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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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She loves her ex more than me and it hurts!
Q. Question: What should I do from now on? So my gf broke up with her ex (personA), whom she had been with for 3 years. The reason why she broke up with him was because she had a fight with him, and he said something mean when he was purposing to mar...
A. 29 March 2011: She has some growing up to do. I don't know why you are still discussing her ex. He's gone. To me she's only doing that to provoke you because she feels that jealousy is a sign of love. Maybe your response to her can be "sorry I am not interested in ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be whole again?
Q. My boyfriend for about a year and a half recently decided he couldn't be my boyfriend anymore. He is getting ready to graduate college while I still remain in school. Ultimately it is because he feels he can't do a long distance relationship and ...
A. 22 March 2011: I find this website will be helpful to you.
http://theeverydayshaman.ning.com/profiles/blogs/on-shamanism-and-soul
I had a break up after Christmas and we didn't speak for a week. When I couldn't sleep I would ask my angel/spirit question... (read in full...)
She loves her ex more than me and it hurts!
Q. Question: What should I do from now on? So my gf broke up with her ex (personA), whom she had been with for 3 years. The reason why she broke up with him was because she had a fight with him, and he said something mean when he was purposing to mar...
A. 21 March 2011: Next time she talks about marriage, tell her you enjoy being with her but need time to think about it. There is a lot of what's wrong, what should be. You need to have more fun and create some fond memories so when there are bad times you can recall ... (read in full...)
She loves her ex more than me and it hurts!
Q. Question: What should I do from now on? So my gf broke up with her ex (personA), whom she had been with for 3 years. The reason why she broke up with him was because she had a fight with him, and he said something mean when he was purposing to mar...
A. 21 March 2011: She says she loves her ex. What you wrote here shows that her love wasn't that deep. She should be supporting her ex's dreams to go to school abroad, and then find ways to move to that country so she could be with him, like applying for scholarship, ... (read in full...)
We're just drinking buddies?
Q. We are "just friends" he says, but our last together time was 7 hours of chatting, watching sports, dinner, drinks at his place and this is weekly, says he is attracted to me but we are just drinking buddies. So what do you think? Oh yea, I was ...
A. 20 March 2011: I think your answer lies in your last sentence. He will do everything to occupy his time, but he won't be open his door to love again to avoid hurt. Moms are safe, they will always be there so that's what he needs you to be. I don't know of any moms ... (read in full...)
Husband says I can't handle criticism
Q. hi! ours is a love marriage. Both of us are doctors. No matter how much work I do at home, it doesnt satisfy him. For ex, when my maid didnt come, i cleaned the house, washed dishes and clothes, cooked, went to work and after coming back i prepared ...
A. 20 March 2011: Either have him do some housework or have a live in nanny. You are both doctors and you deserve some quiet time to yourself. Having a young child can be the most testing period in your relationship. When you both calm down, express your feelings in ... (read in full...)
Should I believe my boyfriend that nothing is going on?
Q. Should I believe my boyfriend that nothing is going on or not? He has received calls and text messages from his exes and one asked if I was pregnant yet. When she found out I am on pills she stated smart move. I feel like I am losing him to them ...
A. 20 March 2011: Your sexual life is none of their business. Why does he feel the need to talk to not one, but two exes? Ask him why he's talking with his exes and what he's deriving from it. You may have your own reasons for delaying the baby making decision. This ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a complete bore with sex!
Q. My partner is a complete bore in sex and ejaculates in about five minutes and then when He is satisfied He won't carry on and please me! someone tell me what to do x...
A. 20 March 2011: Tell him to read about tantra sexual techniques to stay hard and to hold off ejaculation. He should stop and rest every time he feels like cumming. I think all men should learn to become better lovers themselves before entering any relationships. I ... (read in full...)
She's moody, I want her to dump me. Love's faded. What can I do?
Q. So heres my story: Ive been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years now, im 20 now and she is 10 months older, and have been with her since i was around 16, shes my first serious relationship. And shes the only girl ive ever slept with. We met ...
A. 19 March 2011: The question title is too short to describe her merely as moody.
What's wrong with dumping her? Do you wait till she breaks things in your house, steals your money, hide your keys, make you lose your only job?
Talk to her parents because she can'... (read in full...)
What can or should I do? we broke up, but he's giving me mixed signals
Q. Hi dearCupid, I have been getting extremely mixed signal from my ex boyfriend. The story is, he dumped me about a week ago, but we still live together, and will be living together until July. The confusing part is he pays attention to what I ...
A. 19 March 2011: "He doesn't want to be together." What else could that mean. I am guessing it could mean I want to have fun with you, but I can't guarantee I want to spend my whole life with you. There is a period when a guy comtemplates about the pros and cons of ... (read in full...)
Am I still being played by my tourism employed fiance?
Q. Thanks for the help you guys have provided in previous threads. I think that I suffer from jealousy a lot of the time. The stuff with that married guy turned out to be nothing. They don't communicate with each other anymore. But I still have thing...
A. 18 March 2011: Oh my god you are still with her? How many "drop her like a hot brick" responses do you need to get? It's like you stay in a relationship just so you have something to complain about. She is not a bad person. You just have different ways of thinking ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable for me to skip the birthday party if his ex is invited?
Q. I'm 20 and have been with my boyfriend just over half a year. Just over a year ago, he broke up with his current girlfriend of about 4 years because he says he didn't have feelings for her for the last 2 years of their relationship and just stayed ...
A. 18 March 2011: I know that if my boyfriend invited his ex to a party I would be uncomfortable. One day my bf thought she's knocking on his door uninvited, I freaked out and said I didn't want to see her at all. Some people would suggest you go so you can show her ... (read in full...)
Saw her naked for the first time and was kinda freaked out
Q. okay, i need help, i am 21, my gf is 19.. she is really sweet n caring, we re both the first one for each other.. we ve been in relationship for abt a year now. we decided to take things slow, but last evening we were making out and she removed ...
A. 18 March 2011: Long lips are normal. My boyfriend likes mine. He likes the appearance of it because it resembles flower petals and also they give him the extra "wrapping" sensation. In porn the girls do cosmetic surgery down there to reshape it under the ... (read in full...)
I don't feel anything for my husband and I don't know if I ever did
Q. Hi, I am a married woman with a major problem. I don't feel anything for my husband anymore. I don't know if I ever felt anything for him. He entered my life at a time where I was very emotionally vulnerable and I craved a relationship. ...
A. 18 March 2011: The issue here is not about attraction or no attraction. You are in an abusive relationship and you are justifying his behavior and you are blaming yourself for things gone wrong. You are undermining your problems and you aren't able to think ... (read in full...)
Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???
Q. Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...
A. 18 March 2011: It depends on where you live. Certain ethnic groups or religion stress more importance on being a good girl, meaning waiting and waiting. Young girls have an internal conflict, they are sexually frustrated, rebel against tradition and explores. When ... (read in full...)
Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???
Q. Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...
A. 17 March 2011: Good point, chigirl. It goes both ways. Here you get more women complaining but men just suffer in silence because they are the sex that's not supposed to be weak. They are not supposed to show their feelings.
"Am I just a one night stand?"
Liste... (read in full...)
Normal guys don't turn down hot girls, do they? Is he lying or gay?
Q. Okay so I'm a 16 year old girl and I like(d) a guy in my class, we really started talking a lot more this year and I know that he liked me a couple of years ago. So There were signs that he liked me too, like , he wrote to me and he never had ...
A. 17 March 2011: I don't think you did anything wrong. You are frustrated from the waiting and that's just how it came out. Some guys only ask girls out when they are 100% sure they won't be rejected, cheated upon, and that the girls think of them as kings. They ... (read in full...)
The more I've got to know my husband, the less I like him!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been married to my husband for over a 1.5 yr ago i..e we signed the marriage certificate almost 2 yrs ago and i moved with him 6 months after signing him. Few months after signing him we had fights regarding issues with his frie...
A. 17 March 2011: You should tell him you want a divorce because your wish is to be in a mutually happy marriage and you feel like he's just using you as a prop since all his friends are married, and that he can't marry to his dream girl and nothing ever works his ... (read in full...)
Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???
Q. Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...
A. 17 March 2011: Because players are a challenge. Women want to feel like they are a special something that changes a players' mind. When the guy doesn't want her she feels like she just became another number, and that hurts her ego. Failing to gain a relationship, ... (read in full...)
Normal guys don't turn down hot girls, do they? Is he lying or gay?
Q. Okay so I'm a 16 year old girl and I like(d) a guy in my class, we really started talking a lot more this year and I know that he liked me a couple of years ago. So There were signs that he liked me too, like , he wrote to me and he never had ...
A. 17 March 2011: He viewed your behavior as aggressive, that only boy collectors do. Maybe somehow he felt that a girl who would like him would act shy and more lady like. "Why don't you tell me you like me?" is a common line that guys use to shift the blame when he ... (read in full...)
Why has he suddenly gone quiet?
Q. Hello! I'll try and keep this brief! I've been chatting to a guy online for the last month, everyday. It first started off with 4 emails each everyday. Then as I've been off work it was more frequent, sometimes chatting for 5/6 hours etc. He ...
A. 17 March 2011: He got to know the basics of who you are, and then decided maybe a relationship won't be a good idea because of the distance. He knows you are looking elsewhere so you shouldn't bother with him when another guy can offer you more by being close to ... (read in full...)
Normal guys don't turn down hot girls, do they? Is he lying or gay?
Q. Okay so I'm a 16 year old girl and I like(d) a guy in my class, we really started talking a lot more this year and I know that he liked me a couple of years ago. So There were signs that he liked me too, like , he wrote to me and he never had ...
A. 17 March 2011: The only sign that a guy likes you is by asking you out.
The party happened at your house. I don't know where your parents were but a sensible boy would not want to make out with some girl and then get caught by another family member. I would say ... (read in full...)
I miss him, I'm heartbroken, but giving everything wasn't enough for him
Q. Two weeks past since I broke up with him, and I am totally heart broken. All I can think about is him. When I wake up, walk to class, ride the bus, go to work, come back home, and before I go to sleep. My mind and heart are making sure that I am not ...
A. 16 March 2011: The way to an indifferent man's heart is not to give more, but to pull back. You should only give when you know your efforts will be appreciated. Love should flow easily and effortlessly. Either he is afraid of committment, or he just doesn't love ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why my parents can't be happy that I've found someone like my boyfriend.
Q. Due to the fact that I am still in high school, my parents disapprove of my relationship. They think it is too serious for my age and that it will keep me from doing things like going to college. Here's the thing, NOTHING will EVER keep me fro...
A. 16 March 2011: Parents are not perfect. Your mom is not going to honestly say to you she has mid life crisis, she's worried you become so independent you don't need her anymore, she needs you to play the script of mom and daughter fight, she is afraid of facing ... (read in full...)
Father in law is creeping me out!
Q. Hello All!! So I have a problem. My father in law. He is starting to creep me out. He has always been very interetsed in me. Meaning he always trys to make conversation with me any time we are around each other. I am young and shy, so i dont really ...
A. 15 March 2011: There are no hard rules as to what to do. This subject is really taboo. No one dares to describe in laws as monsters, literally. If I were you, I would stop going to functions whenever your in law would be around. And if you knew he was coming, you ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why my parents can't be happy that I've found someone like my boyfriend.
Q. Due to the fact that I am still in high school, my parents disapprove of my relationship. They think it is too serious for my age and that it will keep me from doing things like going to college. Here's the thing, NOTHING will EVER keep me fro...
A. 15 March 2011: I don't know what your parents said exactly. Your parents had been there before and they know all relationships start with great hopes. Only time can tell if you will be happy in the long run. Welcome to the adult world. You can be happy one day, ... (read in full...)
He is my best friend. We've talked about finding the 'real thing' but could he be the 'real thing' for me?
Q. Are we in love, me and my best friend ? He is my best friend, I consider him the male version of me, he says the same about me being the female version of him, we know that's true and it's obvious to anyone who sees us together, always suspectin...
A. 15 March 2011: There are couples who started out as best friends. The next step is to figure out if there's sexual chemistry. That's the thing that distinguishes you from brothers and sisters, and lovers. If I were you I would feel betrayed that he took that long ... (read in full...)
He gives off signals that he rejects me. Should I just be happy that we are together?
Q. I'm 24 dating a man who is 39. He's been in previous relationships that ended in them having children, his woman taking all his money then saying bye, "I'm leaving you for someone else and I'm taking the kids" I understand his issues, I'm patient ...
A. 15 March 2011: He is trying to get back at women for what his ex did to him. Don't pay for his ex's mistakes. A 24 can look like a 34 year old with make up and choice of dress. You don't have to bother with anything like that. He is only with you so that he can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't have sex with me - for no reason!
Q. Right, got a bit of a big problem. I've been with my bf for over a year now and we still haven't had sex. I'm a virgin, but he has done it quite a few times with his ex. When they went out, they had sex after about half a year, so why is he so ...
A. 15 March 2011: It's possible he's still not over his ex and that he felt sex complicated things and everything seemed to go downhill after that. Your private lives is none of his friends business. He felt betrayed, ashamed and embarrassed because his friends could ... (read in full...)
I'm confident in other ways but lost when it comes to girls. How do I fix this?
Q. I'm a 25 year old guy and I've been single all my life. I've never had a girlfriend, never dated and have never really kissed anyone for that matter. Most everyone I know would say that I'm a friendly, easy to get along with, genuine kind of ...
A. 15 March 2011: A stable home, a provider is not all that a woman wants. A woman also doesn't want a man who just stare at them like a predator and go "hehehe." Find a perfect balance. You have wonderful qualities but you can develop your seductive side. I know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looked at porn before we had sex. Should I confront him?
Q. The other night I was really in the mood, and thought that my boyfriend was as well (we were texting each other all week long about these new condoms we couldn't wait to try). When the time came, he said he wasn't in the mood and that he needs to ...
A. 15 March 2011: Some guys look at porn to get themselves ready, meaning hard before the act. It's only a problem if that's the only thing he can depend on. There are many things you can do to make him hard. Men are visual, porn is something that jump starts the ... (read in full...)
Travelled 1000's of miles for the love of my life .
Q. I met this girl when i was in college. Initially we were very good friend and then we fell in love. After college she went abroad for higher studies and I took up a job. We shared 3 yrs of relationship but half of it was long distance. She used to ...
A. 14 March 2011: She wants to be liked, but she doesn't want you. You gambled and lost. Your love didn't survive past the initial sparks, or the infatuation. The promises meant nothing if you only count on the sweet little nothings uttered at a moment of passion, ... (read in full...)
We've been broken up for about 3 months. I can't tell if she has really moved on, or if she is trying to fill some void.
Q. So my ex and I had been dating for a year. We broke up on Halloween and still talked/hooked up for about a month. At the end of that month we had a big fight and immediately following she started sleeping around....a lot. Multiple guys per week, ...
A. 14 March 2011: What she does with her life is irrelevant now. Some people get destroyed and refused to go into a relationship for years, some people sleep around. Knowing about her sexual lifestyle is not really helping you move on.
People move on when they feel... (read in full...)
She broke her promise not to tell him!
Q. I tell my friend CR all my secrets she is like my sista. I was texting her the other day I was thinking about breaking up with my BF because of all the drama in my life right now. She told me she wasn't gonna tell him either. When I got to school ...
A. 14 March 2011: It's easier to say things you don't fully mean when you are texting. Thinking about breaking up because of all the drama in your life is totally different from wanting to break up, period. You have to straighten it out with your boyfriend, not by ... (read in full...)
I made out with my friend but worry it might ruin our friendship. How do I move forward?
Q. My friend and I got drunk and we made out but we both have a boyfriend. I told mine and he was okay with it but its a little awkward between me and my friend. I hate myself cause I didnt stop when she started and cause i kinda liked it but now i'm ...
A. 14 March 2011: It's hard to forget everything because you crossed the boundary and the friendship isn't the same anymore. A lot of girls, including me, have a little lesbian desire kept in a hidden, secret place and alcohol can help bring it out to the surface. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I am so sure I am gay that I want to shout it to the world, but then I will meet a guy and the confusion starts again.
Q. I feel silly asking such a personal question to a bunch of strangers but... am I a lesbian? I know I am attracted to women sexually; I have fallen in love with two women in my life and have only ever fantasised about my own sex. The thing is... I ...
A. 14 March 2011: If you are a newbie to sex, don't be surprised to realize that not many people enjoy it the first time. You should try it with women, and men. Still, you can't get a definite answer overnight. You are probably bisexual. I think the confusion comes ... (read in full...)
What is he looking for? How can I make him see that I'm girlfriend material?
Q. Heya About a year ago i met this guy through mutual friends and we instantly clicked and had a lot of chemistry and whenever we saw each other on a night out we would get with each other (not sleep with him) anyway then i found out he had a girlfr...
A. 14 March 2011: A lot of people drink after a break up and immediately look for consolation. He seems to be free of a relationship, but that doesn't mean they can't get back together, or he is ready for another relationship. Some people break up for good, just so ... (read in full...)
I have no friends and I'm clingy to anyone that wants to be my boyfriend!
Q. Hi people I've got a really big problem. I had a tough childhood and went to nine schools as a child it made me finding friends a real problem and as a result I'm so shy and don't have any friends I'm now twenty six and have two children my kids dad ...
A. 14 March 2011: I think you summed it up as this. You have a bad childhood, moved around a lot, so you can't find friends. Without friends you cling to your boyfriend, causing the break up.
Maybe I can put that in a different perspective. You are shy to begin with... (read in full...)
Married but think I'm still in love with my old high school girlfriend
Q. recently found my high school girlfriend, and i think i still love her. ( we dont remember why we broke up, and if we made it offical, we just seperated per family and friends wishes) she sought me out and we have been talking for a few months, we...
A. 14 March 2011: You are in a lustless and stale life because your wife is sick, not because this is how marriage is supposed to become. You have important decisions to make. You made a vow to be with her through sickness and health. Does that mean you are going to ... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend, but wondering about giving this guy a chance?
Q. I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend. I really want one, all my firends have 1 and I hate being single.It drives me mad when all my firneds talk about weddings and babys but I was planning to go travelling and do lots of fun things and not ready to ...
A. 12 March 2011: Breaking up when things are brilliant is what guys do. Suddenly things got serious! Turn right or left, or stop and think? Give him the time and space he needs to think, what you are in his life. If he misses you but you are not his girlfriend, then ... (read in full...)
My fiance got a vasectomy behind my back !!!!
Q. I am 32 and my fiance is 45, we had a baby a year ago after not being able to for many years. My fiance that I have been with for 5 years got a vasectomy behind my back 6 months after the baby was born. I would love to have another child in the ...
A. 12 March 2011: I don't think he's unkind to you. Even if he stayed with you he wouldn't have any more kids. He only changes his mind because he is not ready to let you go. Love is hard to find. Considering his age, finding a woman his age without kids is hard, a ... (read in full...)
My fiance got a vasectomy behind my back !!!!
Q. I am 32 and my fiance is 45, we had a baby a year ago after not being able to for many years. My fiance that I have been with for 5 years got a vasectomy behind my back 6 months after the baby was born. I would love to have another child in the ...
A. 11 March 2011: HMMMM, a woman's love versus freedom from more children and he made that decision without you. He loves you enough to continue being with you, but took the risk and hope you can let go of the idea of having more children. Here's someone who changes ... (read in full...)
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