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writes: Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months now and just recently both told each other that we love each other. I had said it first a couple of weeks before and knew she was not ready at the time but couldn't help it. I am finding it hard to accept her love/trust her but I don't know why. She has done nothing in our relationship or outside of it, that I know of, that would make me think she can't be trusted. Yet something inside of me keeps nagging at me that I shouldn't. That somehow she can't love me. I think I just have a hard time accepting that anyone can like me/ love me. Am I at fault for not being able to accept it and it's my problem, or does she need to just find the right way to show it to me that I'll understand better?I think sometimes I doubt my own love too...the whole things seems almost too good to be true. This is my first relationship I have ever had. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I think that's what I needed to hear. I just get confused sometimes because it is a distance relationship too so that doesn't always help things. All I know for sure is that I always want to be with her despite the fact that I can't.
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reader, Dr T  +, writes (7 July 2007):
First relationship...yip, its tough bro...no nice way to say it...new, very strong emotions...at this stage of your life you are just getting to know yourself and then someone else is a huge part of your life and they are in the same boat...
I remember the same thing and looking back (over many years) my trust issues stemmed from a lack of self esteem...simple as that..i didnt feel worthy of her love...work on feeling good about yourself, she sees so many good things in you that she is with you and loves you!! What an endorsement that is!! Go with it, relax, tell yourself how great you really are...when someone asks you how you are reply "I am GREAT' and mean it...
As soon as you love you others will love you even more...I promise..
Relax, have fun with her....
All the best bro
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reader, eddie  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I have been in this situation before. You can not control other people and if you try, you'll create the situation you fear most. Before you can love her, in the true sense of the word, you have to love yourself.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (7 July 2007):
 I don't think there is anything that you girlfriend can do to make you overcome your insecurities.
You are in a very new relationship and you are young so try not to worry so much about things like this and enjoy it.
If she has told you she loves you and you have no reason to think she has done anything to say ptherwise then just go with it.
Take care.xx.
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