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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm like really confused right now ok so if this is long just level with me ok. Last year I started dating a girl who at first her parents hated me but now they love me, me and her broke up about 2 weeks after we started dating because I was more like a big brother than anything else. Since we broke up we are still really close friends and we still hang out all the time. About 5 months ago I met another girl and am totally and completely in love with her but she has a boyfriend so long story short we tried to date, her parents said no and now we are secretly dating until she can decide between me and her boyfriend, but back to the point, my ex girlfriend recently told me she loved me and wanted to get back together with me and then she tried to kiss me key word being tried. I stopped her. I told her I didn't love her the same way she loved me and now she's leaving the state because she doesn't want to hurt my relationship with my girlfriend. She just told me about an hour ago and I don't understand why I'm feeling so depressed about it. I mean she's a great friend who I know I will miss but it just feels more than just losing a friend if that makes any sense. Any help would be greatly appreciated so thank you in advance.
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (9 July 2007):
 you may find honey that you only love your other friend as a sister which you said you did love is more than just what we see in couples there is love between brother and sister which is as strong as couple relationships sometimes this can be confusing and you feel that you should love them as a partner but you cannot because your love for that person doesnt exceed philos barriers(love for friends/family) this girl that your *dating* does not love you!if she did she would have dumped her bf by now your just her bit on the side that she wants to 'play' with the other girl that is leaving the state is on a guilt trip she may be leaving because she wants you to chase her if that makes sense? /guilt trip mainly or embarrsement for trying to kiss you or if she really is leaving or has left for the sake of your 'relationship' with your other 'girlfriend' then she is being considerately senistive and you have to respect that too. think carefully about where your feelings are placed i mean think very carefully about your ex whether you love her back the same way she loves you and be honest with yourself x hope this helps x
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Judging by your ages do you really believe she is leaving the state because she does not want to hurt the relationship you have with your girlfriend, this sounds more like a guilt trip because she has not got what she wanted.
Now the girlfriend you have is with someone else and she is having her cake and eating it, you need to wake up babe if she really liked you she would end it with her boyfriend and just be with you.
Don't wait around for someone to make a choice between you or someone else if it's that hard then she is not worth waiting for.
Take care.xx.
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