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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: I think I fell in love with an ex coworker and I want to leave my husband for him.
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reader, eddie +, writes (8 July 2007):
If you really want advice on this sort of thing, you must realize that we need more information. You've really said very little for anyone to be of any help.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (8 July 2007):
Red Flag!!!!!
You have just said 'I THINK I FELL IN LOVE'.
So you are not sure, don't rush into anything.
You decide to leave your husband and then you find out it was actually just a crush.
Husband understandably does not want you back and you have made the biggest mistake of your life over 'I THINK'.
What sort of relationship do you have with your husband?
If there is no major problems then invest all you time into making your marriage work.
Take care.xx.
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female
reader, chunkymunky +, writes (8 July 2007):
does your co-worker know you're in love with him? and you need to consider all the factors about this situation. its a big decision and you really need to think things through properly before you leave your husband. good luck working out what you want xx
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reader, kenny +, writes (8 July 2007):
I would be absolutely sure that your feelings for this ex co-worker is 100% love, and that he loves you 100% also. If you feel it is then the right thing to do in this situation would to be upfront and honest with your husband and tell him how you feel.
Good luck x
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reader, penta +, writes (8 July 2007):
If you're ready to leave your husband so quickly, what makes you think you won't be over your ex-coworker just as quickly?
I think you are confusing infatuation and love. Infatuation is the beginning stage where your heart pounds. It feels great but it NEVER lasts. Love is the intimacy that you develop where you want what's best for your partner. It's a warm comforting deep feeling. It's much better and much more mature.
If you don't learn the difference, and quickly, you're going to have a string of short relationships over the years as you try to recapture the infatuation stage. It sounds like a sad life to me, but it's yours if you're not careful.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (8 July 2007):
I say, you have two issues ahead of you. One is leaving your husband. You should never put an end to a relationship because there is someone else around. You should end it if it isn't working. Check if this is true in your case.
And the second issue is, you need to be sure you love this coworker, and also you need to be sure he loves you. The two things are only connected because you can't go to him if you're still married. But that's all. Don't make the terrible mistake of confusing the two.
Hope this helps.
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