can't be a boyfriend no. 1 to give you money, a boyfriend no. 2 to give you sex, a boyfriend no. 3 to hang out with or talk to you. It's a pity that he can't buy your love and loyalty. Unless you are a ... (read in full...)
Will he come back to me and our baby?
Q. I was with a guy for one year we were engaged and I am curently pregnant with his baby. He left me for a girl 14 years younger than him we were having a few problems but nothing that couldn't be fixed. I love this man with all of my heart and want ...
A. 30 May 2010: He's irresponsible. He's in this thirties so he can't use "I don't want to be free I don't want to be tied up yet" as an excuse. Unless he's Jackie Chan what's the use to keep him? Just focus on the baby and enjoy your pregnancy for now. Travelling ... (read in full...)
Why would he beg me to remain friends just to ignore me?
Q. What does this mean? I tried to tell this married guy that we cannot be friends anymore because I had feelings for him and he for me and I am married 2 so that was the best thing to do.He talked me out of it and told me that we need eachothers ...
A. 30 May 2010: Good for you. He doesn't want to be your burden anymore. He saw your point, that this relationship is going nowhere. You went from why, how much time, see or not see, to nothing, just emptiness. Let this illusion disperse and return to its own space ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he's gone forever..will he come back?
Q. I met this guy 2 months ago, through mutual friends, completely unexpected..and we really hit it off. Totally clicked, and yes things went fast. Neither of us to blame, we just really felt a major connection and decided to just go with it. No ...
A. 30 May 2010: Some men do think that a young woman like you deserves better, like a richer, unattached guy with no kids. He probably doesn't want any more kids and you surely do, at least he thinks. He is more devastated than you are. He's not ready to go though ... (read in full...)
Am I really that selfish?
Q. Hello! I am 48 years old, separated for 18 months, divorced for 2 months. My older daughters, 31 and 29 are both married and have children of their own. I was married twice. My daughters were from my first marriage, my second marriage lasted 20 ...
A. 30 May 2010: I have an Asian background so whatever my parents do I can disagree but I will keep my thoughts to myself. I am 29 with a 4 year old so I am imagining to be one of your daughters . . .
My evening with you would be like talking about the joys and ... (read in full...)
Should I have another child?
Q. I'm 19 and I have an eleven month old son. Recently one of my friends had a baby girl and she is beautiful. She also has a son who is 12 months. Through her whole pregnancy we talked about her weird cravings and where the baby kicked the most. To ...
A. 29 May 2010: It's nice to enjoy your freedom and be a feminist. I wouldn't give up on man just yet. Give yourself one more option. Don't limit yourself to be a single mom for life. Life doesn't follow a script. You might change your mind later.
If you deci... (read in full...)
Do I confront her with the discovery of her email?
Q. I recently discovered my long-term partner had been exchanging messages with an ex boyfriend on Facebook. I work away a lot and these exchanges took place while I was away in January. What concerns me is not so much that she contacted this g...
A. 27 May 2010: It's true it happened five months ago. She could have opened another account, used a new password, and signed in every single time with it. Long distance relationships can make hearts grow fonder or can break a relationship especially if it's used ... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex...what do I do?
Q. Last year I met a guy I had a relationship with for 3 months. He was perfect for me, except for the fact that he didn't want marriage. We decided to see other people, but were still "together". I ended up leaving him for another guy who did want ...
A. 27 May 2010: For me it's out of sight, out of mind. One time I had to remove my yahoo account and uninstall yahoo messenger just to keep my ex out of the picture. It's possible to be in love with two guys at once. Three, four, I don't think so. You hadn't been ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex, but there is a new guy in my life, should I give him a chance or clear things up with my ex first?
Q. Long story short, my ex-bf broke up with me almost 2 months ago. I miss him terribly. He wants to remain friends with me on skype and whenever he logs on and I am online tries to talk to me, but there are no other signs of him wanting me back (one ...
A. 25 May 2010: When you clear things up with your ex, you might tell him that you are interested in something new. That's the point when he might try to get you back, out of jealousy or say go ahead. He might also feel for the first time, you don't know what you ... (read in full...)
Mysterious Girlfriend?
Q. Ok. I feel like an idiot already. I have a girlfriend, an awesome girl, we love each other a lot but the thing is, I think she's hiding something in her past. Then again she's always been a little strange. Things I have noticed that lead me to ...
A. 24 May 2010: She's probably been hurt before. Don't ask her about it until she feels like sharing this with you. You can just comment on her tough, protective personality and hint that you want to see other sides of her personality too. I am curious about what ... (read in full...)
Divorced, started dating a younger woman, expecting first child; she is treated horribly without cause, what can be done?
Q. Last year I ended my 8 year marriage to my wife for MANY reason. We were total opposite, and in different places of our lives. My family understood my reasons and were very supportive. Until I started dating again. Shortly after my divorce I ...
A. 22 May 2010: Tell Jenn it would be unrealistic right now for your family to like her. It takes time to soften the prejudice and dissolve boundaries. If they will be mean at the hospital they don't have to go. There is nothing worse than going there just for the ... (read in full...)
I am confused, he has a girlfriend, but flirts with me, how do I handle this?
Q. Hi, i posted about this guy some time ago but now truth has been revealed and i am even more confused than ever. First of all it is honest to say that i like him. Very much. He makes me smile and laugh everyday and it was long time ago last time i ...
A. 22 May 2010: It's hard to find a partner who would fulfill you every need. My principle is that if I can't find such person, I would accept my boyfriend for who he is, or, I remain single. It's immature and disrespectful to do what he's doing. You handle this by ... (read in full...)
My father is disgusting
Q. Recently I accidentally came across my dad's pervert folder. No, this is not normal, this isn't just a few X-rated videos. Let me put this in perspective for you. My dad is the nice guy of the family. He's everyone's favorite relative. I fou...
A. 22 May 2010: Your dad must be sexually frustrated. Before you spill the secret, have a talk with your mom and dad separately and ask each one of them whether they are happy with their marriage. Tell them not to lie. Tell them it's important to you that both of ... (read in full...)
Should I douse my burning flames of desire for him?
Q. I met a guy at work. I am 38 he is 28. We flirted a lot the first two months, and I confessed to him that I liked him and would not rule outthe possibility of friends with benefits. He seemed to like the idea at the time because we were both fairly ...
A. 22 May 2010: Some men like older women, some like younger women. Maybe he thinks because you are older then you should be in charge. He maybe is not comfortable with a workplace relationship. The good thing of not having a label is that you can keep yourself ... (read in full...)
My heart says to meet with her and discuss it, my head says run for the hills.
Q. I have been dating a lady for about nine months, and we both agreed at the outset that this would be an exclusive relationship. I am just out of a marriage that lasted 26 years, and she has been divorced for 2 years after a marriage of 30 years. ...
A. 22 May 2010: Maybe they had agreed that a domestic situation would not work out for them, but hanging out occasionally is fine. I would not agree with this arrangment. They can never be trully just friends. They shared a life and intimate moments together. She ... (read in full...)
He got cold feet and broke up with me!
Q. Dear cupid, I am 24 and my ex-bf is 22. We dated for about 3 months and everything was going great, until one day he broke up with me. We didn't speak for about a month after we broke up and recently we talked as friends. He opened up and told me ...
A. 22 May 2010: I slept with my boyfriend first day I met him. We are still together after 2 years and had never fought about anything or thought about breaking up ever. If he broke up after this it's his immaturity. Or it's something else. People break up when ... (read in full...)
Meeting online companion, AND his whole family?!
Q. I badly need advise before I materialize my plans. I met this guy exactly 5 months ago online as a way of coping up with a break-up. Anyway, he is younger than me by 7 years and at first we were just chatting out of boredom, I didn't even care...
A. 22 May 2010: I will be 30 and I don't own an iphone and never will. He's from generation Y. I am from the older generation and I can't relate to these youngsters using high tech gadgets. Tell him you are not excited about the idea of an iphone. Or better yet. ... (read in full...)
I need some advice on flirting, please?
Q. Hey, I'd appreciate any advice, especially from any guys, about how to be a good flirt. I'm back in the game after getting over a break up with my ex (we were together for 9 years, broke up Nov '09 after I found out he cheated AGAIN, cried my ...
A. 22 May 2010: Your attitude is wrong. You don't flirt because you want a guy to act a certain way, to behave a certain way with you. You flirt because you are happy and confident as a woman, and would not care whether a guy would have a relationship with you as a ... (read in full...)
I still love him, but we are now both involved, what should I do?
Q. 2 years ago, this guy told me that he was in love with me. And before I knew it, I was slowly falling for him. We had the most amazing, loving relationship and we made each other unbelievably happy. Our friends thought we were great together - ...
A. 22 May 2010: I don't think you should bind yourself to any love of your life until you are finished with college and can decide where you want to live for a long time. Are you sure you accidentally ended up in the same country as him, or did you do that on ... (read in full...)
Druggie ex has no interest in our baby
Q. Well me and my bf just broke up about a month ago and he is 18 im 15, and now im pregnant. i just told him like 2 weeks ago, and he says he doesnt want anything to do with it. I havent told my parents yet, he wont help, and on top of that he was a ...
A. 22 May 2010: You are the most important person to the baby. Many kids go through life fine without a dad. Some are even happier kids than kids in an intact family. It all depends on your attitude in life and what you choose to do. If all you do is sulk and ... (read in full...)
How do I make this work without hurting my partner?
Q. So I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, and believe me when I say that he is the sweetest and kindest guy that I have ever met. And I love him so much. The problem is, that he sees us together getting married, and ...
A. 20 May 2010: Did the new guy make you feel that way, or were you never attracted to your boyfriend? Many women would just go for security and money and think that with love they can forgo the sexual attraction and chemistry. Very wrong. It's better to be single ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like his girlfriend any more, I just feel used!
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 months now but we have known each other for 6 years as we used to have casual sex, on and off. I have doubts about us as he makes me feel used sometimes and I doubt his faithfulness. It all started when he kept ...
A. 17 May 2010: Don't spend any more money on him. If that means you can get together and have fun, so be it. Sooner or later the sex would be gone because you can't seriously get turned on by a guy who owes you money. No fun no sex no money no relationship, unless ... (read in full...)
Should I see if the other guy can satisfy me?
Q. I`ve had three lovers in my life and the biggest of the three was my ex hubby just at 5inches and 5inches in girth before my bf now witch is almost 4inches long and 4.5 around. I noticed the difference the first time he put it in and I was let ...
A. 16 May 2010: I appreciate your bravery and honesty by posting this here. I am not judging you. If guys can think with their dicks why can't women think with their pussies? Women always trade up every time they get a new boyfriend. In my experience anything ... (read in full...)
Meeting online companion, AND his whole family?!
Q. I badly need advise before I materialize my plans. I met this guy exactly 5 months ago online as a way of coping up with a break-up. Anyway, he is younger than me by 7 years and at first we were just chatting out of boredom, I didn't even care...
A. 8 May 2010: He does seem unreal. How do you know he's telling the truth about his age. If he's 18 then it means he had his last relationship at 13 so he dated at the age of 12? What!
One good thing he did was helped you cope with your break up gave you dist... (read in full...)
He got cold feet and broke up with me!
Q. Dear cupid, I am 24 and my ex-bf is 22. We dated for about 3 months and everything was going great, until one day he broke up with me. We didn't speak for about a month after we broke up and recently we talked as friends. He opened up and told me ...
A. 6 May 2010: After he told you this, and your response was . .. ?
He really doesn't need a month to think things through. He probably thought he screwed up but wouldn't fight for you because to do this is to admit that he'd been talking shit. Move on and find... (read in full...)
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