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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Should I let him go back to his girlfriend or tell him to officially break up with her?
Q. I accidentally met a guy a year ago while coping up from a break-up. Neither has the intention to be anything to each other so we were very brutally honest about ourselves. I tell him my problems and my disinterest with meeting men, he tells me...
A. 19 July 2010: Just tell him if he really loves you then move out of his town, find a job here and then move in with you, NOW. Also say I want to get married next year and have 3 kids with you. Or else, just forget it. This is going to push him away.... (read in full...)
I asked my friend to have sex with me as a joke. Now what should I do if he calls me for it?
Q. I was discussing with a dear friend why his relationship is not going to the next level. He is not having sex with his girlfriend. we were sitting together and i asked him what would he do if i offer to sleep with him. He said, if u are serious ...
A. 18 July 2010: The answer you wanted was if there's sexual attraction, you got that. You don't know if there's an emotional connection. Like marriedlady said, you are going to want more than sex, and it's not a good idea to find out more about him by having sex ... (read in full...)
Can I just put it down to our relationship becoming stale...? Urgent help needed!
Q. I have seen and read many hints and tips regarding relationship issues but as we all know, all circumstances are different, this one is a real head f*ck. I've been with a girl for 4 years, I'm 12 years her senior at 38 and she is 26. She comes fr...
A. 18 July 2010: This has nothing to do with the relationship becoming stale. When two people are capable of loving, nothing goes stale. She has always been in self destructive mode and is looking for a savior. She is unhappy inside and although you prove yourself ... (read in full...)
Do I get back with a cheater? Can you help me get over her?
Q. I met my girlfriend in the summer of last year. and she had a thing for me for a really long time and i was always attracted to her. we started dating and everything was going well until halloween when something happened (its a long story but as a ...
A. 18 July 2010: No, I won't go back to her. She can get drunk and have Matt. Actually have you thought about what happened between February and July? How many guys had she been with? She only regrets it when none of the guys won't be her boyfriend. She only regrets ... (read in full...)
Why did she dump me on Facebook?
Q. Okay, okay. Seems that my 4 month rocky relationship ended. Although, how is a lil surprising, and schocking to me. First of all, I am not a fan of texting, and that was our means of communicating. facebook, is also a detriment to the relationship. ...
A. 18 July 2010: I think she already told you reasons why she's not interested, besides the distance. What you are having here is a facebook relationship and not a real one. She's still a stranger to you and yet you are willing to move closer to her. In the last ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go back to his girlfriend or tell him to officially break up with her?
Q. I accidentally met a guy a year ago while coping up from a break-up. Neither has the intention to be anything to each other so we were very brutally honest about ourselves. I tell him my problems and my disinterest with meeting men, he tells me...
A. 17 July 2010: He had always been trying to get in your pants but nothing worked until he told you he had a girlfriend, then you fell into this trap of trying to compete for him. Whether the pictures really tell you that the girlfriend is real or not, you are ... (read in full...)
My boss is married and we had a short affair.. I'm confused and just want closure.
Q. Hi, I'm a single mom 3 years ago. After what happen to me to the father of my baby it happen second time around but this time i was falling inlove with a married man and they dont have child since his wife cant give him a child that he want. At ...
A. 17 July 2010: If you want to move on you have to accept that you fell in love with the wrong person at the wrong time. It's true that he probably loved you somehow, but nothing is going to come out of it. Him flirting with other women is already closure for you. ... (read in full...)
I love my best friend, but my dad has married his mom! What should I do?
Q. Hey, im fifteen and my dad got married to on of my best friends mom.I used to date him when i was younger and we lost our connection.His mom and siblings moved in for a year but moved out because things werent working.My dad and her are still ...
A. 17 July 2010: I don't doubt your love is real, but love feels different and mean different things when you are 20, 25, 35, or 55. If you are worried about the legal stuff, the law only cares about blood relatives. You may not live with this family forever. You ... (read in full...)
I felt unimportant to him and he hurt me so much. I don't understand why he even called me in the first place
Q. So, I'll try to summarize this as best I can. I dated a guy in my hometown for a few months, then moved to Vegas, he would then fly back and fourth to see me for aprox. 2 years. It was never a consistent relationship. However, we were like best ...
A. 17 July 2010: It's a power struggle. You are thinking, if he helps me move, takes care of my living situation, then I feel loved and might want to have sex with him. He's thinking, if she has sex with me, talks to him gently, then he would feel like helping you. ... (read in full...)
He dumped me because I'm not "sociable" enough. How can I just get over him?
Q. So, I was recently dumped by my boyfriend. This hurt very badly, I still care about him so much, and I hate to admit it, but I think if we started talking again I might just fall all over again. The thing that bothers me the most is why he broke up...
A. 17 July 2010: This relationship is a lie. People say all the time they don't want a relationship but yet they go into it. They go into it just so they can say they don't want a relationship. I bet he didn't tell you this before you entered into this relationship. ... (read in full...)
She says we'll never go out again, so why is she sending me these messages?
Q. (MOD NOTE: Two questions have been posted as one) 1-Okay everybody I have a real problem. There's this girl that says well never go out again and I told her that its too hard to just be friends with someone I was in love with. She tells me the next...
A. 17 July 2010: I will just ignore it. When a girl says she doesn't even want to be your friend, it's time to move onto the next one. She's sending you messages because she needs to feel good someone's still in love with her. ... (read in full...)
I asked my friend to have sex with me as a joke. Now what should I do if he calls me for it?
Q. I was discussing with a dear friend why his relationship is not going to the next level. He is not having sex with his girlfriend. we were sitting together and i asked him what would he do if i offer to sleep with him. He said, if u are serious ...
A. 17 July 2010: The only thing I can think about them not having sex is his girlfriend is not ready and wants to wait. She's smart, she knows something is up with him and would not give herself too easily. If he can say yes to you while still being attached, he's ... (read in full...)
Is what he did acceptable? Am I just being immature? I feel so sad and annoyed
Q. on friday night my boyfriend and i hung out and had dinner. he told me on thursday that he might be going out but wasnt sure yet. when he picked me up on friday he was very indecisive the whole night, and kept asking me 'should i go out?' he asked...
A. 17 July 2010: He's watching his budget with you. The party late at night is more a priority but he still feels responsible for you. I never went through that party stage because I can't drink. I hate the noise and being around strangers. People always say have ... (read in full...)
Married man is playing games with me and my friend, I'm lost. Please help!
Q. Hi to you all, I hope you can help!! I am having a lot of attention from a married guy and it has been going on for a long time. we get along so well that I have become very attracted to him , to the point where I think of him more than I shou...
A. 17 July 2010: He really doesn't deserve your attention. I think you fell for it because there is competition and you hang in there because you don't want to lose. It's hard to accept that he's using both of you for an ego stroke, and he doesn't care for either of ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to have sex again, it's been so long. What should I do?
Q. Well i haven't had sex but once and that was when i lost my virginity...it wasn't what i expected so that's why i refrained from having sex for a year but now im in a relationship with a guy who i truly love and i really would like to get intimate ...
A. 17 July 2010: Make it fun and light hearted. Sex doesn't always have to be about big serious changes, a rite into womanhood, loss of innocence, etc. It can also be flirty and playful. It shouldn't be something planned. Focus on the sensual. Replace thinking, ... (read in full...)
Will a threesome ease my retroactive jealousy?
Q. Ok where to begin! I was in a relationship of 8 years and that ended 1year ago, for the past 5 months I've been dating and living with a woman who 24 years old! She has 2 children and I love her and them! The problem is she has done soooo much ...
A. 16 July 2010: You have to determine what kind of relationship you are having with the 24 year old. It seems like it's serious. She has explored enough and she's content to live life with you. She was sexually free, she wasn't trapped by that "if I sleep with 2 ... (read in full...)
Has she lost interest in me?
Q. i need help cause my head is bugging right now. to start off. i met this girl at my friends birthday. we knew each other at that moment. we connected a lot. after that event i got her number from my friend. we started texting the next day ( texting ...
A. 16 July 2010: You can just ask her how her studies went. Keep the conversation light. If she still sounds sweet, suggest a place you can go to and ask her when she is available. It's time to call, not text. Texting is way too casual. Don't make the 3 day silence ... (read in full...)
Now that my husband's finally out of jail, he's distant and mean!
Q. I have been married 6 years, as of tomarrow. My husband and I have a beautiful 4yo daughter together. This is both mine and my husband's first marriage and only child. In order to get the best advice from anyone, one has to know the whole story. ...
A. 16 July 2010: Can you find a lawyer to proof he didn't commit a crime so you can sue and get a settlement? You can't reason with your husband now. The best you can do is to separate for a while, to get out of that walking on egg shells feeling. He might need ... (read in full...)
Unhappy wife, lonely wife
Q. I have been married for 6 years. My husband goes out every night. He takes care of home and me, and believes that this is his sole responsibility as a husband and what is most important. I work and have recently started my own party planning ...
A. 15 July 2010: Oh, now I understand more. He can't pay for gas and other utility bills but he can pay for a hooker?
Your title should sound more like happy, estranged wife in a relationship.... (read in full...)
Because of his ex, he mistrusts me and brings those issues to our relationship, how do we solve this??
Q. I am madly in love with my boyfriend, but we recently had a terrible disagreement. You see him and I have been seeing one another for going on 2 years. We have never had a verbal fight, neither he nor I have raised our voices nor cursed at one ...
A. 14 July 2010: Honestly if I were you I would not move out. I would just stay there and tell him to shut up and go to his room. Moving out only makes him think you are at least a teeny bit guilty.
This is his issue and only he himself is responsible for rele... (read in full...)
Unhappy wife, lonely wife
Q. I have been married for 6 years. My husband goes out every night. He takes care of home and me, and believes that this is his sole responsibility as a husband and what is most important. I work and have recently started my own party planning ...
A. 14 July 2010: I would leave once the party business is up and running smoothly. What he said to you was like he's rejecting you as a woman. I wouldn't give up on the idea of having children. Halle Berry has diabetes and she didn't wait to have a perfect husband ... (read in full...)
Am I doing MYSELF a disservice being with a wonderful man, who I love and who loves me but has no apparent time for me?
Q. Ok, here's the deal. My boyfriend and I have been together for several months now. We just got over a fight which kept us apart for about 2 weeks, but we seem to slowly be returning back to normal. The problem is, that back to normal still isn...
A. 14 July 2010: My boyfriend and I live 1km apart and we saw each other once a week when we hit the 6 month mark. Then things happend to him, like a family death, and he became somewhat unavailable. I complained to him, got emotional so he didn't want to see me ... (read in full...)
How do I let him down without hurting his feelings?
Q. I spend a lot of time giving advice on here but am yet to take some myself. I thought it was about time that i got things of my chest...any advice on this dilema would be much appreciated! About 5 or 6 months ago i stopped seeing somebody who had...
A. 14 July 2010: There was a time when I wasn't over my ex and I was attracted to other guys. If he doesn't do a thing for you, he probably won't. Of course you can try it out with him. It takes two to make a decision. He knows you are not over his ex if he doesn't ... (read in full...)
I know that he loves me, but he doesn't spend time with my girls
Q. I am a 35 year old single mom with 2 girls. I have been dating a man that is 11 years younger than me for about 2 years now. I know that he loves me, but he doesn't spend time with my girls or come to any of my family gatherings. I get along great ...
A. 13 July 2010: It's possible he's the youngest in the family and has no younger cousins and this may be the first time he's dealing with young kids. He may feel a pressured to act older than he is in front of your family. It's also harder to relate to girls who ... (read in full...)
I want to work in porn but am worried about my boyfriend, its not fair!
Q. I need help!?! With all the pressure from everyone asking what am I going to do with my life after I graduate high school I had no idea and I talked to my bf about working in porn because it seemed like something I would enjoy and get paid well for. ...
A. 13 July 2010: There are two guys saying yeah go for it. You think really, they really want you to do it? I don't think you are reading your bf correctly. You sound more like you are joking with him. This is not something to talk about to your boyfriend and a ... (read in full...)
I really want revenge on this shameless, unthankful liar...help?
Q. I was unhappily married for 13 years.I still respect my wife but love was just not there anymore.We have together three beautiful kids.I was more and more sad by time and didn't know what to do.Then two years ago I meet new love of my life.I am 35 ...
A. 13 July 2010: You don't need revenge. The life she's living will lead her to a train wreck one day when you see in the newspaper that someone raped her and dumped her in the woods. Then you'll feel bad about your ill will. How about some compassion? Also you ... (read in full...)
How can I sort this out? Or rather can I sort this out?
Q. Hey... hope it's okay to post this here. I am in a horrible situation with the guy I am dating and I just wanted to hear what you guys thought of it. It's making me so sad and I just want to sort it out, but I don't know how. I met J about a mo...
A. 13 July 2010: He said you are the most amazing person he'd met? I don't know the deal here. You are text buddies reading too much into the messages. I don't know how text messages can be useful, except for "what's this friend's phone number, where is the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had an encounter with my friend before she met me and I cant seem to get over it!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months now and things are going amazingly way. I met her at college so we are currently doing the long distance thing until we go back to school in the Fall. The whole experience has made us a lot ...
A. 12 July 2010: I don't want to go over the issue of trust and whether it's right or wrong for you to linger over this. Is it too late to change suites? The suite mate is not your friend, she feels nothing for him, why not make your semester more pleasant by moving ... (read in full...)
I really like his friendship but not attracted to him sexually, what should I do?
Q. I've been going out with a guy for over a year, and we get along pretty good, and have a lot of the same interests. However, I have never been sexually attracted to him. I was at first, until I realized the sex was not very good at all. The ...
A. 12 July 2010: The dating world can be a little cruel. We are responsible for presenting our best at all times. Do what you need to do. Tell him the chemistry isn't right between you two or hook him up with another girl. Honestly I wouldn't wait a year to tell ... (read in full...)
How do I let him down without hurting his feelings?
Q. I spend a lot of time giving advice on here but am yet to take some myself. I thought it was about time that i got things of my chest...any advice on this dilema would be much appreciated! About 5 or 6 months ago i stopped seeing somebody who had...
A. 12 July 2010: Even when you get over your ex the spark won't be there. You have to find your own way to let him down. Some guys want to hear the truth, some rather not, some want reassurance that they are still attractive even if you rejected them. As soon as you ... (read in full...)
Diagnosed as bi-polar following an abusive relationship
Q. I was in an abusive relationship for two years, and shortly after I was diagnosed as being bipolar.....a result of severe emotional trauma by my ex. my question is, how do I tell the man I love about this, without judgement?? I'm scared to get close ...
A. 12 July 2010: This diagnosis does not have to be a life long one. Google up people who cured themslves with seafood diet, native and spiritual healing. I am not a doctor, I can't tell you to go off the medication. Only you can do so at your own discernment. ... (read in full...)
Do you think there's anyway we could possibly salvage this marriage?
Q. I've been marrie 5 years. My husband has progressively become obese and a lousy lover. I have always been the initiator and in the last year we've had sex about 6 times. He has his orgasm but doesn't give me a chance to nor does he seem to care if I ...
A. 12 July 2010: Is he willing to do a gastric bypass surgery? If intercourse couldn't give you orgasms, can he at least finger you? ... (read in full...)
What can you do when someone changes?
Q. I was engaged to the woman of my dreams. Suddenly she was no longer the person I was in love with. Emotionally unavailable, distant, rarely affectionate. No will to seek out employment, no will to play music. She suddenly is no longe...
A. 11 July 2010: I am reading in between the lines here am I think she has a quarter life crisis, or an identity crisis. This is not the ups and downs in relationships you think it is. It has to do with her life's purpose, her motivation. Tell her you will be ... (read in full...)
Husband in Love with me and his old girlfriend, help
Q. My husband and I have been married 4 years separate for 3 years on and off. After all this time we have finally decided to give it a try again living under the same roof he moved back in to the home. I had kicked him out 3 years ago because he was ...
A. 11 July 2010: He's not confused. His actions are telling you that you get the title of wife, but you are only worth 30% of his attention while the far away, perfect, elusive woman gets the other 70%. Your role to him is to enable him to attain the unavailable ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend take pictures with other women and hides them from me?
Q. I just moved in permanetly with my fiance and one day my fiance was showing me some photos he had in his phone, but wouldnt let me hold his phone, so i insisted and basically fought him for it n took his phone away from him and discovered that he ...
A. 11 July 2010: Your weight doesn't excuse him doing all this. Is not normal or abnormal, more amoral I should say. He's an idiot. I hope you don't marry him. And there is nobody telling you you must live with him permanently.... (read in full...)
I'm living with my husband for the sake of our children, what should I do?
Q. Im married for 15 years but just cudnt connect with my husband emotinaly...thot of breaking my marriage many a times but tried my best to change as per his requirments.....over the perid i felt i more like a door mat for him and to his entire family ...
A. 11 July 2010: When you married him the vows you exchanged were that through sickness and strength you'll love him. He's the most important person in your life. Listen to his side of the story. When you said you being treated like a doormat I think of a man ... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend always ask me to stop?
Q. when me and my girlfriend are fooling every time i can get her to the point where she wants to cry from pleasure. she tenses up very tightly and begs me to stop and makes me stop and i do. she says that she cant go any farther and when i ask why she ...
A. 11 July 2010: Does fooling around mean fingering or actual sex? I push my boyfriend's hand away when he touches my clit too much it becomes raw. I wanted him to touch other areas too, like my labia and the opening. I have never asked him to stop when he's inside ... (read in full...)
Do guys ever put women in "the friend zone"?
Q. I'm concerned I've been putting in some male form of the friend zone but don't know. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years. We talk everyday on the phone, he has told me very personal things he doesn't tell anyone else, he has rearrange...
A. 11 July 2010: I am happy about how things turned out. God definitely paired you up and although you weren't ready for it at first, you both had faith in it and overcame the fear and the obstacles thrown on the path. Most of the people here forgot you were sick, ... (read in full...)
Do guys ever put women in "the friend zone"?
Q. I'm concerned I've been putting in some male form of the friend zone but don't know. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years. We talk everyday on the phone, he has told me very personal things he doesn't tell anyone else, he has rearrange...
A. 10 July 2010: It's possible the first time he's figuring if you had sexual needs and then you told him you weren't ready, he's breathing a sigh of relief. Then you are slowly getting better and is expressing your needs will be coming back and now he's like uh oh, ... (read in full...)
Do guys ever put women in "the friend zone"?
Q. I'm concerned I've been putting in some male form of the friend zone but don't know. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years. We talk everyday on the phone, he has told me very personal things he doesn't tell anyone else, he has rearrange...
A. 10 July 2010: You are working on a theory but this theory does not apply to him. He can't see anything beyond friendship with women because he maybe too damaged to love. Mothers are our first relationship to a woman figure and his trust had been broken. He does ... (read in full...)
God brought us together and the Devil ripped us apart! Any guidance?
Q. I was with my wife for the better part of 5 years and we had 2 daughters together but our relationship was always up and down. Typical battles of life and a relationship I suppose and at the time I was having difficulties keeping everything we had ...
A. 10 July 2010: Before you think about whether to break up or get back together, call the police and send that guy to jail before he kills her and the baby! Take pictures of the bruises. Have a restraining order against him. It's not your child but it's still an ... (read in full...)
Do guys ever put women in "the friend zone"?
Q. I'm concerned I've been putting in some male form of the friend zone but don't know. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years. We talk everyday on the phone, he has told me very personal things he doesn't tell anyone else, he has rearrange...
A. 10 July 2010: Two years and nothing happened. All you need to know is that he's not available in the physical department. Stop giving yourself a headache and just conclude that maybe he doesn't have a penis. He already told you he couldn't give you the happiness ... (read in full...)
How to stop my man from flirting?
Q. Hi peeps hope all is well... My question is! How do I get my man to stop flirting with other girls literally infront of me??!! I absolutely hate it, I dont have a clue what the hell to do!! We've only been going out just over a month.. He's the...
A. 10 July 2010: You have only been going out for a month and you already found something you don't like. If you have to talk to him about this as if he doesn't know flirting is wrong, he's not worth it. There is no pressure to continue with him. Just tell him that ... (read in full...)
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