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writes:Recently I've been seeing this girl I'm close friends with. We are both seventeen. I am not very sexually experienced, however, she is (she's clean, don't worry). This is a pretty wierd question to ask on this site, i guess, but, the past few times we've had sex, i can't hold back from cumming for more than a couple of minutes. Is there anything I can do to delay it so that I'm not finishing like 5 minutes after we start every time? I feel like that is more of a tease to her than pleasure, and I am very close and comfortable with this girl and do not want to lose her as a sexual partner, as odd as it may be that we are together right now as it is. Should I give her oral pleasure to compensate for the lack of pleasure I am currently giving her during sex?
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (6 March 2008):
Honey I would have to say yes foreplay is important. You are not quite an adult but do not stress if she is not worried. Once you get more comfortable then try a little technique. trace with your tongue on her clit in capital letters the alphabet from a to z. She will love this and it will enhance things. I am worried though as you are not quite 18 so maybe your age is making you not last long but I have never worried about how long it takes as I am not there with a timer going come on mate last a little longer. 3 seconds would be more of an issue than minutes. Good luck and try other things like giving her a massage, foot or back and making her feel relaxed. The key to a woman's arousal is foreplay foreplay foreplay.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 HEY!!
You have the sammmmmme thing as me boyfriend! he suffers from the same problem.. What we do, is now i have been buying the performa condoms (DUREX) and they have been working realy well, they make him last at least 5 mins! It has a anaesthetic tip which numbs the tip of the penis (not for long and its not painful) and it doesnt affect the woman. As for before the sex, plenty of oral and fore-play towards her will go down great!!
GOOD LUCK! Feel free to mail me at any time x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): Hey honey.
Try having lots of foreplay beforehand, including oral, and try to make her orgasm through that. If you need oral tips, either message me or google it, you should get up plenty of tips :] This means that she'll already be pretty much satisfied when you go to have actual sex with her. Have you tried using different positions? When you're on top (like in missionary position) it is easiest for you to orgasm quickly, so try being on the bottom, or just in another position. This could slow down how fast you cum. And once you DO cum, this doesnt mean you have to stop! Kiss and cuddle for a while, play with her breasts (while your penis isnt erect and 'rests' for a while), maybe give her some oral again. Then after 5 or 10 minutes you should be ready and raring to go again! Not all men can 'recover' this fast, but I find this is what works when I'm with my boyfriend. So if you're able to, go back into sex - which keeps her pleasured for longer AND you! So everyone wins! Good luck :]
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 March 2008):
 Since you are of legal age, the answer is ABSOLUTELY !
You are, or seem to be, well on your way to being a great lover if you are willing to spend the time and effort to please a woman before you get your jollies.
This is the truth about being a real woman-pleasing man, dude, and I'll reveal the way for you by simply referring to the "search field" at the top of this page. Type the word "cunnilingus" into the search field. The first article is my own description, but not my best, and other writings are very good as well.
If you read and apply any of that to your activities with your girl you will drive her up the walls, and then your sexual desires will be fulfilled.
Message me, if you would like, for additional information about pleasing a woman.
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