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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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After eight years he says we're just close friends
Q. Please advise me what to do! No matter what I do, my boyfriend seems to think we're just very close friends. But that is not how it appears to me or to other people! We've been seeing each other since 2002, and he practically lives at my apartmen...
A. 30 June 2010: The only mental block I could think of is that his technique isn't perfect, his mistress hurt his ego, and he's shut down for sex forever. He came back to you fully knowing that you'll take him back as a sexually crippled man. He lost his dream ... (read in full...)
Falling for a friend who is pushing me to be friends-with-benefits
Q. I'm in love with some one. They are someone who has been a very good friend for a while. I know that he doesn't feel the same way. But the problem is I need to adjust our friendship without ruining it by letting him know how strongly I feel. I ...
A. 30 June 2010: Just say you don't agree with this FWB thing. You make it sound like falling in love is a weak thing and your attitude is already apologetic. In fact he's the weak one because he doesn't have what it takes to fully give to a woman. Always remember ... (read in full...)
He says he still loves me but I feel so dirty...
Q. This guy and I are in love. Were in that stage where were "ingaged to be ingaged". He's honest with me about his past and how he was troubled and had problems with the law and things like that. He wouldn't go into detail but he has explained some ...
A. 28 June 2010: The deal of being honest is not about revealing weaknesses and confessing sins. It's about having an internal preparation of who you are going to be with for the rest of your lives. Did his breaking of the law affect how you think about him? Did ... (read in full...)
When should I take these pregnancy tests?
Q. ok so me and my boyfriend had sex and right after he came he was pulling out and the condom was still inside me. i freaked out and pulled it out. i was so freaked out so i took a bath and cleaned my self out. im so freaking scared. i don't have to ...
A. 28 June 2010: You can go to planned parenthood and get a plan B. It stops pregnancy from happening. Looks like a condom is not safe enough. You may want to get on birth control. From what I heard you don't need a parental consent to get one. There are places you ... (read in full...)
How do you organise a threesome?
Q. Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well, Thank you for taking the time to read this. I was wondering if anyone could give me advice for threesomes. I know it's a huge step and all. But my partner and I feel 100% comfortable and talked everythi...
A. 27 June 2010: You can also run into more decent, wealthy people if you go to a nude beach with a spa and a tantra/yoga theme in it. People are very open minded, cultured and they do it like it's not big deal. ... (read in full...)
How do you organise a threesome?
Q. Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing well, Thank you for taking the time to read this. I was wondering if anyone could give me advice for threesomes. I know it's a huge step and all. But my partner and I feel 100% comfortable and talked everythi...
A. 27 June 2010: Craigslist.org
Be careful though if these people are willing to do anything, consider what kind of people they are and always use protection and do a health check. My experience is that I had encountered virgins, goth weirdos, sexually impo... (read in full...)
I've done so much for him, why is he suddenly being so rude?
Q. i really like this guy i work with. ill admit i like him more than friends but ive done a hell of a lot for him since he started-supported him through his probation at work, brought him stuff to cheer him up and been a rock to him through his spilt ...
A. 27 June 2010: He's still bitter about his last relationship and he doesn't have the awareness to express that he's not ready for a new relationship. He's thinking: all women are the same, they cause trouble, they are heart breaking, so why be dumb and get ... (read in full...)
Torn between my girlfriend and another girl!
Q. 3 weeks ago I got with this great girl, shes my age (14), beautiful, smart and everyone likes her. I love her but I don't feel any connection with her, I think its just something i'm going through but i find myself looking,dreaming and even liking ...
A. 27 June 2010: The two girls are not for you. You never got serious with your best female friend because somehow something is missing and it didn't work out. You and your girlfriend progressed into a relationship then found out the chemistry was not as great as ... (read in full...)
Is 12 years too much?
Q. Hey, I'm 22 and worrying about the age gap between my boyfriend and I. He's twelve years older than me and we've been friends since I was nineteen - I met him at 'work' if you can call it that (I play pro sport) - and we've been together for a year ...
A. 27 June 2010: Have your boyfriend treat your mom to dinner. My boyfriend is also 12 years older than I am. He's also very kind and laid back. He saw my mom the first time when he took us out to have Vietnamese food. They liked each other right away. I don't know ... (read in full...)
I feel like my relationship is at breaking point, what can I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over two years, during the last few months our relationship has become - to my mind - quite strained. Our sex life is actually non existent, we had sex about a week before our second aniversery, prior ...
A. 26 June 2010: Something is upsetting her and there is a shut down in communication. What happened after the second anniversary that made her fall out of love? "Don't I trust her?" Nice try. Unless there is no heavy smooching, genital contact, they are just having ... (read in full...)
He left his girlfriend for me, but hasn't spoken to me in weeks, whats going on??
Q. ok here goes, its a long story but worth a shot! ... ive been seein this guy for about 4 months now, when we first started seein each other everything was amazing, kisses, cuddles, laying on the beach of an evening watching the stars etc, but t...
A. 26 June 2010: He's a committment phobe. You were a distraction from all his worries about settling down and a lifetime of chores, kids crying and running around, and a boring love life. At least this is what he thinks. He's excited about the prospect of another ... (read in full...)
Why does he spend more time with his friends than me, and how can I get him to stop?
Q. So, I'm dating this guy. He's really amazing. We always have a good time when we hang out together and he seems like he's really into me... but there's a problem. He always spends way more time with his friends, than he does with me. I have talkes a...
A. 26 June 2010: You can't make him stop seeing his friends. You can cherish the little time with him. During that time no making each other feel bad, no demanding for more time. You can ask him is his life better with you in it. He doesn't think there is a problem ... (read in full...)
I want to stop having sex with everyone I meet!
Q. I don't know what kind of girl I am anymore. its like every guy I meet wants to sleep with me, and I dnt know how to say No. I feel like such a hoe because I'm 19 with 8 sex partners and only been sexually active for 3 years. I want to stop having ...
A. 26 June 2010: It's not the sex that screwing things up but out of the 8 men you didn't even have one decent relationship with? You don't have to start a conversation with a man with "do you want a relationship or you just want sex?" but through common small ... (read in full...)
Help! She's slept with more people than me!
Q. I am 31 years old and have been dating a 29 year old girl for about 2 months. We get on really well and have become quite serious and have discussed marriage etc. I formed the impression she has had quite a few sexual partners (we also slept t...
A. 26 June 2010: I am also 29 and I believe I am westernized. We live in a liberated world but sometimes cannot help but think that sex has become cheapened and too casual. You have only been dating for 2 months. This has moved too quickly. You are worried that ... (read in full...)
I think the kiss ruined our friendship!
Q. i was leaving for the day, when my guy friend says "hey, where's my g'bye kiss?" i smile, i kiss his cheek, then he offers the other cheek, then we kinda grin, and before i know it, i kiss his lips, really hard, because i don't know why!!! i just ...
A. 26 June 2010: You kissed him because you could. You took advantage of that critical moment. There is no need to apologize. A real friendship would not let this ruin it. This will teach guys who flirt a lot not to play with fire too much. Sometimes they can be ... (read in full...)
My ex is playing games, I'm so confused!
Q. Here it is..! I broke-up with my x for cheating on me. How I found out isn't important except to say that I noticed a lot of changes and little lies. This happened 1yrs ago.. We wanted to have a break first..then get back together cause t...
A. 26 June 2010: Now I don't see him as a bad person. You already showed him you are still in love with him but have the fear that love is not enough to keep this thing going. He had hoped that you forget about him and move on. Your reason was he wanted to hurt you ... (read in full...)
Can I forgive and Forget
Q. Dear Cupid Family, I have a situation that I really need some comforting words and advice on. I will try and be concise. Please be patient with me. I dated a guy in 2008, we had a very bad ending which resulted in him seeking revenge by assistin...
A. 25 June 2010: Hey wait a minute! Is somebody going to tap into this and read this too? I struggle to believe what you are going through. A lay person like me has no advice because I can hardly relate to the dark, toxic environment you are in and the only thing I ... (read in full...)
She's a virgin. Will she get used to foreplay over time?
Q. Okay I have a few questions, I dated a girl not to long back that I lost my virginity to, she was a whore so I never really liked sleeping with her, but because of that fast, I got really good at using my fingers on her and bringing her to a gushing ...
A. 24 June 2010: Every woman is different. Some get more sensitive over time, some get desensitized. Your finger skills could be good with one woman and be too much for another. Her giggling is her unique way of expression. It may not be pleasant for you but it's ... (read in full...)
My girl likes them more than she likes me!
Q. I believe a topic like this was opened except my girlfriend has been "best" friends with these 2 guys her "whole" life...We've been dating for several months now, but I really feel like a second-class person whenever they talk on facebook about good ...
A. 24 June 2010: Why look at her facebook so much when you can see her more often? I am guessing that when they say they are above you, they are telling her something like "why are you dating this guy?" Also consider what kinds of things she's telling them about ... (read in full...)
A major decision to make...move on or get married
Q. I am in a major crisis. I am 31 yrs old about to be 32. I have always had trouble making decisions in my life and I have struggled with this and know I have to work on it. My crisis now is regarding my relationship. In a nutshell, I have been ...
A. 24 June 2010: I would like to go back to the sentence "he treated me horribly", that just killed everything in my imagination, whatever that meant. You are not old at all. He's the one making you old. You have not been happy in the US. There is nothing like home. ... (read in full...)
My question is how do I tell my dad that I used to do this without him overreacting?
Q. How do i tell my dad that i used to cut myself? Ok i know that its bad and that i shouldnt etc, and i havent for about 4months now. Its been extremely hard as it was at the stage where i was pretty much addicted to cutting myself. I still struggle ...
A. 24 June 2010: I suggest you go to counselling now. There are many creative things you can do to cope with the hurt in the past. Telling your dad self-mutilation had been a long time habit is not going to make him feel better. Have you been wearing long sleeves ... (read in full...)
My ex is playing games, I'm so confused!
Q. Here it is..! I broke-up with my x for cheating on me. How I found out isn't important except to say that I noticed a lot of changes and little lies. This happened 1yrs ago.. We wanted to have a break first..then get back together cause t...
A. 23 June 2010: So he had been with two women already and you think marriage is going to solve that problem? And hooking up with two women is the result of you postponing the wedding? You are doing too much for the relationship and getting nothing back. He must ... (read in full...)
Stuck between two guys! Which one should I choose?
Q. Okay, Basically I'm kinda stuck between two people. So theres this guy who I'm attracted to, and he is gorgeous but I don't know him that well, only had a few conversations but he seems really nice and we get on. and theres this other guy Ive ...
A. 23 June 2010: That's easy. Pick the guy you just met and say bye to the one who's moving away at the end of the summer. If you had to choose, that means neither one of that had claimed you as the love of their life. If you are not going to terribly miss the guy ... (read in full...)
How do I prove my innocence?
Q. How can i prove that i am 100% innocent and am telling the truth to my boyfriend? I stupidly lied to my boyfriend of almost 3 years in a panic because i thought that he would think there was something going on between someone else when there wasn't. ...
A. 23 June 2010: This is not a big issue as much as your boyfriend makes it to be. There is nothing to be mad about, and there is nothing to prove. Just think about the future, anytime you have contact with a guy, work with a guy, you would be questioned 100 times a ... (read in full...)
My ex is playing games, I'm so confused!
Q. Here it is..! I broke-up with my x for cheating on me. How I found out isn't important except to say that I noticed a lot of changes and little lies. This happened 1yrs ago.. We wanted to have a break first..then get back together cause t...
A. 23 June 2010: You said you want him back. That's actually easy but the truth is that you don't want him back also. Don't let your emotions rule your decision. You had been separated for 4.5 months. That should be enough time to not let him affect you. You deserve ... (read in full...)
Should I just forget about him over the summer?
Q. Hi everyone, alright so I've liked this guy for two years already, and I'm in high school... last year he was in one of my classes second semester. He used to walk me out of class, and always turn around and say my name and smile at me (etc.) So, I ...
A. 22 June 2010: You are wasting a lot of time wondering if he likes you or not. Reading your post made me hate school (that was more than 10 years ago). Once you get out of school, you'll notice how easy it is to get into a relationship and that you can still pick ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to make this relationship great when I can hardly ever see her?
Q. My relationship with my girlfriend has been going downhill lately. In this relationship im a jealous guy and thats new to me. I would never have figured myself to be a jealous guy. My first big problem is when I noticed my girlfriend take an ...
A. 22 June 2010: She lost interest in you. Things went wrong and instead of communicating about issues and conflict, she chose an easy exit by taking an interest in Dan. I think she and her friends were teaming up to let you know that you and her are pretty much ... (read in full...)
My daughter's biological father is a bad influence, do I have a right to keep him from seeing her?
Q. I'm probably in the the wrong place, i need legal advice really... but i stumbled across this site and everyone seems so helpfull, i guess i just need to know if i'm doing the right thing or not?? I'm 22 and when i was 17 i stupidly got dru...
A. 20 June 2010: He should come to see her. You don't have to be afraid of him. If he wants to see her so bad he would. Get a job, get a car. Tell Dave he has bad energy and if he wants Isabella to be happy with him, he got to change his lifestyle and be a good, ... (read in full...)
I feel like I can't make him happy!
Q. I am fifteen years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. He is my first boyfriend and I love him very much. Some days he will be happy and talkative but on other days he gets in bad moods and seems really depressed. I understand people ...
A. 20 June 2010: It's good to be sensitive to his feelings, but it's not your responsibility to make him happy. You didn't do anything wrong. Tell him you have faith he'll get better and that you will be there for him always. At the same time be realistic because ... (read in full...)
How can she end this ordeal?
Q. Ok I have a friend who is 19 and she has a bf who is 22 years old. They have been together for 5 years, but this 5 years of relationship was unhealthy. She broke up and patched backed so many times. They often quarrel and once she told me he have ...
A. 20 June 2010: Sometimes the mind works the opposite way. The more you tell her don't do this, the more she justifies why she's still with him. This happens all the time at dearcupid. People had heard the obvious advice many times but their stubborn mind takes ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with a prostitute! Will I ever be able to trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been now dating for 3 years, he cheated on me with a prostitute but told me everything that happened straight after and asked me for forgivness. Ive been trying so far to forgive him and move on but i just feel our ...
A. 20 June 2010: He didn't show any remorse and is not concerned about your feelings. The crappy feeling you have is your guts telling you this guy is not right for you. He wants to do whatever he feels like at the moment. It's okay to hang out with friends, but he ... (read in full...)
How can I move on and stop loving him?
Q. I'm really hoping people can give me some insight on this because I'm beyond hurt right now. I dated a guy I'll call Sam for about a year and a half. We broke up but acted like we still were together. I went away to college and he told me he wanted ...
A. 19 June 2010: Love is not an all or nothing deal. It would be a lie if he didn't love you even a bit. You probably loved him much more than he loved you. He lied about the coworker because you were so dear to him and he didn't want to lose you yet. He said he ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him to back off?
Q. Hey guys, I was wondering if you could possibly help me out? Recently I found out that my best friend's eleven-year old brother has a giant crush on me. I'm fourteen, so that would mean that he is in sixth grade and I am due to be in ninth. From ...
A. 19 June 2010: You can just tell him to stop or you'll tell his parents. You don't have to be afraid of hurting him because he still looks at you as a bigger sister. He just wants to see what it feels like to touch a girl and does not expect anything back. It's ... (read in full...)
Is cutting off all contact the best thing to do here?
Q. I have a question about my ex. He is a narcissist. I have figured out that much and am doing a good job at overcoming the situation. He left me. Anyways, it has been almost two months of being broken up. He finally moved out but have done some ...
A. 19 June 2010: The police can help you get your stuff back. Don't expect to get your money back though. Yes, it's best to cut off all contact with him. He's a narcissist so he's only concerned about himself. Let him be that way. When he knows that you won't play ... (read in full...)
He wants me but thinks we should take a break because he's curious?!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years. He left for basic training for 10 weeks. But before that, he's been telling me how he's been curious. (He's very honest) He says that he feels bad for wanting to know what it's like to be with ...
A. 14 June 2010: I am old schooled I don't believe in exploring. It might work for some people and help them know what they want, but for many people, it's an excuse to avoid committment. When you are with the right girl, the feeling is like, "You're my every woman ... (read in full...)
Almost no sexual contact in 8 months of dating, advice?
Q. Okay, I met my lovely girlfriend a few years back, and we dated previously, but i can hardly call it dating, it was the middle school flirting type of thing, never anything sexual, We recently started seriously dating, (This being many years later) ...
A. 14 June 2010: After reading this, I can tell this is another bad boy versus good boy thing. She may come to believe that oral sex makes her a bad girl. Her last relationship didn't work out and the oral sex made her feel dirty. Some girls think that doing ... (read in full...)
Why was he so hesitant to take my key?
Q. I have been involved with a man for nearly 6 yrs and recently has started leaving some of his things at my place. Nothing special just a couple of changes of clothes for when he chooses to stay over. When I saw him over the weekend I told him ...
A. 14 June 2010: You've become familiar with each other. He hasn't proposed to you and by giving him the key, you are treating him sort of like a husband without cohabitating. He can come and go as he pleases yet he doesn't get the warm welcome from you. You won't ... (read in full...)
I want him back -- should I give him this letter?
Q. so i was dating this amazing guy for a few weeks. he loved me and i loved him. he told me he could see his life with me and that he never felt that he could love someone for forever before. but i broke up with him because he did something and didn't ...
A. 14 June 2010: So much happened in these few weeks, or months? Reminds me of that gum commercial, talking about how that piece of gum lasts longer that a relationship. He already claims you as his love of his life and then did something bad, then got another ... (read in full...)
I'm a person, not a sex toy -- how do I find a guy who wants that?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm attractive, even though people say I am. I'm 17 and I've only had one boyfriend, we lasted for 3 months and nothing even happened, not even a kiss. I have braces, and people always make comments about how no one wants to kiss ...
A. 14 June 2010: Most guys will be disappointed when they find girls who are only sex toys with no personality. I don't think you have anything to worry about. You take off your braces after one year, then you are more beautiful. You screen out guys who can't be ... (read in full...)
Terrible Twin Trouble!
Q. Help! Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years and I love him dearly, and I feel so guilty for this but he took me to his family reunion back in the carribean islands and introduced me to all his family I met his twin brother, who is the ...
A. 14 June 2010: Just stick to your boyfriend, follow him around every time you go to the caribbean islands. When he asks you why, tell him the truth. His brother is being inappropriate. He stirred up some crazy chemicals in your body. He probably wants to get a ... (read in full...)
How can I know if she still likes me without asking?
Q. i just moved states and when i was here for about 1month me and this guy became friends and later on his sister started hanging out with us and later i found out she liked me and i liked her too. so then me and her started dating and then she broke ...
A. 6 June 2010: If she broke up with you just like that, she doesn't like you enough and you shouldn't like a girl like that. She wants a guy she can smother and I am sure you don't want that. Let this break up be the one last time and find a girl who doesn't bring ... (read in full...)
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