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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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I think I moved her in prematurely... how can I get this spark back?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been living together for about 5 months now, and we've only been dating for 6. Her dad is a drunk so I decided to move her out of there to come stay with me... but now it's just like I'm not so interested any more, I love ...
A. 24 April 2010: The spark you see on chick flicks and romance novels is an overrated myth. When you search for that spark you will be disappointed. Be interested not in the adrenaline rush, but in each other's characters and personal growth. Look for similar goals ... (read in full...)
Help! How can I let him see that having more kids is nothing to be scared of?
Q. hi all could you please help. my boyfriend and me have been together for 13 years we have had our ups and downs and seperated for 3 years but stayed together, we have a 12 year old daughter and i have asked him for more children for years but he ...
A. 24 April 2010: You are not married, and had been separated. He's scared that the relationship will not be strong enough to provide for a baby. You must have had kids at a very young age. He's scared to relive that anxiety as a young dad. Tell him you are more ... (read in full...)
My husband has an addiction to men and women on Craigslist, am I handling this the right way?
Q. My husband has an addiction to Craigslist, writing and posting to mostly men and occasionally women. I know he loves me like crazy, and I know that he hurts himself even more than he hurts me. He's extremely intelligent (really, he's a brain), and ...
A. 24 April 2010: If he's posting to men could he be bisexual? Maybe the problem is that when your relationship is perfect, which means you are afraid of confrontation, you are both losing the tools to find out what you really want. Maybe it's in his nature to want ... (read in full...)
Aunt Flo ruins everything!!!!!
Q. I've been flirting with this guy for a 3 months now, fun! But now it's getting serious, for both of us. we talk every night, about everything. Ugh! but on wednesday I got my period, I get a little unsettled a few days before Aunt Flo arrives, and ...
A. 24 April 2010: I am not sure if Aunt Flo was totally responsible for your moodiness. Is something else going on? Write him and tell him about your period. He might think that you get like that every month though. He must have said something to trigger your anger. ... (read in full...)
I can't let go of her past
Q. well ive been married for 2 years and everything seems typical , but i have a problem i cant let go of , my wife told me she has had over 50 one night stands ! it bothers me sometime i feel like a sucker , she also has had three ways with guys and ...
A. 23 April 2010: Her one night stands were not about fun. It's about her desperately trying to get her womanness back. If she is not fully recovered be patient and try to be understanding. If she is back to normal again thank God for giving her the courage to live. ... (read in full...)
Would I be naive to believe my husband will change?
Q. My husband of 9 years (together for 16) had an almost 4 year long affair with his office manager who had a live-in boyfriend. Although I've decided to give him a second chance he has not stopped all contact with her as she still comes into the ...
A. 23 April 2010: Yes, I think you are naive. There are ex husbands, ex wives, ex boyfriends and girlfriends. I had never heard of any ex abusers and ex cheaters. You only had to give him one chance and if he blew it, divorce him for the sake of your children's ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents about him now, or wait until I am fully independent? He's 4 years older than they are.
Q. I have a question involving age difference. I have been dating a man for a year now, I just turned 20 and he is turning 43. We both are very serious about our relationship and I feel we have been very realistic when it comes to dating and the ...
A. 22 April 2010: What do you mean you can't see him anymore? You are old enough you can't even go to a cafe for a drink?
If your parents are sociable and has a wide network of friends, they are more afraid that people would spread rumors and talk among them... (read in full...)
Do I worry about her or continue to trust my boyfriend?
Q. Dear readers I am in a new realtionship with a Man for 4 months now. He have a female friend whom he's very closed to and so does she to him. It makes me quite uncomfortable-- especially that i can see how excited and proud he is of her-- I notic...
A. 22 April 2010: Notice he said "even though I am dating". That's very important if he didn't say that the message would have a totally different meaning. Yes, trust him on that. They don't have chemistry but he doesn't want to lose a friend. It's very refreshing to ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and I'm in love with my teacher 30 years older than me. Please help.
Q. I've been in 3 long relationships, all of them lasting longer than a year and a half... Plus many many before that. So I've experienced quite a bit. The feeling I get when I think of my teacher, well, it's much different. It's like a platonic ...
A. 22 April 2010: Stop talking about your age. He has a girlfriend! She's probably hitting menopause and no longer giving him sex, but he can't break up with her, she's still dear to him. He's regressing to his younger years and being with you makes him feel young. ... (read in full...)
I really like him but... he's got a girlfriend.
Q. So I've been really having a serious crush on this guy.. I have been told that yeah he is flirting with me and seems to be interested in me. There's only one problem he has a girlfriend. I don't know how long they been together or anything. These ...
A. 22 April 2010: Ask him more questions about why he's still with his girlfriend and flirting with you, in a curious way but not in a demanding way. See if they are breaking up soon or is he just starting a workplace affair. That eye contact, "connection" can be ... (read in full...)
My husband has reconnected online with an old crush!
Q. My husband had recently reconnected with his high school friends. One of them is a girl who he has said was one of his closer friends in high school. Now that they've reconnected they have been chatting on line at least once a week if not more, ...
A. 22 April 2010: I don't think you should worry about it. The reason why she was his crush is because she chose her own husband, and not yours. There is no need to meet her husband. The conversation will be boring and just be about those two and you will feel left ... (read in full...)
She says she is pregnant!
Q. I started sleepin with this girl in the begining or march. She had he period like 2 weeks later. She called me yesterday and said that she is pregnant. Is it to soon for that to show up on a pregnancy test? Please help....
A. 21 April 2010: First Response test can work 6 days before a missed period. If her period was supposed to be on April 15th, it's enough time to tell if she is pregnant.... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend want to take time out from me???
Q. Here's my situation: I am in a long distance relationship with a woman, and things are as good as they can be from a distance. We meet online every night, and talk on the phone every day, and we have visited each other several times, She's in The ...
A. 21 April 2010: It's only been an hour. Let's just hope that her check arrives and she can use her internet and phone again. On the mean time she could still use email at the library or the apple store. It would be tempting to just send her a money order but just ... (read in full...)
How do I get back my sexual desires for him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 16 months now and going strong. We love each other to death, but there's a problem. out of the first year together we spent three quarters apart due to the fact that he's studying overseas. I have never done ...
A. 21 April 2010: I don't see how a threesome could get your sex drive back. You are making it seem like you are responsible for his sex drive. When a man loves a woman he has to love her when she's crying, menstruating, pregnant with morning sickness, got fat, ... (read in full...)
I wanted him to fight for me, ...but he just gave up instead.
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up because he wasn't sure about his feelings for me anymore. We'd been together for 3 years. I told him I couldn't be with someone who wasn't fully committed if I was. But truthfully i had my doubts. 2 weeks passed and he c...
A. 20 April 2010: "not sure about feelings, still love you" means I am not interested in you anymore but hang in there in case I can't find anyone else. Soul searching, that's what he's supposed to do, right? He's not going to tell you he's looking around. Life ... (read in full...)
Is he a sexual deviant or is this a hint that he wants me or what?
Q. I have to ask. This guy is kinda shy in the bedroom but SAYS he wants me. Then the other day he wanted to watch porn and he kept stealing glances at me while we watched it. Then he started to masturbate in front of me! And wanted me to also. Is he a ...
A. 19 April 2010: What do you think porn is for? It's a good thing that you are open enough to watch it with him. His glancing at you is like a question mark on his face asking you if you are turned on. When he said he wanted you it meant he wanted sex soon. If your ... (read in full...)
How do I get back my sexual desires for him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 16 months now and going strong. We love each other to death, but there's a problem. out of the first year together we spent three quarters apart due to the fact that he's studying overseas. I have never done ...
A. 19 April 2010: What you are feeling is natural. I wouldn't stress too much about pleasing him. Definitely tell him what you feel, so he won't worry something's wrong with him. Are you sure he's not okay with you not being sexual? Suppressing is not really a ... (read in full...)
I got in between b/f and mother and now I'm the bad guy!
Q. my boyfriends mother has always been like another mother to me. she would always come to me and talk about things in her family that were troubling her. she told me a few weeks ago that she doesn't like when my boyfriend leaves her to look after his ...
A. 18 April 2010: Your boyfriend is the bad guy, not you. When you become closer to your boyfriend the child care responsibility would become yours if you are okay with that, otherwise he has to make more money to afford a babysitter. Or only hang out when the baby ... (read in full...)
Different sleeping patterns causing problems in our relationship
Q. Ok, me and my girlfriend have been doing well for the year and 5 months iwe have been dating. The problem is, we both have different sleeping patterns. She is more of a night owl and I am more of an early bird. Sometimes she gets annoyed at the fact ...
A. 18 April 2010: Being an early bird is healthier for you. Don't change your lifestyle to suit hers. Unless you are married with children and you have to make compromises, you are in the early stages of dating and you can still decide if you like this person enough ... (read in full...)
Woman in 30s and never had boyfriend
Q. I am a woman in my early 30s and I have never had a boyfriend. Recently, I`ve been meeting some men but I keep getting rejected because I do not have dating experience aka I have never been in a long term relationship. I have two question...
A. 18 April 2010: When you first meet a guy, you should never introduce yourself as someone who has never dated. When you do that it looks like as if you are giving a warning signal: I am unwanted goods, date me at your own risk. That's not something you want to ... (read in full...)
Do I try to work through it with her, or should we call it a day?
Q. ive been going out with this girl since september and ive known her for about a year. the thing is she broke up with me after christmas because she said she wasnt happy and felt it was over and then asked me to get back with her 3 weeks later once ...
A. 17 April 2010: I don't see a problem here rather than you are arguing over small things like "you don't call me enough," or "we don't have fun anymore." There isn't really anything to work through. If she has an issue of not meeting frequently enough you have to ... (read in full...)
Stress is affecting sex with my wife, why am I so negative in life?
Q. I always lost out in my life be it be the studies or any thing ,married for over 12 yrs 2 kids and a very att wife i get alot upset when i think about my future my business is not as good as i want though the people around me find me very sucessfull ...
A. 17 April 2010: On the outside you are very successful. You like to be responsible to people closest to you. Maybe you neglected yourself. Take a day off just for yourself and find out what you like to do. Just forget about family, business for a day. If you have ... (read in full...)
Should I be just friends? He is married, too?
Q. I am a married mum of twins who has fallen out of love with my husband of 15 years. He was my first love, however we never go out and he runs up parking fines and bills and never pays, so bailiffs are always knocking on our door and he constantly ...
A. 17 April 2010: I walked out of a marriage 3 years ago. I moved. I fell in love with a trucker who also came out of a bad relationship and he said so we will be friends? I said yeah. I was disappointed but one good thing he did was introduced me to a friend I later ... (read in full...)
He keeps changing his mind...
Q. I was in a relationship for a little over a year, and it was constant fighting. It was my first relationship, and I really did learn what NOT to do..I hurt him pretty bad,nothing like cheating on him,but I did lie about some things..not ...
A. 17 April 2010: Meet him in a public space and then go home by yourself. You are not obliged to give him sex until you know he has forgiven you and is ready for a relationship again.... (read in full...)
Routine has put the Fire out, how do we get it back?
Q. hi! ok so i feel weird having to ask questions about my sex life...a part of my life that i have always been really happy with...only and this is probably important - when im with a boyfriend.... my current borfriend ill will be with for 3...
A. 17 April 2010: Did you say something to him that sounded like criticism? Maybe that's why he shut down. Tell him exactly what you'd like him to do. If he's still asking like this or like that? Then ask him to pretend he knows how. Fake it until he makes it. Stress ... (read in full...)
In love with my teacher
Q. I have a big problem. I am majorly in love... with my teacher. I know, I know, you all think it's 'just a crush' but it honestly isn't. I've never felt this way towards someone before. He has told me on four occasions that he loves me. He ALWAYS ...
A. 16 April 2010: What I am seeing here is sexual tension. If you've never had a relationship with him it's inappropriate for him to say he loves you. When he's not a professor and wearing jeans and sneakers he's just like any other ordinary, horny guy. Get to know ... (read in full...)
I told her I possibly gave her HIV, but it turned out I didn't have it.
Q. Please i need your advice,i wrote last week concerning my girl friend whom i said;said i gave her hiv,but i tasted negativ.It been 2 month 2day since we saw last,initially she was not in town,but came back 3 days ago,that anxiety of seeing me ...
A. 15 April 2010: Sounds like she is keeping herself busy to avoid thinking about her condition, and to postpone dealing with you. She may be in denial. Considering what she did to you, on top of them blaming it on you, I wouldn't go back to her. Be there for her for ... (read in full...)
Confused, am I a freak?
Q. i am a 39 year old male who's wife passed away 9 years ago i have not been with another person since.Here is my confusion and question about four months ago i met this great looking girl at a bar she was nice and smart and everything well i went ...
A. 15 April 2010: No you are not because she is basically a woman. She is not a freak either, just very special. ... (read in full...)
He has a kid with another woman, ...but I love him so much.
Q. *OP's won title* i met a guy some weeks ago, i fell in love with him and he did the same, the thing is that he has a kid with another woman who fortunately happen to get married thats now according to him... i love this guy very much and am even look...
A. 15 April 2010: You only met few weeks ago, that's too quick to call someone wife to be. Also he doesn't have to choose if his ex is already out of the picture. He's using all the words to reel you in. Having a kid is not the biggest mistake in life. Find out more ... (read in full...)
He needed time to think and decided we still love each other, but now I'm not so sure...
Q. My boyrfriend didn't talk to me last week because he needed to clear his head. It was okay that he needed some space, but I just felt out of the loop when he failed to communicate this to me. Well I took the time to think about things too, and...
A. 14 April 2010: I notice that when you talk to him you are already mentioning how couples operate, basically marriage without using that word. He may not be in that stage yet to talk about it. You sound like you are so sure about him you want to tie him down. He's ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend's married.
Q. I have been dating a man for a while and then we decided to move in together. We have now been living together for 3 years. We have often talked about marriage but never really committed. I really didn't want marriage right away, and I think he knew ...
A. 14 April 2010: I am not worried about him still being with her. The fact he forged the papers and showed it to you and thought he could fool you and the court showed what kind of character he is. I would go deeper into his issues, understand everything about his ... (read in full...)
He needed time to think and decided we still love each other, but now I'm not so sure...
Q. My boyrfriend didn't talk to me last week because he needed to clear his head. It was okay that he needed some space, but I just felt out of the loop when he failed to communicate this to me. Well I took the time to think about things too, and...
A. 13 April 2010: He's worried he can't give you the happiness you deserve. Either break up totally or stay with him. Don't let him string you along. This is not a chance for him to date other girls and come back to you when things don't work out.... (read in full...)
He needed time to think and decided we still love each other, but now I'm not so sure...
Q. My boyrfriend didn't talk to me last week because he needed to clear his head. It was okay that he needed some space, but I just felt out of the loop when he failed to communicate this to me. Well I took the time to think about things too, and...
A. 13 April 2010: From my experience, girls always want to spend more time with their boyfriends, while guys can live on sex alone and occasional chats (an exaggeration of course). 2 days without phone calls feel like 2 weeks for a girl but a guy can go on his ... (read in full...)
Broken up - how cud I have been so stupid?
Q. I loved my ex soo much.. i thought he loved me to cos he'd look into my eyes like he want to say something but he doesn't he just smiles and my hearts melts:) when he smiles and whenever he kissed me my heart would just jump. he was ...
A. 13 April 2010: No, he cheated on you, with the girlfriend he's with now. He's making up stories so that you are the guilty one. So the problem is not that you argued with him, it's that you are trusted him too much and never thought he's capable of lying to this ... (read in full...)
Should I stick around as a friend and risk getting hurt?
Q. Hi. So, I've just come out of a relationship with the most fantastic person I have ever met. We were together for 3 months and she's beautiful, challenging, intelligent, and has made me feel amazing! She broke it off because of a lot of things going ...
A. 13 April 2010: I have never been in a situation like this but I would say take the risk. If you have a healthy body, mind and spirity you can take it. If she decides to stay with you, great! If not, I feel I am special enough. There should be more women like me ... (read in full...)
I'm very disappointed in my father
Q. My parents aren't divorced,I have always lived with them but I was raised by my grandmother therefore I don't have a good relationship with my parents,I'm not close to them.I know my mother loves me but I think my father doesn't love me because he ...
A. 12 April 2010: What you are saying is that divorce and mistreatment of women are the norm. I feel sorry for the majority of couples who feels it's okay to stay in an unhappy marriage because it's so common.
You are jealous of the attention that your dad gives to y... (read in full...)
She suffers from depression, and doesn't think anyone can love her, but I do. Would a shock tactic make her see how much she means to me?
Q. My best friend and I are both 26 (I'm male, she's female). We have been best friends for 12 years and I see her maybe 3 or 4 times a week. I'll pick her up from work, we go shopping together, basically we appear like we are a couple but have ...
A. 12 April 2010: I had depression when I was 16. All I wanted was for my family members to validate what I was feeling. If you did something of a shock value, that would do nothing. It would just make her feel that you want to proof her wrong and nothing else. Now ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend for the man I'm having an affair with
Q. DearCupid, I am 20years old and have been with my boyfriend 4 years, I am in love with a man that i have been seeing for the past 2 and a half. The other man is 30 and has a girlfriend and a child, our relationship continued (even through ...
A. 12 April 2010: You were once in love with your boyfriend. Whatever happened to make you fall out of love would happen again with this new man. You didn't tell your boyfriend about this, so I believe he has something that you want to hold on to, but he deserves to ... (read in full...)
Problem with agressive sex!
Q. I have been dating a guy for over 4 months now, from the 1st time we met we have either seen each other or talked on the phone every night. From the beginning he has told me about his past, which involved sleeping with a lot of girls. He feels a ...
A. 11 April 2010: I feel sorry for him. He's in his 30's and he's still not ready for a relationship. It says a lot about his upbringing. Women your age have no patience for this nonsense, unless you want to act like his therapist. It's up to him to reveal his past, ... (read in full...)
Dating one girl but feel the "playboy" urge in me becoming stronger and stronger
Q. Greetings everybody! I've been having some (what I perceive to be) "bad signs" lately when it comes to my commitment to my relationship. I'm wondering what kind of advice people have for me. A little background information: A few years ago,...
A. 11 April 2010: It maybe just you are reacting to the idea of marriage and kids. Reconsider your options. Are you able to give what your girlfriend expects? Remember her clock is ticking she is not going to wait forever for you to propose. Time is not towards your ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the girlfriend I view as a kid now, ...or wait until her exams are over?
Q. i'm 16 years old and i've been in a relationship for 4 months,this is my second relationship but i feel that i don't love my girlfriend as same as before, every day we talk 2-3 hours i don't know i got bored or what? but i want her and i want to ...
A. 11 April 2010: Try to limit your talk to 45 minutes maximum. 2-3 hours is torture man. Cell phones are unhealthy for you. If you are using your home phone your parents get mad. They want you to contribute some to family duties. She should save her yaggety yaggety ... (read in full...)
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