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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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My fiance got a vasectomy behind my back !!!!
Q. I am 32 and my fiance is 45, we had a baby a year ago after not being able to for many years. My fiance that I have been with for 5 years got a vasectomy behind my back 6 months after the baby was born. I would love to have another child in the ...
A. 12 March 2011: I don't think he's unkind to you. Even if he stayed with you he wouldn't have any more kids. He only changes his mind because he is not ready to let you go. Love is hard to find. Considering his age, finding a woman his age without kids is hard, a ... (read in full...)
My fiance got a vasectomy behind my back !!!!
Q. I am 32 and my fiance is 45, we had a baby a year ago after not being able to for many years. My fiance that I have been with for 5 years got a vasectomy behind my back 6 months after the baby was born. I would love to have another child in the ...
A. 11 March 2011: HMMMM, a woman's love versus freedom from more children and he made that decision without you. He loves you enough to continue being with you, but took the risk and hope you can let go of the idea of having more children. Here's someone who changes ... (read in full...)
He said he had a great time and then just vanished!
Q. I went on a date last Saturday night with a guy I had met a few times before. I was thrilled when he asked me out for a drink as I had liked him for a while. We had a lovely evening. The conversation flowed and we spent hours just chatting until t...
A. 11 March 2011: I won't be surprised if he contacts you tomorrow. If that's the case don't be available to him. You have to let him know that your time is so important that he has to call you in advance. You don't work around his schedule. Some guys don't like to ... (read in full...)
We shared a bed, he kissed me, and then acted normal the next morning.
Q. Well Ive been here for ages and have gotten some great advice, and now I need some more! I ended things with my long term bf in August, it was as amicable of a split as possible, and I was really and truely over him, by the time it ended. No...
A. 11 March 2011: You mean what should you do so he would ask you out?
Wondering where you live? If housemates are fighting why don't you just go back to your own place?
He saw there was a chance to be physically close to you and he grabbed it. I think you should j... (read in full...)
I cant sleep with my boyfriend's snoring!
Q. Hey readers, I don't know what to do - whenever I spend the night with my bf, his snoring and loud breathing keeps me awake so I can't get to sleep til, like, 5am! I don't know what to do about it. We've been together 6 months, and he knows he ...
A. 9 March 2011: Most people snore. Some people say sew a tennis ball under your partner's shirt, or pinch him whenever he's snoring. I think that's just rude and it won't be long before he snores again. I used nose strips. They don't work so we sleep in different ... (read in full...)
Online dating: IMing for only a week and now she's telling me that we're twin souls! Advice?
Q. I met this girl through a dating site. We've been IMing for only a week and now she's telling me that we're twin souls, that I'm what she's been looking for all her life. She said fate brought us together. We've been exchanging fantasies about ...
A. 8 March 2011: I am guilty of using these lines myself when I was not even expecting anything. This is something I did to impress a guy to standout from the others, and to ensure a date. Don't take it literally. If it's meant to be it will happen. If it doesn't, ... (read in full...)
Am I addicted to him? If so, what can I do?
Q. When you read the title you might probably think that I am promiscuous and flirt all the time. No, I am actually in a normal relationship with my boyfriend. I just need help because while the sex is very good, I feel empty the next day. My boyfriend ...
A. 8 March 2011: I am greatly satisfied, that's why I feel empty the next morning because it's like heaven and then all of a sudden, it's nothing. I am happy with the frequency of sex. Just the in between that's painful.
My original question was, "what do you do t... (read in full...)
Dating a momma's boy... Any advise?
Q. my boyfriend does not see the harm in talking to his very protective mother about all our problems and assuming that i will blindly follow what his mother thinks, he thinks my mom "is full of crap" when it comes to relationships. his parents are a ...
A. 8 March 2011: It looks like his parents have his whole life planned out for him, including who he dates. I don't wish that kind of life on anyone. I advise you to distance yourself from him until he can see that he's a separate individual, and not an extension of ... (read in full...)
I'm away at uni - me and my boyfriend don't miss each other. is this OK?
Q. Basically ive been with my bf for over a year. We have a really good sex life, so much fun together, were really open with other and as soon as either of us have a problem we let each other know, before it becomes a problem. He's honestly my best ...
A. 8 March 2011: You can trust your gut here. You distant yourselves from each other not because you don't care, rather it's to protect you from frustration, or the pain if something goes wrong like one of you falls in love with another person. It's also like out of ... (read in full...)
Is it all lies? am I supposed to believe it? Can anyone confirm the truth?
Q. is it true that a woman who has been with her partner for a given period, and where he has a small penis, would she get sick of it after a while and wish for a man with a bigger penis ? Because after a while does her vagina get bigger to the poin...
A. 6 March 2011: A woman will never tire of a man with a 3, 4, 5, inches. That's true. If you had to choose, would you rather have a 3 inch man, with a good career, gentle and loving, or a 6 inch man, with a good career, gentle and loving? Can you really say that... (read in full...)
Is it all lies? am I supposed to believe it? Can anyone confirm the truth?
Q. is it true that a woman who has been with her partner for a given period, and where he has a small penis, would she get sick of it after a while and wish for a man with a bigger penis ? Because after a while does her vagina get bigger to the poin...
A. 5 March 2011: After childbirth it is a vulnerable time for a woman. Her body changed and she becomes insecure and feels unattractive. I did not plan to have a C section. I cried in the hospital when I signed the consent form. Afterwards I was happy because it did ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to look at me and not naked pictures??
Q. my husband loves me dearly but will not stop looking at porn, but will not look at me. what do i do? weve been married for 17 years. ...
A. 5 March 2011: It's a "he loves you but not in love with you" kind of thing. Think about precisely at what point did he stop looking at you. Are you satisfied in bed? Is he confident about his sexual abilities? I believe you need to ask us because when you talk to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is incredibly blunt and moody with me and I am not sure if I can take much more of walking on eggshells....
Q. My girlfriend is 42 and I m 38. We have been having a long distance relationship for 5 months. I visit her every other weekend and on the whole it is great. However, she can be incredibly blunt and moody with me even if something that has annoyed ...
A. 5 March 2011: When a relationship is fresh and people could only see each other once a week, they would cherish the time together and present their best selves. Guys pull away constantly, without any clear reason, but you do here. I believe you are putting up ... (read in full...)
Am I ready to settle down with this girl who's sexually more experienced than me or do I need to go away and have more sexual partners?
Q. I am in my early thirties. My girlfriend is in her late twenties. She is my first real girlfriend. Sad I know but I just hadn't been in the right places at the right time to meet that somebody special until last year. Basically I am not exactly Mr ...
A. 5 March 2011: There is no reason to leave your girlfriend right now so just work on having the best sex ever. Read the kama sutra together. Give each other sensual massages. You would know if the sex is good for both partners. Having more girls does not ... (read in full...)
My penis size insecurity is driving me completely paranoid!!
Q. I love my girlfriend, I absolutely love her, and she and I are both virgins and aren't going to have sex until we're married. But I'm super self conscious about the size of my penis..I'm 5 1/2 inches fully erect, but if I flex it gets to 6 inches, ...
A. 5 March 2011: Imagine yourself growing up as a girl, never having to walk with a bag of meat between your legs. A penis, whatever size, is going to be intimidating for a girl. The first penis I touched was barely 4 inches, and I was so shy I was shaking. I ... (read in full...)
Should I get in touch with an old love after he supposedly said really mean and nasty things about me?
Q. A few years ago, my partner's best friend (let's call him "C") was living in a camper in the backyard. C would always make me dinner and we would hang out in the yard every night. Then suddenly we were hanging out all the time, every day, every ...
A. 5 March 2011: What made you think about C as if there's no one else these 3 years?
How can you be sure that your ex didn't lie? It's possible that he wanted you to think badly of C so that even though you were leaving your ex, you wouldn't hook up with his frie... (read in full...)
Married at 22, been trying to fall pregnant for 8 years now, please advise
Q. i need advise urgently.i got married when i was 22 ive been trying to fall pregnant for 8 years!is it possible that i may not have kids i am cying day and night i dont know what to do pls help me...
A. 5 March 2011: Go to the doctor. It could be you or it could be your husband's low sperm count. It doesn't have to be a sad situation. I imagine if I am barren I would be happy to adopt. Rather than wallowing my body's dysfunction, I would choose to accept that's ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still feel bitter 7 years later?
Q. Is it wrong to still feel bitter about a relationship seven years later? This girl I really liked dumped me on prom. I went nuts on her after. THings never worked out. Fast forward to today. I'm 24. I'm angry and bitter because I haven't found ...
A. 5 March 2011: Life sometimes doesn't go your way. When you like someone it doesn't give you entitlement to be liked back. You can't just blame your life problems on her. if she really got a bad disease, then what? Would that make you happy? Would she realize she ... (read in full...)
Do I bring this up to him or just let it go?
Q. My future husband and I had a fight about this woman that he works with over the fact that she texts/calls alot. (He is 25 and she is 45). She knows about me and she is just a very friendly person - - she messages me on facebook alot about getting ...
A. 4 March 2011: You can let it go. They saw that their relationship makes you uncomfortable and it became awkward. At the same time he's sad that their friendship is not the same. His text was not about flirting, but a regret that he can't be friends anymore.This ... (read in full...)
I have somewhat of an existential crisis. Please help
Q. I have absolutely no idea where to go from here. I recently broke up with my boyfriend for probably the sixth time after finding him have cyber sex with random girls. I want to stay broken up for good, I really do, but it is almost impossible for me ...
A. 4 March 2011: Can you try to forgive whatever happened in the past, and grieve for your lost childhood, and the warm, loving mother or father you never had? There was never anyone who told you you are good, and worthy of love. Can you do that to yourself? When I ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a partner's ego/pride?
Q. One thing I have a hard time dealing with other people's pride, particularly when I am in a close relationship. It gets me so frustrated when a person can't admit they are wrong, or they see themselves as always good, and they never feel remorse. ...
A. 4 March 2011: Depends on what that person did. If she set the stove on fire, or scratched your car, didn't apologize but instead try to blame someone, then something is wrong. Also how frequently that happens. You try to make your partner your equal, not someone ... (read in full...)
I think I might be bisexual or bi-curious, how do I tell people this?
Q. Ok I think I'm either bisexual or bi-curious. And I'm not too sure how the girl I like will respond if she finds out. Please help how should I go about telling people about it? Thanks ...
A. 3 March 2011: I am bisexual but I don't act on my feelings because what are the odds that girls would like me that way too? I am happy with my man, he's quite enough for me. He tells me it's okay for us to explore occasionally, like 3 times a year at the most.
T... (read in full...)
Female input needed!
Q. For women only. How would you feel if a guy that you are interested in had 9 inch long penis?...
A. 3 March 2011: My first reaction would be. Oh, he's going to stretch that out. It's going to hit the cervix so he has to be gentle. For woman on top position it's going to be difficult unless I wear 9 inch heals and I have to go slow because obviously I can't be ... (read in full...)
He's so mysterious, is that bad? How can I get him to open up more?
Q. Thanks for reading. There's a guy who's been really patient with me and persistent to know me and I've become interested in him. Here's the snag, he's a bit mysterious and doesn't talk much about himself. I really have to think of things to ask hi...
A. 28 February 2011: I am guessing you are only seeing, as in talking to this one guy. If you have more guys to choose from, I am sure you will easily ditch this one. At this point you will still be polite with him. After you've been patient for too long you would just ... (read in full...)
He's so mysterious, is that bad? How can I get him to open up more?
Q. Thanks for reading. There's a guy who's been really patient with me and persistent to know me and I've become interested in him. Here's the snag, he's a bit mysterious and doesn't talk much about himself. I really have to think of things to ask hi...
A. 28 February 2011: Mixed signals? I get no signal from him. He's too slow. If he isn't sharing anything that's because he doesn't want to be known. It's better to have a guy who brags about his job or talent than have someone who has nothing to say. I don't want to ... (read in full...)
I gave my boyfriend my first hand job. Was his reaction good or bad?
Q. Well, I gave my first handjob after wracking my brain for two weeks about doing it. My boyfriend and I were together a month and a half last year in September/October. He broke up with me, and we got back together in December and are still together...
A. 28 February 2011: You made him feel good. There really isn't a lot of technique for a hand job although some guys would prefer finishing it themselves. Feeling shy for a penis is totally acceptable since you are supposed to revere the strength of his manhood. It's ... (read in full...)
He's Not So Good at Compromising
Q. This is going to make a few people chuckle, I guarantee it :) I adore my boyfriend with my whole heart, and we're definitely heading down the serious road. We're about to graduate, and we've been talking about moving in together after we get more...
A. 28 February 2011: You are going to chuckle at my story too. I have boyfriend and he's not the father of my son. We are going to live together soon. On the weekends my son and I stay at his place. My boyfriend likes spicy food and my son doesn't. We compromise by ... (read in full...)
1 last thing before we settle, should I let him?
Q. I have been friends with my guy for over 10 years and we hooked up at new year, 2010. We are both in our late 30's and it feels very serious and we are discussing getting married and having kids. Basically he booked a holiday to Thailand before w...
A. 27 February 2011: Out of all the places he chose Thailand. Yes asian girls are hot but I think you are all aware what Thailand is popular for. I would not get married to him. He sounds suspicious. I know it's very romantic to talk about marriage so soon but make sure ... (read in full...)
We both just got out of other relationships. I like him, but he acts hot and cold toward me! Why?
Q. Well where to start with this one ... My boyfriend, now ex boyfriend, who I was with for 4 years, (I am now 20), well we have split up and it has been very hard for me. He was my first love and boyfriend but we have been through some very difficult ...
A. 27 February 2011: This is what a rebound feels like. You still think about your ex a lot, you compare everybody with your ex, and still, no one could compare with your ex. You try to like the new person, you want to get used to the new person as quickly as possible, ... (read in full...)
I am in llove with my bestfriend
Q. Unfortunately, I am in love with my best friend. We've been really close for a year now; at the beginning of the year, we flirted all the time, had hours upon hours of conversation on skype...then, we became even closer and started sharing all our ...
A. 27 February 2011: Flirting does not necessarily mean interested. It's just like wearing a T-Shirt saying "I am available." Sometimes guys put on a front (aka masculine pretense) because they don't really know how to act around girls besides flirting with them. Maybe ... (read in full...)
I met a guy with similar interests, and Asperger’s, like me. Will he ever want more than a friendship with me?
Q. A few weeks ago, I met a mutual friend of a friend on Facebook. He, like me, is an intelligent, high-functioning Asperger's Syndrome-affected teenager, nearly three years older, but I am nearly seventeen, and has many similar hobbies and ...
A. 26 February 2011: I think Asperger's is more common than you think. You are very young, so you are still trying to figure out your wants and needs and boundaries. I think he wants sex. Not that there is anything wrong with that. He's still getting to know you. You ... (read in full...)
I've always found it hard to make friends. I thought it would change when I went to Uni, but it hasn't! Please help!
Q. I know there are a lot of pleas for help on how not to be so lonely and how to make more friends but here is mine, another to add to the list! The only time when I feel comfortable and I can truly be myself (whoever that is) is when I am with my ...
A. 26 February 2011: I am the same as you, except that I am 30. I grew up always thinking there is something wrong with myself. I decide I am going to accept the way I am. The reason why I don't make friends is because I have no interest. No one, especially my parents, ... (read in full...)
He's not persuing me like he used to. Why does he no longer want to hang out with me?
Q. I met this guy at a bar and he took my number and started texting the next day. We went on a date and he kept persuing me for more dates and everything was going great. He invited me to meet his parents, I hung out with his friends but we both nev...
A. 26 February 2011: You know what, there are people who come and go, mostly just go and asked me for numbers and in my mind I would sigh, and think, "like you are gonna call." They would bump into me from time to time and act all buddy buddy again. They would promise ... (read in full...)
How do I let go of the married man I care about?
Q. How do I let go of someone I really care about? We never had an affair but we had feelings for each other. He is married and so am I but it will never be....
A. 25 February 2011: When you ask a question like this, you are implying what you are having is good. How can you let go of something that's so good and addictive? Reality is that you and him will never be. So what you are having is an illusion. What you do with ... (read in full...)
I just don't want to end up in a sex-less marriage. Please help.
Q. I have been with my man for a few years now and we are engaged to be married in a few months time. Recently the sexual part of the relationship seems to be non existent. Its been at least two and a half weeks since we last had sex and we are lucky ...
A. 25 February 2011: There are many possibilities why men don't want sex. Stress, financial problems, relationship problems, low testosterone, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, not being able to make you cum, worrying about future, feeling tied down, etc. I ... (read in full...)
I need no-contact in order to move on, he agreed then sent me a text!
Q. Was with a guy for five years, engaged and lived together for two of those! He broke it off with me, been split now over seven months. Been a pretty rocky road ever since, talking one minute, not the next. ! He rang a few weeks back in tears, s...
A. 25 February 2011: You never mentioned the reason of breakup so I am just going to assume it's the obvious: like he got cold feet, he's worried about money, you fight about stupid things.
You wouldn't have asked this question if your mind is clear. You would have just... (read in full...)
I fell for my girlfriend's best friend!
Q. Hello readers, I am glad to be able to find support here.. Because I have asked numerous questions about numerous issues and have gotten strong and wonderful response which has led to me being able to grow so much stronger in my relationship. ...
A. 24 February 2011: You want them both to live with you? Don't entertain the idea unless you allow a fourth guy in. Otherwise it would be all about you.... (read in full...)
I fell for my girlfriend's best friend!
Q. Hello readers, I am glad to be able to find support here.. Because I have asked numerous questions about numerous issues and have gotten strong and wonderful response which has led to me being able to grow so much stronger in my relationship. ...
A. 23 February 2011: We all conform to social norms of loving only one person because it makes life simpler and drama free. We by nature, are able to love everyone unconditionally. The marriage institution, the domestication of partners, makes love very limited. It is i... (read in full...)
He says he wants more of a relationship but does not want to be pressured into it. Where does that leave me?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a about 7 months now. When we met it was out of the blue, I was enjoying my lunch...and what I found out later is he saw me from outside when I walked into the restaurant. He followed me in, got himself lunch and then ...
A. 22 February 2011: The strongest kind of love is when you can allow someone to have doubts, insecurities, or even occasionally let it out on you. He's shying away from the title because he's afraid he can't make you happy, due to his financial situation. He can't ... (read in full...)
Husband agreed to counseling until I made the appointment. Then he backed out...help!
Q. I found out that my husband has been on sex webcams and been getting erotic massages and spent over $200 in 8 days. I confronted him and to my supprise he did not deny it or blame me and agreed to go to counseling. Well I made the appointment and ...
A. 22 February 2011: You can solve this yourself. You made him look like he has a psychological problem or a sex addiction when in fact he's too scared to ask for what he needs from you. Tell him how hurt you are that he didn't consider you to fulfill his intimacy ... (read in full...)
He says he wants more of a relationship but does not want to be pressured into it. Where does that leave me?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a about 7 months now. When we met it was out of the blue, I was enjoying my lunch...and what I found out later is he saw me from outside when I walked into the restaurant. He followed me in, got himself lunch and then ...
A. 21 February 2011: I think it's a very empowering thing to be comfortable with not knowing where it's going. You show him that you are totally happy with the way it is. You are still very young. Your biological clock is not ticking yet. Next time he says he feels ... (read in full...)
What defines a soul mate and how can you tell who is likely to be a soul mate?
Q. I always believed there was a person out there for everyone but after my gf of 2 years who was the love of my life and I broke up I have sort of lost faith in relationships and am quite weary to get into another one in the near future. What do you ...
A. 21 February 2011: A soul mate is not a guarantee that your relationship will continue till death do us part. It's more like a mystery. When you look into her eyes you see a glimpse of eternity. Some women walk with you on a longer path, some just short ones but each ... (read in full...)
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