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Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 23 February 2008: You are NOT too sensitive for this life and you will NOT end up being alone. That only happens to horny old dirty-minded men like me. lol
You will be fine, be friendly but not overly anxious and allow the guy to ask you out. Don't worry, be happ... (read in full...)
I can't get the fact that she went to a 'naked party' out of my head.
Q. I'm having a real problem getting my girlfriend's past out of my head. I know there have been some other questions like this on the board, but nothing that really matches. Basically, I've been dating a wonderful woman for three months. She's am...
A. 21 February 2008: Wow, man. If you found a "great woman" as you say, I would suggest that you put this away. I'm just jealous that, to my knowledge, those types of things were not going on in my college days - a long time ago.... (read in full...)
Is an orgasm on the way?
Q. I've been having regular intercourse for about 3 months now.Just recently,I've started to feel vaginal contractions which I'm finding very pleasurable.Is this an indication that my 1st orgasm is just "round the corner"-or is it just part of the ...
A. 21 February 2008: Absolutely, vaginal contractions are common during or nearing orgasm for many if not most women. They may be barely noticeable, especially to the man, and even to the woman having a good orgasm because of all the other sensations she feels at the ... (read in full...)
Do guys have a "G-spot" as well?
Q. Do guys have a "g-spot" too?...
A. 21 February 2008: Indeed, a "prostate rub" for about 30 seconds just prior to ejaculation during oral sex generates a greater release of semen, usually creating a longer and more intense climax. The prostate is the primary gland producing semen, while the testicles ... (read in full...)
I wish he could last longer in bed, how do we achieve that?
Q. hi, i'm 17 and me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 9 months. we have sex a lot and i love it, but sometimes i wish he could last longer. any advice on what to do? also, i've never orgasmed either, and i know loads of women take ages ...
A. 21 February 2008: The only effective technique that I know about to actually delay male ejaculation is by learning to control and contract pubic muscles that also may be used to constrict urination. Much of the rest of it is mental, such as "thinking about something ... (read in full...)
I wish he could last longer in bed, how do we achieve that?
Q. hi, i'm 17 and me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly 9 months. we have sex a lot and i love it, but sometimes i wish he could last longer. any advice on what to do? also, i've never orgasmed either, and i know loads of women take ages ...
A. 21 February 2008: If you have never experienced an orgasm, one key is to masturbate (with or without your partner's participation) in order to explore your sexuality and which specific areas of your body responds the most. You will most certainly discover that your ... (read in full...)
I lost a lot of weight, and want more sex than my man can provide, how can I change things around?
Q. Hi, I am a 26 year old happily married woman. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and together for 8. We are very happy and compatiable. The only problem I have with our relationship is that he doesn't want sex NEARLY as much as I do. ...
A. 21 February 2008: This is a tough one. You do not hint how varied your sex life has been in recent years, but an adventuresome sexuality might help. This might mean adding oral sex, various coitus positions, dressing provocatively on his arrival home, sexy talk and ... (read in full...)
Met him online through a personal ad...can anyone answer my questions?
Q. Ok, so i met this guy online through a personal ad. hes totally cool and he wanted to hang out almost immediately. he seems kool and he understands that im not just in it for sex and neither is he. i kinda nervous tho. i think about him alot and i ...
A. 21 February 2008: You are beautiful, if that is your true photo. He would be an idiot not to be pursuing you. Just be sure he is not married, or otherwise attached, and healthy.
I will admit that, in my life, the women who were the most aggressive (flirty) were usua... (read in full...)
Met him online through a personal ad...can anyone answer my questions?
Q. Ok, so i met this guy online through a personal ad. hes totally cool and he wanted to hang out almost immediately. he seems kool and he understands that im not just in it for sex and neither is he. i kinda nervous tho. i think about him alot and i ...
A. 21 February 2008: Nothing wrong about going with the flow, but let him call you, at least most the time. Do not tell him all your feelings right away, they may fade a bit anyway.... (read in full...)
Should he be forgiven after cheating again?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me with his baby's mom who is pregnant and will be having the baby in 3 weeks. This happened two months ago. Then I found out and also she confronted me later about 1 month later. I love him dearly so I had took him back and ...
A. 21 February 2008: Men do not often change, young men included. It is what it is. Take it or leave it for what it is, because it will almost certainly continue.... (read in full...)
Why do I find sex so painful?
Q. Hi I'm 23 and I find it very, very painful to have sex. Is there something wrong with me??????? Please help if you can, thanx...
A. 21 February 2008: What part is so painful? In what positions? What is he doing? What hurts? Do you have extended foreplay first? Have you tried water-based lubricants? Does he perform oral stimulation on you first? Have you been examined by a GYN who says you ... (read in full...)
I have never been subjected to being dominated by a girl before, should I let her do with me what she pleases?...
Q. I recently bumped into a female friend from years ago. There was some chemistry in the air and we reacted. The other day when this girl came to see me, She totally sexually dominated me and told me point blnak what she was doing I was bit take...
A. 20 February 2008: Me thinks you need some reinforcements dude. Get one or two of your buddies (mates) in on this !... (read in full...)
Three times my age. Taboo or Not?
Q. I currently live with an woman who is three times my age, I am 19, she is 58. I rent a room from her while I go to a university nearby. I have lived there for a year and a half and we have been lovers since the summer of 2007. It's just too amazing. ...
A. 20 February 2008: In some cultures it is common for the young adults to spend quality sex time with older members of the opposite sex as a kind of extended "training session" which, if you think about it, would help eliminate much of the confusion found on this Web ... (read in full...)
What's the best position for a G-spot orgasm?
Q. What's the best position for a G-spot orgasm? I only ever really come from clitoral stimulation, and not from intercourse, any hot tips?...
A. 20 February 2008: As "Annalisa" recommends below, doggie-style likely will bring the penis in contact with the G-spot if your partner aims downward while you angle your hips a certain way. This will probably require some experimentation. Some partners, both male and ... (read in full...)
How do I show him that he isn't "sick" for dating me, despite of our considerable age difference?
Q. Alright, So I have been in and out of a relationship with this man who is 33 years older than me. I'm 21, 22 next month. I have a great time with him and he is one of my best friends. I'm very attracted to him and we have alot of things in common. ...
A. 20 February 2008: Love knows no boundaries.... (read in full...)
At what age does a woman reach her sexual prime?
Q. I have a question about a the sexual prime for woman. At what age does a woman reach her sexual prime? During this period of her life does she tend to want and or have sex more? During this time is sex more enjoyable for her? During this time is the ...
A. 20 February 2008: Actually, everyone is different in this regard, depending on so many different things about their lives. But I have read that women actually begin to peak from about the age of 30 to 40 and beyond, while men are most virile beginning about 18 ... (read in full...)
Leakage of semen in between the periods we have sex. Is this normal?
Q. Hi I am a 19 year old girl and my boyfriend is 22.When we have sex without a condom and my boyfriend ejaculates up me it stays up me for quite a while. This is quite embarrasing as it leaks out days after and doesnt smell too nice. If i have sex ...
A. 19 February 2008: Just go sit on the loo (toilet bowl in America) or bidet sometime soon after intercourse, and squeeze your vaginal muscles. This should eject much of the semen, which quite normally wants to remain within the vagina's environment, or better yet, it ... (read in full...)
Vaginal noise, really embarassing. Why does it happen?
Q. Hi, I have quite an embarrising problem after i've had sex. Well the thing is, during sex air seems to get trapped in my vagina and afterwards it all comes out! It sounds like i've broken wind but i honestly haven't! It's really embarrising and i ...
A. 19 February 2008: This is not unusual. Occasionally spreading wide during intercourse will sometimes allow trapped air to escape more gradually. Changing your body position, or intercourse position, may also help release any trapped air in the vaginal canal. Most ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont go down on me
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for about 7 months. She has always said that she thinks sucking dick is disgusting. However she said that she has done it in the past to other guys. It is really starting to bother me everytime we talk about ...
A. 19 February 2008: Although much more acceptable as a sexual activity than it was a decade or two ago, fellatio is an activity that some women enjoy very much, some perform mainly to please her man, and some do not enjoy at all. Men should be willing to accept her ... (read in full...)
Has my wife performed oral on another man???
Q. Hello, I am a married male and recently found out, by investigating my wife's internet history log that she had a secret Hotmail account that she was keeping from me. She has an Outlook email account as well, that we share for friends, business and ...
A. 19 February 2008: Here's a little clue that I discovered during a relationship with a live in girlfriend way back in the early 1970s. If a woman performs oral on a man and she ingests his semen, there is no way that she can mask a hint of his aroma over the next 12 ... (read in full...)
I want an orgasm- please help!
Q. I haven't had many sexual partners (4) but I am not a sexually inexperienced or unadventurous person. But I have always faked orgasms with all my boyfriends and I am ashamed to say I have never, not even once, had an orgasm through sex. I can ...
A. 19 February 2008: You are not the least bit unusual. Female orgasm is almost always a result of stimulation of her clitoral "complex," largely centered around the clitoral bud and it's shaft, but also extending into other areas of her vulva, including the labia ... (read in full...)
I'm circumcised. Will it make sex less plearurable?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have decided to start having full sex. I've been circumcised and hear this dulls sensation. I've practised with a condom and orgasm ok, but will it be the same during intercourse-i'll need plenty friction but want to be ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hard to imagine where you got that idea. In America, I've always heard the circumcised member generally offers increased sensation for both the male and his female partner, while the foreskin of the uncircumcised penis often gets in the way. Truth ... (read in full...)
Should I let him 'teach me' or not?
Q. I've hooked up with this guy quite a few times and am comfortable around him, since we were friends before we started hooking up. We've had sex and he's gone down on me before [both more than once]. And he's hinted that he'd like if I went down on ...
A. 19 February 2008: You would better served if you did not do this at your age. Why don't you wait a year or two before just servicing some casual boyfriend, and discover these pleasures instead with someone you really care about?... (read in full...)
First time sex.. late period , HELP!
Q. I am 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 7 months... on the 14th I had protected sex with him my period is normally on the 15th its 3 days late.. it's NEVER late. I don't have any symptoms of being pregnant but I keep being hungry and needing a ...
A. 19 February 2008: I think it is a bit too early to start worrying about this. A first time sexual intercourse is likely to throw your normal schedule off a bit. It may even cause you to skip a beat. Keep us informed, but give it a few days before you fret too much. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or selfish to want a man to say nice things and want to make love to me?
Q. I have recently met someone who I like. He has been on his own around 4 years (although he has dated quite alot) and I have been on my own around a year (I have had one or two dates). This man is very quiet and I am the one who does most the t...
A. 18 February 2008: Of course it is not "wrong or selfish to want a man to say nice things and want to make love" to you. You do not say how old this fellow is, but he may not be very interested in sex, is unable to perform, is in depression, has a medical condition or ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and he's quite big, will it hurt?
Q. Hi. I am a virgin. My boyfriend is a big guy. Will his penis be big too? What will sex for the first time feel like? I am scared I will do something wrong. Any advice? ...
A. 18 February 2008: Large men do not necessarily have larger than average members. Some may, but you could always ask him in advance. Average in America is about five inches in length, but length is usually not so much a concern for a smaller built woman as girth ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I always have to fake orgasms...
Q. Hi i'm 30 and been married for almost 6 yrs now. Since the first time i had sex i only had 2x orgasm with a partner. I can only get orgasm when i masturbate but not with my husband or with my past relationships. I always have to fake it everytime we ...
A. 18 February 2008: Can't add much to Namatjira's advice either, except that your husband could concentrate mainly on oral stimulation abundantly, if you enjoy it, to help you really become aroused, maybe even climax, before intercourse. And note the fact that men ... (read in full...)
He takes offence when I don't swallow his cum.
Q. I tried really hard to talk to my boyfriend about him cumming in my mouth, because he loves the thought, but whenever he has in the past, I've had to stop myself gagging. I don't think it's the taste, but kind of the gooey texture.. I just don't ...
A. 18 February 2008: If he cares about you at all, Tish's suggestion should put it to rest. Some ladies like it, and some do not, and since you are one of the latter, don't do it.... (read in full...)
Do men put on a condom for oral sex, and why?
Q. Do men put on a condom for oral sex, and why?...
A. 18 February 2008: The only reason I would ever consider wearing a condom (never done it yet, but was married 20 years until recently) while receiving oral sex from a lady is a concern that she may pass me a sexually transmitted disease. Being presently STD-free and ... (read in full...)
How can I have an orgasm without masturbating during sex?
Q. Hi, Every time I have sex with my boyfriend the only way I can have and orgasm is when he is in me and I am masturbating and then I feel a good sensation. How can I have an orgasm without masturbating during sex??!! Please answer asap!! thnxx...
A. 18 February 2008: There is nothing wrong with you reaching your fingers down and giving your "button" a rub during coitus (intercourse). If it feels good, do it, and invite your guy to have a rub as well sometimes. This is a technique I've often used to help my ... (read in full...)
Turns out the girl I slept with is much older than me and married with kids!!! I had absolutely no idea!
Q. Dear Cupid, Not sure what to do about my problem, so here we go... I was out on Saturday night, at a bar near where I live. I met a girl I liked, we had a few drinks, and we continued on to a club. More drinks, and we ended back at my frie...
A. 18 February 2008: You did nothing wrong, except maybe a bit of excessive drinking and potentially unsafe sex, but the problem is her creation. You unwittingly engaged in a reasonably natural and normal bit of masculine indulgence. Even the age difference and ... (read in full...)
Sex was painful with my partner, has anyone got any ideas on how to make it less so?
Q. I made love with my boyfriend for the first time last night. I have been with him for 8 months and I have been on the Pill for 3 of those months. It is the first time I have ever made love with the partner not wearing a condom and would like some ...
A. 18 February 2008: The reality is, not all partners are physically compatible down below. A large penis is just not a good fit for many women, notably if the female is petite or simply has a small vagina. Sometimes length can be the problem if the head reaches to ... (read in full...)
I didn't ejaculate through manual stimulation with my first gf. Any method to facilitate this? Is anterior masturbation to blame?
Q. Hey Im a 26 year old male virgin, and only got my 1st girl friend a month ago.. My girl has tried giving me a handjob 4 times now, each time with her tryin until her arms go numb (30 mins to an hour), and i just don't cum I dont know if its ...
A. 17 February 2008: Absolutely - most of the sensitive nerve endings in a man's penis are at or near the tip, or usually spread throughout the so-called "head." This is much different for a woman, although the majority of her sensations are concentrated in the female ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want sex.
Q. My husband is no longer interested in having sex... I am 27 years of age, he is 33. We are both (physically) in fantastic athletic shape and have no kids. We have been married for almost 6 years now, and we are both working in the same industry ...
A. 17 February 2008: That is too short a marriage time for a youthful couple to have this problem, unless there is some medical, mental (prolonged depression?), psychological, relationship, sexual orientation, financial or confidence difficulty involved. Medical is the ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My husband never offers me oral.
Q. Hi, my husband and i have been together for 2 years. I give him oral sex every night sometimes even twice a night. He never gives me oral. He will tell me that he will do it one night and then finds an exscuse like i'm to tired, or he tried and i ...
A. 17 February 2008: Well he is certainly not being fair, as most all the agony aunts have implied, but "Dawnie" may be on to something when she advised his confidence may be lacking. You might check out my "how to" article by entering "cunnilingus" in the above search ... (read in full...)
How likely is it that I might be pregnant? I know the pill is not foolproof, so I am very worried.
Q. Hi, I'm 19 and a university student. I have had problems with acne for a while and I am on the contraceptive pill Dianette to help with the acne. Because I have it for acne my doctor never explained the contraceptive side of the pill. So how eas...
A. 17 February 2008: While I do not feel knowledgeable enough to "educate you" about it, the pill is considered up to and better than 90 percent effective. Nothing is foolproof, or course. Yes, you are protected during the seven days off, as much as normally. You might ... (read in full...)
I didn't ejaculate through manual stimulation with my first gf. Any method to facilitate this? Is anterior masturbation to blame?
Q. Hey Im a 26 year old male virgin, and only got my 1st girl friend a month ago.. My girl has tried giving me a handjob 4 times now, each time with her tryin until her arms go numb (30 mins to an hour), and i just don't cum I dont know if its ...
A. 17 February 2008: My personal experience with self arousal is less, because I try to avoid doing that unless "necessary," but I believe and have read that too much masturbation can affect your sex life with women. You might want to begin limiting that activity so ... (read in full...)
Any position except for missionary is painful for me. Any physical defects on my side? How can we amend this?
Q. I'm having a problem with sex. No matter how hard we try, my boyfriend and I can't do any position other than missionary. It's painful for me to do anything else, it always feels like he hits a certain spot and it's the most painful thing ever. My ...
A. 17 February 2008: Well, how many positions have you tried? There are many to choose among, and many variations. Have you just tried "doggie"style as an alternative? That position is actually uncomfortable for many women, but there are also some interesting and ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 17 February 2008: I would agree with "Laura1318" that you should talk with the man. If you like this guy, give it a chance, as long as he is unmarried and available.... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if the guy touches himself and then me?
Q. I have a problem, I meet this guy a while ago, I don't really know him that well but last night I saw him and things got a little frisky. So my question is can you get pregnant if the guy touches himself and then me? All I know is that he did the ...
A. 17 February 2008: It depends on what he was doing in the loo (rest room in America). If he was merely taking a leak (urinating), probably no problem at all. Was he whacking off then sticking his fingers in your vagina? It is theoretically possible that if a guy has ... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 17 February 2008: On the one hand, I agree with "hello1" that getting all worked up and thinking of either cheating or concluding a relationship over the lack of oral sex sounds rather childish. One the other hand, you have made the point that supposedly, your ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 17 February 2008: In order to even try to help, I think we need to know a bit more. How old are the two of you? What exactly happened when you "slept together?"
It kind of sounds like he is only wanting sex here, based on what he said and the way he now treats you ... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 16 February 2008: There are gals out there who really dig sex in most all it's wonderful ways within reason, and while I would regret it for you, this particular woman does not seem to be that "into you" based on your descriptions. Me thinks there even may be ... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 15 February 2008: My final thought here, considering you say that you please her orally "all the time" and she enjoys it, is that your arrangements have become rather one-sided. She gets what she enjoys, you would like a little of that enjoyment as well.
So . . . 'W... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 15 February 2008: It is not necessary that a girlfriend or a wife provide such service unless she enjoys it, but many WILL if they love their man and are receiving oral pleasure in return. As you indicate, some women even enjoy oral finish at any time, but has she ... (read in full...)
I have never been subjected to being dominated by a girl before, should I let her do with me what she pleases?...
Q. I recently bumped into a female friend from years ago. There was some chemistry in the air and we reacted. The other day when this girl came to see me, She totally sexually dominated me and told me point blnak what she was doing I was bit take...
A. 14 February 2008: This has only happened a few times in my life, but depending on the situation, it can be a lot of fun. If it is only "role playing" of sorts, it's great. If it gets painful in any way, it would time to back away or get your ass out of it.
For me t... (read in full...)
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