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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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He doesn't know what he feels and I am between the sword and the wall
Q. My life has changed since i started to go out with him, and i knew this would happen some day. When I started to go out with my boyfriend two years ago, I thought about not being with him more than three months because i knew that it will hurt me ...
A. 2 April 2010: I think you should break up not because he did anything particularly wrong, but because you are bringing the worst out of each other. If you go to prom with him, I can just imagine you staring at his face all the time to check if he's looking at ... (read in full...)
My "friends with benefits" girl has fallen for me, and I'm torn between losing her for good or being in a relationship when I'm not sure I want it
Q. Hi all, Im in a right mess here :( This is rather long winded so i hope at least someone can be patient enough to read and respond. I have had what can only be described as a friend with benefits for the last 11 months. We're like best frie...
A. 31 March 2010: A relationship doesn't start until you know it can be workable. You can, as a friend, show her that her attitude is not helping her attract love. It looks like to me you are more ready for a relationship than she is, while she feels a relationship ... (read in full...)
Can I call him my boyfriend? Or what? Are we going out?
Q. Ok, we have been going out together since the end of Jan. He hasnt made a move on me physically until now. However we have amazing conversation and we know everything about each other. I thought I was more into him but recently he invited me to a ...
A. 30 March 2010: You can call him boyfriend he shouldn't be surprised and it looks like you will be moving into that direction. For me, two months of dating is still too soon. I would want to stay in the infatuation period a little longer, take my time, prolong the ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 30 March 2010: I also actually thought he wrote this to you. Send this letter to him already. You are a good writer, I wish someone would write this to me. I am glad you are a DP uncle here. ... (read in full...)
He was bummed, and seemed disappointed. What can I do to help our budding relationship?
Q. So the other night this guy who I really like and me had sex for the first time. I was a little confused because I couldnt tell if he was enjoying it or not... it was hard to see any facial expressions in the dark but I could feel that he was ...
A. 30 March 2010: When a guy is about to come, he should stop and start again later instead of asking you, are you about to come? I smell impatience and pain here.
Oh, this question is about what you can do, right?
Get to know your body. Express your fantasie... (read in full...)
She doesn't feel that 'spark' for me, but doesn't want to break up
Q. No spark in the relationship, doesn't want to break up. I met a girl about 3 months ago online, we hit it off and arranged an in real life date. This also went well, and we began seeing more and more of each other. It's been about 2 months s...
A. 29 March 2010: 1) Whether or not she wants you to initiate the break up, I think you should break up with her.
2) Creating a spark should not feel like an effort. Relationships are unpredictable anyway. No need to play hard to get on purpose unless you are real... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex, I don't...but he keeps threatening me
Q. um my boyfriend keeps talking about sex and that he wants to um "do it" soon but im not ready and i dont want to do it with him but he keeps threatening me and has rased his hand to me. i dont know what else to do!...
A. 29 March 2010: Run, before he rapes you. He's going to raise his hands whenever you don't follow his commands. He's not goint to want a breakup or may even stalk you. You have to be firm. He's not your boyfriend anymore when he treats you like his property.... (read in full...)
It's as though he can treat me however he wants because he knows I'll stay!
Q. Im stuck in a relationship rut and I dont know whether to end it, ask for a break or try and make it work. for some time now ive felt that my boyfriend doesnt put any effort into the relationship. there are many reasons why i think this: 1...
A. 29 March 2010: The 1 2 3 4 you mentioned may be effortless in the dating stage, but now he's taking you for granted. While you can only hope he does those things without starting and argument, I can tell you that most men gets so comfortable having a stable ... (read in full...)
Do female orgasms feel the same as male organsms?
Q. I was making love to my girlfriend, I was laying on my back and she was on top of me, she told me she was feeling that "urge-to-pee" sensation, which I almost instantly recognized as what girls feel when they're close to orgasm, or something like ...
A. 28 March 2010: Yes she had a big orgasm. Do females and males feel the same? You have to ask Lady Gaga that.
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I am sexually active and the guiltiness wont go away
Q. im 15 and i love my boyfriend i know he truely loves me because he demonstrates it every day with his actions.We've had sex several times but i feel very guilty afterwards because i feel like im letting myself and my mom down.Im a catholic and my ...
A. 28 March 2010: I will you tell you a joke to help you feel better. A teenage girl went to confession. Inside the little booth she told the priest she felt guilty she was making out heavily with her boyfriend and one thing led to another. The priest asked her did ... (read in full...)
Bad fit!
Q. I have an amazing relationship with my girlfriend, no complaints at all, our sex life leaves much to be desired. With a combination of both our anatomies, my guy doesn't fit very well to say the least. We're to the point now at least where she can ...
A. 28 March 2010: Could it be that she's not too experienced and was rigid? Have you tried different positions? Because there is not much info here, such as sizes and how many girls you have had, I just have to assume that it's not that you are too big, or too ... (read in full...)
If I pretend this doesn't bother me will I get her back???
Q. Well, The day before my gf was talking about cuddling with me and then yesterday she didn't want to do anything with me, not even talk. I asked her why she didn't want to talk, she said because she was talking to her friends. I was wondering why she ...
A. 28 March 2010: The words 'love' and 'breakup' are not to be taken lightly. It doesn't matter if you have mood swings or if you had a period, once someone utters my love for you is fading, it's enough to tell them bye, see you next life. I assume that she's the ... (read in full...)
A one sided relationship
Q. i don't even know where to start. i've know this guy for 1 year and 9mth. During the first year we would see each other once or twice and sometimes not at all. We however at times emailed each other. After a year and 4mth he finally committe...
A. 28 March 2010: I think you should be patient. A busy guy is a sign of being hard working and conscientious. Being able to spend time with your significant other is a luxury, no one should make it a chore, a deadline to meet. There are enough things in life that ... (read in full...)
Fiancee lied about being a virgin, how can I let her down gently so she can find someone of the same mindset?
Q. Hai, il go straight to the point. My fiancee lied to me that she was a virgin, am 27 years and i kept my virginity she told me she slept with 10 guys and i dont i can marry her. How do i let her go gently so that she can find some else with her same ...
A. 28 March 2010: I would say to her, "I am from a conservative background and I really believe in having a virgin for a wife. I want to share that special first experience with a virgin on my wedding night. I am not a perfect guy myself and I am in no way saying ... (read in full...)
My mom is ignorant and annoying...
Q. Ok, to make a long story short. My mom considers herself "open", but she's also biased and prejudiced and whatever doesnt seem right in her eyes, she opposes. I have a boyfriend, which my parents don't know goes beyond anything than a friendshi...
A. 28 March 2010: He may not be Muslim, but his parents may be. Most muslims are nice people, law abiding citizens. She didn't particularly say anything bad about Muslims. It's just that interracial relationships are taboo. It's something about tribal pride and it ... (read in full...)
I am alone and trapped by an abusive partner. Any advice?
Q. it might sound pointless writing a story like this on this site, but i have no one to turn to and really need some advice. im 18 years old, my boyfriend is 24. we been together a few years, my mum and dad are dead, my mum died of cancer then a ye...
A. 27 March 2010: I assumes he works during the day?
If I were you I would gather all my courage and leave him for the first and last time. Grab a few of your most valued belongings, ids, and run to a police station, the look on your face will tell them ever... (read in full...)
My fiance wants to end our relationship, should I hang in there?
Q. my fiance has just been disnosed with depression and now he says he wants to finish,but cant give me a reason,should i just except it or hang in there? ...
A. 27 March 2010: Your fiance wants you to be happy but regrets he can't be that person now. Has he been visiting the psychiatrist? Tell him whenever he's ready for love again you will welcome him back. Check up on him once in a while but be patient and not force him ... (read in full...)
If you were me in this situation... how would you feel?
Q. My boyfriend has children from a previous relationship. I am fine with that. However, his babymother keeps calling him for for so-called rides. He is a Sedan driver. The first incident I was fine with it because she was drunk and stranded with their ...
A. 27 March 2010: I would feel sorry for your chaffeur boyfriend on call for 24 hours. It takes an angel to love him and to accept his baggage. There is nothing he can do. Can't really complain about that to the family services. You don't have to worry about him ... (read in full...)
He wants more from this arrangement? Does he think I am too easy?
Q. i need some advice this is quite long but here goes I have gotton myself into a situation i am not very proud of. I am 27 female never had a boyfriend and lack confidence. I fell for someone at work who i know just wants a bit of 'fun' no strings, ...
A. 26 March 2010: You got together every 6-7 weeks? Huh?
If you are 27 and a virgin, you are definitely not easy. He's looking for fun, so he doesn't care whether you are easy or not. It's not like he's going to bring you home to his mom and let her judge you. In f... (read in full...)
My wife wants another child, ..but I am not sure I can cope with her mood swings.
Q. We have a two year old daughter..a bit minnxy..but very independent. trouble is, my wife would like another and although I'm quite keen, my wife does suffer terrible mood swings through period and did suffer extremely when pregnant before and I'm ...
A. 25 March 2010: I don't think having any child would do you and her any good. It will just add to her stress. She is not fulfilled inside. It's not sensible to think that having a baby will fill that void, and a baby will not save a marriage. If I were you I would ... (read in full...)
Her protective mother made up break up. Should I have gone along with this?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship with a girl I never physically met. We was going to meet but something always got in the way. Her mum is very protective of her because she got raped in the past and that's why we haven't met. Her mum says she ...
A. 25 March 2010: Her mother is being extra cautionary because she felt guilty she didn't protect her daughter before. You did the right thing. You didn't really have a relationship in a real sense so you couldn't really call that a break up. I think you went with ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable here??
Q. I need URGENT advice here, Me and and my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years were due to view an apartment this evening which had been planned a few weeks ago. We were hoping to move into this apartment on 24th April, very soon. There has been a lot of ...
A. 24 March 2010: I live in Canada and my brother and his fiance lives in Hong Kong. I am going there for their wedding and if they have a child I will go there again to see the baby. If you are close to him enough to live with him, you are considered part of his ... (read in full...)
Why do some ladies judge men on how long they can last during sex?
Q. *OP's own title* Why do some ladies judge men on how long they can last during sex? I mean me as a young man all I want to do is try and please a woman to the best I can. When they say something like that its really upsets me (example: "haha he...
A. 24 March 2010: Hi, I didn't have time to answer this morning. It's important that a man lasts long. It's a male's need to feel in control so when a man can control when he cums a woman feels he's good at what he's doing. I feel desired that a man wants to please ... (read in full...)
Will this marriage make it???
Q. Hello My Cupid Friends, I'm here again asking for advice, I have been here a couple of times asking for advice on my husband.. My husband and I meet March 2009 then got married May 16,2009 I know that was fast but knew what I wanted and our 1...
A. 24 March 2010: Stop doing too much. Or change the attitude of doing from "if I don't do this he'll be a mess" to " I enjoy helping him because I love him". You understand the difference here? The first attitude makes him feel like a hopeless child who messes ... (read in full...)
Do people find love when they least expect it or is that just rubbish?
Q. Do people find love when they least expect it? How does that work? And DOES it work? I'd really love know this!!...
A. 23 March 2010: When they least expect it does not mean you walk into a shopping mall, a library, a restaurant and there it is your soulmate. Rather it means when you don't demand it from your mate, by asking "how do we move forward" or "when will you marry me?". ... (read in full...)
Threesome with husband & best friend gone wrong... I think??
Q. Hello, My husband and I had a threesome with my best friend the other evening. I wasn't exactly into it and I told him but he kept insisting and finally when we were all watching tv he made the move. I wasn't exactly expecting him too but I thought ...
A. 23 March 2010: If she's your best friend you have to let down your pride and tell her how you really feel. There should be a pre talk before each session. Ideally a fair session would consist of him taking turns fucking you two and at the final moment his cum is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend claims to love me yet he is planning on cheating. I need some advice.
Q. My boyfriend of almost 3 years claims i mean the world to him. But a couple days ago i saw texts in his phone to another female and they were making plans to get together romanticly......my hearts crushed and my trust has gone out the window. And on ...
A. 23 March 2010: I don't know the background of your relationship but you must tell him no. Pregnant women are able to have sex up until the last month. There may be psychological blocks coming from his side. Many couples, my parents included, have overcome this and ... (read in full...)
Is society right in thinking masturbation in mainly a male activity?
Q. Heyy everyone, this is just a general wondering, mainly to our female readers... How often do you masturbate in a week? I was talking to my boyfriend the other night, and I said on top of the sex we have, I probably masturbate about 5 times a week.....
A. 23 March 2010: 2 or 3 times a week. I think women masturbate just as much. In Tao, it's encouraged that a woman masturbates as much as she wants but not for a male because he loses vitality and feels drained afterwards. ... (read in full...)
Am I in labour?
Q. 4th day of back pain in late pregnancy is it labour?tonight has been the worst, i have woken up from severe lower back pain and a pain on the left side of my vaginal wall however i have had no contractions in my stomach is it labour?...
A. 23 March 2010: My water also broke in bed and that morning I had orange color mucus plug coming out. The whole day I didn't feeling like eating. I went into labor at 9:30pm. If this is your first child labor would take at least several hours. Don't panic until you ... (read in full...)
Need Help approaching a girl BUT I have a few problems
Q. Hi, i need advise on how to tell a girl how i feel but theres two problems that are in my way they are that she doesn't really know me as my friends do but we talk abit in class, also she is smarter than me im not jealous or out its just i dont ...
A. 22 March 2010: What you are describing are not really problems. It's very flattering to ask a girl out when you don't even know her. Tell her you want to get to know her better and take her out for lunch. She either tells you yes or no. If she isn't interested in ... (read in full...)
Should I move on and never look back or wait for his crazy madness to go away?
Q. -+My ex boyfriend just broke up with me. We had lots of issues due to my past. I’d been with guys he knows, and he demanded to know every detail. Because of the nature of this situation, it was hard for me to be 100% honest all the time, so he ...
A. 21 March 2010: You stayed too long. You should have never gone out with him at the first place.... (read in full...)
Confusing life... badly need help!
Q. 4 years ago,i was going out with a boy for three months...i was the one responsible for our breakup...i was afraid of my father because he's a strict man and he don't want to hear any boyfriends type of things from me...for him, at that time i had ...
A. 21 March 2010: You don't know for sure he cheated. He's probabaly tried to forget you but couldn't. It's a good thing to honor your parent's wishes as you both are doing. Well basically you don't make money yet so you have no say about where you want to live. It ... (read in full...)
Another woman is pursuing my boyfriend and it's making me feel insecure.
Q. a 'friend' of mine i met through my boyfriend sent my boyfriend love letters and clearly has professed her love for him. Despite the fact he's told her its not going to happen, he is still contacting her a fair bit, and she is contacting him, and it ...
A. 21 March 2010: I don't think you will mess up. Don't fall into her trap. I think more likely she will make a fool out of herself. Pretend she doesn't exist. It's not that she loves him. It's about her need to steal because she never gets what she wants in life. ... (read in full...)
Should I propose to her even tho I don't have the ring yet?
Q. Heya! This is a quick but potentially huge question to ask of you guys. I am planning to propose to my girlfriend:-) I have permission from her dad and I am commissioning the ring, which I know she'll love. However, today we are going out to a s...
A. 21 March 2010: Get her a zicornia but promise her you will get her a real one later. This is a magical moment some kind of ring is needed. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I really think she is the one... but she says she needs some time to get rid of the ex. Is this a game?
Q. I really need some help here. I met this girl about a month ago and we really hit if off. We have alot in common and I really think the world of her. We hung out almost every day for the first 3 weeks, then her ex came back into the picture. It ...
A. 21 March 2010: Wait for her. Is she supposed to be single for another 5 months before she meets another man? The dating world is not a first come first serve. Get to know her better, a relationship doesn't start until you are sure you can both trust each other. ... (read in full...)
I thought what we had was worth trying to save
Q. i have a serious relationship with my boyfriend for the last 1 and a half year. We work in the same place in managerial positions, due to his profession he stays in the workplace and 5 or 6 days a week I was also sharing his apartment, very happily ...
A. 21 March 2010: I don't think a guy hangs out with a shemale just because his life is empty and needs excitement, or because you . If he's crying like that it implies he's guilt of hiding his sexuality and lying to you. A straight man even drunk, would never do ... (read in full...)
I feel I may have settled for less
Q. Last night my b/f and I attended a function and bumped into a couple we met several years ago, who at the time, were married to different people but found each other. I watched them from across the room when they did not know it, and obsserving ...
A. 21 March 2010: I think you should keep looking. Yelling should never be allowed at any time of a relationship. If you try to change him 5 years after it never works. You do have the energy to look for Mr Happy. You have to recharge it after spending all those ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you have a musical talent?
Q. I'm feeling conflicted and sad because I love music more than almost anything on earth. I have played the guitar for most of my life and I would like to do more than just play it as a hobby; I would like to do it on a professional level. My q...
A. 21 March 2010: I am a pianist. A good pianist is made, not born. I spent 20 years just learning the mechanics of the hand. That's using kinesthetic talent to produce the sound I want. Before that I need to have a good taste of what good music is. That's combining ... (read in full...)
Okay so the guy I'm seeing is a Christian but his preaching to me is driving me nuts!
Q. I am dating a guy who is a strong Christian believer. We know each other from work and have been hanging out for a few months now. Often we have quality time together but lately he has been preaching to me, on almost every meeting. I have hinted and ...
A. 21 March 2010: Forget about him. Before you let him go, tell him there are 9 Jesuses at different historical periods that shared the same fate: Horus, Attis, Krishna, Dionysus, Mithra, Christ, I forgot the other ones. They all supposedly born on Dec 25, Born of a ... (read in full...)
Help needed on how to get through my last two painful weeks of my pregnancy.
Q. i have two weeks and 5 days until i give birth, the last two days i have had really bad lower back pain im just wondering why this could be and if there is anythingt i can do to feel more comfortable as im not sleeping very well...
A. 20 March 2010: Your baby is descending and his head is sitting on your pelvis. I remember complaining and crying in the middle of the night and my then husband asked if I wanted to induce labor I said no, I had 3 more weeks to go. I didn't do much about it, I just ... (read in full...)
I'm concernd about the size of my penis?
Q. My current girlfriend, who had sex with one person before told me that he had a small penis, but she later told me that it was 6 inches, which I certainly don't consider small. She also told me that having sex didn't feel good at all with him. She ...
A. 20 March 2010: You both have average sized penises, yours is thicker. Size and how good the sex is are 2 different issues. You worry too much about numbers. The vibrational frequency between the two sexes makes the sex feel good (paraphrased from another DP uncle, ... (read in full...)
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