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writes:My boyfriend and I have a mutual friend who set my boyfriend and I up. The friend told me that I should present more of a challenge because men like that sort of thing. He thinks I should stop texting and send nice messages to see how he really feels about me. Is that what men like? Do they like challenges and games?[Moderator Note: I had to retype the entire message as grammar and punctuation was barely readable.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): As a guy no I don't like challenges and loathe games. If you wish to be with someone why discourage him? The only good thing that can come from such actions is that he leaves you for somebody who doesn't play with his feelings. If you care about him then cut out the games and just be together.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 There is nothing wrong with challenge as long as you don't mess with peoples feelings.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Challenges are relative to you and the guy in your life. Some men don't like it, as some women don't like it. A healthy dose of cat and mouse is okay, but too much of it can lead to distrust and tiresome. A challenge does not necessarily mean a game, and a challenge does not necessarily mean it's an immature thing.
Look at it this way, if you keep yourself fit, clean, make yourself yummy, and continuously grow on other aspects, and men every where swoon over you, that is pretty much another 'challenge' for your guy. Even if your heart is with him, in his eyes, he may feel that you're a good person that if not well maintained will leave his ass.
I don't think I formulated my words very well here.
In short, you see experiment. See what type of challenge you want to dish out. If it has a positive effect, continue if you want to. If it has a negative effect, stop. This is dependent on you.
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