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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Should I break up with the girlfriend I view as a kid now, ...or wait until her exams are over?
Q. i'm 16 years old and i've been in a relationship for 4 months,this is my second relationship but i feel that i don't love my girlfriend as same as before, every day we talk 2-3 hours i don't know i got bored or what? but i want her and i want to ...
A. 11 April 2010: Try to limit your talk to 45 minutes maximum. 2-3 hours is torture man. Cell phones are unhealthy for you. If you are using your home phone your parents get mad. They want you to contribute some to family duties. She should save her yaggety yaggety ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him everything instead of 'playing the game?'
Q. Im currently in a situation, where I'm crazy about this guy, i THINK he may feel the same- but we can't really be together, because of distance. We've known each other for about three years, and he moved a couple of months ago. I'm so confused, so ...
A. 11 April 2010: Three years is a long time to not express your liking. I don't know what was stopping you from telling him until now. You would only sound needy if you call him all the time but if you act too cool he's not going to detect anything and would assume ... (read in full...)
My ex is blowing hot and cold and I am just confused!
Q. My ex and I were together for 3 years. We broke up in dec. And she started dating her best guy friend almost immediately. I tried to get her back, and slept with her twice in febuary, they were still dating, but ultimately she didn't want to get ...
A. 11 April 2010: There are occasions when we are left by ourselves and feel lonely. One is holidays, birthdays obviously. Second is when our partners are out of town. If Valentine's Day is not in February and your birthday is in let's say November, would you have ... (read in full...)
My family thinks I'm a bad parent!
Q. I have 3 sisters, all of us moms. I have 1 son who is 19 and still lives at home. Ever since the time he was born my family has criticized my parenting skills. My family all live in a small canadian town, my husband and I move to california before ...
A. 11 April 2010: No you are a good parent. You don't have to discuss your son's private life with your sister. Your son does not have to flaunt his tatoo in front of your family. Cover it up with long sleeves. Never doubt yourself. Your parenting style suits your ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to google a guy your dating to find out info on him?
Q. Hi everyone. So I posted yesterday about me finding out that the guy I'd been seeing had lied to me about his age. I googled him because I do that with guys I date just as a precaution because I like to know who I'm dating, about a year ago I w...
A. 10 April 2010: It's not wrong. I wouldn't mind people googling me either but they won't find anything because I don't give my age and brag about myself online. What's the point of putting your info online if no one's going to read it? Your reply sounds like you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has many issues about loving me or having anyone know that she does.
Q. I love my GF so much,in my past i was with few girls...but i left them coz my parents refused them..and i was a flirt..but after when i got my gf i stopped everything,i told her about my past almost everything..and promised ill never be as like i ...
A. 10 April 2010: She's worrying too much about what people think. Love makes you vulnerable. At the same time is empowering. When people shut down they loose the tools and the intuition to get the happiness they want. The truth is you are in love with her too. It ... (read in full...)
Husband sending out mixed signals...
Q. We are coming up on our 6th anniversary. Hubby has become more distant - we don't communicate, he is not into kissing/hugging/romance- basicly we are roommates with the benefit of sex. When it comes to sex- I am the one to initiate it- he lays there ...
A. 9 April 2010: You have become the active pursuer while he's the distancer. He comes home to you every night so let me just assume that he's not out cheating. Maybe he's overworked and stressed. It could be just wrong timing. A man usually likes to be in charge. ... (read in full...)
Could my friend possibly like me?
Q. Right, this is the classic question which I know gets asked multiple times by everyone regardless of how much experience they have. Does my friend like me in any way whatsoever?? I've known him for a year and a half. I liked him from March - J...
A. 9 April 2010: If he messes with other girls he negates all good qualities you found in him. Guys are pretty straight forward. He doesn't sound like a shy guy to me. You both got sexually excited. "Tonight is the night" are you referring to sex only? You've known ... (read in full...)
To dress or not to dress?
Q. *OP's own title* I need the advice from Married women out there ONLY.. I am a happily married man. I am the typical jock type of guy that loves sports and coaching my kids. I love everything about women, the way they look, taste, feel, ect.. Rece...
A. 9 April 2010: I am sure there are. A lot of sex authors, adventurers are happily married couples. Who cares if you are the first husband ever to be "done" by your wife? Maybe you can attract a following. You are in a marriage so you can do whatever do each other ... (read in full...)
To dress or not to dress?
Q. *OP's own title* I need the advice from Married women out there ONLY.. I am a happily married man. I am the typical jock type of guy that loves sports and coaching my kids. I love everything about women, the way they look, taste, feel, ect.. Rece...
A. 8 April 2010: There are sub and dom inside of everyone of us. I am 70% submissive. I tried to be dom, it didn't feel too natural because I look younger than my age, but I would do it to make my man happy. Switch roles once in a while. One day you can be the ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 8 April 2010: I know this is not going to be a heartfelt sorry. "I'll try to." "She felt misled." "How was I supposed to know?" All these show you are not owning up to your actions. Simply say I am sorry I made a mistake. It's dearcupid's fault that you can't do ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gives more love and attention to the dog than to me!
Q. My BF of 12 yrs and I have not had sex for about 2 years. We have been in/out of counseling and are currently seeing a new counselor for one last chance to salvage our relationship. I am 57, divorcedX2, and he is 63, divorcedX3. I am aware of an...
A. 7 April 2010: Even if his libido came back, it doesn't mean he could stay hard for long and perform up to your standard. So he is not going to do anything physical which would lead to a lovemaking session. The dog is never going to expect anything more than ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 7 April 2010: I don't think you are a bad person, just totally clueless. So becoming a better person probably means nothing to you. Develop your emotional and nurturing side. There is nothing more empowering than being able to take care of a woman emotionally. ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 7 April 2010: You are thinking, you enjoyed yourself, I enjoyed myself, what's the problem? The problem is that when you have sex with a person she feels like an object when you don't get to know the insides of a person. Like you remember them by their bra size. ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 7 April 2010: First you said you might have a problem, then you try to justify by saying most guys are this way. So why need our compassion? I don't think guys can fake this and go through marriage. Prostitutes exist because some men don't know how to ask women ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 7 April 2010: I don't think he has problems being friends with girls, he just can't have sex again once it becomes platonic. He can remain friends with that girl, but have to look elsewhere for sex. Logically, the same girl feeling rejected, wouldn't want to stay ... (read in full...)
I only want sex once with a girl then I want to move on!
Q. I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I'm getting into a situation. My thing is I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl that I did is no...
A. 6 April 2010: If that's how your brain is wired, and assuming you've had no trauma, no abuse in childhood, you have to accept you are a little different. Psychology has not come up with a term for people like you, not that I know of. I believe men and women who ... (read in full...)
My brother-in-law sexually molested me.
Q. Dear kind soul out there, I want to overcome the sadness that is haunting me for almost 7 years now. I just felt I need someone to tell to ease the pain. It started when I was 18 years old in August, 2002. I live on the 5th floor apartment with my ...
A. 6 April 2010: It's not your fault. It's always hot in Malaysia and you don't cover up as much as we do. At least your dad believes you. Confide in him. Molest among family is more common than you think. It happens all over the world. Even families in the liberal ... (read in full...)
My mental health is declining and I can't seem to have a good relationship with my 12 year old daughter
Q. Dear Readers, Hello again and thank-you for your past advice. It has been a while, but I find that I am back here again despite my daughter seeing a Child Psychologist, myself seeing one and also going to Family Therapy all to no avail. If anythi...
A. 6 April 2010: I don't know what your financial situation is but your daughter is dependent on you somehow. She would be someone I want to send to a behavioral modifying bootcamp. She has to earn her privileges to have access to food, clothing, and free time. She ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to his comments pertaining to our relationship
Q. Hello, I've been seeing a man in another country. We see each other a few times a month for over a year now.Originally we decided that after a year we would decide if we were gonna work towards marriage or not. It's been almost 15 months and he do...
A. 6 April 2010: His concerns are reasonable. You are moving away from your family and friends. It may be harder to find a new job. If you are moving to just south of the border then it's no big problem. Do you have to learn a new language? He wants you to be happy. ... (read in full...)
We had sex and now he's acting strange toward me. Is it him? Or me?
Q. I'm not exactly sure what to do here... i've been so into this guy and our little "fling" has been going on for 3 months now. Just the other week we ended up hooking up and we finally had sex. Everything was fine the day after and we talked like ...
A. 6 April 2010: You just happen to be two available people. You have not given reasons to like each other and to go deeper. It seems to me he has no love to give. You are not in the stage to talk about "me and him" yet. What to do here? Keep on looking for the ... (read in full...)
Mom found out about b/f & I having sex and now we have no contact at all!
Q. my very strict mother found out that me and the love of my life hes 17 and im 16 have been having sex. and now we are banned from seeing eachother. we used to text eachother like every second and now i dont have a cellphone anymore, and the house ...
A. 6 April 2010: In my mom was born in 1948. Whenever her friends call her dad would yell at them, "Don't call her anymore" and slam the phone down. She still got to hang out with her friends and had quite a few boyfriends. One hundred years ago people did even use ... (read in full...)
I want a baby with my older Husband
Q. I am 24 and recently married my best friend and the most perfect man. He is 65 and we dated for 4 years before we married. I have a 6 year old from my first marriage and he has 3 grown children and we all get along great. I recently have ...
A. 5 April 2010: You are not crazy for wanting another kid, but with him? He may not live to see his child's graduation. He's just so happy that his golden days are taken care of, just hoping you would remain faithful. He didn't discuss having more kids before the ... (read in full...)
I have health issues which will be fixed, but will the spark come back/
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. We have a 3 year old son. Obviously that means I got pregnant very early in our relationship. It went from 0 to 60 very fast and we were not able to have a your average honeymoon period. He was your ...
A. 5 April 2010: Now is not a time to think about lust and passion. You are going to have a major surgery. He should be spending nights with you at the hospital. Save yourself first, before the relationship. I personally know women who had hysterectomies and was ... (read in full...)
Does the teacher's behavior seem odd?
Q. Just to give a heads up, no this is not one of those 'I'm in love with my teacher' questions. But, this is a question still on the same subject. Where to begin? I live in one of those typical towns surrounded by corn. Everybody knows everyone...
A. 5 April 2010: I am 29, you remind me of my high school days because I was a magnet for those kind of teachers. They liked my mom even. I had a private math tutor when I was a rebellious 15 year old. He was rubbing his hard on and looking at me. He would always go ... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him bluntly if he wants to go further?
Q. So me and my best friend and I have been messing around, like I've been giving him handjobs and he's been touching me. The first time I saw him after the first time it happened he acted awkward and we didn't do it again, so I texted him and told him ...
A. 5 April 2010: A best friend is not someone I would mess around with. You are crossing boundaries. You are no longer just friends but not lovers yet, just in an awkward limbo stage where you have to make things clear about where you guys stand. If you are ready to ... (read in full...)
When I spend a lot of time with her I feel claustrophobic, does anyone else have this problem?
Q. I'm dating this girl who moved from Arizon to where to Long Beach and we've been seeing each other for four months. Everytime we spend a lot of time together, I start to feel claustrophobic. I've been honest with her about these feelings but we both ...
A. 4 April 2010: I am an independent woman with an independent boyfriend. I appreciate your honesty. A question I have always wanted to know is do man just want to f and nothing else. Do men just groom themselves, pretend they like doing things with women so they ... (read in full...)
It started out as sex, but I'm starting to develop feelings for him. Help!
Q. I am a 23 yr old female and am sleeping with a 42 year old man. I have known him for a while, he has a 6 yr old son and a partner although they do not live together. It started out as sex but I think im beginning to get feelings for him, and ...
A. 4 April 2010: An older man's concern is that once he reaches 60 his ability declines while you are still blossoming as a woman. He will be worried that he can't be the one to make you happy. If it's the personality you love it might work out in the end you just ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me, but broke up with me out of nowhere!
Q. hey everyone, where to start... Been with my bf for nearlly a year and only 3 weeks ago he was telling me how he loved me, i made him happy and that he saw us going somewhere...that week he continued telling me he loved me as usual and then that ...
A. 4 April 2010: If he's not telling you the reason, it's probably something that might hurt you so it's better for him not to say it. He doesn't want his perception of you to affect your future dating. Your relationship doesn't have all it takes to keep it ... (read in full...)
Is it time to break up with him? Please help, it's my first serious relationship.
Q. *OP's own title* Hey everyone. I really need some help... I am in a relationship with a guy and have been for nearly two years now. He was my first for everything. I mean I dated a few guys before I met him, but it was nothing serious. I a...
A. 4 April 2010: I don't know what career he's working towards, besides music. I was just imagining myself to be him, I would be worried too if you are going to be a doctor while I am working full time to support my musical dream, something you are not too keen on. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop everyone being hurt in this situation?
Q. I really need advices for my current situation. I am 28 this year. I have been with my hursband(P)for 6 years and married for 2(excluded). He was my first bf. we are chinese and went to Australia study together. 6 months after got married, I had...
A. 4 April 2010: "Now i am still with H. we got more closer to each other. i never lie or cheat on him. we trust each other."
You can't say that, as long as you are married, you and him are still a lie.
All 3 of you are hurt somehow. You can't just hope that the... (read in full...)
Is there any chance that he wants to get back with me, or is he just using me?
Q. hi, im new to dearcupid, and right now i really need advice. back in january, my boyfriend broke up with me for somebody else, we dated for about a year and a half and we went through so much together. when we broke up, he told me that he wanted me ...
A. 4 April 2010: He can't just break up with you, date another girl, and come back to you if nothing had happened. The possibility is that the date didn't work out, he felt bummed so he needed you to feel confident again. You gave yourself too easily and he felt ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in having a relationship or does he just want to date casually?
Q. *OP's own title* Recently, I started dating this guy. We've been out for a few times, going for drinks and dinners. When we met, he seemed to be really into me, he asked me lots of questions that showed that he wanted to get to know me further and ...
A. 3 April 2010: Is he interested beyond casual dating? I don't know. You have to find out when you meet him again. "I miss you"s don't mean much nowadays but you can be sure he wants to meet with you again. If he has you, there should be no need to go to parties ... (read in full...)
Is it time to break up with him? Please help, it's my first serious relationship.
Q. *OP's own title* Hey everyone. I really need some help... I am in a relationship with a guy and have been for nearly two years now. He was my first for everything. I mean I dated a few guys before I met him, but it was nothing serious. I a...
A. 3 April 2010: Whenever artists make it big on stage, or writes a book, the first person they thank are spouses who put up with ignoring them, then other people. He may or may not make it, but he needs your patience to develop his passion. You are part of his ... (read in full...)
Lust & passion-how fast is too fast?
Q. There's a guy I like and we flirt loads but can't start a relationship yet because of awkward situations for both of us. We both want to start something when the situations change but for now we have to keep it just on a friendly basis. I'm prett...
A. 3 April 2010: There's nothing wrong with following your passions. Sometimes you will get more clearheaded once the you get the physical part taken care of. Just be ready to accept that your feelings might change for better or worse. If it proceeds to a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: Hey bad girl, your excuses don't add up. Even hypnosis won't work if the participant would not cooperate. There was no assault unless he grabbed you, pulled your head down and threatened you if you didn't do it. You did it because he was asleep! I ... (read in full...)
G/f says I called her a bad mother and now she's cold to me
Q. have benn with my girlfriend for two years and we have had a few fights over the last few years notthing to serious that wasnt fixed within a few hours but in those fights she has takin that i have called her a bad mother out of contexr and now she ...
A. 2 April 2010: I assume the kid isn't yours? Then it's not your business to comment on what she does to her kids even if she spoils them or neglects them. One of our biggest fear is being called a bad mother. I think you should volunteer to babysit her kid for a ... (read in full...)
We've been talking on the internet for 2 years, should I meet him?
Q. Should I meet up with a guy I met on the internet when I travel to his country later this year? I met this guy on a facebook application about 2 years ago and we've chatted very regulary on msn ever since. We have lots of common interests and I ...
A. 2 April 2010: I wonder what that country could be if English is not its official language. His country must be faraway. Closest would be Indonesia, further away Europe or South America? If he's interested he should be the one flying over, at least he knows ... (read in full...)
I love her but the sex and attraction aren't there!
Q. I have an ace of a woman but I don't really lust for her and the attraction and sex is lacking. Everywhere I look, I see women who drive me wild inside and all I want to do is have sex with all of them. What should I do? I'm already with the kind ...
A. 2 April 2010: Don't get engaged to her. Were you attracted to her at the beginning and then it waned? If that's the case find out what happened that took the spark away. Did you start out as friends? If good sex is that important to you, when you date someone ... (read in full...)
I know he'll really hurt me but I don't want to be just friends!
Q. Can't get over someone i know is no good for me. He's a lying cheating scumbag but we are really good friends and i have fallen completely for him. i can't break the friendship off, that's not fair to him but i can't control my feelings anymore. i ...
A. 2 April 2010: You would rather have a bad romance than be just friends?
You won half of the battle by telling him it's not going to happen. The other half of the battle is letting your wild energies just dissipate by itself. I had fallen in love with a frie... (read in full...)
He doesn't know what he feels and I am between the sword and the wall
Q. My life has changed since i started to go out with him, and i knew this would happen some day. When I started to go out with my boyfriend two years ago, I thought about not being with him more than three months because i knew that it will hurt me ...
A. 2 April 2010: I think you should break up not because he did anything particularly wrong, but because you are bringing the worst out of each other. If you go to prom with him, I can just imagine you staring at his face all the time to check if he's looking at ... (read in full...)
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