How do I even begin to respond to him, when he ignores my good news?
Q. Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. W...
A. 6 January 2017: I was wondering if the age difference makes a difference in his texting style? He sends me texts that read like emails. It's always this long drawn out text that tells me what he did that day, what he's currently doing and what he plans to do. It ... (read in full...)
How do I even begin to respond to him, when he ignores my good news?
Q. Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. W...
A. 5 January 2017: Yes we do have face to face interactions, but I don't see him often due to him traveling out of the country. At least we Skype and I can tell he's in the foreign country he says he's in =)... (read in full...)
How do I even begin to respond to him, when he ignores my good news?
Q. Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. W...
A. 4 January 2017: We met on a very popular dating website and he was listed as divorced. I am too and he had mentioned during one of our dates that "when I was married..."
I have a very small suspicion that he may be still married or separated, but I don't know how ... (read in full...)
How do I stop obsessing over a guy?
Q. Hello Agony Aunts. I've been talking to this guy online for the past couple of months. We get along great. Him and I message and call each other. I can tell he likes me. We live really far from each other. But talk on a daily basis. I've star...
A. 22 September 2015: I've gone through this a million times! The only thing that helps me is picking up hobbies and hanging out with my friends and family. I know it's a great feeling to be so enamored by a guy you speak to everyday, but you have to make sure you are ... (read in full...)
I want more than an ordinary life, but my husband is very ordinary
Q. Hard to know where to start and I'm going to try not to waffle on for hours.... In a nutshell I have been with my partner 3.5 years, married in August (so married for about 4 months now). For the majority of the relationship it has been happy, ...
A. 18 December 2014: I agree 1000%, yes one thousand percent agree with immortalprincess. ... (read in full...)
My first real relationship and I'm feeling smothered
Q. I am currently seeing a guy that I have been friends with for just over a year. We met each other through work and still work together now. We started talking more regularly a couple of months ago after he went through a break up, and soon after he ...
A. 18 December 2014: If you guys were friends before, you should be able to have a conversation with him to explain what you're feeling. I think if you're honest with him, he'll be receptive and hopefully slow down a bit. If you let him continue with his smothering ... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone with kids so that means I'll be alone for all the holidays and events happening in his family
Q. I've always gotten good advice here before so I'm back again. I'm just wondering why it is so hard to be ina relationship with somebody who has baggage? Has anybody been in this situation before? Maybe dated somebody that has kids? It's very hard ...
A. 18 December 2014: I agree with Youwish. I have a young child and when I started dating I only brought my son around two different men, but I never let his father come in the way of that. Maybe it's because I was the only one with custody, but I never felt obligated ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is engaged to another girl!
Q. Hi. I'm so down atm.. I've always suspected my bf was seeing someone else when he moved away to work. Saw him texting a girl Xmas day last year,he denied it. Saw her add in a realationship after doing a few searched on fb, he later got rid of fb ...
A. 18 December 2014: I'd come right out and ask him. That simple. I'd come up with something creative and ask him straight out if he was cheating.... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he stills care about me? Is he angry still?
Q. About a month ago I found out that my ex got engaged. I was devastated, cry the whole night, and was depressed. I wanted to contacted him but I decided not to let my emotions drive me to insanity. He cheated on me so I broke up our engagement and ...
A. 17 December 2014: I'm sorry to say this, because I hate hearing it, but I think you're reading way too much into things. If you haven't heard from him in that long I doubt he's subliminally sending you cryptic messages on his FB page when you're not even friends with ... (read in full...)
A crush slept with me and used me as a rebound after breaking up with his girlfriend!
Q. So I did a stupid thing the other night and slept with an old co-worker of mine. We stopped working together June 2013 and had talked/hung out very little since then. Well last Sunday night he text me to go out to a bar we use to hang out at. I ...
A. 21 January 2014: I figured as much. I thought he had been broken up with his ex-girlfriend (as of last June) because we did go out after he left my job, but we didn't do anything that time and he said they were over because he wanted it that way. We also went to ... (read in full...)
Is it possible he wants to explore our relationship again?
Q. So my ex and I broke up last October. I had posted a question this past January about trying to get my stuff back from him (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-he-doesnt-want-to-try-again-i.html#provide_answer). Well yesterday he called me out of ...
A. 14 April 2012: Harsh, but extremely helpful. I had a feeling I was getting excited over nothing, but I still love him and it's hard to let go. I'm not answering his calls or texts and I hope I can get over his behind soon because that phone call has me re-living ... (read in full...)
Fickle? what can I do? It took me courage to ask. She said yes. Then she just changed her mind
Q. Hey peoples So here's the deal. Recently I told a girl that I really like her and she responded with the answer I had hoped for. Everything was great we made a plan to meet up and talk about things and see where things go, but 2 days late...
A. 30 October 2011: I agree. Try and move on because a girl like that doesn't deserve you. She had a chose between two guys that she was friends with and she picked the other guy after you had made plans with her? No sweety, this girl doesn't know what she wants and ... (read in full...)
Do I wait and see? How do I find out whether or not she is playing hard to get?
Q. I feel I'm inaccurately reading signs she's giving off. I'm not sure whether she is playing hard to get or just isn't as interested as I am in her. How do I go about this? Do I approach her and ask her if she is into me? Do I wait and see how thi...
A. 30 October 2011: I need more information about what she's doing when you communicate with her. What are the signs she's showing you? When I like a guy I'm shy at first, but then I tease a lot and act very silly. Being silly at that age is a big indicator that she ... (read in full...)
Is my proposed celibacy solution workable? And any tips on helping me get over this intense amount of regret/shame?
Q. I am 15 years old. I have given two guys bjs, and I am soooo ashamed. I regret all of it, and i feel sick whenever i think about it. I feel like i am a bad kid. However, I am in a relationship right now (although he says he doesn't care about phys...
A. 30 October 2011: Being celibate at your age is a GREAT idea! Don't be ashamed for doing what you did, it was a learning experience and you shouldn't do it again until you're in a committed relationship where both of you know each other's sexual history and get ... (read in full...)
How do I ensure I don't mess up this relationship? I've had a track record of having a crush on a new guy every single year.
Q. Dear Everybody who reads this, I am an idiot. For as long as I can remember I've had a track record of having a crush on a guy every single year. If I got over one, I'd get one as soon as the new year came around. When I was younger I was really i...
A. 30 October 2011: Sit back and relax. This must be a stage in young women's life where we feel this way because I too feel this way sometimes. Just let things happen organically. Don't rush things, let the guys do all the work. Besides, men love to chase women if t... (read in full...)
Did I do anything really wrong? B did have a gf, though in the past we had some major chemistry
Q. What would a guy think? I met this one guy X after I met his friend, B. I knew B for four years and he had a thing for me but I was always unsure of my feelings. I decided to go for B after a year of not seeing him. We talked for a while when I g...
A. 30 October 2011: You didn't do anything wrong. He has a girlfriend and you honestly didn't know. No harm, no foul. ... (read in full...)
Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?
Q. For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a baby...
A. 30 October 2011: Men need to spend time with their friends and I think if you tell him he has to stay home he'll end up resenting you. You should talk to him and tell him you feel lonely and that you would like to go out with him once in awhile. First you need to ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me with my confusion? I was positive that I was straight, now I'm not sure?
Q. i'm here because i'm confused about my sexuality and i don't know what to do. For awhile now i have been thinking about men, specifically kissing and having sex with them and even having a relationship with another man. I try not to but when i g...
A. 30 October 2011: Don't limit yourself to labels. What you feel is fine and you can choose whether you want to go on your instincts or not. Maybe this will help. I'm attracted to women. I look at other women and admire their figures and I get aroused when I think ... (read in full...)
It's been one month and a half and my ex has contacted me out of the blue - should I ignore it?
Q. Sorry it's long but... help? This guy would wipe my tears away and told me he's not like those guys who use girls for sex, he's in it for long-term, and he'll wait for me for as long as it takes. We talked everyday. But then... two and a half mon...
A. 30 October 2011: Trust me when I say you're better off without him. Don't answer his text, block him if you can. At your age you don't need this kind of drama. I had this kind of drama when I was younger and I wish to God someone had knocked my butt out for even ... (read in full...)
I took him to the clinic because I thought something was wrong with him sexually and now he wont talk to me!
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles. Okay i've been here before, asking a few questions, and i got wonderful and useful feedback. So now i'm back...same guy...different situation. Okay, so today, i wanted to take him, well the both of us to the clinic ...
A. 27 October 2011: You should have told him that you were taking him to the clinic. I think anyone would react the way he did in that situation.
On the other hand, he did cheat on you 5 times and if that were me I'd leave. My son's father cheated on me once and... (read in full...)
My casual LDR is becoming too serious, how do I let her down gently?
Q. Heres the situation: i met this girl on holiday back in the summer and we hit it off straight away. With regards to looks she isnt what i go for, but she makes me laugh and we got on well so i just went with it. We stayed in contact and have visited ...
A. 27 October 2011: Being someone who just got out of a LDR (I broke it off) you need to tell her now or as soon as possible. My ex was distant and I had a feeling his feelings for me had changed so I initiated the break-up, but he wasn't 100% heart broken because he ... (read in full...)
Afraid my boyfriend will reject my bedroom fantasy suggestion
Q. How willing are men to play out strange sexual fantasies that are suggested by their girlfriends? I want to do a little dress-up in the bedroom but I'm afraid he'll either completely reject the idea or in the moment, I won't be able to take it ...
A. 25 October 2011: Hey. Guys are usually willing to try new things in the bedroom. If you are too afraid to bring it up, just play it off in a joke. Let's say you want to dress up as a sexy french maid. Tell him how something in your house needs cleaning then ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me very much, then says he would choose his wife over-how would you react?
Q. I have been having a relationship with a married man for 5 yrs. I know he loves his wife and he won't leave her but he tells me at the same time he loves me very much and wants me and doesn't want to lose me. 2 days back, we had an argument abou...
A. 24 October 2011: Dating a married man is NEVER a good idea unless they haven't been together for a very long time (years) and divorced papers are being filed. RUN! Run as fast as you can and get rid of this man before he hurts you anymore. He may have love for you, ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the guy I love?
Q. The summer before last I dated a guy and fell in love with him even though I knew he was moving half way across the country (I live in Canada so that's really far). Needless to say, after he moved I couldn't bear the long distance thing so I broke ...
A. 24 October 2011: Aww I'm sorry to hear about this. Normally I would say keep yourself as busy as possible, avoid all contact, remove traces of him from your life and try to meet new guys. Seems like you've done all these things and you're still hung up on him. I ... (read in full...)
I haven't done anything different but this guy has just stopped contacting! Any ideas why?
Q. So I met this guy about 7 months ago at the gym and he was very nice. We seemed to see eachother there alot and said hi then eventually he added me on fackbook and after a two hour long good conversation, we exchanged numbers. For the past two ...
A. 24 October 2011: Hey, sorry to hear that your guy is starting to be distant. I very recently had this problem, but I was actually dating my guy for three months when he stopped calling and texting. Well one good thing is he does answer you when you contact him. The ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to become attached to this child inside me
Q. Please help me people. I'm 4 months pregnant and this whole time I've been up and down. But lately I'm really feeling resentful to this thing in my stomach and don't know what to do. I'm not with the father we really can't stand each other. That's ...
A. 22 July 2011: I didn't feel a real connection carrying my son until the moment he first kicked. Try not to over think it because becoming a mother is instinctive and you will get the hang of it when you allow yourself to let go of any negative feelings. It may ... (read in full...)
Are her compliments just friendly or does she like me?
Q. So next week I'm going to stay at my nan's for the week, who lives by the beach, and I'm going with one of my best female friends. I'm not gay, though there is nothing wrong with it. However, me and my friend has always sort of flirted with ...
A. 21 July 2011: I would wait and allow it to happen organically. It sounds like she's attracted to females since she comments on so many of your attributes. You have to be open to her advances (if you think you're ready) because it will show her that you are open ... (read in full...)
Once a Cheater always a Cheater is this true ?
Q. I've been friends with my sons father since I was 4 yrs old. Best friends, we started dating when I was 14 and dated right up until 2 yrs ago (I was 19 at the time). Up until that point everything was perfect relationship wise. We both went through ...
A. 21 July 2011: It's almost like I'm reading something from my past! My son's father sounds exactly like your son's father. Things go from bad to good, from wonderful to awful. We were together for four years and I finally got tired of his behavior, his cheating ... (read in full...)
Why did he contact me and give me the run around if he's not interested?
Q. So I've been talking to this guy who I met online for about a week and a half now. He messaged me on a interracial dating site and he lives four hours from my location (which he has no problem with, he's dated women that far before). He owns his own ...
A. 17 July 2011: To the anonymous female, I did tell him I was open to having a serious relationship. I never ruled it out, but I did tell him the reason why I didn't want to rush was because I was in a few bad experiences with online relationships. I was upset ... (read in full...)
Partner leaves me for days when I try to talk to him
Q. When I confront my partner about things he always walks out and is gone for days. During this time he is nasty to me via text and acts like he doesn't care. My question is dies care or am I being played for a fool x ...
A. 16 July 2011: I wouldn't waste anymore time on being with him. He seems immature and sounds like he might be hiding something. People who are afraid of confrontation usually are hiding something. I know it hurts to hear, but I would dump him before getting hurt ... (read in full...)
Why did he contact me and give me the run around if he's not interested?
Q. So I've been talking to this guy who I met online for about a week and a half now. He messaged me on a interracial dating site and he lives four hours from my location (which he has no problem with, he's dated women that far before). He owns his own ...
A. 16 July 2011: I only mentioned that I had a son, he doesn't even know his name because I do not share any information about him besides that fact that I have a son. Anyway, it's very hard for me to find someone to date because I have very limited free time due to ... (read in full...)
Bad breakup with my ex, and our engagement is ended!
Q. I need opinions agony aunts and uncles! I was engaged to my recent ex. We were together for 3 years. When I graduated, I went out to eat at the school cafe with the other students to say our goodbyes. The main person organizing the lunch was a ...
A. 16 July 2011: I agree with Silly B. He's controlling and you don't want to continue a relationship with someone like that. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that even though we are blissfully happy right now that it will all end in heartbreak!
Q. Im 18 nearly 19, iv been with my boyfriend for 1 year now who is also 19 and its been amazing, I never knew another person could make me this happy, hes tought me how to live. We were away for a weekend together a couple of months back, and after a ...
A. 16 July 2011: You are young, trust me I was in your shoes and it didn't last. I even have a child with my ex who I was with for four years. I say if you guys can keep the relationship strong for another few years then go for it. I don't believe people should get ... (read in full...)
Does this behaviour mean he's jealous? Something else?
Q. hi :) uhmmm....so my fiance has been with many other girls than i have (ive only been with my sons father and ofcourse him( my fiance) ) well some of the girls he was beeing woth he wasnt dating he'd just have sex with them he says he never ...
A. 16 July 2011: I don't think he's in love with her. I have a child and my son's father has children and I know when we were together he would get mad at his ex for showing off her new child (she has his daughter) but he wasn't in love with her, it was just ... (read in full...)
We've talked about me being with another woman...but why has he picked her? Is he attracted to her?
Q. ok so my fiance of 4 years and i have been discussing myself beining with another women which im kinda interested in if its the right person, so we talked about this for 3-4 ,months non stop then he just let go for awhile. last nite he walks in from ...
A. 15 August 2009: He might just be excited to see you with her because he finds her attractive. Nothing wrong with that, men will always find other women attractive. I doubt he prefers her over you, but because you did bring the whole 3some thing up you have to be ... (read in full...)
Am I not good enough for him if he wants to look at other girls?
Q. I am in a 3 month relationship, with this guy i really do love. i am having jealousy problems, i think. when i first got together with him, i knew he had playboys. but it did not bother me at the time. well later on in the relationship, i would get ...
A. 15 August 2009: Is he just looking at poster or is he making eyes at other women? Guys are visual creatures so don't be upset that he has a wandering eye. If he's wandering around than that's a problem. You don't want him talking to other women in front of you, ... (read in full...)
Dating for 3 years troubled the whole time
Q. Well it all started about three years ago. we have been going out for three years and its just been so hard since day 1. Well first of all let me say he dont work he dont go to school and he is pratically like they say a bum. I work i am going to ...
A. 15 August 2009: It's not worth it, QuirkLady is completely right. If you have to cheat on him you might as well let him go because you're just hurting him and hurting yourself. Let him get his life together and you go do what you need to do. It's going to be hard, ... (read in full...)
He has pics of his ex everywhere!
Q. HOKAY.. so im nineteen years of age and im dating this guy who is twenty five. So he just broke up with his ex five months ago and they were together like seven years, and have a kid together. He has pictures of her everywhere!! like his facebook ...
A. 15 August 2009: Lol I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 25 and he use to have pictures of his ex and stuff like that and he use to talk about his daugther with her all the time. Depending how long you've been in a relationship with him, give it more time. It took my ... (read in full...)
Could my husband be gay?
Q. I have a serious problem! My husband of many years spends most of his time and makes excuses to invite male friends to our house a little too often. He seels to enjoy their company more than mines and keeps away from me unless he wants to have sex ...
A. 15 August 2009: You're not going to like my answer but...I would say that he is bisexual if not completely gay. I had a male friend who acted the same way with his girlfriend. He became very aggressive in bed with her and only had sex with her from behind. I would ... (read in full...)
Watching him masturbate was hot, but now I'm obsessing and feeling useless at sex.
Q. I would like to start out this question by saying I think masturbation is healthy and I never used to have problems with it. Now the question. I never even bothered to think about whether my boyfriend masturbated, because I really didn't care if he ...
A. 15 August 2009: Don't stress! Sex and masturbation are two similar but different expriences. He's not going to stop having sex with you to be by himself and I'm almost positive he rather have sex with you 10 times a day rather than play with himself, but that's ... (read in full...)
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