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How can I last longer during sex? And should I give her oral to make up for ejaculating so early?
Q. Recently I've been seeing this girl I'm close friends with. We are both seventeen. I am not very sexually experienced, however, she is (she's clean, don't worry). This is a pretty wierd question to ask on this site, i guess, but, the past few times ...
A. 6 March 2008: Since you are of legal age, the answer is ABSOLUTELY !
You are, or seem to be, well on your way to being a great lover if you are willing to spend the time and effort to please a woman before you get your jollies.
This is the truth about being a ... (read in full...)
I know he loves me, but he's not into anything intimate yet...am I doing something wrong?
Q. my boyfriend loves me this i know. but when i try anything intimate with him, he doesnt respond like most guys. i feel like i am doing all the work. am i doing something wrong? ...
A. 6 March 2008: Way too much information missing here in my opinion. How can we possibly advise with such scant input. You are apparently of age, if the range is correct, but your adult boyfriend shuns sexual intimacy with you? A bit strange.
You say that you "do ... (read in full...)
I am easily aroused by caresses to my back. He does this in public! What should I do?!
Q. i am easily aroused to gentle touches on my back which, my boyfriend finds easily. i always tell him to stop. its really hard when he constantly does it and we are in a public place like school. what should i do?...
A. 6 March 2008: Too much information missing here, in my opinion, for advisors to address very well. If this activity arouses you to an extreme, and he does it in public anyway, then it would seem he has little respect for you. I would think that anyone who ... (read in full...)
He lied to be about matsturbation to porn and visiting strip clubs...now I can't get close to him!
Q. I have been seein my boyfriend for 6 months and have had a very healthy sex life until recently when i found out he was lying about going to strip clubs and masturbating to porn regularly. Now i feel disgusted and sick to my stomach when he tries to ...
A. 6 March 2008: At your age, this mate is probably not going to matter much longer. You are very young, so please know that it will easily be put behind you as a learning experience. You are still just beginning to experience life, and this particular man is ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a virgin to think about sex constantly and be easily aroused?
Q. sex is all i think about and i am still a virgin. and i am easily excited sexually. is that normal?...
A. 6 March 2008: Yep. Very normal. It's called "hormones" pumping throughout your beautiful body telling you that it's time to reproduce. Your decision is what to do about it. The urges will not subside for many years, hopefully another 20 or 30. You need to either ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up sex to my son, and what will I say?
Q. How and what should I say to my 14 year son about sex? ...
A. 6 March 2008: Be honest. Remember that he will hear all about it, and if you are honest and straightforward about everything, then he will respect your guidance. ... (read in full...)
Lonely Cryer...
Q. I'm 19 years old, and I need help. My boyfriend doesn't care about me anymore. I am pregnant with his child right now. All he does when he comes home from work is sit on the computer. Then it's bed time. That's it! And when we argue, he knows I go ...
A. 6 March 2008: You are not being treated right as a young woman. Start working your way out of such a relationship and seek help from your parents or friends if you must. Nothing that you describe is even close to the way things should be, and there is much ... (read in full...)
When is it best to conceive?
Q. I was wondering if someone can help me? I'm trying to become pregnant and my period ended on 3/4/2008 and I had sex on 3/4/2008 and he came inside me. Would there be a chance now that I can be pregnant? Does anyone have any suggestions as t...
A. 6 March 2008: That was too close to your menstrual period. You need to learn about "ovulation," which is when your "egg" or "eggs" become mature and drop through your fallopian tubes toward the womb to be fertilized by a man's sperm. This typically occurs ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I'll be a virgin for years to come....
Q. Hey i need some help, I am a 21 year old girl and I'm still a virgin, ok that maybe sounds stupid but it really is a bit of a worry for me. I went out with a guy for over a year but was only 17 and felt I wasn't ready to sleep with him even though I...
A. 5 March 2008: Okay, well by all means you should enjoy your first sexual experience with someone whom you not only trust, but care deeply about if not love, and the person should feel much the same for you. If you currently have no prospects that fit that ... (read in full...)
Is this a long time to have gone without having sex? I feel... distinct.
Q. I'm uncertain about something. I've gone without sex for 10 months and I'm starting to feel a LOT of withdrawal. Feels like I'm the only person on the planet that isn't having it. It got me thinking... is 10 months a long time to go without...
A. 5 March 2008: Some people go years, supposedly even lifetimes, without having sex with another person, but whether they admit it or not, most everyone at least occasionally relieves themselves in one way or another.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I'll be a virgin for years to come....
Q. Hey i need some help, I am a 21 year old girl and I'm still a virgin, ok that maybe sounds stupid but it really is a bit of a worry for me. I went out with a guy for over a year but was only 17 and felt I wasn't ready to sleep with him even though I...
A. 5 March 2008: Please consider explaining your following statement:
"i also worry that i will lose my virginity to the person i will marry as i will really need to love/trust this person to sleep with them and i don't want this either."... (read in full...)
I hate him but I want to be there for him. So confused.
Q. I am in colledge and have been dating a guy for a year now, our life was great besides a break in the middle, in which he got cnfused and left me, he says he is a coward and runs away, and suggests that he may be a little scared of commitment or ...
A. 5 March 2008: Men are programmed (wired) to constantly seek variety in sexual partners, to spread our seed, so to speak. Society is designed to repress that innate urge that we cannot deny or always resist, by structuring such institutions as marriage, steady ... (read in full...)
Why do boys/men ejaculate first?
Q. how come guys cum first ???...
A. 5 March 2008: Because most guys will not, or do not know how, to please a woman.... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have "nasal sex!!!" What the hell's that???
Q. Hi, I know this is going to sound pretty weird but please help me with my relationship because everything was great until my boyfriend asked if we could have nasal sex. I don't even now what that is or if he's for real but one time he asked for it ...
A. 5 March 2008: My nose has certainly been buried in quite a few wet female places, and has even come in handy pressed against a clitoris or two - or jamming a vaginal opening to some degree - but I've never isolated it as a particular sexual activity. lololol ... (read in full...)
He is the one with a declining sex drive. Is this normal? How to address it?
Q. I have a dating/love/life advice question. I am always hearing how men are supposed to have such a raging sex drive, how women are more likely to lose their sex drive in a long-term relationship, how men are more likely to seek sex outside of the ...
A. 5 March 2008: In my opinion as a man, "pinksuze" addressed this matter expertly. It is true that "familiarity" seems to lessen sex drive in both men and women. In other words, it can become routine - basically the same "old thing" every time. And it is also true ... (read in full...)
Sexually inhibited...
Q. Can some one please help, I am sexually inhibited, my husband is the best lover, he knows me well, but when it comes to talking to him about sex, my wants, desires, fantasies, I clam up and my brain goes into shut down. I do have fantasies in m...
A. 5 March 2008: You might go to a major library, or better yet one of the big bookstores, and check out the relationship sections. I know that Barnes & Noble has a good one that includes many volumes on sexuality. Reading some of these, particularly something on ... (read in full...)
Do men like to see pussy lips through a women's shorts?
Q. What % of men want to see cameltoe on a woman and why do so many prude women have a problem with it ? Jealousy ? While you judge what looks inapropriate your alright with dresses, tops that display most of your breasts and cleavage and that isn...
A. 5 March 2008: As a man, I certainly like it. But I don't know about prude women.... (read in full...)
Why has sex just become so casual nowadays?
Q. Why has sex just become so casual nowadays. I mean before people did not even think about losing their virginity before marriage. What I don't understand is how people just do 'it' with people they hardly know properly. Sex before marriage does ...
A. 5 March 2008: One observation, based on history. Prior to the Victorian Era (about 1837-1901 in Great Britain) and the prior Puritan years in America, sex was rather open and relatively accepted as part of being alive, whether by commitment or not. There were ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I'll be a virgin for years to come....
Q. Hey i need some help, I am a 21 year old girl and I'm still a virgin, ok that maybe sounds stupid but it really is a bit of a worry for me. I went out with a guy for over a year but was only 17 and felt I wasn't ready to sleep with him even though I...
A. 4 March 2008: You are way too young to be worried about never finding a mate. You say "large," do you mean overweight? There are plenty over overweight men as well, if that is the case, and plenty of happy overweight couples, okay? You are of legal age and ... (read in full...)
My husband wanting me to act like a whore during sex disturbs me.
Q. While we are having sex, my husband wants me to help him imagine that he is fucking a really hot whore. I try to do it at times, but it becomes very difficult to digest it and live with it. As a result i am very disturbed about it. Please advise....
A. 4 March 2008: Maybe I'm not at all qualified to answer this issue, since I have never hired a woman for the purpose, but I can ask a couple of qualifying questions. What exactly is required to achieve this goal that is different than good, hot sex? Should you set ... (read in full...)
I'm conservative but she wants me to take control. What do I do?
Q. hi im 26,not really experienced in sex and get very nervous and have no idea what im doing and worry if im doing it wrong. i have a girlfriend over in hongkong,i met her once in december and she stayed with me for 10days and shes coming over later ...
A. 4 March 2008: You'll do fine but you do need a complete "course" in sexuality, and "Annalisa" nailed it by suggesting Kama Sutra. My recommendation, and this means no slight whatsoever as I've read this version as well as others, is "The Complete Idiot's Guide to ... (read in full...)
I'm I a virgin or not anymore?
Q. Help i know people will think im stupid for doing it but last nite me and b/f where doing stuff,and after when he was inside me he said he thought i was a virgin which i was at the time but never told him, Anyway when he was going further in it di...
A. 4 March 2008: Some women will not bleed at all from the first penetration by a penis, either because the hymen had already been breached via masturbation, fondling and fingering by a male, tampons, toys or dildos, sports, bicycle or horseback riding or other ... (read in full...)
Is Sex in a relationship important?
Q. I was wondering this because recently my girlfriend said she wanted to wait until marriage (which is fine by me I guess) I just didn't know if that included all types of sex or sexual contact....
A. 3 March 2008: If you love her, and you both plan to marry, then I would think she is worth the wait. Sex in a long-term relationship or marriage is certainly important - even vital. If you have no certainty, or at least intention, of marrying this gal, and you ... (read in full...)
He said he had too much respect for me to accept oral, while I don't find this form of sex insulting, only his comment!
Q. I started to give my bf a blowjob and he stopped me before i'd barely touched him. Later i confronted him on it and he said that he had too much respect for me to have me do it. I told him i was genuinly willing to do it for him and that i wouldn't ...
A. 3 March 2008: Some people on both sides of the gender pool have hang-ups about oral sex, such as it being dirty or nasty in some way, and for some it may be a religious taboo. Of course, if both partners are healthy, clean and disease-free, it is medically ... (read in full...)
She Says "I JUST DON'T FEEL YOUR PENIS"!! omg...
Q. I'm Pretty sure you guys get a lot of penis questions but I wonder if you can answer this. I've been with a lovely girl who after 3 years we decided to get together. We've been together since early 2007. Now I can make her orgasm in a variety of ...
A. 3 March 2008: As any man who has been with a number of women will attest, some are much looser than others. Sometimes so "large" that there is little feeling for the man regardless of bigger than average size. It can almost feel as if there is nothing, no ... (read in full...)
We used to have sex, multiple times a day. Now it's nothing!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We have lived together for about 6 months. About 4 months ago i found out that he was regularly looking at porn on my laptop. I confronted him then and he said he would stop. A month or ...
A. 3 March 2008: It is excessively early in a relationship for a lapse in sexual interest to occur for any couple. There should be a special word to call this seemingly widespread development - a suggestion might include "porno frenzy," but in any case, substitution ... (read in full...)
When people talk about the size of their penis' are they talking about when it is fully erect or soft?
Q. When people talk about the size of their penis' are they talking about when it is fully erect or soft? My penis is 7" exact when erect but only like 2" when its soft. Is this normal?? I dont want a girl to be scared off because its small at fir...
A. 2 March 2008: Nothing unusual about that. Of course, relative size is measured erect, but from what point? Essentially the base would seem appropriate, but from the scrotum, the side or from the penile base at the abdomen? Nobody knows. Don't worry about it. ... (read in full...)
I'm meeting up with him and I'm really worried about it... I'll be sober this time! Any advice to calm me down?
Q. Heeey, I normally prefer answering these to asking them.. But hey! I'm meeting up with a guy I like on Saturday, we've met a few times before + one night lead to quite a steamy session in the bedroom! I really like him as more than a friend but I'm ...
A. 2 March 2008: What is the worry?... (read in full...)
Home alone and scared I will lapse back into sex with the ex.
Q. Okay So I just broke up with my ex, and I started dating this other girl who I really like, but we broke up because she was not ready to have a relationship because of school and stress from home.... now here is the thing, my ex is coming over and ...
A. 2 March 2008: This has been a common situation in my life, with girlfriends, live-ins and ex-wives. We would essentially end the relationship as anything serious anymore, for whatever usually trivial reason, but continue with sex for awhile. Usually, it did not ... (read in full...)
Could I still get pregant even after my husband has had a vasectomy??
Q. My husband recently got a vasectomy. After 90 days, he had to go back to th doctor with a sperm sample for a sperm count. My question is: If it takes only one sperm to get a woman pregnant, what good is a "low" sperm count? Could I still get preg...
A. 2 March 2008: Yes, but of course the chance of fertility is greatly reduced, or almost eliminated if the procedure was successful and done well. His physician should be able to assess the probability.
The vascectomies interrupt the travel of sperm from test... (read in full...)
I felt a burning sensation in my penis after "woman on top" sex, help!
Q. when i had sex with the woman on top. afterwards my penis was hurting from inside. it felt like a burning sensation. Why was that?????????????? please help!!! What can i do to prevent it???...
A. 1 March 2008: My recommendation: Try it again, it's fun! But if it continues to hurt when you do that, like the doctor says, "Then, don't do that."... (read in full...)
Can a woman get pregnant having sex on the first day of her period?
Q. Can a woman get pregnant after having sex on the first day of her period?...
A. 1 March 2008: A note of correction here. Using the so-called "rhythm method" without any form of birth control, if both partners are fertile, the most unlikely time for pregnancy is a few days before, during, or a few days following a menstrual cycle. Pregnancy ... (read in full...)
I felt a burning sensation in my penis after "woman on top" sex, help!
Q. when i had sex with the woman on top. afterwards my penis was hurting from inside. it felt like a burning sensation. Why was that?????????????? please help!!! What can i do to prevent it???...
A. 1 March 2008: You can become a little bruised inside from using a lot of angle thrusts, which frequently occur with woman-on-top, especially if she leans back. Bruising can also occur in other positions. If that's what occurred, it should go away fairly quickly, ... (read in full...)
Can I expect regular orgasms now?
Q. I experienced my 1st orgasm during intercourse last night-both me and my boyfriend were absolutely delighted.I had to cry out with the pleasure.Can I now expect to orgasm regularly?...
A. 1 March 2008: While I resisted comment on this for awhile, because I thought the ladies did a very nice job of giving advice, please allow some additional input.
Penile-vaginal intercourse, in it's many positions, may not always lead to orgasm for the fema... (read in full...)
The porn debate. Who's right?
Q. Alright, after reading some of the discussions on pornography on this website I have some things to say, and a few questions to ask. So these are some of the things p...
A. 1 March 2008: Another excessively complicated post about pornography that baffles, but porn is what it is. It is nothing new - has existed through history - it is just that through technology it has become increasingly more explicit, realistic, available and ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to 'feel dirty' while masturbating?
Q. I'm just wondering if any other women out there feel dirty masturbating. I don't have and have never used a vibrator or anything like that, but I still feel dirty doing it, is this normal?...
A. 1 March 2008: It is probably natural for many American girls to feel "dirty" or somehow unnatural to explore yourself in this way, but the accepted opinion of most medical and psychological professionals today is that self-exploration is both healthy and useful ... (read in full...)
How can I get over her sexual past as this is the only problem in the relationship??
Q. I'm currently in a serious relationship with a girl I love. The only problem is that I cant get over her sexual past (which really isnt that bad) She's 21 and has been with 6 guys, all of them short flings that lasted a couple weeks. (the tot. ...
A. 29 February 2008: "What is good for the goose is good for the gander."
It simply means, in this case, that you have to accept and move past whatever occurred before (you had no control over it), so just move on or lose. Sometimes you will likely end up losing unti... (read in full...)
I am never in the mood although initially the sex was great! What to do to improve the situation?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 years with my fiance john, I love him very much and I am still attracted to him. When we first started dating we had a great sex life but now I just dont feel like it (I hardly ever feel sexually aroused anymore). ...
A. 28 February 2008: The advice to get a check-up is good, but regarding arousal and "no orgasms," does that mean that you never have? Is oral stimulation for you part of your sex life? If not and if he will, that may help a lot. ... (read in full...)
She is self conscious about her oversized genitalia...
Q. How can I convince my girl that it doesn't bother me that she has a large vagina. Out of all the lovers I have had I have to admit I have never seen anything quite like it. But it doesn't bother me in the slightest, she is beautiful she has the ...
A. 28 February 2008: Just tell your girl that you love her as she is, and then make love to her with passion. You sound like a great guy, and hopefully she will learn that. Yes, tell her you love the way it is, repeatedly if necessary.... (read in full...)
Tips on how to give the perfect blowjob!
Q. okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating 2 months and I had promised myself I would never give a blow job but only for one reason... I don't know how and it kills me because I get all the pleasure and he doesn't. Does anybody have any tips on ...
A. 28 February 2008: My hope is that you are at least 17 years old and legal to have sex in your state. Since you say that you "get all the pleasure," I presume that he provides oral satisfaction for you and that you wish to return in kind.
Well, after you are nice... (read in full...)
How do girl's squirt?
Q. How do girls squirt???? ...
A. 28 February 2008: It is as rare as titties on a boar hog. When it does occur for the few, it is a female form of semen emitted from her urethra, and is generated by a couple of glands located near her urine tubes, but it is not urine. You will not likely see it in ... (read in full...)
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