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writes:My girlfriend just lost her father in a car accident very recently and it has changed the way she thinks and feels about me. She has grown very attached and dependent upon me. I just want to know some ways that will help us through this hard time and if these feelings will ever go away. Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 Be thankful she has pulled you closer and not pushed you away. Her feelings of dependancy may fade IN TIME. She has just lost her father. That's a big deal and will take time to get over. All you can do is be there for her and don't get at her for being clingy or emotional right now. I don't blame her.
Just be there for her in time things will ease :)
xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Sorry to hear about this, but WITH TIME, she will be back to normal.
This is nothing more but a reaction of temporary/immediate grief, and soul searching.
It will vanish with time, leaving her with a better perspective on life and living love ones!
Take care,
Rand
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): Hi darling,
First im sorry to hear of your girlfriends loss, it must be extremely hard for you both at the moment. I lost two very dear friends last year to suicide. I understand that this is different circumstanses but when you loose someone and it is not expected its a complete shock to your whole being.. And being this her father the most important male in her life she will be going through terrible pain and you being the other most important man in her life she will be needing very much support from you now, once she has grieved and in time the pain will get better it will become easier, This can take a long time love its different for everyone and also she may have feelings of loosing you as this is how i felt with the people close to me. Once again im so sorry for your loss and send your girlfriend and yourself love and prayers TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (7 July 2007):
 She just lost her father, the first and most important man in her life! I, too, went through the same feelings and emotions when I lost my dad!! And yes, in time these feelings will go away. It might take a while, just be patient with your girlfriend! She might also have the feeling that she will lose you, too so just comfort her and be there for her. It will get better in time!
My prayers are with your girlfriend at her time of loss, and also with you to be there for her!!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (7 July 2007):
 Hey she has just lost the most important male figure in her life.
She is probably going through all sorts of emotions at the moment and with you being the next important male figure she is depending on you to be there for her and get her through this.
She just needs to feel loved and cared for at the moment, things will calm down as the grief gets easier to deal with.
Just be there for her.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (7 July 2007):
 She is feeling very vulnerable at the moment and needs to depend on someone emotionally and physically (thats the part were u come in).Once she has grieved she will become independant againgd lkHannah :)
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I am sure the dependancy will taper off as the pain subsides. I am sure you have heard of someone feeling vulnerable? Well that is the situation she is in right now. She has just had a very large part of her life torn away from her unexpectedly and you are the bandage covering the gaping wound. As the wound heals the dependancy will become less. Hope this helps. Doc.
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