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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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How to stop my man from flirting?
Q. Hi peeps hope all is well... My question is! How do I get my man to stop flirting with other girls literally infront of me??!! I absolutely hate it, I dont have a clue what the hell to do!! We've only been going out just over a month.. He's the...
A. 10 July 2010: You have only been going out for a month and you already found something you don't like. If you have to talk to him about this as if he doesn't know flirting is wrong, he's not worth it. There is no pressure to continue with him. Just tell him that ... (read in full...)
Is he committed to the relationship or not?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months. I just don't feel like he's committed to the relationship. I haven't met his parents, he has never given me a gift (he sent me a text message for my birthday), and he doesn't invite me to meet his ...
A. 9 July 2010: He thinks two days a week it's a lot. He wouldn't commit to you if he feels that he's not enough for you. Bringing you to his parents mean that you are serious enough to marry one day. I don't know about using you but he's a guy who does what he ... (read in full...)
What should I say to his Mom?
Q. Okay so i dont really know how to ask this question so ill just explain! :)My boyfriend is working offshore right now and he likes to give me money from his check every week maybe like 300 just so i can have money, but i dont have his bank ...
A. 9 July 2010: Don't be a stranger and don't treat his mom like she's a messenger. Maybe go to her place instead of letting her come. She may seem nosy but talk to her like she's your auntie. Once she knows you care about her too it would be less awkward. There is ... (read in full...)
What are we supposed to do in the Missionary position?
Q. Hello! Just a quick question. How does a woman perform during sex? I know there are various sex positions where the woman is in control for example, when she is on top. However, I am referring to the traditional position of 'Missionary' - I know...
A. 9 July 2010: Look deep into his eyes. Tongue kiss. Wrap your arms and legs around him. Enjoy the multi sensations all over. Tell him how much you love it. ... (read in full...)
Why do some men prefer "a good friendship" over a loving commited relationship?
Q. I understand some of the usual excuses... loss of freedom,been hurt before, loss of space, one lover for the rest of their lives, etc but I just can't wrap my head around the emotional aspect from a man's point of view. I have been told that the ...
A. 9 July 2010: There's a contradiction here. If the perfect woman is a close friend offering emotional support and sex, then he can be happy without getting married, that means if you can be that then he wouldn't look for a better one to marry, because obviously ... (read in full...)
feel my husband is highly critical of me and often takes a parental tone.
Q. Help! I feel my husband is highly critical of me and often takes a parental tone. What can I say to him that will not make things worse but get him to stop? This isn't a huge part of my marriage, but it upsets me when it happens. When he sees s...
A. 8 July 2010: It doesn't seem to be a huge part in your marriage, but it will slowly eat you up inside if it doesn't stop or escalates. He's arrogant and because you are afraid of him, your complacency will become a silent killer of intimacy. He can think ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of over 1 year didn't get me a birthday present, how do I tell him this bothers me without sounding materialistic?
Q. My boyfriend of over 1 year didn't get me a birthday present. It's not the value of the gift or the actual gift that bothers me, it's the fact that he didn't give me anything at all, not even a card. We went out to a casual dinner and he paid, but ...
A. 8 July 2010: Maybe he's a person who doesn't believe in special occasions. A party pooper. I myself hate holidays so I can relate to him. It's not that he doesn't think you are special. To him birthday is just like any other day. He's happy that you gave him a ... (read in full...)
Should I be trying to work though and fight for this relationship?
Q. So here is the situation any answer is helpful I'm just lost in the world. The same day I lost my job for next year, He broke up with me, he didn’t know it prior to driving an hour and a half for a talk. This talk was not really a talk more than ...
A. 8 July 2010: I don't think you are as clueless as you sound. You can't deny what had gone wrong in the relationship. I know it's hard to accept the end of a relationship. It takes two to mess up in a relationship. Going back and forth is just like trying to ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that all I want is her love?
Q. Ok, I'm 15 years old and dating the girl of my dreams. We've been together about 5 months, but we both agree that it seems like we've known each other forever (in a good way). Unfortunately I haven't seen her in a month and we started fighting. It ...
A. 7 July 2010: You sound like a considerate guy. I don't think you did anything terribly wrong. You asked her if she wanted to take it to the next level, you didn't mention here if there was a yes or no. She apparently didn't refuse you but felt you were too ... (read in full...)
How do I let her down gently without hurting her too much?
Q. So first off i am only 20 years old, and very mature for my age, and i have been with my girlfriend, who is turning 21 this year, for almost a year, at first i was sketchy about even dating her because she was so different in personality than i ...
A. 7 July 2010: The best way to do this is honesty. Tell her exactly what turned you off about her behavior. She's going to say she would change for you but tell her it's best to start fresh with another guy, and that feelings can't be fixed. I believe you are ... (read in full...)
My wife made out with a girl seven years ago and never told me
Q. I need some advice on a situation I have with my wife. We have been married 5 years, together 8 years, and have a 3 year old daughter. My brother-in-law (her brother) just got divorced. Rumor has it that his ex-wife has (and had) a new boyfr...
A. 7 July 2010: People think as long as it's cool, it's never wrong. That's why you see people getting drunk and having sex with strangers all the time. The fact that your wife blurted that out to you was indiscreet of her. If she really felt that was wrong she ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend wants to break up with me because she can't get over the fact I've slept with other people?
Q. How can I prevent it ending over something I have no control over!? She resents that I had a past life, where admittedly I slept around with many women I could just for kicks and for self esteem. I changed. Meeting her and starting to go o...
A. 7 July 2010: I don't know if this is your original title but it implies she hasn't broken up with you yet. Misery needs company so your only purpose in her life is to enable her to hate. She has a distorted image of you. You can continue this relationship with ... (read in full...)
Why is she lying? I don't understand why she'd do that
Q. Ok I am 40years old and I ran into an old friend who is 43. We had not seen each other in 20yrs. So we started dating and all was well. Flowers every week took her on a little vac and we would go out 2 eat 5 days a week all on my $ she then ask me ...
A. 7 July 2010: It's not necessary she's lying. She liked you at first, then changed her mind. She wants to be FWB with you. She's doing everything to play the game and keeping you hooked. You should cancel the trip to Florida, or treat your mom or another ... (read in full...)
Is this girl serious, joking, is she not into me, or is this some weird teen love?
Q. Hello all cupids and readers=)! Thanks for reading my troubles and it does mean alot your willing to give free time to help so thank you for being amazing. Well lets just say im not exactly the doctor of love and at that would be an understatement. ...
A. 6 July 2010: I had to read this a few times because there were many this girl and that girl and I don't know who did what to who anymore forgive me. It seems like it was difficult for you to admit feelings so you resorted to avoiding each other or starting ... (read in full...)
Fiance had long phone conversations with another woman. How do I approach this?
Q. I recently was able to check on cell ph records which confirmed my suspicions that my fiance has been having some long conversations with another woman. It stopped a couple of months ago but should I confront him or let it go? It does bother me but ...
A. 6 July 2010: Can that woman be an aunt? You know those 80 year olds who are just so glad to have someone to listen to her. ... (read in full...)
So am I setting myself up?
Q. So i hung out with an ex boyfriend over the weekend and we had a great time. he says he still has love for me. I know he cares. anyway i texted him saying i had a nice time w/you and it made me happy to hang out with you. maby i'm analyzing it too ...
A. 6 July 2010: That's why you always call instead of text so you don't have to keep telling yourself that he's probably just busy. Now that you know the love is still there, you have to know where you stand next time you see him, if there's a next time. ... (read in full...)
He promised not disappear, but he has!
Q. Hi, i am dating this guy for over 4 months, he called me in my birthday, and he told me what i was doing, i told him 2 weeks ago that i will like to share with him and my best friends, and hes says it was ok, when the day arrived he called me and he ...
A. 6 July 2010: It's the unreliable guys who always have to make promises in order to break them. You never hear the word "promise" from a decent guy. He says something, he does something. There is no need to emphasize he will indeed do it. ... (read in full...)
What do you find is the best way to make sex really romantic, passionate and emotional?
Q. I'm just really curious about people's experiences. I've heard loads of ways that sex has been really orgasmic and physically pleasureable for people, but I'm curious about the passion and romance of it. What made you feel the connection the most ...
A. 6 July 2010: I have never thought about it, I only reflect on what happened afterwards. The few times I felt the most romantic, passionate were when we really missed each other. I guess when two people are in sync. Every experience is different and I have to say ... (read in full...)
Does becoming FWB destroy the chances of becoming something more?
Q. I have become fwb with an old flame who i have liked for a long time, problem is i want more but dare not say anything! we have only been together twice but he stopped all night and cuddled me, stroked my hair held my hand and kissed my forehead ...
A. 6 July 2010: Nothing is absolute. The chances of an FWB developing into something more is the same as married couples becoming roommates. Many people swear they would not get into a relationship ever again. They say this in the heat of the moment. No one is able ... (read in full...)
Gay, but I cannot be.
Q. Hi everyone, I am a 26 male profisionnal successfu engineer and i still virgin because i think i am Gay and I actully have this feeling when I was 10 or 11, I only attracted sexually to men and I feel making sex with women is uncomfortable and i ha...
A. 4 July 2010: If you believe you must get married to please your parents, or to keep off rumors, I would suggest you marry a lesbian who's also trapped like you, whose family is also everything to her. Then you secretly have your needs fulfilled somewhere else, ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to end our marriage because I don't want to join his religion, what can I do?
Q. Hi everyone I am a 22yrs married woman and also have a 5yr old son!!!!my problem is my hussy is muslim and i started liking the islam way.... than after sometime i wanna to become muslim, but then I changed my mind! but my hussy said he will end the ...
A. 4 July 2010: Usually I believe in freedom of religion. Your husband does seem like a "it's my way of the highway" kind of guy. If he is a good man, a good provider, I would just suck it up. I could forgo pork and short sleeves for the man and children I love. I ... (read in full...)
My husband has gone crazy over the idea of swinging
Q. so my husband and i were talking about fantasies the other day. he said one of his was to try group sex with another couple. no swapping spouses or anything, just being in the same room or possibly me and another girl. i am trying to open up to new ...
A. 4 July 2010: A lot of people open accounts and forget about them, leaving ghost accounts everywhere justing wasting space. He gets the opportunity to browse through other couples and fantasize. You dont have to worry until he chats without your knowledge. If he ... (read in full...)
My wife is acting crazy! What should I do?
Q. Hi folks, I am in a serious situation. I married a girl who was my girl friend for 2 years. And we used to love each other dearly. In between due to family problems we needed to spend 6 months apart. Then last year we got married. All of a sudden ...
A. 4 July 2010: She showed strong signs of cheating. You are too young to tolerate a bad marriage. Depends on which state you live, if you have proof that she's cheating, then it's only fair you don't have to pay her alimony. So be gentle with her now, don't talk ... (read in full...)
He hasn't apologised this time...
Q. When my boyfriend gets upset or angry over something, he sometimes takes it out on me. This is something he's always been aware of and normally he makes an effort not to do it and apologises if he does. But this time he hasn't. At the very beginni...
A. 4 July 2010: I agree with AOS. He still owes you an apology whether that sorry would be effective this time. He still has to care about your feelings. After one year you are already thinking about breaking up. You know it will happen sooner or later. You are ... (read in full...)
My first serious relationship and she's already broken my trust
Q. Hello guys, I'm new on here, first time I've used anything like this. Now to get to the point.. I've been with my girlfriend now for 5 and a half months. It's been going amazing. I've never felt so close to someone before and she tells me ...
A. 4 July 2010: Being together for 6 months, spending nights together, exchanging I love yous, don't make the relationship serious. Maybe you have a pattern of attracting mates who would disappoint you later? If all it takes is one guy to chat her up for her to ... (read in full...)
He was my everything, and he's the only Daddy they know.
Q. Mod Note: Posters Own Title My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. I thought we were perfect together, we didn't fight once for the first 8 months of our relationship, and get this, he adopted BOTH my kids. But lately all we s...
A. 4 July 2010: It would be helpful to know what you are fighting about. Incompatability is no reason to fight, to the point you think about break up. Unless he's into drugs, alcohol, cheating, watch sport or play video games for 7 hours a day, go out with his ... (read in full...)
How to accept its over
Q. Mod Note: Posters own title Hello, first i will say i was with this boy for a while he was so sweet, caring, loving we had so much in common. I really thought he loved me he even told me he did i was talking to this girl who happened to be frie...
A. 4 July 2010: What he did was immature. You seem to be running into bad luck over and over again. No matter what happens, always find something to be happy about in a day. Make a plan to stay happy at least 51% of a day. Strive to reach the goal of 51% happy ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work when two people have nothing in common?
Q. Mod Note: Original Title by poster hi, I had asked a question before, and this place seems very intresting. My new question is can a relationship work out if you have little in common with someone? becasue I like this girl and we are friends,...
A. 4 July 2010: No one can be that different. Everybody likes good food, good sex, good movies, and travelling. Since you are still young, you have interests you haven't yet discovered.
Once you are aware that you like her and want to be her friend, you have to t... (read in full...)
Obsessing about the idea that she's cheating
Q. I am currently in a long distance relationship with a girl who for the last 3 years has been amazing. This is a temporary thing, just for the summer. I have been cheated on several times in the past, and even though she calls me every night when she ...
A. 3 July 2010: The automatic voice will always pop up, it's a coping mechanism. It's preparing you for another heartbreak so it won't come as a shock if there is a "next time." Whenever that voice comes out again, don't shut it up, don't tell it to go away. It's ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his rejection?
Q. we have been trying for a baby and succeded after 6months of trying. in the first week finding out i'm pregnant my partner has decided he deosnt want to be with me anymore. he says he wants the baby but not me this was 5 weeks ago and he still ha...
A. 3 July 2010: That's the most evil thing I have ever heard. If he's a billionaire he could have paid a surrogate mother to do this but since he isn't, he just lied to you and took advantage of your love. He's psycho. No, actually stupid. Who tells him he can have ... (read in full...)
18 and lost on dating and how it all works...
Q. I've never had a boyfriend before, so the problem is that I have no game and no idea of how to meet people and ask them out. I wouldn't even know where to begin! Like...do I just go up to some random man in a bar and ask him out? Or do I only ask...
A. 3 July 2010: Anything goes and there is no best way, except when it is all unexpected. Whether you go to school or work part time, you will come in contact with men. Don't ask them out right away. Talk to them, eat lunch together, look for commonalities, ... (read in full...)
I hate performing oral sex, but I like receiving it. Am I selfish?
Q. I have tried oral sex numerous time, but I still hate it. I don't understand how anyone can enjoy performing oral sex on a man. I feel sick, I get a sore throat, my jaws hurt, the taste is awful and the sight of semen make me want to vomit. My b...
A. 3 July 2010: I enjoy it and I do it to please him. It's the most sensual thing ever and it turns me on. Pain is a not good sign but at the same time no pain no gain. After vigorous sex, your back hurts, your genitals sore but during the session all you feel is ... (read in full...)
He's heartless!
Q. here's the situation, my boyfriend says i never open up to him. but when i try to tell him why i get upset over situations he then gets upset with me telling me i get mad over petty things proceeds to tell me i can find someone else who doesn't ...
A. 3 July 2010: He doesn't understand you talk about feelings for the sake of talking. He wants to offer solutions right away and you felt your feelings were dismissed. Both of you can work on it by coming to the middle. He can be patient and listen to every ... (read in full...)
Depression deja vu?
Q. [Mod note: OP title] Hi, me and my girlfriend have been together for nerly 18 months and have just finished off our A-level exams. we are still young and she is very much my first love. with all the confidence i have left, i can say that for larg...
A. 3 July 2010: Seasonal depression in the summer is rare. The depression shouldn't be ignored, otherwise, 1/4 of her life would be difficult. You have only 3/4 of her available to you. See if light therapy is going to help her if there isn't too much sun. You ... (read in full...)
I feel intense sexual attraction for women in the 26-32 age range!
Q. I am 41, and have had urges, shall we say, over the last few years toward younger women...mostly in the 26-32 age range. That's roughly a 9-15 year age difference. I seem to still be very attracted to 27 year olds. I dunno...I think they're ...
A. 2 July 2010: I fall in that age range, at least for 3 more years, then I am no longer spring chicken. There is nothing creepy wanting to date younger women. 26-32 is the prime fertile age for a woman. Other than that women are just women. It's when you ogle over ... (read in full...)
He doesn't love me but he is crazy in love with me!!!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 months, it a man who's more mature than me. Last night he said "I love you so much" in french, then he said he didn't mean it. After when we back home, he said he doesn't love me but he is crazy in love with me. ...
A. 1 July 2010: It means he is caught up with the romance at the moment but don't count on him as the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, yet. He may or may not want that. 4 months is too quick to talk about marriage, but there's no reason to stop ... (read in full...)
Help with bikini line!
Q. Hey. I'm going on holiday next week, which means bikini time! I need to tidy up down below and sort out my bikini line. I've never really done it before so I don't know what to do. I won't be able to go to the beautician's. So any advice? Thank you!...
A. 1 July 2010: If this is the first time you are doing it. Use Nair, the hair dissolver. Use it in the bathtub. Rinse all the mess out. You might want not want to go all bald. Leave a line, or a downward triangle in the middle. It can be really short, like 1 cm. ... (read in full...)
I want to be a part of my child's life!
Q. Ok, I am going to be completely honest here. I was dating this girl for about 5 months but have known her for almost 8 years and she is now 11 weeks pregnant and we are no longer together. Before we broke up, she moved to west virginia to help out ...
A. 1 July 2010: You need to obtain the court's finding of paternity and then petition for custody. In some states it's a two step process and in some states it's a combined process. Usually custody will be given to the unwed mom but you will be considered over the ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that he's not as in to me
Q. Hey everyone I am 25 and in my first serious relationship and have a few questions about sex: 1. When I am kissing my partner (he is 40) he doesn't seem to get aroused. He does when I do other stuff like give him oral but not when we make out..doe...
A. 1 July 2010: Since he has a lot of debt, the seriousness of this relationship has its own limitations.
First of all when i see a young woman hankering an older man for more intimacy, there is something wrong with the man medically or psychologically. His mind... (read in full...)
Am I in love? Or just comfortable?
Q. I've come to the stage in life where i'm wondering whether i'm in love with my boyfriend or just comfortable in our relationship. The thought of breaking up with him tears me apart at some times, but at others I feel like I want a relationship with ...
A. 30 June 2010: It's hard to enjoy sex and fully let go when you don't have your own place. If he doesn't like giving oral, will he finger your clit? Does he last long enough and can he delay ejaculation? It takes two people to learn how to pleasure each other. ... (read in full...)
After eight years he says we're just close friends
Q. Please advise me what to do! No matter what I do, my boyfriend seems to think we're just very close friends. But that is not how it appears to me or to other people! We've been seeing each other since 2002, and he practically lives at my apartmen...
A. 30 June 2010: The only mental block I could think of is that his technique isn't perfect, his mistress hurt his ego, and he's shut down for sex forever. He came back to you fully knowing that you'll take him back as a sexually crippled man. He lost his dream ... (read in full...)
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