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writes:I am in my early fifties and my man is as well. We've only recently become intimate and I was not involved with anyone for a few years prior. So, I had a long time to think about sexuality and what I would do when back into it.My thoughts are that oral sex should be an equal, and intimate experience. Men are engaged with our natural fluids during the act, fully, by definition of a man going down on a woman - properly.So, I personally have little problem with my mans semen - swallowing it that is. I prefer it over the mess and disruption of not doing so. I hate disruption during sex and prefer things to be continuous and flowing. Many men emotionally feel a certain acceptance beyond sexual 'release' when a woman swallows. Talk about it, then you will know what it means for both of you.I want my man to feel accepted fully as I do when he's giving me oral attention. Things being equal... why not? The double-standard of not accepting his fluid, yet wanting him to accept mine? I disagree with this double-standard! I don't find overall that semen tastes particularly bad, but it is distinct: it indeed IS the 'taste' of sex, associative of lovemaking. Therefore, in my opinion, integral to what should be a loving act. He's at the back of my mouth when his orgasm occurs so my tongue (taste bud area) is not as involved anyway. I like to hang in there through to the end and after wards, when he fully subsides in his pleasure peak.As far as power and subservience... It's about your specific, personal relationship and how you feel in your own skin and about sex in general. As a mature woman I am beyond much of my 20-something squeamishness. I want to please him, likewise, or we wouldn't be together. Period. The act, either man-to-woman, woman-to-man can be BOTH powerful and subservient which is a turn on at a deep, romantic and emotional level.I don't like the idea or act of being 'face screwed' ala extreme porno style, but some light grasps of my head, face and shoulder caressing and pulling me into him is exciting, and engaging - his moans and reactions pleasurable. I like the feel of his penis in my mouth and sometimes crave it along with other aspects of the passion.I feel that oral sex for the older couple can be very loving and affirming, and excellent for foreplay or alone. Especially as age can have an impact on spontaneous intercourse itself, where there can be problems sometimes. Oral can be more relaxed, less performance-based, yet bonding. I think you can become less inhibited as you get older with that special person.Ladies, taking his fluid isn't that bad - take him deeper into your mouth if possible (the medium or smaller penis is great for this) when he climaxes as that can make swallowing easier. Men, share and listen to your woman to help her feel comfortable with oral sex. Talk it out... Both parties should be respectful of and aware of each others needs and limitations.I am curious as to how others feel about this....?
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reader, Valiantv +, writes (10 May 2012):
Loved the article - the anonymous female poster captured MY feelings as well as I could have described them.
Feeling "accepted" by your mate/lover is so very important. To ignore or deny that aspect of a relationship is folly.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Can't talk about oral sex without a post from me now, can you? :)
OP you remind me of me, sort of. I agree that giving oral is a loving thing to do but frankly I like it for its own sake. There's something about having a penis in my mouth that no other act can quite compare to. I'm for all sizes, to be honest, don't have any preferences that way, and while I don't always swallow, I love the cum itself. It's warm and I've grown to like the taste most times. It also gives the distinct feeling that I've accomplished something when I feel it, whether in my mouth or on my skin. I don't get what's seen as degrading...I know certain porn presents it in a degrading fashion but that's not necessarily what it ought to be. When I'm on my knees or lying down saying "Cum on me," the last thing on my mind is being degraded - I'm asking for something I want!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your comment 'anonymous' I do like pleasing my lover and the soft and tender yet hard feeling of him in my mouth. His reactions and appreciation of it turn me on as well. He is just right in size so 'deep throat' as they call it, is comfortable for me. I could see it being a problem for a woman handling a very large penis. In that case the couple should talk it out and always accept the persons limitation... I try to attend to him overall when we are doing oral, not just a suck-fest LOL! I like caressing his legs, balls, stomach, butt knee caps, the works! LOL!He likes my approach and I like it when he gives to me in such an open way, allowing me time to reach my peak of pleasure....
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (1 May 2011):
 Wow this has been a truly facinating read all around!
OP my hat is off to you!! You sound like one hell of a lady. I wish you were my next door neighbor so we could be friends and chat over coffe. There are a lot of young women out there that could learn a thing or two from your philosophy on sex at any age to your obvious "Zester pour la vie" (zest for life)!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 May 2011):
 When I said "a lot" of girl fluid, well, that's kind of a relative matter. My intent is not to be graphic but to speak of reality. It is certain that, in my experience performing cunnilingus, especially in the prone position, it seemed like "a lot" sometimes, but probably more like a teaspoon or less. In other positions, it's more like just licking-up, which has always been okay with me as well. Anyway, I've always been willing to give as well as receive oral pleasures with my woman, at least since about age 21, and in my opinion, that is how it should be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPerson12345, I hear you. Yes it is pretty vile tasting and stinking for that matter. No need to be coy about it... LOL.
I'd have to 'beyond' drunk to put myself out there like that... I taste-test myself during different times of the month and it varies. I can tell when I am not drinking enough water or eating certain foods. I try to keep all of the together since I am sexual and enjoy feeling free in my sexual connection to my man.
I am NOT trying to undo all of that and have any tasting and smearing about of menstrual blood during my period. Count me out on this one! I'm not interested any increase in laundry duties either from 'distributing' menstrual fluids about either. LOL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI disagree, I'm not interested in sexual activity (upon me) during my period. My partner and I agree as uninhibited as we are otherwise! LOL! He soothes me best by giving me my food cravings during that time : ) Or rubbing my back or abdomen should I need it.On my own volition I've given him oral during my cycle and like being held, caressed, kissed etc. and that along with other togetherness 'keeps me' during that time of abstinence. I would NOT allow a man to perform oral sex on my during my period. I have enough to 'batten' everything down to keep from ruining and staining clothing, bedding, minimizing odors, and dealing with cramps and the like. I do not think nor feel an obligation to believe that menstrual blood is clean; by definition it IS a waste product shed naturally because a pregnancy did not occur. I am ok with that... as a healthy, confident woman. I am not into dealing with it by the bucketfuls in a sexual context. Not.Everything has its place, reason and purpose... I'm old school I guess you could say.The resumption of sexual activity is great after time alone utilizing other energies within the relationship and with self.In any event, people do what they choose. The issue of periods will be a non-issue as I am approaching menopause and will be period FREE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Well I didn't really just decide to bury my face between her legs on those days. Just kind of progressed to that point with her. When she was on her period and we got drunk and just didn't care, to doing stuff sober, to just doing everything and anything no matter whether she was on it or not. Neither of us saw any reason to be abstinent on those days especially when sexual activity can relieve her symptoms. Plus neither of us believe that women are dirty or impure on their periods or nothing like that.
We originally used dental dams and they worked great but we weren't always prepared or just plain ran out of them, and even using them I sometimes got fluids in my mouth. I didn't see any real reason to deprive her of that to be honest. Tongue is far better than finger.
It's an acquired taste really, like wine, it's not very pleasant but it doesn't make you want to wretch either so it's perfectly tolerable and you get used to it. Besides any time you give a girl or guy oral you're essentially drinking bits of pee, sweat, dead skin cells and other such bodily fluids which you wouldn't exactly think is palatable in any other context either. I mean you wouldn't exactly drink a cup of urine mixed with sperm because well... that's what you're doing when you give a blow job, just in smaller doses and in a different context.
It's not a preference of mine to be honest, if it didn't feel so good for her I'd probably be a bit less inclined to but it does, so it's worth the less than pleasant taste and smell to see her serene face when I'm done and she can go to sleep cramp free and sexually satisfied.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Wow I would never ever ever ask a guy to go down on me during my period. Out of curiosity I've tasted that, and it's pretty vile. I would have sex (being on my period makes me feel constantly half turned on) but I would never request oral sex. It's odd, about squirting the only time it's been referenced with oral sex was a request for me to purposefully do it on a guy's face. He said it would make him feel studly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes for sure DoubleMM some women do produce alot of fluid. During oral when 'my love comes down' and I am really flowing, I am more comfortable to let go and enjoy the experience when I am with a man not put off by it, but excited in my response. It took me a long time to be comfortable and believe a man could take full pleasure it it. My lover said he 'liked to eat...' early on in our relationship. I believe him now... and let myself enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey there Cerberus... I have never spit. I detest the act of spitting in any context, just seeing people spit on the street turns me off. I've never liked spitting, and when I was younger and first gave a man oral sex thru climax I always swallowed, though it was sorta weird to me at first. But I also figured bringing the fluids to the front of my mouth in order to 'spit' certainly would not fix anything. LOL! Now it is no longer unpleasant and like I said when I am in the 'love zone' it is all a part of the sexual expression.
Umm, regarding oral sex during menses, no I am not interested in that on any level. I prefer complete celibacy during that time. Though, I have given my man oral during that time, but I do not engage in any form of sex upon myself during my period. And I wait a day or so after the cycle so that everything is completely free of menstral blood. I have never been with a man inclined to want to engage me orally during my cycle which is fine with me.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (29 April 2011):
In reference to Jmtmj's comments, no, it does not require a female to "squirt" for the man to swallow a fair volume of female fluids. Properly applied over a period of 15 to 20 minutes or more, a good session of cunnilingus will typically elicit quite a bit of vaginal excretion. I've swallowed lots of it, whatever it is, but unlike "Cerebus," I avoid swallowing menstrual fluids.
If you really want to take her load, allow her to straddle your face while you give her a nice clit-licking laying on your back on the bed. When she climaxes, especially, you'll likely get a nice release of her juices, but it's not really squirting, nor does it require squirting. It's more like an ooze or gradual release for many women, and I've swallowed many.
Apparently, some folks do not realize that women also produce a lot of sexual fluids, but they do, and some call it a woman's version of semen - without the reproductive sperm. It is as harmless as a man's sperm to the recipient if ingested, even healthy, and can be as pleasurable for her, during release, as a man's ejaculation is for the him.
Still, I totally agree that partners should always enjoy each other as they wish, and neither should ever be "forced," in any way, to do what they do not want to do, even for a loved one,
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 April 2011):
 "Are you talking about squirting though dirtball?" The girl I referenced, no. However when she came, it was similar in volume to my own, and I swallowed it plenty of times. It was definitely different than just normal "wetness" as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): I don't like my girl to swallow, I prefer to see her spit it out. But she doesn't like the mess so she swallows. Not all the time though, sometimes she'll look up with a mischievous grin and spit it back onto me.
I find it a hell of a lot more rewarding when a partner doesn't demand something but the other partner is willing to give it sometimes too, that way it becomes a treat and funnily enough that makes the other partner like doing it every now and again. When something is a preference for one that the other doesn't like doing, when that is done with no coercion because they want to please you, it means a lot more than if they're doing it just because you demand it. I don't know how anyone can like having sex based on a demand or negative coercion.
Regular oral, manual and penetration are the only things that are necessary for me to have a healthy sex life. All the other details are a bonus and not something that I need.
I've never understood other men's fascination or demands for things like anal, facials, face screwing or swallowing. I mean some guys get really worked up about it, like they "need" those things or something. I've seen guys threaten to cheat on their partner of years just because she wouldn't let him do those things. I find that wholly ridiculous. I really just don't get how they expect their partner to want to give in to such a negative and completely illogical demand. Women do this too so it's not strictly a gender issue.
I find that if you show your partner you're willing to go to any lengths to satisfy them they will usually reciprocate without prompting and do so gladly.
As far as swallowing goes I do that a hell of a lot more than my partner does ever since we discovered the benefits that oral has on her while she's on her menstrual cycle. I mean there's just no way to spit out period goop and it be sexy so I swallow instead. She doesn't understand how I can physically bring myself to do it, but she does understand why (it stops her cramps, lightens or stops her flow, she is far more sensitive down there, orgasms are more intense, it helps her sleep, relives stress/tension etc.) Because of my willingness to go that extra mile for her there is literally nothing she is not willing to try for me, if she's in the right mood to do so of course. I never have to demand, I never make her feel like she owes me anything for it but she usually feels like that anyway and wants to give back to me.
As DoubleM said a woman's orgasm is a far more complex process than a guys and the fact that most women can't cum through penetration alone means the guy has to work at it and ensure she has one (if she's in the mood for one and not just wants sex without the intensity).
I find if one partner has to demand something then they're usually not giving their partner enough incentive to want to do what they demand of their accord. Although some people are just selfish about things like this and in that case then there are bigger issues.
Then again sexual favours/sacrifices should not be wholly judged on sexual acts alone. The entire relationship has to be taken into account to ensure there's a balance that way. For example if your partner loved receiving oral but didn't really like giving it as often, then taking other non-sexual things they do for you into account is always a good idea. Sex should never be considered separate from all the other things a person provides you in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your comments Jmtmj! No I don't have a 'sticker' on my drivers liscence regarding my being ok with swallowing. For what it is worth I am sort of a late bloomer to oral sex!
I probably would not have the attitude I have where I not older (50)... and I really detest the porno view of oral sex (especially the motor mouth stuff) and take little motivation from it. Though I suppose what I do probably resembles porn - LOL!
Oral lovemaking is so, SO good at this age as I stated in my original post! I have a special appreciation for it on several levels... Ohhhh!
I'm not keen on men who act like a woman's juices are radioactive! Some men I've read have to jump up and wash their face, brush teeth fast -- obviously are not fully into the experience.
Sure, a towel nearby is cool to wipe down a bit -- especially after a really hot session. But for me I've got to know the man is engaged with my stuff when he is giving me oral. That is a big turn on to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionperson12345 thank you for replying. I don't think equality is the 'only' factor, no, not at all. But I think it 'can' be a factor. Nor am I promoting swallowing as some sorta of self-deprecating, noble sacrifice all women must engage in. Who needs that?
When I am allowing my man to come in my mouth I'm in the 'zone' for that, because I choose it openly and that HAS taken time. The experience: involving feel, sight, smell, hearing, taste, pleasuring, etc. gets me into the 'love zone' where swallowing can occur. The context is most crucial. Though some sessions are better than others... such is life.
And you aptly point out that dealing with a sudden ejaculation is different from dealing with a woman's fluids that are more constant. Good point...
I do like to be told when his orgasm is coming so that I am READY to swallow. Though with time and practice you sorta know when that times is imminent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the various feedback folks. The whole "swallowing" thing has not always been grand for me either and as I said I accomplish it best by having him deeper in my mouth when he comes (which works out for us as he is not very big). And it got easier for me as I got older.
The fact that my man really, REALLY loves giving me oral sex with enthusiasm makes the overall oral experience exiting, and motivates me to new heights at the giving and receiving end!! As DoubleM stated "the need for the woman to also be orally satisfied" is an important factor." I absolutely agree!!
A man that understands that is a valued and committed lover indeed. I can only have clitoral orgasms, tough I enjoy penetration very, very much. I adore my partners deliberate and passionate approach toward giving me thorough sexual satisfaction and his acceptance of my body in this context.
I stated that "many men emotionally feel a certain acceptance beyond sexual 'release' when a woman swallows." but I don't think that is mandate that a woman must swallow! I brought that concept up show that oral upon a man (withstanding porn) CAN have deeper emotional aspects. In addition to and perhaps in tandem with the pleasure. It is that way for me...
However, some men are happy for the oral attention withstanding the end place of their climax. I get that.
No one should FEEL obligated to swallow. Thus, I said "talk it out" and "be respectful of and aware of each others needs and limitations."...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): Actually Jmtmj there are also certain times of the month when swallowing is equal for a guy to do.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 Are you talking about squirting though dirtball? I think that's the one time when swallowing IS equal. But not all women can squirt and not all of us are stallions in the sack.
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 Although I haven't had penetrative sex before, I have given my ex oral sex, and yes I prefer to swallow for some of the same reasons you've mentioned. I also find it sexier... if that doesn't sound too weird.
I don't think a man should feel any less accepted if his partner doesn't swallow, though. She stimulates him orally, he gets his orgasm - does her not consuming his fluid indicate a rejection on some level? I personally don't think so.
Anyway, it was good reading the responses of more experienced DearCupiders (who, being more experienced, probably have a more valid opinion :P) and IMO this was a good article, OP - even if everyone may not agree with you, you have an interesting perspective.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 April 2011):
I've said it before, but it warrents saying again, I think it should be individual choice. It's definitely not necessary, but it is a huge turn on when someone does do it.
For what it's worth, I've swallowed female ejaculate before. While in a 69 I made my GF at the time cum very hard and it just poured out. No biggie, it didn't make me stop either. Of course, I don't have many hangups when it comes to sex either. Some women do produce an abundance of fluid, and while it may not all be at once, I usually get swallow a fair ammount while performing oral. After all, the clit isn't the only thing that needs stimulation in my experience.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (27 April 2011):
Mmmm... as much as I hate to defy the brotherhood, I'm thinking along the same lines as person12345.
This isn't about equality. I can't say I've ever "swallowed" because frankly there isn't enough to swallow. I think if you find yourself having to actually "swallow" anything then you probably need to take clitoris finding lessons cos you're doing it wrong. There's no need to be like a bulldog eating a bowl of porridge... at least not in my experience (thank god).
I remember hearing a story back in school, whether it was true or not I don't really care, but a guy asked his girlfriend to swallow and she said- I will, if you try it yourself first. Good on her if its true. I wouldn't be willing to taste mine myself, so I can't really feel entitled to such treatment from anyone else.
Also lets think a bit past the immediacy of sex. Lets say a girl gets no pleasure from swallowing, not even from knowing that it pleases her man. Maybe she feels its degrading, maybe she likes pleasing her man but hates going through 2 bottles of mouthwash a week, whatever the reason- the cons far outweigh the pros for her. Basically its far from the highlight of her week. Now if this girl forces herself to do what should be an intimate act out of a sense of obligation/fear/pressure, I can see a pretty predictable outcome over time...
LESS SEX!! GAH!!
If you ain't enjoying the sex naturally and oral sex- being the back-bone of foreplay becomes distasteful or "chore-like", there's gonna be a lot of ladies catching sudden onset headache syndrome.
HOWEVER! If you are a lady who swallows, even if it is just as a special treat for your fella'... Bless you.
You are highly sought after and hard to find. You should probably have a special sticker on your drivers license, right next to the organ donor sticker entitling you to free coffee at mcdonalds... or something... but really just so that we can find you! ;)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 April 2011):
I don't think this is an issue of equality at all, many, even most, women just severely dislike or hate having that in their mouths and they shouldn't be forced to do that. It's one thing to not like BJs, and unless she has a history of abuse, I think it would be unfair to refuse. However, swallowing is a very different issue. I've frequently heard of women vomiting from trying to swallow. The difference between the female fluids and male fluids is really that it's not all at once, and having tasted both, female fluids are far less oddly textured, smelly, and taste far less strong and it's over a longer time (in general, though there are exceptions of course). Most of the men I've talked to agree with me on this one, unless the girl has bad hygiene, in which case he shouldn't be required to do it to her either. It's just that it's a sudden burst of snot texture chlorine flavored goop into your mouth, and many women really can't stomach it especially the idea of having to swallow it. It makes it worse if a woman feels pressured into doing it. Many women love doing it, and that's great for them (and their partners). Most women don't though and it's not right to say they're being unfair for refusing to perform this. There's nothing wrong with giving a BJ and then using hands to finish the job or using a BJ as foreplay for sex. I think sharing performing oral sex is equal, but finishing in her mouth and having her swallow is an entirely different thing.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 April 2011):
Gee. Well many of my past girlfriends and one ex-wife seemed to have similar enthusiasm, but please let me stress that I've long agreed that oral sexual satisfaction is best shared equally, as you stated. I'm not sure you adequately expressed the need for the woman to also be orally satisfied. See "Double M on Cunnilingus" in the archives.
For decades, I've made certain to please my woman first, either orally or via coitus, and if she choses afterward, then she could take me orally. Semen release vaginally is great as well, but perhaps I've been extremely fortunate to have had partners who apparently appreciated or tolerated ingestion. After all, it is quite healthy providing the man is virile and healthy - even if it can be a little bitter or salty. Well, some adjustments in diet can help that.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 I don't care about equality. I like the act itself and I don't care whether I receive an oral in return. I swallow because it feels satisfying, I like the feel in my mouth, and also it eliminates one more possibility of getting pregnant. For your reference I am the submissive one, I like to please and nothing is degrading, and doing things and not expecting anything in return does not make me lesser in a relationship.
Semen can be bitter sometimes, but I don't get why people would drink alcohol and chew tobacco and feel okay about the taste, but not semen.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 April 2011):
A fan of my poem?!? That made my day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): OP,You're going to gain legions of male folowers with an article like that! It's really quite brave of you to write this article. I do hope more woman write in and talk about BJs honestly. But, I'm willing to bet you'll get more men writing in, giving you props, and wishing they were your lucky boyfriend.I too love giving head...I think BJs are unappreciated by women and I think a lot of it has to do with the way it's traditionally been depicted in porn as "face f*cking." I'm not anti-porn, but I do think that most porn tends to degrade the potential intimacy and power of this act. Personaly, I like the BJ because it's one of the few forms of sex where a woman can feel dominant and the man is vulnerable. I love it because it's creative and it can be incredibly romantic. If you get into it, it's a lot like making out, but the guy is totally at your mercy.I have to admit that I've never thought about it as an egalitarian issue...I wasn't crazy about it when I was younger, but have come to really enjoy it. I think part of the reason that I had trouble with it at first was that I couldn't look at it as a favor to be reciprocated....the thing is that I've never been able to come through oral so I tended not to appreciate it when I was younger. It's great as a starter or as a warm up to penetrative sex, but I've never finished that way...It doesn't mean I don't like oral sex being performed on me, it's just that it's sometimes really intense, sometimes too much (in a good way), yet it doesn't give me the "big bang.” I don’t think I’ve ever really been able to have a comparable experience that a man has when they receive oral.And I've always had trouble swallowing. My first boyfriend complained about this specifically to me. He said it wasn't fair to him that I wouldn't swallow. I thought this was a bit of disingenuous argument at the time because men taste women, they don’t necessarily “drink” them. I didn’t feel like I should have to swallow it and at the time I felt like he wanted me to simulate some porn he had seem too many times. I don't know if any men have tasted their own cum off their partner, but in all honesty, it can taste and smell pretty bad. The Ph of cum is sometimes so high it will make you feel like you're swallowing a tablespoon of bad swimming pool water. I will do it reluctantly...but I usually pocket it in my cheek or lift my tongue just before he comes so I don't have to taste it. And I tend to end up spitting it into a tissue or a pillow case afterwards. One thing I've noticed is that a man's diet really does "flavor" the taste of his cum. I've found vegetarians/or near vegetarians taste FAR better than carnivores. I would never request someone change their diet for me...but guys should know if they are healthy and eat well, it really does make a HUGE difference.Like you said, I do like when sex is smoother with less interruptions...but if you have to interrupt it anyway to change condoms, then I guess I've accepted the breaks as part and parcel to the act to some degree. Maybe one day I'll learn to swallow too, but for now, I don't feel too bad spitting it up. I guess it might make a man feel unaccepted...and if there are men out there who are offended by it, I'd love to hear their gripes or takes on it. It seems you have the good fortune of having a steady partner that you don't have to take so many precautions with. Lucky you.I'm not terribly surprised to see dirtball chiming in on this thread. You may not be aware of this, but dirtball is a resident poet at DearCupid and crafted an excellent Valentine's poem on the subject of BJs a a few months ago. See his first response in this thread:www.dearcupid.org/question/she-wont-go-down-on-me.htmlAnyway OP, props to you for writing this article...you may be our resident Blow Job Queen, I hope you will decide to take that title with pride and honor. :)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 April 2011):
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