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writes:Well me and my bf just broke up about a month ago and he is 18 im 15, and now im pregnant. i just told him like 2 weeks ago, and he says he doesnt want anything to do with it. I havent told my parents yet, he wont help, and on top of that he was a major druggy and still is. i dont have a job nor money,and im on my own. All he says is he doesnt care. ive tried bringing up how he knows what its like living with out him mom, and asking him how he thinks the baby is gonna feel without a dad but he says idc. He wont talk to me in person only in text. I go to school with him, and when i pass him in the hallway he calls me a whore. idk what to do i'm scared to death. I wanna tell my parents but because i still like him i dont want him to go to jail, for him being 18 and not supporting me or the baby. PLZ help!!!!! i need advice ASAP
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 You know Mum's have an amazing way of pulling out all the stops when their child comes to them for help. It will be scary telling your Mum and she will be disappointed but I bet she will be there for you and help you through this scary path in life. Mothers are like tigresses they fight tooth and nail for their offspring.
Please please forget about this man he is not worthy of your love. He can't even look after himself properly he is not a good role model for your baby or any kind of support for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): I'm sorry you're to be a single mom, but really is this a bad thing? do you really want a druggie around your your baby? count your blessings and keep it moving.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 You are the most important person to the baby. Many kids go through life fine without a dad. Some are even happier kids than kids in an intact family. It all depends on your attitude in life and what you choose to do. If all you do is sulk and grieve over your loss of the baby's daddy of course the child would be affected by the unhappy atmosphere. You are forced to grow up and think about childcare, finishing school, and getting a part time job once the baby is old enough to enter day care. My guess is that you guys broke up because you didn't want an abortion, but he is still financially responsible, and when you make him responsible (by bringing him to court) you are going to let people know that he is breaking the law and he will be in jail. If he still doesn't care about child support he would stay even longer in jail. Your parents would only help you if you can agree that he should be in jail. You know you are going to tell your parents. Your body can't lie after 5 months. Make these few months easier. Shock your parents, then think about the solutions.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 May 2010):
 This guy sounds like a real winner. Why on god's green earth did you sleep with him?! Drugs, way older, and abusive. If he's into drugs and getting girls pregnant, he deserves to pay the consequences of these actions.
As for you, you're pregnant. What are you going to do? Abortion? Adoption? Your parents will have to help you make those decisions. And as far as this loser boyfriend is concerned, you need to start getting angry at him. He just ruined your life, called YOU a whore, and doesn't care about you. Why would you like a guy like that? I don't know about you, but I'd rather jump into a pile of razorblades than like a guy like that!
Your big issue is your baby's future, not this loser guy. Go talk to your parents who really DO love you, and not this pathetic loser boy who doesn't. He needs to be accountable for HIS son or daughter on the way.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Tell a school councellor. You are underage and he will get in serious trouble, and you will get the help you need. Talk to an adult now!
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