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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm just wondering if any other women out there feel dirty masturbating. I don't have and have never used a vibrator or anything like that, but I still feel dirty doing it, is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): i had a good christian upbringing and was brought up to believe it was wrong to touch myself, didnt stop me though all it did was fill me with guilt, until i discovered a book called 'sex for one' by betty dodson. she not only opened my eyes relieved me of all guilt she taught me a few tricks too, this book is now so scruffy it has been read by everyone i know i had to buy a new copy. it freed the guilt that me and so many other women feel and we are openly enjoying time alone now, as you will too one day, besides if you dont learn how to do it to yourself how can anyone else ever be told how you like it, if its hard for you to buy the book type it in google she has a website too, all the best honey xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): We are a product of society and society judges men and women differently. Females can be far closer then men can be without being homosexual, men can masturbate.
Offcourse it all is pretty silly, but that is society for you.
It might be that you feel you shouldn't be doing this. Well, 50% of women masturbate and 50% lie about it, so you are in good company, but that doesn't help if you still think you are alone in doing it.
Get rid of those thoughts, what you do with yourselve is nobodies business but your own and in many ways it is one of the safest recreations possible, it doesn't give you cancer like smoking, doesn't ruin your liver like drinking, doesn't give you aids like sleeping around.
On a more personall level, masturbation might make you feel more lonely, I heard of this from women as women seem more inclined to want to be close to someone else when intimate.
Oh and remember, sex is only dirty if you are doing it right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Yeah its normal to feel that way at your age. But as you get older it doesn't feel dirty anymore. You just become more comfortable with your sexuality and with your body. In fact, it will become so common and ordinary that you and your friends will joke about it like its no big deal.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 If you feel guilty or dirty , it is because of some religious or cultural thing you assimilated while you were growing up.
Some people picked up those knowledge from the gutters and don't know what is right or wrong.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Hey sweetness,
Well, I'm sure you're not alone in feeling dirty. I'm sure tons of women share your sentiments, but as DoubleM points out, masturbation is totally healthy and normal. If you feel dirty, it should be a really GOOD kind of dirty.
Enjoy exploring yourself! Have fun!
xxIndia
P.S. Make sure your hands are always clean.
P.P.S. Hey, don't knock the vibrator until you've felt those awesomely good vibrations. Pick one up sometime to REALLY knock your socks off!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 March 2008):
 It is probably natural for many American girls to feel "dirty" or somehow unnatural to explore yourself in this way, but the accepted opinion of most medical and psychological professionals today is that self-exploration is both healthy and useful for your sex life. It aids you in learning your personal and particular "hot spots" and may even help you achieve orgasm at times.
This knowledge may be used to your benefit sexually in the future, if you will share what pleasures you most with the man (or men) in your life. There is nothing wrong with telling your lover how to please you, and in my opinion, there is no wrong to explore your sexuality to discover at least some of it via masturbation.
It is much safer in all respects to an active sex life, in terms of disease or unintended pregnancy these days, and you should release and enjoy it as you may. The same applies to men - you will not go blind, become retarded or any of that bullsh*t. But eventually, the best is yet to come.
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