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writes: Hi all,I'm in a pretty wierd situation with a girl I've only recently admitted to liking. She's liked me for a long while tho, but I have never seen her as more than that before. We have always been good friends, but since we both told each other we had feelings for each other, things have gotten really awkward. It feels like I've annoyed her somehow. We still talk and spend time together, but only with other friends, it's nothing like it used to be, and I miss it, and her.We used to text all day and chat so much better, ad now she hardly responds. I used to be able to go round to her place and spend time with her, but now I only see her when I go to see my other friends she lives with. As time goes by, it just seems to be getting worse and worse and I don't know how to rectify this.I get indications she may still be interested, eye contact, certain body language, and other times nothing. I've not liked a girl this much in a long long time, and it's starting to get me down. I want to to talk to her, but as I say, I never seem to get a chance to, and even then never get her alone. I don't know what to do. The friendship already seems to be falling apart so I don't mind saying something again. I just want to know what's going on, but don't wanna do it by text or in some sort of message. Please help!!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 Nothing would happen if you just chat, text, and bump into her occasionally. Saying you like each other is not enough. You like her enough to do what? You have to ask her out. Don't ask her what she likes to do. Reserve a table and tell her you would like to have dinner with her. You can only know this way if she's still interested. You waited too long and she might have already put you in the friends box.
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reader, MiscellaneousG  +, writes (2 June 2010):
Don't suffocate her. That's the biggest rule--you can end up pushing a girl away by making her feel that you like her a LOT; meaning you expect a lot in the relationship.
She could be getting worse because she wants her space...if she signals for it, give it to her. If she's still giving you eye contact and those signals, send them back to her. Do unto her as you would like her to do unto you.
You can take risks, but just remember that you must not put too much of yourself into a girl who's not returning something.
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