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*manda_anne87
writes:Last year I met a guy I had a relationship with for 3 months. He was perfect for me, except for the fact that he didn't want marriage. We decided to see other people, but were still "together". I ended up leaving him for another guy who did want marriage. Now, almost a year later, I can't stop thinking about the guy from my past...even though I am living with the new guy and love him like crazy. I deleted the ex's email/phone number/screen names and everything that kept me in contact with him. It was my attempt to forget him. Every few months he still IM's me on yahoo just to say hi. Ne never says he misses me, but I assume he does if he keeps comin back. Every time I start to forget him, he pops back into my life. Now it's been almost 4 months since we talked last, but I miss him like crazy. Is it possible to be in love with two guys at once? How do I forget the guy from my past? I feel like scum because I love my current boyfriend, but I think my heart is still with my ex...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 For me it's out of sight, out of mind. One time I had to remove my yahoo account and uninstall yahoo messenger just to keep my ex out of the picture. It's possible to be in love with two guys at once. Three, four, I don't think so. You hadn't been with your ex for a long time. In fact you were talking about marriage too early. Marriage, babies, family are sensitive words and they push some guys away. He may want marriage one day and may feel you are making decisions too quickly. You have to learn more about your partner before deciding whether he is the one for you. Just saying I want marriage or I don't want marriage in the future is no indication of whether you would be happy with either one. There are young guys who swear that they would never get married but turn out to be the best husbands in the world ten years later. Oh well, the damage has been done. You have no options but to forget him. You put an end to the relationship prematurely and the best closure now is to stop contacting him ever.
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