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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Did my boyfriend get my colleugue pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years cheated on me with one of my close co-workers at work, all three of us work together. And we have hung out together on the regular. But now the girl is pregant she's saying its 50-50. she not sure who the father is? I don't ...
A. 4 May 2010: I am sorry that happened to you. You should go whether he's the father or not. Go tell your coworker, "Don't worry, you can have him." The one good thing that came out of this is that you are not pregnant with that jerk. ... (read in full...)
My husband has a very low sex drive. why?
Q. Problems in bed. My husband And I have been married for 3 years now. We dated for at least 2 years. during that time we had the best sex ever. He was my first. I love and respect him with all of my heart. We have a 2 year old beautiful daughter...
A. 4 May 2010: I forgot to say let him relax and get in the mood first. He may need 30 minutes of alone time to recharge. Besides all those roles he still has the self to take care of. He's young, he may have a quarter life crisis but he can't go without sex for ... (read in full...)
My husband has a very low sex drive. why?
Q. Problems in bed. My husband And I have been married for 3 years now. We dated for at least 2 years. during that time we had the best sex ever. He was my first. I love and respect him with all of my heart. We have a 2 year old beautiful daughter...
A. 4 May 2010: The baby is to be blamed. He sees you nursing the baby, changing diapers all the time and you become this mother figure. I had heard too many men stopping sex after the baby comes out. Tell your husband you understand what he's going through but he ... (read in full...)
My husband loves me completely but I don't love him. Should I leave him?
Q. I've read other peoples' questions and answers about whether they should stay in a loveless marriage, but no one seems to be in my situation. The fact is, my husband of 25 years is a kind, affectionate, caring, loving, reliable, attentive man wh...
A. 4 May 2010: Stay. A husband is a father, a provider, a friend, a sexual partner, and domestic partner all rolled up into one. If you go outside to look for the missing excitement element, you lose everything you built together for 25 years. You can change your ... (read in full...)
Is 8 months long enough to wait to tell him how I feel?
Q. So I have been with this guy I have been "seeing" since August, I am afraid I am catching alot of feelings for him, when I don't hear from him and don't see him I am cranky as all heck lol. I am afraid that I have these feelings while he may not ...
A. 4 May 2010: I believe what you are trying to get out of the question is more than just "do you like me back?" If you had been married once and have a kid already, you would have a much relaxed attitude. If you have been single all your life I can understand you ... (read in full...)
10 years of marriage and I don't feel the same way about my husband anymore
Q. Hi, I have been married for 10 years and have realized that I no longer feel the same way about my husband as I used to. He has put me through so much and I feel I cant be myself with him anymore, I am totally switched off. He has lied to me so ...
A. 3 May 2010: If he's not doing any work, he has to step down his title co owner. Whenever he buys stuff the money should be reimbursed. When you feel you can't handle the workload hire an assistant manager. He's not treating you fairly, more like his personal ... (read in full...)
There must be something wrong in our relationship if I had a one night stand, right?
Q. I have been seeing my bf for 18 months. We are both separated and have kids, live apart and he has a difficult job that is physically exhausting so when I do get to see him (not as often as I'd like) he is often tired. There are a few things tha...
A. 3 May 2010: I agree, but being tired, overworked and not spending enough time is not that wrong in a relationship. Some people cheat just because they could. Own up to it. If you decide to stay with him then accept that you will have to adjust to his schedule ... (read in full...)
What do you do if you find out your husband is cheating?
Q. What wil u do if u discover beyond reasonable doubt that ur husband is cheating on you? I gave up so many things i hold so dear,jst to keep my marriage. I was using my husband's mobile phone wen i discovered a txt message he sent to another woman ...
A. 3 May 2010: You confront him and ask him if he still wants to work at your marriage, because he can't have it both ways. Give him a time limit to leave that woman or you would get a divorce. ... (read in full...)
Are we friends or lovers?
Q. hello everyone,i need ur advice plz ! 2 months back i ended a short relation with a guy who lied to me about having a girlfriend and i decided to give a chance to a man who seemes really nice at start, he got in touch with me first through ...
A. 3 May 2010: When you are together and in a good mood you are lovers. When you are apart and you feel insecure you are friends. You didn't ask for a serious relationship and he is what you get, and you can't expect him to behave like he is in a serious ... (read in full...)
People say she's into me but I just can't imagine that she is
Q. I really need advice on this girl. We've became very close friends this past year, and over the last few weeks I've developed stronger feelings for her. She is so cute, but i love everything about her, she's the girl version of me. We have a good ...
A. 2 May 2010: You ask her out now before someone else does. When she gets attached then you get less chance to be with her. Take the risk and find out what she likes about you. You've been with 4. You are pretty good. Imagine how many you would have if you ... (read in full...)
Happily married but also in love with my possible half brother!
Q. I have been happily married for nearly six years and have two wonderful children (one from a previous relationship; and one with my husband). A couple of months ago, I made friends with a young couple through friends and over time I fell in love ...
A. 2 May 2010: Your husband is not his parents and there is no guarantee his health would go downhill right now. With the right diet, exercise and good habits one can not blame being unhealthy on genes. In marriage vows there are no back up plans and I am sure ... (read in full...)
Has my problem caused too much damage for us to recover from?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for several years now, but our sex life has died. During the first year we were together, we quickly fell in love and wanted to be close all the time. Eventually, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, but it t...
A. 2 May 2010: It's not an operation, just an uneventful quick snip. You had blown it out of proportion and had attached too much emotional analysis into this. After a few days of healing (well give yourself a week to be sure) you will be ready to rock and roll ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for us to resolve our problems?
Q. First of all i would like to apologize for the long story here Okay its like this, i have been in a relationship with this girl for 4 and half years now, i was working abroad in Malaysia for the first 2 years and we were together, for the past few...
A. 2 May 2010: You said you would do anything for her to work this out. Does that mean no more trips to Malaysia and proposing to her right now? If she has problems with the long distance, she will have problems after she got married. She is not going to ask you ... (read in full...)
Married for 8 months, but no longer feel close to my husband
Q. I am 33 and have been married for only 8 months (been together 5 years). I love my husband, but we have nothing in common and I no longer feel close to him. He has very bad credit and cannot save money. I pay for everything, including the we...
A. 2 May 2010: My boyfriend is the complete opposite of him. He doesn't drink beer, doesn't like watching sports, and a great lover in bed but we are not thinking about moving in yet. Sorry I can't tell if he's an alcoholic because I don't drink. If it's in his ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to make rules to my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, but have recently decided to take a break, because I have been unhappy with some of his behaviour. We both want to get back together, and make things work, but I am wondering what steps I ...
A. 2 May 2010: Rules sound too authoritative. Boundaries is better. I feel 24 is way past the party stage. Perhaps the pain of you dumping him could force him to look at his life. Find out each other's life purpose and the theme of your relationship. If you don't ... (read in full...)
Interpreting 1st date communication!
Q. So, I need an interpretation of post-first date communication, please! I went on my first date in 9 years today (split with my bf of 8 1/2 years 6 months ago, took a long time to feel better and get the confidence to date again). I think it went ...
A. 2 May 2010: He sounds too casual. Either he's not looking for a long term relationship or he's dating other women. If you were his first choice he wouldn't have replied like that. He hasn't found one he's too crazy about so he still wanted to keep you on the ... (read in full...)
Videotapes of wife with ex....
Q. I found a video of my wife with an ex, she says she thought they had been erased. I knew they had sex and that my wife wasn't a virgin, so I am not so disappointed by that, but rather in the video he finished by giving her a facial. I always ...
A. 1 May 2010: I don't think cumming on a face is disrespectful. I heard there is a wife who had perfect skin and everybody asked what secret she had and she said she uses her husband's cum to wash her face. For other people, marriage is real life and cumming on ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lost virginity to rebound during break up and now I don't know what to do if we get back together.
Q. Hey. Well, this is the story. I met my girlfriend about 2 years ago, and from the very moment we started talking we were extremely attracted to each other. Quickly enough, we started going out and soon after we realized that we were in love. We were ...
A. 30 April 2010: There is no mention of her breaking up with her new boyfriend. It's dangerous to get back with her. You want the best for her but she doesn't know what she wants at the moment. You were nervous to perform. The media puts a lot of pressure for men to ... (read in full...)
Boob jobs usually end in divorce?
Q. Hi all, enjoyed the site so I thought I would join and ask a few "burning questions" to hear what a different group thinks. Please bear with me, I'm not trying to come across as accusing ANYONE of anything with this question/stateme...
A. 30 April 2010: You say that 7-8 ladies out of 10 ended in divorce. The other 2-3 are in happy relationships and they know the secrets to stay together. The ones who divorced are simply getting out of a relationship that's already dysfunctional. Surgery has nothing ... (read in full...)
I swear she has had anal sex before.
Q. This is gonna sound like I'm some jealous macho American asshole, so sorry in advance. I am wondering there is any way to think if my girl has had anal sex before. I realize that I should trust her when she says no, and that love is built on trus...
A. 30 April 2010: No you can't tell but you can tell that an anus is a talented, elastic organ which can push out shitloads of shit and shrink back to its normal size every time. You can worry all you want, but keep this to yourself or this issue is going to trigger ... (read in full...)
Why am I so worried about getting in a relationship?
Q. I am 25, and have never really been in a relationship. I have hooked up but have never had a legit girlfriend. I always kind of longed for one but I always told myself I wanted to wait until I got a career, had my fun, travel and all that. Fast ...
A. 30 April 2010: Worrying is normal, not a problem. You will come across questions like these for every girl you meet. They eventually ease away. The more experience you gain the more control you have. You don't have to talk multiple hours a day if you don't want ... (read in full...)
Lusting is wrong... or is it?
Q. Yeah, im a 16 year old kid and having some issues with myself, mostly to do with lust. I know that lust is wrong. When i used to lust it made me want to masturbate. When i did, it felt normal. When i fell in love for the first time i stopped because ...
A. 29 April 2010: Lusting is not wrong and masturbation is not wrong. Repression makes you angry, anxious, and hostile to females. These are not good Christian traits. Your attitude makes it wrong. If you think masturbation makes you short, or god kills 3 kittens ... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in our relationship, is this letter appropriate to send?
Q. Dear all, Okay, where to start, been in relationship for 2 years, at first was the best, everything great and now she says spark has gone etc but whats to be with me, I still have that spark for her but really confused...anyway, I have written h...
A. 29 April 2010: If you can lie on top of her, look her in the eyes and feel a connection, you'll see the spark is still there. It takes two to tango. Whoever starts to say the spark is gone is irresponsible. They are people who look else where and express that they ... (read in full...)
Unrequited love.... I now realize she was my first love, should I write this letter to her?
Q. unrequited love My flat mate and me fell for each other at uni three years ago. We had lived together for two years and just got on fantastically well, however despite her being a reasonably attractive girl I must admit that I didn't find her sexu...
A. 29 April 2010: She would appreciate it. She didn't regret that special moment with you either. It won't mess up your friendship but it's not necessary to continue this friendship either. As both of you find other people to love, you will think of each other less ... (read in full...)
I said things I shouldn't have said and now he won't talk to me! This is so painful!
Q. I am going through a pain like i have never felt before. I'd rather experience physical pain then the feeling i have right now. I had been seeing someone for 3 months. We had a lot of fights and mostly because of me because I would question him on a ...
A. 29 April 2010: Know what you are fighting about. Is this relationship workable or are you going to a dead end street? There can only be two outcomes. He still wants to be with you. He decides to end it because the drama isn't worth it. If it's the first, take him ... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in our relationship, is this letter appropriate to send?
Q. Dear all, Okay, where to start, been in relationship for 2 years, at first was the best, everything great and now she says spark has gone etc but whats to be with me, I still have that spark for her but really confused...anyway, I have written h...
A. 29 April 2010: Hi Carlos,
I am 29 and I'd been in quite a few serious and casual relationships. You are very expressive and your sentiments are quite revealing. I see that she's losing interest and you are hurt, and wondering if the relationship should cont... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend have the hots for our room mate?
Q. over the past months my girlfriend has changed, she doesnt desire sex with me, and i feel like our room mate is the reason why. She claims to hate him but, find them glaring at each other, getting each others attention. I have noticed her ...
A. 27 April 2010: I am not sure what you meant by the tv thing but I know that sometimes gut feelings can't be doubted. I would imagine it's hard to enjoy sex when 3 people live in the same place. I don't think I need to lecture you on how to give nice long kisses ... (read in full...)
He's only nice to me when he's got his fix
Q. i had been with my boyfriend two and a half years and we split for three months and decided to give it another go. But about two to three weeks he got back together with his x who he has a child with he says he only did it for his child and didnt ...
A. 26 April 2010: That weed abuse has to stop. He has nothing good to offer you. Perhaps he went back to his ex to get benefits, such as money? He will only be sweet, loving, and caring if you happen to have money for him to buy more weed. Time to let him go. You are ... (read in full...)
He loves me but I want to marry and he doesn't
Q. Am I flogging a dead horse? I live with my boyfriend and two other male roommates. My boyfriend tells me he loves me all the time, and does show it sometimes (he is a big tough guy on the outside so it's sometimes rather difficult to get...
A. 26 April 2010: In case you didn't ask him what bothers him about marriage. My guess is that he worries he has to spend a lot on the ring and the wedding, on top of the house you are building. You said his guard was up but he didn't say he didn't want to get ... (read in full...)
My teacher's suggestive actions are beginning to atract me to him. Help!?
Q. So, I have written an article like this previously, but I feel like I need to revisit this issue, because nothing has really gotten better, and this 'craving' I am feeling towards my teacher has increased at a very excessive rate. I will re-expl...
A. 25 April 2010: A relationship would never happen and yes he would endanger his job. The feeling will go away. In normal relationships the infatuation period lasts for 18 months and it turns to companionship. He's messing you up. He keeps on triggering your sexual ... (read in full...)
He keeps receiving pictures of semi-naked girls and texting them but claims it is only "like porn"! Should I forgive him or will it happen again?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. After 3 months of going out i found pictures of other girls on his phone with no top on they had sent him. I also found very forward texting to one girl in particular who he was speaking to on msn , Sh...
A. 25 April 2010: Web cam sex, stream sex, is not the same as porn. People don't talk to actors on the screen. What you had is not a boyfriend, you are just a roommate and someone who's willing to have sex with him when the girls with steaming hot bodies on the ... (read in full...)
Is she just using me to help get her marriage back on track?
Q. I have being have a relationship with a married woman is is a work colleague. Im single had have been for about four years, having come out of a 18 year relationship.She was having problems with her married life and later admitted they were not ...
A. 25 April 2010: She is not going to be devastated. She can find another sucker or divorce her husband.... (read in full...)
What should I do when I am having sex without a condom on?
Q. i'm a virgin , and i have been wondering what to do when im having sex without a condom and im about to cum, do i cum inside her or tell her im about to cum or what? HELP!...
A. 25 April 2010: You get prepared to pay child support for 18 years, then you have 9 months not having to worry whether to cum inside, outside, or in her mouth.... (read in full...)
Does it sound like he could be falling for me too?
Q. I guess I'll start from the beginning. My friends and I were sitting in the lunch room when the art teacher came over and started chatting. I'd never had him before, so I wasn't saying much. But he turned to me unexpectedly and said "Are you taking ...
A. 25 April 2010: Everything sounded okay until the wife and kids part, and that he's 38. He's predatorial from the beginning. The reason why he picked a young girl like you is because no one would suspect the obvious that he's interested in you romantically, and you ... (read in full...)
Separation has ended..how long do we wait before having sex?
Q. How long do we need to wait to have sex again now that we have ended our separation? My wife and I went through a separation for February, March and the first part of April before we got back together after successful marital counseling on my ...
A. 25 April 2010: I am surprised you are okay with all this. This is a brief separation within a marriage, and not a separation proceeding to a divorce. So getting sex somewhere else should be out of the question. What she did was cheating. Getting back on her own ... (read in full...)
The baby seems to be ruining his life and its all my fault
Q. Been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. and now i am 9 weeks pregnant, at first he was happy and over the moon, now he seems so distant. he said its alot of getting use to, but i cant believe he can say that, im the one who is going through ...
A. 25 April 2010: It's all his fault. Any guy who doesn't wear a condom and makes you consider an abortion should be dumped right away. What's sexual education for? Have the baby and let him live with the guilt for the rest of his life that someone else is going to ... (read in full...)
Is love at first sight real or a myth?
Q. Is it possible to fall in love with someone literally as soon as you see them? I use Facebook as my main way of communication with my friends. My cousin changed his status and a friend of his commented on it. The comments between my cousin and the ...
A. 25 April 2010: I believe in love at first sight. If a girl is pretty she would get that from most males, so that makes the statement mean less. What you are experiencing doesn't count. You are basically just staring at pixels on the screen. When eyes meet, it's ... (read in full...)
I think that my teacher is flirting with me. What should I do?
Q. So, i'm almost 14 years old, and english is not my language, so sorry if it is bad written. Since 2 school years we have a german teacher, he's pretty hard with all the class except me. First half year i was almost afraid of german class, cause he ...
A. 25 April 2010: He has a big title but he's also a spooky pedophile. He's shown himself to be unprofessional. Wake up from your dream. If your dream became reality it will be nothing pleasant. Talk to your school principal. You have classmates as witness. ... (read in full...)
Is he REALLY that nice?
Q. I got of an abusive relationship about a month ago. I recently started seeing a friend of mine I have been friends with for a few years. I was never allowed to hang out with him but always kept in touch with him secretly online. He's the complete ...
A. 24 April 2010: Yes, he is a nice guy like every guy should be. You deserve to be treated like this and you have the love in you to reciprocate. One day you will get used to it and look back in the past and all you could feel is horror, like, "how could I allow ... (read in full...)
Says he is not ready for a relationship then gets into one with a 19 year old....he is going to be 30!
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about a year. He had to put a lot of work into getting me to go out with him. When we started dating, he was really romantic to me and very nice. He respected me and was really into me. He told me how beautiful I am ...
A. 24 April 2010: Because you are going to expect commitment from him and the younger girl is not. Serious means loving your wife when she's depressed, have a headache, feels insecure, spending nights with her at the hospital when she has a surgery, childbirth, etc. ... (read in full...)
I think I moved her in prematurely... how can I get this spark back?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been living together for about 5 months now, and we've only been dating for 6. Her dad is a drunk so I decided to move her out of there to come stay with me... but now it's just like I'm not so interested any more, I love ...
A. 24 April 2010: The spark you see on chick flicks and romance novels is an overrated myth. When you search for that spark you will be disappointed. Be interested not in the adrenaline rush, but in each other's characters and personal growth. Look for similar goals ... (read in full...)
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