Like what
she writes?
... Add *anniepeg to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
|
|
He got cold feet and broke up with me!
Q. Dear cupid, I am 24 and my ex-bf is 22. We dated for about 3 months and everything was going great, until one day he broke up with me. We didn't speak for about a month after we broke up and recently we talked as friends. He opened up and told me ...
A. 22 May 2010: I slept with my boyfriend first day I met him. We are still together after 2 years and had never fought about anything or thought about breaking up ever. If he broke up after this it's his immaturity. Or it's something else. People break up when ... (read in full...)
Meeting online companion, AND his whole family?!
Q. I badly need advise before I materialize my plans. I met this guy exactly 5 months ago online as a way of coping up with a break-up. Anyway, he is younger than me by 7 years and at first we were just chatting out of boredom, I didn't even care...
A. 22 May 2010: I will be 30 and I don't own an iphone and never will. He's from generation Y. I am from the older generation and I can't relate to these youngsters using high tech gadgets. Tell him you are not excited about the idea of an iphone. Or better yet. ... (read in full...)
Should I see if the other guy can satisfy me?
Q. I`ve had three lovers in my life and the biggest of the three was my ex hubby just at 5inches and 5inches in girth before my bf now witch is almost 4inches long and 4.5 around. I noticed the difference the first time he put it in and I was let ...
A. 16 May 2010: I appreciate your bravery and honesty by posting this here. I am not judging you. If guys can think with their dicks why can't women think with their pussies? Women always trade up every time they get a new boyfriend. In my experience anything ... (read in full...)
Complicated Emotional Affair - What Next?
Q. I am a male who began teaching at a community college 2 years ago as a second career. Shortly after starting at the college, I began tutoring as a means of earning additional income. One of my first students was a recently separated woman ar...
A. 16 May 2010: Get a divorce so your choices of women would be broader than unavailable, undecisive, and "user friendly" wives.... (read in full...)
He keeps saying I deserve better. Why can't he belive that I like him?
Q. The guy I'm dating constantly wants to know why I like him, what is it about him..and says he cant understand why I like him seeing that im soo nice, a good girl..(ive never done drugs, stolen or anything like that) and he used to do drugs, fight ...
A. 16 May 2010: He's afraid you are too good to be true. He's concerned that you two have different backgrounds. He's underestimating his ability to make you happy because he had a rough start in life.... (read in full...)
Is he wanting the baby only because of what others say?
Q. hey im 19 years old and im pregnet me and my boyfriend of 4 years decided to get an abortion at first i didnt want to do it but i didnt want to throw a baby on him if he wassnt ready to hav it i was his choice to get an abortion since the day i...
A. 16 May 2010: He could change his mind after he gets past the ooh and ahh stage and realize that having a baby means less money less freedom less sex less everything. The good news is that it could strengthen your bond and jumpstart his life, forcing him to ... (read in full...)
Comments on a weight loss plan?
Q. hey, im 17 and really want to lose weight and quite quickly. i was thinking of going on a 500 cals a day diet and doing 12km a day on the treadmill. has anyone ever tried anything like this and if so did it work? thankyouxx...
A. 16 May 2010: Bad idea. Your body hasn't finished growing. Fasting one day out of 2 weeks is okay but do not practice this as a lifestyle. If you are an active teenager you need at least 1800 calories a day. It's not about how much you eat but what you eat. 500 ... (read in full...)
Dealing with Girlfriend's sexual assault history
Q. My 24 year old girlfriend recently told me that she was violently assaulted and raped when she was 19 in a parking lot by a soldier in the navy. She managed to fight him off at some point and the authorities came and arrested him. He was ...
A. 15 May 2010: You may feel repulsed by her because during sex you don't want to scare her or hurt her, or think she's dirty or contaminated. These feelings do not seem rational but they do go away. The important thing is to not let these feelings go on for too ... (read in full...)
The sex in our marriage is sooo boring!
Q. My wife and I have know each other since we were 16. We always had a good relationship and after her first marriage failed we started dating. After 18 months we were married. We've been married for 5 years, but for the past 2-3 years my unhappyness ...
A. 15 May 2010: I used to hate giving oral sex and now I love it. It's not about you or her. Another woman would love to give you oral sex and your wife might love to give oral to another man. She refuses counselling. You go by yourself first so you can tell ... (read in full...)
Letting down a guy easily?
Q. Is it possible to let a guy down gently? I'm seeing a guy, it's unspoken but neither of us would go off with someone else, the thing is... I love being single. How can I tell him I'm not interested gently? Any help would be so apreciated, you...
A. 15 May 2010: The master lines, "You are a great guy," "I just wanna be friends," "I am not ready for a relationship right now." are going to make him angry. I think you should be honest with him and tell him reasons why you choose to be single, and that even ... (read in full...)
B/f deserve a second chance?
Q. Dear Cupid... Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year and a half now, and recently we have been constantly fighting. We use to be so happy, and we NEVER fought about anything. My boyfriend isn't the type of guy to say all of this to ...
A. 15 May 2010: The messages you exchanged were expressed in an emotional time. He could change his mind about mending the relationship. You should give at least 2 week's time to see if you can face him calmly and talk about issues without arguing. There are always ... (read in full...)
Should I do what he wants so I can get him back?
Q. Okay so I lost my virginity about a month ago to a guy who I liked very very much, but he didn't feel the same way. Basically he used me, So then I thought I was pregnant and some how my school found and was talking about it non stop. Well the guy ...
A. 15 May 2010: It took me a while to find out who is who but both guys are just using you. He's not your boyfriend, so he can't talk like you owe him some favor to win him back. You are having a distance relationship, and the first thing he wants to do when he ... (read in full...)
I don't get turned on by girls but I want to get married some day in the future! What is going on with me?
Q. Ok so im 13 and im soooo worried of being gay! I dont get attracted to girls only guys (i get crushes on girls but im sexually attracted to boys), and it doesnt help that i go to an all boys school, i really dont want to be gay (not that i have ...
A. 15 May 2010: My first boyfriend was gay and he told me he was emotionally attracted to girls and sexually attracted to guys. I understand you wanting to get married. The majority is heterosexual and there are way more role models who are supposedly happily ... (read in full...)
Have never loved my wife of 19 years, I want to leave
Q. I am 39 years old married to 39 year old wife for 19 years. We have been together since High School, we dated for four years before getting married. I don't know if I am having a "mid-life crisis" or what, but I have been unable to shake thoughts ...
A. 15 May 2010: I personally find it hard to fit work, children, family, sex all perfectly in a marriage. It's possible too that your wife is having problems feeling sexy because she looks at you as a brother/father figure. She may become workaholic to avoid ... (read in full...)
WHAT can I do to get my baby's father to show me some more affection?
Q. OK so ive been dating this guy, not just any guy, my babys father, for a yrs and some days now, idk why but since a few weeks before i had the baby he has been acting so differant! like we used to hold each other and i mean just hold each other,we ...
A. 15 May 2010: When you tell him you need more affection, he interprets that as he's not doing enough, not good enough and that hurts his feelings. Be grateful when he does things for you. Show him that you are still turned on by him and excited by his presence. ... (read in full...)
Please help me get rid of these feelings...
Q. hi,I live in belgium. I came here with my family six years ago to study. I'm married with two children and have a relatively happy married life although I never tasted true love with my husband. However it was ok and I was happy with my children and ...
A. 14 May 2010: Be gentle to yourself. When you try to act on it, it destroys your marriage. When you try to ignore it, deny it, it doesn't go away. Appreciate what you are feeling and give yourself permission to feel whatever you like. When you are all by ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a co-worker that I don't want her to date!
Q. I have 4 children all adults and I have neve rtried to interfer in any of their lives before/. I think that kids need to learn from their mistakes, until now that is. I own a contracting compnat and have a lot of young men work for me. As guys will ...
A. 13 May 2010: Try to separate your emotions and tell her matter of factly what you know about Clay. Make her feel like she still has a choice to back off, and not because she has to do what you tell her to. Advise her not to let him film her, ever. People would ... (read in full...)
What should I do to get our sex life back on track?
Q. My boyfriend and I usually have a good sex life and If we fall into a routine will try new things (to an extent!)... But every few months he decides that I'm not putting enough effort into things (when I go on top) and he stops and lies there and ...
A. 12 May 2010: I am tensing up already when I read that he got angry and as a result you felt awkward. I understand a man wants a woman to take charge sometimes, but getting angry? He sounds like he has issues. Any sex act should feel natural and effortless to ... (read in full...)
He's acting hot and cold so what does this mean?
Q. So this boy sent this message to me after I wrote him a message saying that I can't deal with his hot n' cold behavior. We were already kind of separated because he did some dumb things. For example he gave me my first kiss and then ignored for a ...
A. 12 May 2010: His girlfriend is someone he has to fake a relationship to have sex with until he can't take the faking anymore. Sooner or later he would have to copy and paste that letter and send it to the girl, until he stops being so bitter about women and ... (read in full...)
Am I just easy to fool or could he really love me?
Q. hello, I am a 20 years old girl, I dated a guy four years ago, I really loved him we were crazy in love but I did something wrong and he broke up with me I felt horrible for a very long time, we met after and we went out many times the previous year ...
A. 12 May 2010: Don't have sex until you are sure about him. Has he forgiven you? Have you discussed about what went wrong and are you confident that the issues will be resolved? Does he trust that whatever happened would not happen again? Before you have that kind ... (read in full...)
After two years he says he still thinks of me -- what does this mean?
Q. It has been almost two years since my boyfriend and I broke up. I spoke with him last week in regards to business issues and he felt the need to tell me that he still thinks of me all of the time and he seemed concerned about how I was doing. What ...
A. 11 May 2010: If you are not going to talk to him again, just leave it at that and don't ask him questions. He stopped at "how are you doing I am doing fine." and didn't go on with "are you still single seeing anybody?" There's always a possibility to go back to ... (read in full...)
Love my boyfriend but no sex makes me want to move on
Q. my boyfriend and i are having problems i guess you could say. we have been together for a year and a half now. we only have sex about twice a month. his first excuse was that he never wanted to cause im too pushy about it but now he says he has a ...
A. 11 May 2010: Don't give up just yet. He's probably having erectile dysfunction. Does he need a diet change? Try adding more zinc and selenium in his diet. Is he afraid of going to the doctor? What is he waiting for? He's only 37. How long can he go on living ... (read in full...)
How can I rid these jealous thoughts?
Q. My girl friend hasnt showed me any signs of being unfaithful but i cant get the thought out of my head that she might cheat. i have gotten pissed before when she talked to her guy friends at the beginning of our relationship which was almost seven ...
A. 11 May 2010: You have to understand that in healthy relationships few have the desire to cheat. If she cheats on you, it's a problem of her personal integrity. You are still worthy of love and attractive to many women. She hasn't shown any signs of being ... (read in full...)
Too young for this love?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 8 months now, and says he wants to give me a ring, engagement ring to be exact. I was thrilled when he said this, but as i laid in bed i thought. Im 17,almost 18, this is my first serious relationship. ...
A. 11 May 2010: No, it's not. You are very lucky to have a great boyfriend for your first. Many people stumble upon several partners before they find the one. You will have your doubts, but just try to make the best out of the relationship. If it doesn't work out, ... (read in full...)
How do I win my ex back... I broke up with him!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend and want to get back with him! This is a story of why I broke up with him but now that issue is out of the way for good I want to take it slow with him this time as we were great together. SORRY it's long but any ...
A. 11 May 2010: Enjoy your peace. Your ex is the one who has to win you back. He has to proove to you that he is no longer smoking weed and would be quieter at night. It's hard now you are so used to having someone to argue with and now you are alone. There is a ... (read in full...)
He cares only for his family...not me! What should I do?
Q. please help me . we are going to divorce. i met my husbad 2 years ago.i am in usa 3 years ago my husband is here almost 12 years.we are from middle east.first time when we met his parents was living with him . he told me afther our engagement his ...
A. 10 May 2010: What he does to his family is his business. I don't think you can change that. I don't think he wants to divorce you yet unless he signed a prenup with you he has one more person to support. I encourage you to move to your parent's place and learn ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to figure out my ex boyfriends thoughts. Any suggestions?
Q. Ok, i need some help here. Im trying to understand my ex's thoughts. We just recently started talking again after being broken up for about 6-7 months. He got a girlfriend right away and him and i haven't talked since. But we just recently started...
A. 10 May 2010: He would admit he's in a rebound relationship only if you too are in a rebound relationship so there's hope between you two. If you are your new boyfriend are going well, your ex would try to forget you and make his new relationship work. The ... (read in full...)
Is he blowing me off and am I misreading his friendliness with something else?
Q. I have been working with a guy at an office for almost a year. He is 21 and I'm 19 and we get along really well. We're both extremely sarcastic and we pass the day just teasing and joking with one another. I have been crushing on him for a while ...
A. 8 May 2010: He likes you a lot. It's unlikely he'll find another excuse not to meet up with you. It would be tempting to ask him how he feels but that would spoil the mystery. He also could be wondering if you see him as more than a friend. You were so close ... (read in full...)
He always comes back to me when other women hurt him!
Q. I met this guy over 5 years ago when he was one of my employees. We talked everyday but never anything that I thought might lead to a relationship then or later. He was married and I respected that. I never though of him as a partner at all. ...
A. 8 May 2010: You want to be his surrogate mother? That's the kind of love you are showing him. Not even friends are that forgiving. Men treat women like this because they are still children inside and can't think beyond themselves.... (read in full...)
Meeting online companion, AND his whole family?!
Q. I badly need advise before I materialize my plans. I met this guy exactly 5 months ago online as a way of coping up with a break-up. Anyway, he is younger than me by 7 years and at first we were just chatting out of boredom, I didn't even care...
A. 8 May 2010: He does seem unreal. How do you know he's telling the truth about his age. If he's 18 then it means he had his last relationship at 13 so he dated at the age of 12? What!
One good thing he did was helped you cope with your break up gave you dist... (read in full...)
No sex in my relationship, has my partner turned gay?
Q. Hello, Feeling slightly daft writing this question/situation, but I've been reading comments on various questions and there seem to be some really reasonable helpful people out there... so here goes. I'm in a relationship of about 9 years an...
A. 6 May 2010: There are three separate issues here. One is you had a kid and he's having trouble seeing you as a sexual figure anymore. Second is his sexuality. Third is his confidence level you have mentioned. Decide which one affects him the most. An open ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex ask all the questions and then act like he wasn't interested?
Q. I'm feel like I want to give up on men. I split up with my boyfriend in December. He was giving me mixed messages which made me feel confused. He had said at the beginning of November that he was greatly looking forward to us moving in together. ...
A. 6 May 2010: About your ex, he's in his 30s and still living with his parents and having problems with them? He needed you to be his savior but maybe he is not financially secure and didn't want to burden you.
For the new guy, he had a good time with you but ... (read in full...)
Attracted to a 40 year old man..do you think he feels the same?
Q. Okay there is this guy who is in his 40's that I really like. He is not married and never has been. I am attracted to him but I don't know if he likes me back. He came to my church one time and he kept staring at me and it looked like he was staring ...
A. 6 May 2010: He likes you in a sexual way. He doesn't care if he would be emotionally connected to you later. I don't know what you expect of him but you probably won't want to be come a sexual object. He's not Christian. He only comes to church to prey on young ... (read in full...)
Alone and depressed, cheated on my boyfriend and can't get over the guilt!
Q. I need your help, I cheated on my boyfriend and I can't get over the guilt. I love him soo much I just can't tell him anything because he will leave me forever. The guy I was with told me he will never say what happen to no one and he never did ...
A. 6 May 2010: Guilt is like the seat belt of the soul. How do you unload this toxic residue of your wrongdoing without telling and hurting your husband? You can try therapy. You can try meditating. Release your energy to the universe. Breathe in healing energy ... (read in full...)
Is my ex looking for reconciliation or am I just getting my hopes up?
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for 2 months now. She broke up with me 3 weeks ago she initiated contact and we talked back and forth through text for that entire week. She explained how she missed me incredibly and wanted to know if I've been ...
A. 6 May 2010: You'd been broken up for 2 months or 3 weeks? The information missing here is what made her break up with you. Until your issues are resolved and are confident that whatever happened would not happen again you should still remain friends. You can't ... (read in full...)
He got cold feet and broke up with me!
Q. Dear cupid, I am 24 and my ex-bf is 22. We dated for about 3 months and everything was going great, until one day he broke up with me. We didn't speak for about a month after we broke up and recently we talked as friends. He opened up and told me ...
A. 6 May 2010: After he told you this, and your response was . .. ?
He really doesn't need a month to think things through. He probably thought he screwed up but wouldn't fight for you because to do this is to admit that he'd been talking shit. Move on and find... (read in full...)
Best friend wants sexual help but I am in a relationship!
Q. Hello, I am in a steady relationship and very happy with my boyfriend. I have a male friend who is very close to me as in...we are open and we used to flirt a bit before I fell in love with my boyfriend. I am still in constant touch with this fri...
A. 5 May 2010: You don't need any explanation. Just refuse to talk about sex with him or he'll lose you as a friend. He has crossed the friend boundary into danger zone. Either he's testing you, trapping you, or jealous of your boyfriend. He has an intention of ... (read in full...)
Broke up for a year and now I'm pregnant, he wants me to have an abortion!
Q. Well last year the love of my life of 14 yrs left me and our son saying he"had to get himself together". Well it was a huge adjustment for me as well as our 10 year old son. He was always around, still active in my sons life. We remaine civil. I ...
A. 5 May 2010: I am usually pro choice only in the first trimester and in your case I would say keep your baby. If he made a mistake before and still did not use protection at the mature age of thirty something, he definitely has no say over what to do with your ... (read in full...)
I feel my paranoia is getting the better of me and it's ruining my relationship...
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for just over 9 months now and it' been absolutely brilliant with her. The thing is, I have trouble with paranoia. * I'll say now that this is a long distance relationship but she is coming to live with me ...
A. 5 May 2010: If the ultimatum alone can not keep your mouth shut, perhaps you should think whether you want to proceed with this relationship. If you cheats on you, you can kick her out. I mean what's the worst that could happen? Suicide? Killing the guy she's ... (read in full...)
He says its over but he's still in my bed!
Q. hiya going through a rough time with my bf been with him for 4yrs ive been chatting on line and hes seen my emails there wasent anything in it just boredom really he works away he says its over between us he still lving with me and out daughter hes ...
A. 5 May 2010: I feel the break down in the relationship is not solely caused by the online chatting and your online chatting is a result of not getting enough attention. Have you thought of the possibility of him having somebody on the side? He is not willing to ... (read in full...)
Good sex with unloving husband!
Q. I am in love with my boyfriend of a year. I have never felt like this about anyone else - not even close. However, i have been married for ten years and have two children. My boyfriend is married too. We knew each other for two years before we ...
A. 4 May 2010: You make yourself like sex with your husband because you feel sorry for him. Something that came up in my mind is the TV show Wife Swap but I'm not telling you to try that. Your children are probably too young to understand this but once they could, ... (read in full...)
When she says she loves me, does she mean it?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for a while now and I feel like I have been putting a lot of effort into this relationship and I feel like she doesn't put too much into our relationship. I give her a lot of attention, and yet I don't get a ...
A. 4 May 2010: This sounds one sided to me. Don't say I love yous anymore and test her tone of voice when she responds. Maybe your insecurity is turning her off. She's not that vocal when it comes to expressing herself. What she needs is space. Maybe she's a more ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend get my colleugue pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years cheated on me with one of my close co-workers at work, all three of us work together. And we have hung out together on the regular. But now the girl is pregant she's saying its 50-50. she not sure who the father is? I don't ...
A. 4 May 2010: I am sorry that happened to you. You should go whether he's the father or not. Go tell your coworker, "Don't worry, you can have him." The one good thing that came out of this is that you are not pregnant with that jerk. ... (read in full...)
| *anniepeg's friends
These are mutual friends, so *anniepeg has
added them and they have added *anniepeg!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
