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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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I'm pregnant, he's married but I still wants us to be friends
Q. I got a crush on a bus driver. He plays and teases me every now and again but I never let him know how I felt. One day, I got on his route to go to my college campus and he began telling me his college goals. Next thing I knew, we had more than ...
A. 29 April 2011: He can't be friends with you because he knows you want more than friendship and he can't provide that. Either you are a single mom or your relationship with your boyfriend/husband isn't good, because you have nothing in common. I can't tell from ... (read in full...)
Rebounds? Commitment issues?
Q. My girlfriend was dumped by a guy bcuz the guy felt she was cheating on him with me and another guy. I was trying to steal her from him...but we only talked as friends. The other guy was trying the same thing but I beat him. she started liking me ...
A. 29 April 2011: I think she has commitment issues. She likes the conquest so after a relationship starts she loses interest. She picks the guys whom she can do this to. You shouldn't get her back. You can't anyway because you had become her prize before so she ... (read in full...)
Why would he end things over such a stupid thing?
Q. omg i really need help here. I'm going crazy. ok i"m just gonna straightforward tell you what happened. 10 months ago i met this guy and we became good friends. After a while i realized that i sort of have feelings for him. he is 7 years older than ...
A. 29 April 2011: I don't think it's just the journal but a whole bunch of things that accumulated and gave him such a bad reaction. It's him not you. So go on with your life don't change anything about yourself. His behavior is psycho. So who's the immature one here ... (read in full...)
I think if this guy was closer my g/f would be with him, not me
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now, and i really like her alot. We say we love eachother daily, but i really dont even know what love is. She does alot of shit that bothers me and i can't tell if im over reacting or if im angry ...
A. 29 April 2011: You think your girlfriend would be with him. Not necessarily. She just likes the attention. I don't think she really respects him that much. She tells him to do this do that, and he follows like a dog.
Regain your position by trusting in your... (read in full...)
Messing around with husband friend! I know I'm a bad friend, wife and mother!
Q. I have gotten myself into a huge mess and only keep digging myself deeper and deeper. my husband and i have been married for 6 yrs, we have 5 children (4 still very young) but there is no romance, i guess there has never really been. Here is the d...
A. 29 April 2011: I won't be harsh on you. There is no excuse for cheating, for sure. I am trying to understand where you are from. You need to do some soul searching too. There is no romance in your marriage because needs aren't met on both sides and you didn't know ... (read in full...)
I have desires to cheat on my husband. I don't want to feel like this and he doesn't deserve this!
Q. I don't know if I should have ever gotten married. Marriage was never something I strived for in life, but when my husband (then boyfriend) asked me to marry him, I was very in love with him and very happy so I said yes, even though I didn't really ...
A. 27 April 2011: You may have little sexual desires for your husband because in your mind you already convinced yourself that other men are better. That's what happens when a married person is infatuated with someone else. Even though there is nothing wrong with ... (read in full...)
I know the relationship didn't work but I want to get back together anyway?
Q. my ex and i broke up on good terms a week ago because we both saw it coming and knew it was inevitable. he and i have a child together and i'm still living with him until i find a job to move out. i was verbally abused quite a bit in the relat...
A. 27 April 2011: Why don't you try couples counselling. You can go by yourself first and if he asks you what you are up to then tell him this is what you are doing. People deserve second chances. You have to say good bye to the bad relationship and see if a new ... (read in full...)
Is he only playing games with me?
Q. what does it mean when a guy says that we can see each other when our schedules allows? Just wondering because I was dating this guy but somehow I think he only wanted me for sex. Like, he would call me Saturday and ask if we could go movies ...
A. 27 April 2011: It means he is afraid of intruding your life, causing inconvenience. I've met many men, online and real life. I had never been played with. He's probably afraid of bothering you but he didn't know his silence bothered you that much. He called you ... (read in full...)
Oral Sex Can Be A Sharing Experience - Swallowing IS Equal...
Q. I am in my early fifties and my man is as well. We've only recently become intimate and I was not involved with anyone for a few years prior. So, I had a long time to think about sexuality and what I would do when back into it. My thoughts are tha...
A. 26 April 2011: I don't care about equality. I like the act itself and I don't care whether I receive an oral in return. I swallow because it feels satisfying, I like the feel in my mouth, and also it eliminates one more possibility of getting pregnant. For your ... (read in full...)
How do you prove your serious in a relationship?
Q. How do you prove your serious in a relationship?...
A. 26 April 2011: I don't know where that question is coming from but I would never tell any guy to prove he's serious. This question comes in when there is no trust yet because the relationship is still new and she doesn't know whether she's the only girl for you. I ... (read in full...)
I still have sex with my wife even though she is having an affair. Is this letting go?
Q. Is this what letting go means? My 42 year old wife is about a month into an affair with a man 25 years older than her. I have seen their email correspondence and the level of emotional attachment is unbelievable. This whole thing hit me out of th...
A. 24 April 2011: Whatever you do now your head and heart will be screwed somehow. I think it's part of letting go, part of hoping she will love you again. Letting go means being fine with any outcome. 1. A divorce in the future. 2. Continuing this open relationship ... (read in full...)
How can I get this persistent other guy to leave me alone? I like a different guy.
Q. right so theres this guy who likes me, and pretty much every weekend since decemeber we have hooked up, nothing serious just like made out anyway i told him in feb i don't like him, and that i like one of his mates, who i've got with quite a few...
A. 24 April 2011: He, as any other citizen, has the right to go to any public place as long as he's not harassing you or threatening you physically. Treat him as transparent. You can't stop him from following you and he can't stop you from kissing the guy like. He ... (read in full...)
Would you want a future with a girl who keeps in contact with everyone she's had sex with?
Q. Girlfriend of 11months.. stilll close friends with her past flings and guy friend who she had a drunk one night stand with.. Disgusts me.. To know that she is still friends with people who have seen her nude.. who she has blown or been humped b...
A. 24 April 2011: No I won't not because of who's right or wrong but different personality clashes. I just won't date anyone who's a partier. Period. If there is compromise people should be happy about their decision and not do it just to please the other. Your girl ... (read in full...)
Husband left me for another woman even though he knows shes no good!
Q. This is an SOS call, I feel like my heart has been smashed into a thousand pieces. My husband has left me and now I feel I have lost my best friend, my sole mate and my lover :o( We've been together 6 years and married 2 years on 3rd May! Sum...
A. 24 April 2011: You have to tell him you are thinking about divorce. Thinking about it is different from just showing him the papers. When you stay in the marriage you are telling him you condone his behaviour although inside you don't. You know that words are ... (read in full...)
How many of you think you really know your partner well??
Q. One thing I am wondering about a lot lately is how much long-time partners (either girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband) really know each other. I must confess I am surprised at how superficial some long-term relationships seem to be to me. I m...
A. 23 April 2011: I just watched pleasantville (it's a classic movie about ten years ago but now on TV a lot) with my boyfriend last night. I fell asleep in his arms. Is there life beyond pleasantville? There are differences between men and women. Men want more sex... (read in full...)
Found someone I love, my old friend is back, so are the old feelings, what do I do??
Q. Dear Cupid, i have a very big problem, you probably get it a lot here. I dont know. My problem started when i was in high school. I fell in love with my best friend, we did nearly everything together, going to the cinema and such. The only probl...
A. 23 April 2011: It's about the myth that anything hard to get is always more valuable. But how true can this be? Think of things in real life that are hard to get. There's old junk, out of print materials sold on ebay everyday, but are they really that valuable? Or ... (read in full...)
Question on birth control pill
Q. Dear agony aunts.... I have been taking this contraceptive pills its being a week right now..., the doctor asked me to take them for around a year... But i just wanted to know its advantages and disadvantages as I don't know about it. How it effe...
A. 22 April 2011: Before I took the pill I was very concerned about the side effects. I did a lot of research and there was one that says the ratio 6 to 1 in which 6 women are happy with the pill, only 1 is not. I myself am very happy with the pill. I did not gain ... (read in full...)
Do you think he might want a relationship in the future?
Q. Me and this guy who is 10 years older than me, I'm 26 and he's just turned 36. We are really good friends, and are quite close. Well a couple of months ago, I told him I have feelings for him. He said, it's one sided and that he cant give me what I ...
A. 22 April 2011: You have to give him time. He doesn't realize that he's not the only man feeling scared about committing. It's a huge commitment to devote to a woman for the rest of his life. Somehow a man thinks that there is only one man who is fit for you and ... (read in full...)
Does anyone ever feel sexually inadequate when they know their partner has had many more partners before you?
Q. Does anyone ever feel sexually inadequate when they know their husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend has had many more partners before you? I'm in a very loving relationship with a wonderful man. We've discussed marriage multiple times and we're both ...
A. 22 April 2011: No I don't because I do many things that other women consider dirty and sluttish. My boyfriend has commented on how happy he is with me and our sexual chemistry is good. I am also very vain. I guess that helps. ... (read in full...)
Is he a serial player or was I really special ?
Q. hello Guys i need you honest advice please . i met a guy when i was on a business trip , he hit on me in the restaurant of the hotel and we excanged few words and our business cards but i didn't accept his dinner invitation or contacted him agai...
A. 22 April 2011: The last sentence says it all. There are many hurdles already such as the distance. He figured out the logistics but then the last hurdle being his age, he worries that when his penis stops working then you would leave him. Nothing you wrote here ... (read in full...)
I just can't accept the fact that she will spend her life with a person who does not match up with her looks!
Q. Dear Agony aunts, My sister recently got engaged to a guy that i just saw once before. At the engagement party i found him to be really unattractive and short for my sister. My sister is very beautiful and i felt like they looked like beauty and t...
A. 22 April 2011: I feel for you. I really do. I work at customer service and every day I see unattractive people. Sometimes I ask myself can I marry this person or that person, a bold person, a face full of big pores, pimples, discoloration, and then I feel guilty ... (read in full...)
How close can a guy be with a female friend, when in a committed relationship with another girl?
Q. How close can a guy be to him female friends when in a committed relationship with a girl? What are the things that a boyfriend can and cannot do with female friends when he is committed to someone?...
A. 22 April 2011: I will feel more secure if my boyfriend tells me he is not attracted to that female friend, and he thinks of her as a sister. He should not drink with her alone. He should spend more days with me than with her. I would never date a guy who parties ... (read in full...)
I caught him having cyber affairs. how do I deal with my cyber surfing husband?
Q. Ok I'm 23 and my husband is 43, we will be married a year in May 2011. We met on a online hookup site, yes I know it sounds bad but I had just been divorced a few months and joined and out of all the guys I chatted with he was the only one who didn...
A. 22 April 2011: He did what's satisfying him but you aren't satisfied because you stick to your own code that you would remain faithful. It's important to make money with whatever means. If he must work overseas then it's unfair that he keeps you as his wife while ... (read in full...)
Confused after threesome!
Q. I had my first threesome two nights ago and now I'm very confused and slightly embarrassed and annoyed. My best male friend who is bi-sexual,J.B. and I have been flirting innocently for a very long time. We went on holidays along with some other ...
A. 20 April 2011: People have different fetishes. Perhaps he doesn't want his cock touched because he's not ready for sex with both of you. It's hard enough to find a guy who lasts longer than 30 minutes. To find out that he couldn't sustain long enough to satisfy ... (read in full...)
My parents think I am fat, should I just lose weight to shut them up?
Q. Hello everyone. I hope anyone out there can help me. Ok so i am 20 years old and am at University therefore i no longer live with my parents. I go to the gym almost every single day and work out, and swim, though in the last week i have slacked o...
A. 19 April 2011: You are not fat. Your BMI places you in the ideal range. I try not to label anyone but I had read books about difficult parents and narcissistic. They would nit pick on anything because that's what their own parents did to them. Telling you what to ... (read in full...)
After 14 years, she would rather be engaged than married
Q. My (common-law) wife and I have been together 14 years. Although I gave her an engaement ring 12 years ago, we never actually got married. We used to say we got along too well to be married, and had the attitude that if it wasn't broken, why fix it. ...
A. 18 April 2011: Some people are allergic to the word marriage. The word can conjure up anything from "stuck," "sexless," "sacred union," same person day in and day out, same body same routine same voice. I've known a woman who literally vomitted about the idea of a ... (read in full...)
Missing him...
Q. I have a boyfriend, we have been together for months now and I really like him but I miss my ex. he hates me because of multiple reasons. But him hating me is making me sick to my stomach. I act like nothing is wrong with me but we havent talked i...
A. 17 April 2011: You already apologized and you feel bad that it wasn't accepted. If he can't forgive you, maybe you can forgive yourself. While you can't change the past you can stop repeating the same mistakes in this new relationship. We have no control over ... (read in full...)
How can you resolve long standing, extended family based conflicts in a marriage?
Q. How can you resolve long standing, extended family based conflicts in a marriage? Me and my husband married more than 25 years ago, and we still have the same conflicts, about his family , what we used to have at the beginning. Very ''classic...
A. 17 April 2011: They are old. They spend their whole lives forming their opinions. They are not going to change. I can bet the earlier generation had it far worse. I heard stories of my grant uncle hitting his daughter with a chair and broke her nose, just because ... (read in full...)
She told me God was telling her things wouldn't work out!!!
Q. My girlfriend n I have been going out for about 4 months now. Everything was going great, we both were happy n life couldn’t have been much better. About 2 weeks ago she told me "she thinks she loves me" n that "I am perfect for her." She was crazy ...
A. 17 April 2011: This is what her God tells her. What if your God tells you patience is worth it?
You can call God anything. A nagging voice, a hunch, a worry. This could be a sign that she is feeling vulnerable, fears getting hurt because she is falling deep... (read in full...)
Deep feelings for a married man and no longer love my own husband.
Q. This is my first time on this forum so here goes. I have deep feelings for a married man. I am married. We both have young children. I see him often as our children socialize together. I have had these feelings for him for over a year now and I k...
A. 17 April 2011: Do nothing. The feelings are strong but they won't hurt you. Your heart does not literally break. Use your energies and channel them into creativity. Join a yoga club and learn to stay with your feelings and just observe them. I am not saying this ... (read in full...)
When I said I wanted to end the 'benefits' part, I didn't mean I didn't want to be friends!
Q. I recently decided that I did not want to be friends with benefits with this guy I've known for 5 years. The last time we saw each other we got into a little argument Here is what I said, after the argument: I am sorry about the other day, and...
A. 17 April 2011: He's still hurt from the argument. He wants to give you space so you can find the man you want. When you continue to see this guy then that's stopping you from looking for your soulmate. It's also stopping him from looking for another "friend," ... (read in full...)
How, if at all, should I ask her about my fantasy?
Q. Hello everyone, first of all I'm a 19 year old lad who is in a relationship with a 27 year old woman. We've had our up and downs but every things going well. I have had a sexual fantasy for some years now of being fucked up the arse by a girl with a ...
A. 17 April 2011: Start things gradually by telling her you like hugs from behind, then tell her to grind her hips, then hump you a little. Tell her how much you enjoy the senations. Surprisingly she might enjoy doing it to you too. Explain that it's common for women ... (read in full...)
Isolated in a foreign country -- is my love for my husband enough?
Q. Hi, please advise. I moved to a difficult foreign country to be with my husband, sacrificing all my family, friends and life that I knew (even my religion) because I loved him, believing in my innocence that love conquers all. Because of the ...
A. 17 April 2011: Must your husband fight with his family? Maybe this is what they do because they want to continue this script, as if they don't know any other way to relate. He should distance himself from them and let another family member fight with them.
I feel... (read in full...)
My GF has severe trust issues, she starts to restrict me from whoever she considers a threat, and impulsively dumps me over these issues!!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year and a half, and were really great together. Recently she says she cant trust me, when i have never done anything to ever make her not trust me. About a month ago i went home for a few days and...
A. 16 April 2011: Some girls want to be feel like the omnipotent figure in your life where nothing else matters. I think she is very immature. You are the one in control of your life. When she dumps you she is trying to control your life, not that she wants a break ... (read in full...)
Looking at porn in a relationship. Is it cheating? Why is he pushing me away?
Q. Ive been with this guy for 5 years now. when we got together i told him my veiws about porn. its cheating. we have been through heaps together. We have a daughter together and everything. When i was pregnet everything changed. He started spending...
A. 16 April 2011: You are entitled to your views. Your view might change over time. There is an over emphasis on being the perfect looking woman but fact is the relationship is not all fun and excitement anymore. He has the responsibility to be a devoted partner. ... (read in full...)
We both got sick at breakup time. how can I be just friends with my ex who I love more than anything?
Q. How do you become friends with someone that you still love more than anything and have been bf/gf in a LDR for 3 years?? I'm struggling...my bf dumped me 3 weeks ago, because he got badly depressed and didn't care about anyone or anything and the...
A. 16 April 2011: By being a friend to him and also to yourself, you find out what's best for you and him. Love alters chemicals in the brain and when you love so deeply you can't concentrate on anything else. That's obsessive love. There's a kind of love that's more ... (read in full...)
What is a woman's view on a 27 year old guy who wants to date, but never has dated a girl?
Q. What is your view on a guy who has never dated? How would you react if you asked the guy how experienced he is and his reply was that everything you've done so far has been with you? Would you bother with a guy like this?...
A. 16 April 2011: My view is that you are a very cautious person and had found no one suitable so far. There are many factors in determining what's good in a guy. If he's attractive and ambitious then it certainly helps. One question that would be asked about you is ... (read in full...)
Ladies can you tell me why you hate porn or why you think other women hate it?
Q. Why do women hate porn so much? I agree that when it becomes an addiction, their is a problem. However why, when a guy watches porn only occasionally, and has sex at least once every 2 days? I mean, it's not an addiction but only to spend time. ...
A. 16 April 2011: She already explained it to you, that she doesn't feel good enough for you. Porn is also a reminder that men have options and they would leave anytime they don't feel satisfied. It shatters the myth that as a couple we are enough for each other and ... (read in full...)
After he opens up he becomes distant. Should I break up with him?
Q. Dear Cupid I am dating a guy for the past 1 year, we are kind of on and off. Most of time i goes slient when he feels that he opened up too much to me or he feels attached to me. Yesterday he opened up and we had a great time, today again he...
A. 14 April 2011: Actually, breaking up like this is more common than you think. Before you break it off with him, simply tell him this and nothing else: I want to be with you. I like you. That's very clear to him that you are giving him a direction, and it's his ... (read in full...)
My Husband Cheated on me, what should I do?
Q. So I am 22 years old and i have been married for 2 years with my husband for 4. We have a beautiful 8 month old daughter. Everything was great until Sunday morning. We live in a five bedroom house so we rent some of the rooms out to friends. We had ...
A. 12 April 2011: I prefer privacy over extra income by renting rooms to other people. I would move to a three bedroom and work on the relationship. He has to quit alcohol and devote more of his energy to you and the baby. No babies should ever live around alcohol. I ... (read in full...)
We both get angry easily. Can this work?
Q. My girlfriend and I both have very short tempers but we are madly in love with one another. Is there a good way to appease her, or do I just have to deal with it? I fear for the longevity of our relationship. ...
A. 12 April 2011: You both have short tempers. If you know how to appease yourself you can appease her also. Calm down first before talking. You can take a shower, take a walk or listen to some soothing music. The longevity of the relationship is more important being ... (read in full...)
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