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My boyfriend can't come. How can I help?
Q. Apologies for this being so long, but I feel that background information could help a little. I've been with my current boyfriend for over 10 months now, and we both love and care about each other more than anything. I lost my virginity to him after ...
A. 31 January 2008: Well, I do understand that it can be frustrating, and although by using Kegel exercises I have learned to delay, many times ladies have asked me to please release after an extended session. So yes, I do understand, but I have no experience with the ... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 30 January 2008: A bad influence can certainly lead her astray.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't come. How can I help?
Q. Apologies for this being so long, but I feel that background information could help a little. I've been with my current boyfriend for over 10 months now, and we both love and care about each other more than anything. I lost my virginity to him after ...
A. 30 January 2008: This is interesting because most women, especially older than you, would treasure a man who could perform long enough to satisfy her without getting his jollies long before she reaches even one orgasm
You provide little information here, but I pres... (read in full...)
What to do with him...Do you think we are really broken up for good?
Q. hello my ex and i been broken up for about 2 weeks now and sunday night i went to his house we talked..he basically told me that we're still young and that hes not ready to commit yet.then he said i'd be wasting my time if i waited for him.....
A. 30 January 2008: Correction: In my response below, I meant to say, "Young folks your age usually do NOT like to hear these old fashioned notions," but we seem to have no way to go back and correct mistaken wording. I do try to reread my posts carefully but goofs ... (read in full...)
What to do with him...Do you think we are really broken up for good?
Q. hello my ex and i been broken up for about 2 weeks now and sunday night i went to his house we talked..he basically told me that we're still young and that hes not ready to commit yet.then he said i'd be wasting my time if i waited for him.....
A. 30 January 2008: I think he has possibly gained a bit more maturity than you have and really has come to the realization that commitment at least deserves more time and age.
Young folks your age usually do like to hear these old fashioned notions because they are ... (read in full...)
Scared I am pregnant!
Q. ok so i would appreciate any help. I had my period on the 12th of January (Saturday) and it lasted until the 17th (thursday) I had sex that next day, Friday, and my fiance and I started out without a condom, but after like 10 seconds he put one on. ...
A. 30 January 2008: I agreed with "hlskitten" below. Very unlikely, at least don't fret over it.
I kind of disagree that the"rhythm method" is entirely unreliable, as I've used that with many fertile girlfriends and a wife without mishap over almost 45 years.
That,... (read in full...)
Looking for men who have been cheated on but worked it out????
Q. Is there any male out there who was cheated on, but managed to work out your relationship? I'd love to talk to you about what happened....
A. 30 January 2008: As a much older man (60), I've truly been in love just three times in my life, and married all three. Only the first one cheated (before) the marriage while I guess you could say we were engaged. I found out, she admitted it, and we married ... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 29 January 2008: Allow me to chime in one more time here. ?
This episode apparently occurred three or more years ago, right? Really worth revisiting now?
So . . . now this friend of hers returns, and you think this friend will coerce your wife, and the mother o... (read in full...)
I have loved her all my life and now she is unexpectedly gone!
Q. Me n my ex broke up nearly 2 years ago, and i realy have tried to move on but it doesnt matter i cant. She was my 1st and only love, Now it all seems like a dream!!! She was my everything, we were young when we met (14 yrs) and we were together fo...
A. 29 January 2008: Do what you must, friend. But trust an old dude whose been in damn near every situation with women. Your best "closure" will be when you find another lady to love and all but forget the past. Sound sound like a good guy who will eventually find ... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 29 January 2008: Some women become "addicted" to the excitement of bringing men to orgasm this way. I think I may have been responsible for inducting a few girls into this elite club, and thank goodness.
For some, it becomes a bit of an ongoing pursuit for vari... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend is married, but his wife doesn't care, he still wants a future together, should I bother?
Q. please help is there anyone out there who has been involved with a married man? I met the most wonderful man almost two years ago. two months after dating him i found out he was married. I was crushed but couldnt drag myself away. His wife knows ...
A. 29 January 2008: Okay, I'm a straight man, not a woman, but fairly recently knew a female co-worker who had been in a mainly sexual relationship with a married man for two years when I met her. This is an example.
She confided in me about it, me being an older man.... (read in full...)
What signals shows that a girl likes you?
Q. How do you no when a girl likes you? What sort of signals do they give? How can i tel if they are playing or flirting....
A. 28 January 2008: All of the gals who answered here gave great advice, and revealed a lot.
StarNews particularly says a lot regarding the fleeting moment when a girl sees someone with whom they could be interested - but I want to tell you that these oppo... (read in full...)
How do I get over the stupid things I did when I was depressed?
Q. A year ago I sunk into depression and had to take 6 months off college to recover. I'm sure other people who have suffered from depression would be able to relate when I say 'I wasn't myself'. During this time I did some incredibly stupid things, ...
A. 28 January 2008: You indicate that you "never actually got as far as meeting up with any of these men" who propositioned you. They were the ones breaking the law, and all degrees of morality, by conducting these requests.
They probably should and could still be repo... (read in full...)
What advice do you have about giving and receiving Cunnilingus? When is a right time to give one?
Q. My girlfriend and I are in love. We are virgins and have not had sex yet. I understand that Cunnilingus are very pleasarable for woman. What advice do you have about giving and receiving Cunnilingus? How will I know when it is a good time to give ...
A. 28 January 2008: Ah! One of my favorite topics and, for any readers very shy about sexual things, this may be too graphic for you.
This is probably the most pleasurable experience a man can offer most women once they are comfortable about sexual stimulation from... (read in full...)
I have loved her all my life and now she is unexpectedly gone!
Q. Me n my ex broke up nearly 2 years ago, and i realy have tried to move on but it doesnt matter i cant. She was my 1st and only love, Now it all seems like a dream!!! She was my everything, we were young when we met (14 yrs) and we were together fo...
A. 28 January 2008: The mystery question is, "Why do women do what they sometimes do?"
Read on to my next posting . . .... (read in full...)
I have loved her all my life and now she is unexpectedly gone!
Q. Me n my ex broke up nearly 2 years ago, and i realy have tried to move on but it doesnt matter i cant. She was my 1st and only love, Now it all seems like a dream!!! She was my everything, we were young when we met (14 yrs) and we were together fo...
A. 28 January 2008: Well, let me one-up you a bit. You tell ME how my ex-wife of 20-years, for whom I provided for and helped raise and love her two children from her previous marriage - bought a home for the family and generously provided all by making a good living - ... (read in full...)
He says he wants to please me but never does.
Q. I've been with my bf for two months now and we recently had sex for the first time...I didn't get any pleasure from it...nor do I ever get anything out of any sexual thing we do. I know there is nothing wrong with me, because I am very capable of ...
A. 27 January 2008: Guess you are both still rather inexperienced. You are both still very young, but yes, it often takes a woman to teach a young man how to please and what the "playground" is all about.
You indicate you know a bit about the playground. You poss... (read in full...)
Are condoms foolproof
Q. can u get pregnant from cum alraedy bein in the condom?...
A. 26 January 2008: They are certainly not foolproof.... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a guy to be scared of sex?
Q. Hey i am a 19 years old and i am a virgin. i have had chances to have sex a couple of times but i chickened out. i know i am ready for sex but i am afriad of it, i am afraid of getting her pregnant or catching something, is it wierd for a guy to ...
A. 26 January 2008: There is nothing "weird" about being afraid.
There is certainly always a chance to impregnate a woman whom you would not want to marry and properly become a husband and daddy, but there are ways to greatly reduce the likelihood.
Timing of ovulatio... (read in full...)
Should I take the plunge with this guy and have sex even though I don't really know if he is only after that?
Q. I have know this guy for around 2 years, and for the last year and a half of knowing eachother we have been flirting. during this past summer we were talking on AIM and he asked if i liked him, which seemed weird because i made i obvious that i was ...
A. 26 January 2008: Well, you are of legal age to make the decision.
If you are not ready to take that step then don't do it.
Sure, he may drop you like a hot potato as soon as he makes the conquest. That is what a lot of guys do.
Or possibly he is a man who would va... (read in full...)
How is it possible I'm not doing it with him but have been so successful before??
Q. This is kinda embarrassing but the head of my boyfriend's penis is not sensitive.. ie. he gets no pleasure from it. He has a small node of nerve endings on the shaft (close to the head)which he says feels really good. Is this normal? How do i go ...
A. 26 January 2008: My pleasure. This little bump or "node" is this guy's frenulum, which means where most or all of the most sensitive nerve endings of the penis are located.
His seem to be concentrated in this one spot, whereas for many men (perhaps), the entire glan... (read in full...)
How is it possible I'm not doing it with him but have been so successful before??
Q. This is kinda embarrassing but the head of my boyfriend's penis is not sensitive.. ie. he gets no pleasure from it. He has a small node of nerve endings on the shaft (close to the head)which he says feels really good. Is this normal? How do i go ...
A. 26 January 2008: A couple more thoughts here before I sign off on this. I care about you because I think you are beating yourself up over nothing.
You say you are between about 22 to 25 years old. You will not think so, but you have a helluva long life ahead of you ... (read in full...)
How is it possible I'm not doing it with him but have been so successful before??
Q. This is kinda embarrassing but the head of my boyfriend's penis is not sensitive.. ie. he gets no pleasure from it. He has a small node of nerve endings on the shaft (close to the head)which he says feels really good. Is this normal? How do i go ...
A. 26 January 2008: Well, darlin, you are NOT inadequate. The problem is with him, not you, if you are really trying to please. But no woman who is willing to try for her man is ever "inadequate." That's about all I can say. ... (read in full...)
I have thoughts of her having sex with another man and it gets me depressed ... can we ever have normal sex again?
Q. Hi there aunts! I have a problem. Me and my girlfriend (2 years an a half) had a relationship breakdown quite some time ago. She went to another guy and she told me that she used the moment when she was weak and kissed her. She hinted that they...
A. 26 January 2008: CherriePie has this exactly right. If you can't put this totally away, you're just going to kill the relationship. Seems you guys have a lot of time invested here.
Do you really want to let a good woman go because something happened when the two ... (read in full...)
For 4 years...I have white discharge problem
Q. hello plz help me, i have white discharge problem from past 4 years, please tell me how to control this problem and i m getting lot's of gelli kind of discharge every day, kindly give me the useful information......
A. 26 January 2008: A bit of white, clear or creamy vaginal discharge is perfectly normal. It is actually one of the ways your body cleans itself, shedding some dead skin cells from inside your vagina.
Some of this is produced by glands inside you to help cleans the ... (read in full...)
How is it possible I'm not doing it with him but have been so successful before??
Q. This is kinda embarrassing but the head of my boyfriend's penis is not sensitive.. ie. he gets no pleasure from it. He has a small node of nerve endings on the shaft (close to the head)which he says feels really good. Is this normal? How do i go ...
A. 26 January 2008: Well, if he masturbates and cums then I guess he's getting what he wants.
If you want to share the experience with him, tell him you would like to see him masturbate, but instead of dumping it in the toilet or wherever, ask him to shoot into your... (read in full...)
I masturbated to porn....now I feel dirty...was what I did just as good as cheating??
Q. Recently, I masturbated properly for the first time. Before hand, I never really found it a turn on. But I put on some porn and masturbated and had quite a good time. The only thing is, now I feel like I've cheated. I wasn't looking at porn for the ...
A. 25 January 2008: In my opinion, no, it's perfectly normal on occasion for both men and women to get a little pleasure (perhaps a lot for many) when you need to release. It's not cheating in my opinion either. But when I have a lover in my life who is both satisfied ... (read in full...)
He says he wants to please me but never does.
Q. I've been with my bf for two months now and we recently had sex for the first time...I didn't get any pleasure from it...nor do I ever get anything out of any sexual thing we do. I know there is nothing wrong with me, because I am very capable of ...
A. 25 January 2008: You're not the selfish one here. Think about it. He doesn't care.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to give him oral sex but I don't want to...what should I do??
Q. My boyfriend wants me to preform oral sex but I don't want to. What should I do?...
A. 25 January 2008: If you don't want to, don't. It's up to you. Some gals love to do it, some will not. But oral sex is a two-way street. You should also not expect to be pleased by it.... (read in full...)
Can you break a penis?
Q. I know this sounds totally ridiculous, but can you break a penis? Is this possible? Just seen as you can break an arm or a leg, why shouldn't you be able to break a penis?...
A. 25 January 2008: The hardness of an erection is due to a concentration of blood sent there due to sexual stimulation, either physical or mental. As others below say, there is no bone to break. Just skin, muscle and blood. Inside is largely a lot of spongy tissue ... (read in full...)
How is it possible I'm not doing it with him but have been so successful before??
Q. This is kinda embarrassing but the head of my boyfriend's penis is not sensitive.. ie. he gets no pleasure from it. He has a small node of nerve endings on the shaft (close to the head)which he says feels really good. Is this normal? How do i go ...
A. 25 January 2008: Well if it "sends him through the roof," as you say, doesn't he cum? I guess maybe you should just work it until he does. What ever works, but I don't think this is "dangerous" or anything like that if he is otherwise healthy. Does he ever ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that the G spot is sensitive for only a certain percentage of women?
Q. I have a very good sex life and I am able to orgasm by masturbation. But I have been wanted to have a G spot orgasm and even squirt for the longest while. I have seen vidoes and read books etc on how to do it. I know where my G spot is and often ...
A. 25 January 2008: I suppose that it is "possible" that a woman lacks sensitivity in the so-called G-spot, which is usually located about two inches inside the vagina on the ceiling.
This is just one area of the total clitoral complex of sensitive areas, to my unde... (read in full...)
A question for girls...have any of you ever masturbated like this??
Q. I have always wondered if anybody else has ever masturbated this way or if it was just me. What I used to do a lot (I rarely do it this way anymore) was to prop myself completely off the floor by holding myself up with my hands and leaning over the ...
A. 25 January 2008: I'm a man, so I apologize for intruding on your girl talk, but I'm aware of many ladies who have done this in variations. Some gals get quite a buzz from riding bicycles or horses.
Some girlfriends used to enjoy riding my knee and lower thigh bone... (read in full...)
How is it possible I'm not doing it with him but have been so successful before??
Q. This is kinda embarrassing but the head of my boyfriend's penis is not sensitive.. ie. he gets no pleasure from it. He has a small node of nerve endings on the shaft (close to the head)which he says feels really good. Is this normal? How do i go ...
A. 25 January 2008: It would definitely NOT be normal that the head of a penis has no sensitivity. I don't know if some kind of "node" has anything to do with, but a man's glans (the tip) is where most all of the sensitive nerves are located.
Some nice feeling exte... (read in full...)
I want him to take my virginity but I'm scared because he's a big boy. Any tips?
Q. im 16 but about to be 17 in about 3 months and im still in love with my ex but thats not the half of it i want to lose my virginity to him but he had a girlfriend and i dont know if he still goes with her or not i want to give myself to him because ...
A. 24 January 2008: You will just be another notch on his holster, so to speak. When I was in college, I knew guys who kept girl's panties and would hang them on a wall that newer girlfriends would not see. I didn't do that, but must admit that I don't even remember ... (read in full...)
Will I cum the first time?
Q. Me and my girl are ready for sex talk, about what it might feel like and what we actually do. I'm wondering how many times i need to move my penis in and out to come-is there enough friction with a condom on. also i want my girl to enjoy it....
A. 24 January 2008: Geez, if you are going to have intercourse with a young lady at your age, by all means use a condom so you at least less likely to become a daddy, have to quit school, possibly get married to someone at too young an age, then possibly get divorced ... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past disgusts me--over 20 guys from the age of 16-18!!
Q. When me and my wife first hooked up, she was 18 and had me thinking she had been with two guys before me. Then the first lie came to light when I had to take a DNA test for our first son, because on a trip back home she had sex with "a friend". So ...
A. 23 January 2008: I'm afraid this is the new reality. I'm nearly three times your age, but even coming out of the 60s and 70s, it would have been difficult to find a young woman without a considerable number of sexual experiences.
Now that I think about it, all thre... (read in full...)
I can only orgasm on top of him but lately he 's been losing his erection!
Q. I have been married since Sept. 07 and I am 7 months pregant. The only way that I can have an orgasm is if I am on top. We used to mostly have sex that way, he seemed to like it a lot too. But the last few months, when I try getting on top, his ...
A. 23 January 2008: Have you ever given him some oral stimulation? Just a suggestion. Even just a couple minutes of fellatio is likely to get most any man erect and keep him that way for some while. If he eventually begins to lose enough erection, re-stimulate orally ... (read in full...)
Should I worry about not being able to orgasm during sex?
Q. I'm getting quite worried, because I just can't orgasm during sex. I can when he licks me out, or rubs my clitoris, but during actual intercourse it doesn't really turn me on to a point where I can orgasm... Is there a problem? I know there's ...
A. 22 January 2008: There is nothing unusual at all about this. The growing understanding regarding female orgasm is that it takes a woman at least 20-30 minutes of foreplay, preferably with oral stimulation of her entire vulva, to reach a satisfying climax.
Since your... (read in full...)
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