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writes:I got a crush on a bus driver. He plays and teases me every now and again but I never let him know how I felt. One day, I got on his route to go to my college campus and he began telling me his college goals. Next thing I knew, we had more than psychology majors in common. I gave him my number and he came over after he got off work. We both talked about our lives: I'm pregnant and he's married. He got upset because he didn't think there was someone like him with things in common. Even though I told him that I like him, I still want to be friends. He likes me too but he says we cannot be friends. I don't understand! Please help me. I have never had anyone interested in the same things I like. I need advice on how to keep his friendship.
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reader, Orbiter  +, writes (29 April 2011):
Maybe because he does have feelings for you, he wants to back off so they don't get any stronger which is actually the responsible thing to do.If he sticks around, sees you and spends time with you as a friend and these feelings continue to grow, it's only going to leave him feeling upset and frustrated that you two can't be anything more.This could lead him to either feeling constantly unhappy/frustrated which would help prevent patching things up with his wife. Or to cheat, which he doesn't seem willing to do (even if his wife has).I'd forget him and move on if I were you, maybe if his marriage ends of it's own accord, is the time to approach him about friendship again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): "...Yes, he is married but he is trying to stick it out in hopes that his wife would stop cheating. I am not breaking up a home,..." So very convenient. Which man will stick around while his wife makes him a cuckold? Perhaps he wants to even the score with you??Honey right now you are pregnant and you should not be chasing unhappy married men for 'friendship'. Look after pregnant self, and not look out for a potential 'baby daddy'. You should not be entertaining this married man at all.LoveGirl
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reader, mandybaby21 +, writes (29 April 2011):
i think: you liking the bus driver is the least of your worries....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): "...Yes, he is married but he is trying to stick it out in hopes that his wife would stop cheating. I am not breaking up a home,..." So very convenient. Which man will stick around while his wife makes him a cuckold? Perhaps he wants to even the score with you??Honey right now you are pregnant and you should not be chasing unhappy married men for 'friendship'. Look after pregnant self, and not look out for a potential 'baby daddy'. You should not be entertaining this married man at all. If you want to discuss the great Freud, go find another buddy.LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, let me be more clear. He admitted that he liked me first, but I told him how long I noticed him. Yes, I am a single mom-to-be and I'm not looking for a ''daddy''. Yes, he is married but he is trying to stick it out in hopes that his wife would stop cheating. I am not breaking up a home, just want a friend who can discuss Freud, Jung, or Skinner with ease.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 He can't be friends with you because he knows you want more than friendship and he can't provide that. Either you are a single mom or your relationship with your boyfriend/husband isn't good, because you have nothing in common. I can't tell from your post. He does not want to develop a relationship with you that makes his wife suspect anything. He is doing this because he treats his wife as priority.
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