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Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 23 February 2008: You are NOT too sensitive for this life and you will NOT end up being alone. That only happens to horny old dirty-minded men like me. lol
You will be fine, be friendly but not overly anxious and allow the guy to ask you out. Don't worry, be happ... (read in full...)
I have never been subjected to being dominated by a girl before, should I let her do with me what she pleases?...
Q. I recently bumped into a female friend from years ago. There was some chemistry in the air and we reacted. The other day when this girl came to see me, She totally sexually dominated me and told me point blnak what she was doing I was bit take...
A. 20 February 2008: Me thinks you need some reinforcements dude. Get one or two of your buddies (mates) in on this !... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 17 February 2008: I would agree with "Laura1318" that you should talk with the man. If you like this guy, give it a chance, as long as he is unmarried and available.... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 17 February 2008: On the one hand, I agree with "hello1" that getting all worked up and thinking of either cheating or concluding a relationship over the lack of oral sex sounds rather childish. One the other hand, you have made the point that supposedly, your ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 17 February 2008: In order to even try to help, I think we need to know a bit more. How old are the two of you? What exactly happened when you "slept together?"
It kind of sounds like he is only wanting sex here, based on what he said and the way he now treats you ... (read in full...)
Disagreement about virginity with my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I seem to have a disagreement regarding virginity. Four years ago, when I was just a 15 year old, I gave a BJ to a friend of mine. He was always a friend, nothing but. Two years later, this friend introduced me to my now boyfriend...
A. 16 February 2008: I think that "Dr. Pete" provided excellent advice here. Your boyfriend seems to be putting you on a "guilt trip" and has little respect for you as a woman, or any woman. It is true, in my opinion, that oral sex to completion is quite sexual, despite ... (read in full...)
He can't orgasm and I feel like it must be me...please help.
Q. Hi, Last year I went through a really really bad, stressful separation from my partner of almost 6 years. I vowed never to have a man in my life again, but once I got back on my feet, I thought it time to start dating again. I am 45 years old, wit...
A. 16 February 2008: Speedcat is exactly correct when she advised that "so many things could be the problem." Stress, depression, medications, age (but less so), medical conditions such as diabetes (and other things), and on and on . . .
Probably does not have anyt... (read in full...)
I want to have sex and there's this specific guy in mind.
Q. Here's the thing I want to have sex and there's this specific guy in mind. I told him already and he's cool with it. He's a friend of mine and sexy as ever. But here's the things I don't want a relationship and he has a girlfriend. Is is right for ...
A. 16 February 2008: In my opinion, you should have a lot of strong feelings for the man you chose to share this extreme intimacy. You are apparently of age to decide, but don't you think this should be shared with someone who really loves you (or at least at the time)? ... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 16 February 2008: There are gals out there who really dig sex in most all it's wonderful ways within reason, and while I would regret it for you, this particular woman does not seem to be that "into you" based on your descriptions. Me thinks there even may be ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I am laid in his bed naked and he is still masturbating to porn...what should I do??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. We have sex almost everyday, sometimes more than once. I want to know why he is looking at porn everyday, sometimes more than once? I try my best to satisfy him. Am I the problem? I tried to talk to ...
A. 15 February 2008: I'll admit that there were some times early in my marriage - about five years in - when sex had become routine and it was at a time when porno tapes had become more easily available in America. This was probably about 1984. On a whim I rented a few ... (read in full...)
He's perfect for me except when it comes to the bedroom!
Q. Hello. I really need some help here. But im to embariced to talk to any of my friends. well I got engaged 1 1/2 ago and we are getting married in 2 months. we started having sex about 4 months ago and then I thought it would get better as time went ...
A. 15 February 2008: You leave a lot of information ambiguous here. In your age bracket, can we presume that you have been sexually active with other men in the past, or not?
Was he also sexually active with others, or were the two of you virgins?
That seems unlikely... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 15 February 2008: My final thought here, considering you say that you please her orally "all the time" and she enjoys it, is that your arrangements have become rather one-sided. She gets what she enjoys, you would like a little of that enjoyment as well.
So . . . 'W... (read in full...)
My boyfriend put the condom on wrong! Am I Pregnant?
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend a week ago last wednesday and i were due to come on my period wednesday just gone,, i used a condom but my bf put it on the wrong way at first then just turned it over,, could i get pregnant from that write bak asap plz...
A. 15 February 2008: I must agree with "XxAngelDust89xX" in asking, "How does one put a condom on wrong?" Now, I possibly would because I've never actually used one. I was married so many years (1978-1997) and had no reason. Relationships since were with good ladies and ... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 15 February 2008: It is not necessary that a girlfriend or a wife provide such service unless she enjoys it, but many WILL if they love their man and are receiving oral pleasure in return. As you indicate, some women even enjoy oral finish at any time, but has she ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I tried to have sex last night... and we couldn't get 'it' in!
Q. My boyfriend and I tried to have sex last night... and we couldn't get 'it' in! I'm not sure if it was because i've not had sex that many times (once before, a long time ago)... or nerves ...or both. Oh. it was soo embarassing :( How can we avoid ...
A. 15 February 2008: You provided little information about what preceded the attempt at intercourse, if anything, but even guys often need some degree of stimulation to reach a good erection. I would think that just some good foreplay, a bit of stroking and maybe an ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty that I masturbate, what can I do?
Q. i msturbate and i feel guilty what to do ? iam thirteen and i watch porn?...
A. 14 February 2008: Back off on the porn, it can begin to dominate your thoughts and is unrealistic. There is nothing wrong with masturbation, however, to occasionally exercise your mental and physical sexuality as it begins to mature. I said "occasionally" because too ... (read in full...)
I have never been subjected to being dominated by a girl before, should I let her do with me what she pleases?...
Q. I recently bumped into a female friend from years ago. There was some chemistry in the air and we reacted. The other day when this girl came to see me, She totally sexually dominated me and told me point blnak what she was doing I was bit take...
A. 14 February 2008: This has only happened a few times in my life, but depending on the situation, it can be a lot of fun. If it is only "role playing" of sorts, it's great. If it gets painful in any way, it would time to back away or get your ass out of it.
For me t... (read in full...)
I've had to come home alone on the night before valentines day. I feel like I've missed a big chhance tonight. What can I do in future?
Q. Hi. I've had a brilliant night!: I walked around with a women's football team, who were playing something called Pub golf. They walked from pub to pub ordering different drinks each time, and downed them as quick as they could. Most of them wer...
A. 14 February 2008: You lost that time. Save up for taxi fare dude.... (read in full...)
Have I ever had an orgasm?
Q. This is gonna sound weird but im not sure if ever had an orgasm... does this lack of certainty mean that ive actually never had it...?It feels great when we make love and sometimes I feel like thats almost it and im sooo close but there is sth ...
A. 13 February 2008: Is it always just straight intercourse with little variation and limited foreplay? Masturbation is a good way for a young woman to explore her hot spots as suggested by some others here, but if he is doing the masturbation for you, let's then call ... (read in full...)
My BF wakes up with an erection. What's up with that?
Q. My b/f sometimes wakes up with a huge erection but insists that he's "not in the mood" for sex and though it puts me in the mood, I really can't get him interested so we just end up cuddling and talking and eventually his erection goes away. But I ...
A. 13 February 2008: Actually, it is normal for most men to have two or three erections during the night while sleeping, perhaps due to dreams, or perhaps just the body checking over the systems. I'm not sure anyone absolutely knows why.
But a morning hard-on can be a... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to keep the spark in the bedroom?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months now and we are very much in love. I just want to know what are the best ways to keep the spark alive in the sex department? Any tips on how to keep it firey and hot in the bedroom? How to turn him on e...
A. 13 February 2008: You sound like a young lady and if you two are meant to be, this should be of little concern for many years to come. Be open, adventurous and creative and it should be just fine. ... (read in full...)
He gets soft during sex, is he bored?
Q. My boyfriend and I are only 16 we have been sexually active for about 6 months and we never had any problems....until now.It started when he was sick we were in the middle of sex and his penis slipped out, i went to put it back in and it was ...
A. 13 February 2008: Two times? I don't think you should be concerned about it yet, but would suggest a bit more variety - woman-on-top, possibly a little oral stimulation if you will, try the couch? The possibilities are endless, actually. ... (read in full...)
How to make sperm thicker naturally by food?
Q. HI Guys, Does any one really know exactly, which/what food can make the men sperm thicker? I heard egg white can. What else??? I want to know what is the natural way to make it thicker then artificial medicines. Thanks. ...
A. 12 February 2008: Most of my life, mine has been on the thicker side, kind of like creamy or even "globs" sometimes. Now much older, it has become a bit less so. I can't think of anything in particular about my life that made it that way, because it always was like ... (read in full...)
Is my partner getting bored of sex with just one woman?
Q. Sometimes my b/f just can't get an erection and I worry that over time, this problem will become much worse. He is on high b/p pills but in the 3 yrs. we've been together it's never caused a problem for him sexually. But we've been together now ...
A. 12 February 2008: I think I'd have to agree with the others that blood pressure meds could cause a problem. I'm on the too but so far, no problem. Check with that doctor.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to orgasm with out actually "cumming"?
Q. Hiya, ive wrote her a few times before and have always got amazing advie from everyone, so first off i wanted to say thank you. Secondly i was just wondering as its been bothering me for a little while, is it possible to orgasm with out actually ...
A. 12 February 2008: What do you mean by "cumming?" Do you mean "squirting" like is portrayed in some porno videos I'm told. Yes I've seen a couple showing that, but it is very unusual for women to squirt fluids in quantity when having an orgasm.
We addressed all this... (read in full...)
Can only orgasm during masterbation
Q. I am 25 and can only orgasm from masturbation. I enjoy sex with my boyfriend but it's frusturating and we change positions and try new things?! help.......
A. 12 February 2008: Dear girl, female orgasms are one of the great mysteries on this planet to most men, who rarely think much about it and view take sex as something to mainly please themselves. When they "get off" they just figure that you got your jollies as well, ... (read in full...)
Is my partner getting bored of sex with just one woman?
Q. Sometimes my b/f just can't get an erection and I worry that over time, this problem will become much worse. He is on high b/p pills but in the 3 yrs. we've been together it's never caused a problem for him sexually. But we've been together now ...
A. 12 February 2008: Yes, men can get "bored" with the same partner over a period of time, usually more years than three, and that's why there is much talk and books about keeping things interesting. I'll admit that I become a little complacent about it with my ex-wife ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or does he have a girl in every town??
Q. So, how do you tell if a man likes you for more than just sex? When this guy i have had a short long distance relationship with(it was supposed to be a one night stand, or so i thought)and i met up last weekend, he had roses waiting for me. Gr...
A. 11 February 2008: Sounds like he is rather interested in you to me. If at least for sex and companionship on an ongoing basis, and it sounds like you seem compatible with that. Perhaps he is just extra nice about it, or maybe more. You might wish to investigate ... (read in full...)
How can I avoid leaking before I come?
Q. i seem to get wet or precome when me and my wife have foreplay or begin sex. how can i avoid this?...
A. 11 February 2008: I agree with "maverick" that this is probably Cowper's fluid. It comes from two small glands located below the prostate gland. This is normal unless there has been a dramatic change in the amount over the years.
As you get older, you may begin also... (read in full...)
Should I or Shouldn't I???
Q. I recently met a great guy online. However he lives 1200 miles away. Anyhow, I was supposed to visit him few weeks ago and although he didn't know I had already booked a hotel. (he thought that I would stay with him cuz we do have mutual friends ...
A. 11 February 2008: Have you actually ever met this guy in person? Are you absolutely sure that he is not married? Do you have his home telephone number and call on occasion on a whim rather than when he says that you may? You explain a lot but I would think that my ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on this question? wanting something different with boyfriend.
Q. I am a grown woman and lately, my sexual appetite in ensatiable. I even am having fantasies which really get me off and I want to turn them into reality. However, I understand that wanting something and actually really doing something are on two ...
A. 11 February 2008: If you wish to know a few more approaches and dynamics about this technique, message me privately at the advice column by clicking on my photo. ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on this question? wanting something different with boyfriend.
Q. I am a grown woman and lately, my sexual appetite in ensatiable. I even am having fantasies which really get me off and I want to turn them into reality. However, I understand that wanting something and actually really doing something are on two ...
A. 11 February 2008: Might you be satisfied, at least at first, with simply doing a bit of finger penetration anally? Do you give him head? If you do, one lesser known stimulation to increase a man's erection and ejaculation is to give his prostate gland a nice ... (read in full...)
I want my man to use a gigantic toy on me without offense. Will he?
Q. I recently visited a toy store and found a gigantic toy penis I want inside me on those fantasy days, especially when I am with my man. But, I am concerned because it is so big, oddly big, that he might get offended instead of turned on by my ...
A. 11 February 2008: How could we know if he will be offended?
You say the thing is huge - is he rather average or small as a man? If so, he might certainly think you are expressing the idea that he is not good enough even if he is ample. I possibly would, but have neve... (read in full...)
He isn't open to suggestions.
Q. Dear Cupid- I am a 25 year old woman with lets just a say a good sexual past. My Husband is older and doesn't quite have the statistics that I have. And he's very sensitive about the topic of Sex. I want sex to last longer and be a little more ad...
A. 11 February 2008: Gee. . . good question. "Baby duck's" suggestion sounds really good, but I would have a couple of questions before giving a man's point of view.
How much older is he? How much does he know about your past sexual experiences?
If he knows about mo... (read in full...)
What shall I do if it gets to the point where he wants sex??
Q. Ive been dating this guy for about 5 months now and here it comes.. hes 18.. im 14 . yes i know thats a big age gap but i really love him .. Everything has been great so far but lately we have been talking about sex alot (i have a extremely perverte...
A. 11 February 2008: Don't. Let him go, please.
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He says he likes it but he doesn't come. Is it me?
Q. This is getting me down... My bf says he loves recieving oral, but he just never cums... Why is this? Is it something I'm doing? Has he got a medical condition? What is it?!...
A. 10 February 2008: There IS one thing you could do while giving oral that would almost guarantee his release, but I'll save that until I read from you that he really wants to do that. I'm not sure he does unless he has said so to you. You may message me at the advice ... (read in full...)
Everything is perfect, so why can't I come??
Q. we have a good sex life. he worships my body and makes me feel so sexy, i literally feel like the most desirable women on the planet. however having a real orgasm is just a very rare occurance. hes big n strong n can go on and on, is ther something ...
A. 10 February 2008: This keeps coming up again and again, but the advisors here don't mind - we just have to keep typing our advice repeatedly.
But okay, my advice to young ladies centers on two things. Masturbation and cunnilingus. I think you can find past resp... (read in full...)
How can I help him last longer?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend about 5 months and recentely started having sex, one problem he doesn't last even 5 minutes, he said it never happened with his ex so he doesn't know what he is doing wrong. He's been trying to get with me since secondary ...
A. 10 February 2008: Kegel exercises. He has to work on that to make it work. You can go and search for that term online and I'm sure you'll find information.
In a nutshell, it's like exercising the groin muscles that anyone would use to try to "shut off" urinating befo... (read in full...)
Should photographers and models mix?
Q. Hi, I'm a photographer and recently got into fashion and nude art photography. I've had models who are very sexy and easy going. I'm wondering if it is right if I have sex with them and how I should figure out if they are into it without the risk...
A. 10 February 2008: As a professional advertising photographer for over 36 years now, I feel that I'm very astute about this, although I was married and faithful for 20 of those years. As both "howcomehoney" and "Somethingeasy" say here, it's a very unprofessional ... (read in full...)
He says he likes it but he doesn't come. Is it me?
Q. This is getting me down... My bf says he loves recieving oral, but he just never cums... Why is this? Is it something I'm doing? Has he got a medical condition? What is it?!...
A. 10 February 2008: If he climaxes other ways then he does not have a medical condition, and it is doubtful that you are doing anything wrong. If you want him to release this way, have you told him? Some men do have a mental block about it because they believe it to be ... (read in full...)
Is our age difference too big?
Q. I need some advice and my story might be a little long so please bear with me. I have fallen for a guy who is a regular customer at the store where I work. The problem is there is quite a big age difference between us. Iam almost 21 and he is 38. He ...
A. 10 February 2008: Oh yeah, some additional thoughts on whether an older man can please a much younger woman. Yes, it can be done nicely with oral stimulation, woman-on-top and other positions, abundant foreplay and a few other things we older guys often know about. ... (read in full...)
Sex films and best mates
Q. My wife often lets me film her perform sexual acts on herself and me. I had never considered showing them to anyone until one day she told me I could show them to my best friend aslong as I pretended she didn't know. At first I was shocked by this....
A. 10 February 2008: Not a good idea at all unless you would like your wife to enter the porn industry and you would be sharing her with many, or at the very least, even your good friend would eventually end up telling "somebody" about what he saw and it would spread ... (read in full...)
I keep thinking he needs someone like his ex,not like me.
Q. hey..it's really strange i love my boyfreind with all my heart yet i'm constantly having doubts about us due to the fact that he has hurt me in the past...all i cud think about is what he did( he started talkin to his ex while he was with me..and ...
A. 10 February 2008: You did not specify how he "hurt" you, but anyone who would ever hurt you is fairly likely to do so again. Period.... (read in full...)
Is our age difference too big?
Q. I need some advice and my story might be a little long so please bear with me. I have fallen for a guy who is a regular customer at the store where I work. The problem is there is quite a big age difference between us. Iam almost 21 and he is 38. He ...
A. 10 February 2008: There are no rules in love. Of course, I readily admit that I'm an old man now (comparatively) and may be very bias, but my first girlfriend after a divorce was about half my age. Didn't matter to her, and certainly not to me. Other much younger ... (read in full...)
Deep throat... why do they make a fuss over it?
Q. Is deep throat really so difficult? Am I getting it wrong here, when I think it's just taking a man's penis a little further into your mouth? I don't understand why people make such a huge deal of it, is there something I'm missing?...
A. 9 February 2008: I'm sure that some guys place a high priority on that and over the past 40 years or so, I have been deep-throated quite a few times, but usually just for a stroke or two. A whole lot of women were either first-timers with oral sex, or relatively new ... (read in full...)
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