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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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We both get angry easily. Can this work?
Q. My girlfriend and I both have very short tempers but we are madly in love with one another. Is there a good way to appease her, or do I just have to deal with it? I fear for the longevity of our relationship. ...
A. 12 April 2011: You both have short tempers. If you know how to appease yourself you can appease her also. Calm down first before talking. You can take a shower, take a walk or listen to some soothing music. The longevity of the relationship is more important being ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should have sex with him, I don't want him to disappear!
Q. Hello! I'm 20 years old, right now i'm dating a guy that i've been crazy about him for a year. We've been seeing each other for like one month, and thing's are getting a little bit crazy. He is 28 year's old, I had sex with one person, one time, and ...
A. 12 April 2011: if he disappears, then what? Does that mean you are not a lovable person? Your value does not depend on whether a guy wants a serious relationship with you or not. If he doesn't want it, you should think that there are other guys who would. If you ... (read in full...)
5 Months. Is it time to have a serious conversation?
Q. I met this guy 5 months ago, we've been dating ever since. He is older than me but that's not an issue, the time we spend together is amazing. I'm starting to have feelings for him and I'm a little scared because I really don't know if he is looking ...
A. 11 April 2011: He's probably feeling reserved about his feelings as well. I think you can express your feelings more subtly whereas when you start a serious conversation you put each other on a pedestal. When the time comes like you are driving together you can ... (read in full...)
43 and trying to start over
Q. hi, im 43, divorced, 3 kids and in a relationship for 8 months now, my question is, should i be expecting long term plans and commitment??? should i be included in vacations with his family and kids after a year, or it is normal for us to be havin...
A. 11 April 2011: He wants to know you better before including you and your kids as family. I won't just end it yet because what he's avoiding talking now is a difficult, emotional topic. It's more common to see people blend families but that doesn't mean we can all ... (read in full...)
Do girls like their space? Will she feel crowded if I request more of her?
Q. Hi, I am middle aged guy in late 30's dating a 26 year old single mom. We met a year ago through a internet dating site and have been seeing each other for over a year now. I am a settled, educated, professional, who has separated ...
A. 7 April 2011: Your mind will be more clear once your divorce is finalized. Believe me I had been there. It didn't feel good to hide things. You don't have to tell her now that you are still married. That would definitely spoil things. Just start the divorce ... (read in full...)
I have a very high libido, and she used to, but now it's almost nonexistent. Please advise.
Q. I am 28, my wife is 24. We have been married for a year and have no kids (yet). We dated for five years before getting married (for school reasons). About a year into dating, we started having sex. Lots. Like three times a day. Most of the time, she ...
A. 7 April 2011: She is very young, so she may not know what sexual attraction means. She may not have any men to compare to you. There is a saying you don't know what you don't know.
She was initiating sex before because there was infatuation, enough juice for ... (read in full...)
Why has she suddenly changed her mind?
Q. So me and my Gf have been dating for almost 3 years. Im 27,she is 26.Since last year she has been talking and hinting about getting engaged. To make things worse, her cousin and 2 of her friends got engaged,so all the pressure was me.She said ...
A. 7 April 2011: Maybe she wants to wait till you are both financially secure but is afraid to say so without making you feel bad, and more pressured. Marriage is not a race. She is not changing her mind, actually just taking the pressure off of you. She wants you ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity before my next birthday, but there's still no one special in my life.
Q. This is rare nowadays, I know, but I am still a virgin at 31 years old. I've had opportunities to have sex before, but I didn't act on them because I promised I wouldn't have sex with just anyone. I don't regret that promise, but here I am, at 31 ...
A. 6 April 2011: When is your birthday? You may be running out of time until your next birthday but you still have a life time to discover your sexuality. If you lose it to a guy who lives in Spain, that means it will probably be a long distance relationship. ... (read in full...)
I dated a guy, didn't work out but I like his friend!
Q. I hung out and went on a date with this guy who liked me, and discovered pretty quickly it wasn't going to work. Overall, it lasted for about a month, in which he thought we were dating. Apparently he really liked me, so it was awkward when I told ...
A. 4 April 2011: It depends on their friendship. If his roommate treats him like a brother then he might feel he's betraying him by going after you. Some people say a person decides in 5 seconds whether you are girlfriend material. Some people think friendships can ... (read in full...)
Is ex just feeling in a void since we broke up?
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke up a while now. 2 months after we broke up she entered a relationship with someone for a short while. It ended and she then entered another relationship right after. I've noticed that she doesn't show off this guy the way ...
A. 4 April 2011: Everyone feels a void after a break up unless you are some evolved buddha. Maybe the relationship is new so she is not so sure about him yet. I am allergic to facebook and texting stuff so it's possible that she grew out of the need to announce ... (read in full...)
How do people in their 40's hook up?
Q. How do people in their mid-40's hook up? I married young (19) and spent most of my life with someone (25 years) so I cam completely out of touch and I'm not in my 20's anymore so hitting the bars and being coy doesn't work at my age. But I am ...
A. 4 April 2011: They hook up online because they feel so out of place in bars. Picking a younger woman in a public place is risky, and most likely he will be seen as a creep. Join a dating site and you will be swarmed with phone calls. Make sure you know what you ... (read in full...)
How Much of My Own Beliefs and Opinions Should Enter DearCupidAnswers?
Q. I've noticed that in some of my answers to questions on this site, I have allowed my personal beliefs to color my opinions. So my question is, is that wrong? It seems nearly impossible to take my whole self out of the equation, but what level i...
A. 4 April 2011: In the About Us section, you can see the benefits of reading different opinions based on experience or background. As long as you use common sense and are polite. We do not intend to mold everyone into one mentality. In fact there is no one size ... (read in full...)
I want fun sex with multiple guys and girls, with no attachments and no one getting hurt. Where's the harm in that? Are my friends right to tell me not to do it?
Q. Hi there, I've got a problem and it looks like this. I am bisexual, I am young and I need my freedom. I've gotten out of a long pretty sexless monogamous relationship and I am not ready to involve myself in some "serious" stuff again. I just...
A. 3 April 2011: Whenever you exchange bodily fluids, you absorb their karmic energy and history, so you have to be careful with who you deal with. Whether you believe in karma as a real thing or not, sex is to be enjoyed with the least amount of harm as possible. ... (read in full...)
I should have proposed sooner and now I am afraid I've lost her. What can I do?
Q. we have been together for nearly 3 years, we have a house and a dog together. For the few weeks I realised she was getting distant from me....I pointed this out and she said she loves me but not 'in love' with me. She says she doesnt know why or w...
A. 2 April 2011: Tell her you joked it off because you felt a little pressured, and that you are trying to save money. She said she doesn't know what the problem is. Let me tell you this, when you tell a woman you love her more than she thinks, romance her with ... (read in full...)
We had a fight, I walked out and now he has blocked my number
Q. Dear Cupid Me and my bf of 3 years had a huge fight 2 days back. He started calling me really nasty names and i got angry and i walked out on him. I tried to call him yesterday and found out that he has blocked my number. I have sent one mail a...
A. 2 April 2011: What you can do is send him an email that you felt bad that the fight had to happen. It was some unresolved issue and you waited at the wrong time to express your feelings. Tell him that there are definitely better ways to handle it than a few days ... (read in full...)
He said he would like to be like Charlie Sheen and have a few girls on the side
Q. Last night me and my bf of 8 months were in bed and he was talking about what he wants. Hes studying at uni and got just over a year to go. The job he is going to get from it he will be earning from 120 000 to 200 000. His job will mean him going ...
A. 2 April 2011: What do Tiger Woods, Charlie Sheen and other successful men have in common? They have a wonderful family, can spend money on anything, and still they are not satisfied? They look at women as gold diggers who love them for their money and that's it. ... (read in full...)
Do women wish there was a world without men?
Q. Hello Fellow Peers Once Again. I Am Dimario. And... a complicated individual. i am easily hurt when it comes to relationship matters. well i was watching television and It was this feminist show and how she said how the world was bad because of men, ...
A. 2 April 2011: There will be a great demand for all kinds of dildos.
Your question is too hypothetical. I can't imagine a world without men. More lesbians will go through a sex change and heterosexual women would fight to get the most masculine looking tran... (read in full...)
I love him. Do you think he is pulling away from me?
Q. Ok me and my guy have been talking on and off since last September. We finally started to date in Jan after we got really close. He told me he was thinking he was falling in love with me after a month which I felt the same way. So not too soon after ...
A. 2 April 2011: He wasn't acting interested before spring break. How so, and did he know that you felt neglected?
You went home, assuming he wasn't interested. It's possible he felt you were actually the one not interested.
He didn't come meet you the first da... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's relationship with his mother makes me uncomfortable.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a yr and three months now. I've been living with him and his mom and its like a relationship I've never seen before! So here I go... His mom has been married on and off been divorced three times so its real...
A. 2 April 2011: His mom is having trouble keeping her men, so she is using her son as a substitute for love. Your son likes his mom that way because it's rare for a mom to make a son feel like a man, because usually mom nags, complains and worries what he could do ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can get past this or will be able to trust her. Please help!
Q. hello everyone.. I have been dating this girl from last 8 months. We started slow and fell in love and kinda lived together for couple of months. Everything was great, but now i found out there were many thing she lied about, so i need some help to ...
A. 2 April 2011: I don't drink but 2 shots 2 beer sounds like a lot to me. The definition of a soul mate is someone you can share your all to, have nothing to hide, nothing to be ashamed about. To be comfortable with each other you need to adjust your lifestyles but ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can get past this or will be able to trust her. Please help!
Q. hello everyone.. I have been dating this girl from last 8 months. We started slow and fell in love and kinda lived together for couple of months. Everything was great, but now i found out there were many thing she lied about, so i need some help to ...
A. 1 April 2011: The part about her suggesting the guy to have a fling with the married woman is worrisome, and not so much that she had slept with him once. Hopefully she grew up and knew it's not a good idea to just treat sex that casually, and also to care about ... (read in full...)
I keep falling out of love. Is this a pattern, or just a coincidence?
Q. So me and my partner seem to by losing our spark, i hardly feel attracted to him anymore but i'm seeing a trend appearing. My first love i started to feel the spark had gone but found out he had cheated so we broke up. My 2nd serious relationsh...
A. 1 April 2011: With the right person you can never fall out of love. The first two were bad boys, the third was safe, but unattractive. It's good that you don't lead him on because it doesn't feel right. It's even better to not start a relationship in which you ... (read in full...)
He burned me. I've done everything I can to get over it, but it still hurts. Please help.
Q. I met a guy at work last year. We had a thing, for a few months, until I started to listen to the voice in my head about how he seemed to good to be true and yet always unavailable when I needed him. Surprise he's engaged to his gf of 8 years. I ...
A. 31 March 2011: The best revenge is the most difficult one, it's to not get reactive to whatever this scum does or brings to your life. if you can have that inner strength to depend on then nothing can shake you.... (read in full...)
GF has mood swings. What do I do?
Q. Okay well im 18 and me and my last gf dated 2 years and my current gf and me have been dating around 2 years...so its not my first rodeo....but to my question..my gf and me are generally very happy with each other but lately there are days were she ...
A. 31 March 2011: She has to know you don't intentionally cause her mood swings. If she's mad even when you did nothing, maybe doing nothing is the problem if she feels you are ignoring her. So if you have to wait till she gets moody to ask what's wrong it's already ... (read in full...)
He was once married and never told me!
Q. Hi there, I met my boyfriend 2 years ago and we have been living in the same house with his parents who own a big house and we wanted to save before we move out.About a year ago in April I found out that he was married and nobody told me,neith...
A. 31 March 2011: Just to clarify: They were officially divorced? She had no children with him because she miscarried twice?
A lot of us had done things that are young and dumb. Me included. As a single mom I know some men think virgins are better and more valu... (read in full...)
Does he still care for me?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, he is the one for me, you may all think I'm being ridiculous because I'm only 15, but I've been through a lot and I know what I want. He is absolutely lovely and I love him to pieces and I ...
A. 31 March 2011: What dirtball says is very true. I am working on this myself and I am shocked at how clueless men seem to be. There are differences between the male and female brain. What's important to you may not be important to him.
Caring is more than just... (read in full...)
He is not ready to commit to me because he is 'not the man he needs to be' - what does this mean?
Q. I have been dating a man going on two years now ... and I recently suggested that we take our relationship more serious level and commit to one another .... he told me he's not ready because he is not the man he needs to be right now .... what ...
A. 31 March 2011: Commiting to a woman for the rest of is life is a huge responsibility. He has to be financially stable, emotionally mature, be your guide and emotional rock. It means commiting not only when you have fun times, but also when you have bad times. What ... (read in full...)
He broke up because he didn't want the hassle of a girlfriend anymore
Q. About 10 weeks ago my bf broke up with me after nearly 2 years of being together. His reason? He didnt want the hassle of a gf anymore, wanted to do what he wants when he wants. Basically he wanted space. He is a huge mummys boy and plays footy and ...
A. 30 March 2011: A relationship with breathing space is good but you have to determine how much time is spent together, with friends, intimate time, and alone time. Having balance is important. So is lifestyle compatibility. Some men think breaking up is the only ... (read in full...)
He kissed me and then told me he has a gf ??
Q. im a girl aged 16.My problem is that i saw this guy,i just wanted to kiss him the minute i looked at him.Eventualy he came to me and aske to have a word with me.he told me that he liked me but ddnt ask for my number!!after that we stared into each ...
A. 30 March 2011: Treat that kiss as an expression that you found each other attractive and nothing more. If you choose to do something beyond that then you are betraying the other girl. You are young so it's a curiosity thing to see if you can love more than one ... (read in full...)
I don't want to stay with her, but I'm afraid what will happen if I divorce her. Please help!
Q. I am 32 years old and I've been married for almost 6 years now. While my wife is a wonderful person, a great friend and I do love her dearly in a "family" type of way, I feel absolutely no passion or physical chemistry in our relationship. She is an ...
A. 29 March 2011: The longer you stay the more paranoid you get. You know the separation would happen inevitably you just don't want to deal with it now. Don't just shove divorce papers in her face. I am sure you have talked your problems through a lot and nothing ... (read in full...)
Right now he doesn't love me back. Is there ever a chance?
Q. Can you help me with a confusion of mine, please? I can accept an honest answer... whether it's the one I want to hear or not. However, it would be great to hear from people who have stories about this topic that they can share with me. ...
A. 29 March 2011: It helps if there is sexual chemistry between you two. My current boyfriend was a casual lover who wanted no relationship no children no whatever. He had closed the door on love at the tender age of 40. He had made up excuses why a relationship ... (read in full...)
Why cant I just get a straight answer.
Q. Okay to me this makes no sense. Like im sure there is a good reason but im not getting it and it bothers me. Theres this guy that I worked with and we kind of hit it off had been working together for 3 months or so only talked at work then he got...
A. 29 March 2011: He doesn't want to admit he developed feelings for you. As much as a guy saying they don't want a relationship, they do want one, they do want to feel a woman's love. To not develop feelings, a person has to have one night stands and say bye have a ... (read in full...)
How do I get a woman in the mood for sex?
Q. I want to have sex with a girl how should I get her in the mood? ...
A. 29 March 2011: The first three responses are about how to get a girlfriend or wife to be in the mood for sex. I have a feeling that your question, especially, with a girl and not woman, is about how to get a random girl to have sex with you. If I am not wrong, ... (read in full...)
Why don't men have as much of a say when it comes to their children?
Q. I have a question that has been bugging me for awhile. What do you think of the fact that men don't seem to have much of a say when it comes to their children (planned or otherwise)? I'll use an example to illustrate. It's what has gotten me th...
A. 29 March 2011: Did he have a good lawyer to represent him or was he willing to spend that kind of money, time and effort to figure what's fair for him? 70% of divorces is initiated by women. The causes could be infidelity, abuse or simply just "not in love" an... (read in full...)
She loves her ex more than me and it hurts!
Q. Question: What should I do from now on? So my gf broke up with her ex (personA), whom she had been with for 3 years. The reason why she broke up with him was because she had a fight with him, and he said something mean when he was purposing to mar...
A. 29 March 2011: She has some growing up to do. I don't know why you are still discussing her ex. He's gone. To me she's only doing that to provoke you because she feels that jealousy is a sign of love. Maybe your response to her can be "sorry I am not interested in ... (read in full...)
Was my teacher genuine or will he forget me while I wait? He told me to cool until I'm no longer a student
Q. Okay, so I've been crushing on this teacher for a couple of years now, and we've gotten pretty close lately but he's been scolded and he told me we should cool things off for a while because he says he doesn't want to get me in trouble. He said he ...
A. 22 March 2011: I wonder what he did to get scolded. Doesn't sound good. A teacher wouldn't even attempt a relationship with a soon to be ex student. Even when you are officially out of school people who recognize you wouldn't approve of it. He had the intention of ... (read in full...)
Virgin at 20, should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?
Q. Hi i am a 20 yr old male and still a virgin. this fact depresses the hell out of me. everywhere i go theres people all having so much fun and i feel that im missing the best parts of my life and falling behind on much needed experience. most people ...
A. 22 March 2011: This site is too puritanical for my taste. I say go for it. I have no problems with guys having hired prostitutes. Just don't find a sleazy one like "just get it over with and hand me the money" type. Find one that's mature, patient, and will... (read in full...)
How do I stop my relationship with my Mom, with whom I used to be so close, from deteriorating?
Q. Hey, I really hope you guys can give me advice! My relationship with my mom, as a daughter, is going from bad to horrible. When I was a child, we did everything together from shopping to swimming. I miss that. I've become so, so horrible in terms of ...
A. 22 March 2011: Your pain as the unwanted child has never been processed and it all came out at an uncontrollable moment. Talk to your mom that you want to become better. A trained therapist would help you ways to come to terms with what happened, why, and help you ... (read in full...)
Married, Affair, Need advice on how to choose.
Q. I am a 45-year-old female married for 27 years with two grown children and 4 grandchildren. Two years ago my family went through something devastating with our son and it caused me to question whether I loved my husband or not. I started flirtling ...
A. 22 March 2011: Your husband just started to realize the damage caused to the marriage. He still has to learn how to be the man to make you happy. If you choose the affair you are telling your husband you are not going to give him that chance and forgive him. If ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't give me blow jobs anymore!
Q. so I have a question for you guys on here, I'm sure there are other posts on here about the same subject on here. I have been happily married for 6 years now and wouldn't change a single thing except for one. my wife does not give me blow jobs any ...
A. 22 March 2011: At the beginning there was a lot of passion. Sex felt more carefree. You may see yourselves as parents and life can be tiresome. Bring her out on romantic dates. Tell her what a blow job does to you. For example, it makes you feel loved, manly, it ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be whole again?
Q. My boyfriend for about a year and a half recently decided he couldn't be my boyfriend anymore. He is getting ready to graduate college while I still remain in school. Ultimately it is because he feels he can't do a long distance relationship and ...
A. 22 March 2011: I find this website will be helpful to you.
http://theeverydayshaman.ning.com/profiles/blogs/on-shamanism-and-soul
I had a break up after Christmas and we didn't speak for a week. When I couldn't sleep I would ask my angel/spirit question... (read in full...)
She loves her ex more than me and it hurts!
Q. Question: What should I do from now on? So my gf broke up with her ex (personA), whom she had been with for 3 years. The reason why she broke up with him was because she had a fight with him, and he said something mean when he was purposing to mar...
A. 21 March 2011: Next time she talks about marriage, tell her you enjoy being with her but need time to think about it. There is a lot of what's wrong, what should be. You need to have more fun and create some fond memories so when there are bad times you can recall ... (read in full...)
She loves her ex more than me and it hurts!
Q. Question: What should I do from now on? So my gf broke up with her ex (personA), whom she had been with for 3 years. The reason why she broke up with him was because she had a fight with him, and he said something mean when he was purposing to mar...
A. 21 March 2011: She says she loves her ex. What you wrote here shows that her love wasn't that deep. She should be supporting her ex's dreams to go to school abroad, and then find ways to move to that country so she could be with him, like applying for scholarship, ... (read in full...)
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