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*tinak
writes:My boyfriend and I just got back together,after a two month break. I don't drive,and sometimes it's hard to hang out. This Friday,I asked him if we were hanging out, and he responds with, "Umm I dont know?".."What are we going to do?" As if it matters! We hung out, and then Saturday rolls along,and we had plans to hang out, but it was a little late in the day, and I had to work, so I told him we could plan on another day,hoping he would say, no, lets just hang out today. But, he didn't. So, I went to work, and he went along with his day, and went to a party at night. I had to get up early the next morning, so obviously I did not go. But, I keep asking him to hang out Sunday, and never really got a straight answer from him. Well, today is Sunday. I got off work at five, and nine oclock rolls around, and he invites me to his friends bbq..I was ecstatic! Until...he says he left his car at a friends house, and if it was possible that I could get a ride there? It wasn't...and I'm just upset he is doing this to me. I feel like since the break up was MY fault, he believes now that he gave me a second chance,he can do this to me,and I should be fine with it. Am I overreacting or is he really being unreasonable?
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 you need to learn how to drive. clearly he is getting fed up as you lack independence. in order to be free to make you own choices without having to consult and rely upon him (which takes control away from you) you need your own transport. maybe he doesn't want to be responsible for driving you everywhere. if you were independent it would probably be more attractive, and even if it wasn't you would be free to meet new people and have new opportunities. there are a million reasons why being able to drive is important, and they all revolve around improving your choice in life.
the ball is in your court, start learning to drive if you want control over your life. good luck
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 First, I don't believe in getting back after breaking up. This may be a trial period and he may treat you as a friend only. Right now he doesn't know if the feelings can be the same. I wouldn't ask when you would be gf/bf again until you get in touch more. Ask if your parents can drive you there and maybe on the way back your bf could drive you home. Even at the bbq, he might be hanging around his friends more than paying attention to you. This might be hard for you. In my opinion he's not doing anything unreasonable. I think you should not keep your hopes too high since he doesn't sound too keen on welcoming you back to his arms. It's better to stay away if you truly feel bitter that he's doing you injustice, which he isn't.
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reader, tsubu01 +, writes (31 May 2010):
Break up with him, simple.
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reader, vssia +, writes (31 May 2010):
For starters, off and on relationships never work. He likely doesn't feel the same about you after the breakup, either.
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