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anonymous
writes:ive been seeing a guy for the past three weeks and hes great and treats me like a princess, but ive been sleeping with his cousinfor the past 2 weeks, this guy is also my best mates boyfriend, i do feel guilty but i think the fear of gettin cought and the risks it carries make it more exciting, should i break it off now so i dont get caught? my boyfriends cousin has said if we were both single he would be with me, what do i do?
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reader, RachelHxx +, writes (9 July 2007):
well i think that you should take your own feelings into account, i was in a situation like this before and all it led to was my head being screwed up. You run the risk of losing your best friend who would probably never think about doing this to you. There must be a reason why you feel the need to do this, you are probably very insecure and have been hurt in the past and want others to feel your pain. You may be getting excitement out of this but nothing lasts forever and you need to stop this before your friend finds out. If your boyfriend treats you like a princess you should learn to respect him, he must love you even though you may have only been together 3 weeks but you feel the need to cheat. i think you should stop seeing his cousin and just pray that your boyfriend and best friend never find out, it could break up a family and ruin a great freindship.
I hope that whatever you decide to do you think about how it affects other people.
good luck xx
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Don't do family sex!! You are hurting people you love (the boyfriend) and just being nasty in the whole situation. End it with the cousin because if you get caught you are going to go through hell with both men. Don't be stupid with your actions. Treat others as you would want to be treated.
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reader, penta +, writes (8 July 2007):
 So you're cheating on both your boyfriend and your best friend. Wow. It really doesn't pay for anyone to trust you, does it?
This has the potential to blow up in your face and really hurt the people you say you care about (though you know that). If this excitement is worth more to you than the people in your lives, then that doesn't say anything nice about you, does it?
You know what you SHOULD do: leave your best mate's boyfriend ALONE. Stay with the man who treats you well. Start treating your bf and friend like people you want to keep in your life.
On the other hand, maybe you should get your 2nd guy away from your friend and run off together. Your bf and your friend would be better off WITHOUT the two of you in the long run. Your choice.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (7 July 2007):
 Hopefully you have been using protection with both of them.
I'm sure the risk is exciting, but if the tables were turned how would you feel, also imagine the family rows that could be caused by you doing this if you were to get caught.
There are two innocent people in this and one of them is supposed to be your best friend and the other your boyfriend.
Have a bit of consideration and respect for both of them and yourself.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Try keeping your knees together.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 Are you worried about getting caught, but not about honesty?
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reader, in my opinion +, writes (7 July 2007):
 only u know the true answer to that question. it has to be what u want. there is no point following what u have been told to do as it may not right for you.all the best.
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