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I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 8 April 2008: You are welcome and hope anything I could offer helped. No doubt that certain traits run through families, so I can't question the discharge thing. The panty liners sure sound like a good idea it would seem. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 4 April 2008: Well everyone is different, and if a discharge is normal for you it might be a good idea to simply clean up real good just before sexual activity, rinse but not douche, and let your boyfriend decide if he can handle it. I've known a few girls who ... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to have sex to his friends to make them jealous, I'm tempted to cede... should I do so?
Q. My bf wants me to have sex with his friends. he says I am so good he wants to make then jealous. I'm half tempted to do it because a few of then are really cute and I want to keep him happy. Most of them have seen me topless and almost naked at ...
A. 2 April 2008: One additional comment - I am of the opinion that your boyfriend cares little about you except as a sex object. There is no common sense at all in the notion that his buddies will be jealous of him because you are good in bed and they know it from ... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to have sex to his friends to make them jealous, I'm tempted to cede... should I do so?
Q. My bf wants me to have sex with his friends. he says I am so good he wants to make then jealous. I'm half tempted to do it because a few of then are really cute and I want to keep him happy. Most of them have seen me topless and almost naked at ...
A. 2 April 2008: In my opinion, you will end up with a very slutty reputation as a result. But if you don't mind the reputation or really care much for the boyfriend, have your fun.... (read in full...)
How can I make my GF climax without clit stimulation, just penetration?
Q. Is there any way that i can make my girlfried come without clit stimulation and just penitration?...
A. 2 April 2008: Danielpew and Tisha-1 are both right that the majority of women need and want more than intercourse alone to reach orgasm. But very often, if you will orally or manually stimulate a woman to one or more orgasms first, she will orgasm again with ... (read in full...)
Do you accompany oral by manual stimulation?...
Q. How do you give somebody oral? i know you use your mouth but do you use your hand too??...
A. 2 April 2008: Yes, you can do that, especially if you cannot take him very deep or all the way inside. One or both hands tend to simulate deeper penetration to the man.... (read in full...)
Pain 'down there' after sex... why?
Q. After sex with my bf (long term, we've only been with each other - sexually anyways, so it cant be an STD) i always seem to be getting a 'burning' sensation down there. So much that he can't go back in again. So its more like we have sex, he ...
A. 2 April 2008: No you do not want to ignore, whether a yeast infection or something else. If this is the first time, and you can afford it, you could have a gynecologist confirm for you and then you will have a good idea for future reference. Many women get YIs or ... (read in full...)
How much porn is too much?
Q. Hi. I am 37 with two kids. My husband and I have know each other for 16 years and married for 8 years. Recently I've discovered he watches pornography every day via a free internet video. I wouldn't care if our sex life even existed but it ...
A. 2 April 2008: The most important thing you mentioned is that you have two children. The second most important information revealed is that you have little or no sex life with your husband. The problem is that the second thing can adversely affect the first, as ... (read in full...)
I masturbate but it doesn't feel as good as people say it does.
Q. I masturbate but it doesn't feel as good as people say it does. what happens down there when you orgasm. i stimulate myself but it doesn't seem to work....
A. 2 April 2008: Suppose that none of can speak for anyone else, but masturbation has never been nearly as pleasurable for me as good ole sex with a member of the opposite gender, therefore, it has been primarily an activity of the last resort category. ... (read in full...)
He never pleases me in bed when I ask to be pleased, should I surrender to his phantasy, a threesome, because I love him?....
Q. My boyfriend really wants a threesome with another girl, hes always said before me and him got together about how its his fantasy and i do want to give it to him because i love him and want to give him what he wants. But im too scared to, i worry ...
A. 2 April 2008: Sounds very much like you are in a very one-sided relationship that is centered on your so-called boyfriend getting everything he wants while he does little or nothing for you. Period.... (read in full...)
I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 2 April 2008: I would still be a bit concerned about this "discharge" you mentioned, especially if or when it becomes "milky." There is a constant shedding of skin cells from inside the vagina which can sometimes collect around the clitoris and vaginal opening ... (read in full...)
I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 2 April 2008: Yes, all girls have a slightly different taste and smell due to genetics, but the only situations that usually cause any significant unpleasantness is an imbalance in her vaginal environment. That means that the natural bacterial and hormonal ... (read in full...)
Help he is huge and I am scared!
Q. I am an average size girl, 5'7", and I have recently started dating a man that is wonderful. One problem ... I have never seen a penis that big b-4. I have no idea what to do. I felt bad because he could tell I was shocked. Does any one have some ...
A. 2 April 2008: You did not mention what "huge" represents but remember that a vagina is capable of expanding to deliver 8-pound babies, although with considerable pain and discomfort. A large penis can be accommodated with patience and a good deal of stimulation ... (read in full...)
I am female and I have really hairy arms and have 3 tatoos... specifically male opinions please.
Q. Hey all, I would like to know the opinions of the males out there if I could please? My question is on the appearance side of things. I have really hairy arms (black hair), what do you guys think of this? I have just waxed them because I am sooo ...
A. 2 April 2008: You do not mention how long you and your boyfriend have known each other and been dating, but you did say that you have "fallen in love." Have you really been able to hide these concerns long enough for love to blossom? Well anyway, I just think ... (read in full...)
I'm looking for kinky sex ideas!
Q. I'm going out with a wonderful open minded guy. We have a great sex life which is quite varied and experimental but there's always more things to try which is why I'm posting here. Does anyone have any recommendations for kinky things to do toget...
A. 1 April 2008: It's kind of hard to suggest kinky ideas without knowing what you two are already doing or have enjoyed. I've never bothered much with "toys" but oral sex can certainly be very kinky in many ways and could fill a book. To many, just the idea of it ... (read in full...)
I am female and I have really hairy arms and have 3 tatoos... specifically male opinions please.
Q. Hey all, I would like to know the opinions of the males out there if I could please? My question is on the appearance side of things. I have really hairy arms (black hair), what do you guys think of this? I have just waxed them because I am sooo ...
A. 1 April 2008: Must agree that very hairy arms on a girl would not be very flattering in the United States, although many women from other countries are often quite hairy, notably Latinos. I have never allowed a fairly hairy arm to deter me if I'm generally ... (read in full...)
All we ever talk about is sex so do we really love each other?
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy since last yr. We are very attracted to each other and we love each other. However, most of the time all we talk about is sex or having sex. Is there anything wrong with it? Or How do we figure out if its physical ...
A. 1 April 2008: Ask yourself these questions: Do you spend most of your time together? Do you do all kinds of things together (other than sex)? Do you share many other interests? Do you feel that he is your best friend? Do you both always feel comfortable to... (read in full...)
Pain 'down there' after sex... why?
Q. After sex with my bf (long term, we've only been with each other - sexually anyways, so it cant be an STD) i always seem to be getting a 'burning' sensation down there. So much that he can't go back in again. So its more like we have sex, he ...
A. 1 April 2008: Sounds like the yeast infection. You can go see a female gynecologist rather than your regular doctor if you would feel more comfortable.... (read in full...)
I feel everyone at school hates me any advice?
Q. hey... i am a senior in a very small school. i have been going there for almost 5 years now...but the thing is almost all of the girls hate me there...they talk about me behind my back and call me stupid and a slut (and im still a virgin)...i just...
A. 1 April 2008: You just need to realize that your life has only just begun. Everyone in the school age years experience rejection, and it is mainly due to the immaturity and often the cruelty of others. You are also still very young and probably a bit sensitive ... (read in full...)
When he says he loves me I just think he wants sex with me. I just don't believe in love anymore.
Q. I've married my husband for 22 years and he treats me like dirt in the recent years and says he never loved me. I was hurt then divorced him. I met this man 18 years my senior who treats me very nice and always says he loves me. I can't believe ...
A. 1 April 2008: To be honest with you, I cannot understand how women often think that every person is alike, whether male or female. It is simply untrue. Please do not compare every new acquaintance in your life to others, especially this jerk that you described. ... (read in full...)
Could I have been that bad in bed, that he didn't want sex with me again?
Q. A couple weeks ago, me and a guy friend slept together. We met through a mutual friend but we've only known eachother a few months, it's not like we're really close or know eachother realy well. Well i was attracted to him, and he seemed into me, ...
A. 31 March 2008: It is really unrealistic to think that you are "bad in bed" unless you simply laid there like a lump of coal. And if the friend was moaning or making any pleasure sounds at all, and climaxed, then the sexual activity was fine.
The most likely scen... (read in full...)
The joys of oral sex!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years now. At the begining I was afraid to tell her that I enjoyed giving rather than receiving oral sex. Since she seemed to enjoy it so much I never said anything, but after a while she started to ...
A. 31 March 2008: This seems more a comment without a question, but I'm a man who has enjoyed pleasing my woman orally for decades, whomever I am with at the time. I have yet to meet a woman who does not enjoy the intense orgasms that good oral stimulation can ... (read in full...)
When you have an orgasm, does it feel like you're going to pee?
Q. When you have an orgasm, does it feel like you're going to pee? like I mean when I'm with my guy, it feels like im going to pee and even when he's doing oral stuff on me.. i feel like im going to pee, is that normal? im afraid I will so I alway...
A. 30 March 2008: It is fairly common for many women to feel something very similar to an urge to pee when getting close to an orgasm. Not all women experience it the same way, but it represents preparation for the release associated with an orgasm. If you feel ... (read in full...)
Why do I lose interest in my men so quickly?
Q. I feel that I am picking smart and attractive men to date, but after a few weeks of dating I always get this feeling all of a sudden that I have no interest in him. He'll do nice things for me and will be a complete gentleman, but I end up ...
A. 29 March 2008: Like many younger women, it sounds like you may favor a more dangerous or mysterious kind of guy. It is a paradox, because many guys figure this out and play the part - or in some cases, they really are more dangerous. Either are more likely to be ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to let me watch porn to get me aroused when we have sex?
Q. Been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years now... she's my second long-term girlfriend. Before I met her I was into porn, and lad mags, and generally just liked looking at women all the time. After I ended my relationship with my first long term ...
A. 29 March 2008: I must agree with most everyone answering here that pornography is at least exacerbating your problem. You don't mention it, and "Uncle Phil" hinted at it, but if you are obsessed with porn you are likely self-satisfying yourself a lot too. An ... (read in full...)
How do we know if emergency contraceptive will work?
Q. Hi I posted about how you tell if a condom's split before and thanks for the replies to that one. But speak of the devil, today the condom did split!! Atleast now I know how to tell... anyway, here's the thing: my gf is on day 7 of her cycle ie ...
A. 29 March 2008: The information provided by "lilmisse2424" seems excellent. You are probably safe anyway within seven days of her period, but anything is possible. The "morning after pill" will very likely mess up her cycle. and from what I have been told, can make ... (read in full...)
I'm scared I will lose my boyfriend because of my small breasts-help!
Q. I'm 17 and I have A cup breasts, and I'm worried my boyfriend thinks my body's ugly. He has said that he doesn't need me to have bigger breasts because he enjoys my legs and butt more. I think he's lying just to make me feel better. I'm scared that ...
A. 28 March 2008: Girl, you have nothing to worry about here, and if your boyfriend were to ever dump you for such a trivial matter, then you are the winner and he the shallow-minded loser. There is so much more to a sexual relationship than titty size, and that is ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband he bores me sexually without hurting his feelings?
Q. Hello, I have been married for 6 years, and I have lost interest in sex with my husband. We have sex about once a week, but I feel as if I'm just going through the motions. Sometimes I pretend I'm satisfied, and sometimes I try to explain what I ...
A. 27 March 2008: It sounds as if your sex life with your husband has become routine - perhaps just missionary fornication on occasion with little variety. A robust sex life these days usually ventures into much more variety, including oral stimulation in particular. ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to cum before me?
Q. Hi, I would really need some real help, and I appreciate some feed backs from people. basically, I have this problem of reaching the orgasim real fast, I don't know how to stop cuming, before she comes first. I have come a cross some ideas like ...
A. 25 March 2008: Simple. Give her ample "oral stimulation" before you even begin to think about intercourse or whatever you enjoy for orgasm. There may be a few women who do not like having their privates expertly licked, sucked and loved, but I have never met any ... (read in full...)
Do you "spit" or "swallow"? What do you do with the cum?
Q. when you give a guy a handjob or a blow job and he cums...what do you do with it??? do you spit it out or what?? sry,ive never done it before and i want to know so i know what to do...
A. 25 March 2008: Pretty much as the others have said below, as long as you are certain your boyfriend is healthy and disease free, it's all up to you. For your first time, you could just give a hand job, and you might consider taking a lick after he cums for a ... (read in full...)
He wants to give me oral-any tips or advice on what to do in preparation?
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend are in a really good secure relationship and we love each other a lot. However, when it comes to sex we both like to please one another. We both try hard to make sure the other is satisfied. I'm okay with everythi...
A. 25 March 2008: Just freshen-up as you normally do for intimacy - do not overly scrub or any such thing - rinse and you will smell and taste wonderful to a man. Add just a bit of perfume if you wish, but only away from your vulva and perhaps just a slight dab near ... (read in full...)
How do guys really feel about small boobs ?
Q. Hey I'm 15 and I have small boobs and I wanna know why guys like big ones so much ? are small boobs bad ?Does it really matter to guys ? I need some guys to be honest here. it doesn't matter how old you are but I need answers!!!! i...
A. 23 March 2008: As an older man who has seen and enjoyed about every available size, my opinion is that it matters little to me. In fact, I think that smaller breasts are just fine, but I do love nice perky nipples. Whether on large or small breasts, firm nipples ... (read in full...)
Age of consent?
Q. I've always wondered this . It's very unclear to me . Is is illegal to have sex at age 15? please let me know thanks in advance ...
A. 23 March 2008: In most of the United States, the "age of consent" is 17 or 18 years of age, and anyone having sexual contact with anyone under the age of consent is committing a serious crime, often called something like "indecency with a minor" or worse. Sex ... (read in full...)
Any reason besides sex or stretching for vaginal farting?
Q. I've had a really bad urinary tract infection for a couple weeks now in which time my husband and i haven't been having sex, but just 3 days ago i started getting vaginal farting. I usually get it while having sex or stretching... but i haven't been ...
A. 23 March 2008: A bit of this happens with the best of us from time to time, usually by the simple compression of air during intercourse, but your situation sounds well worth a GYN examination, especially if it persists and there is any unpleasant odor. ... (read in full...)
She cries out as if in pain when we make love... IS she in pain???
Q. 36 year old from India. Married with a kid. We have sex atleast 4 times in a week. During the climax, my wife cries and shouts a bit. I am afraid, whether she is in pain. When I enquired after some time, she is telling me that, she had ...
A. 22 March 2008: Must agree with "mandy7" and "L1001" here sir. Congratulations, you are apparently nicely pleasing your wife. Women (as well as men) express themselves in various ways when experiencing ecstasy.... (read in full...)
Sex for me is never enjoyable...
Q. Sex for me is never enjoyable, I am really tight and every time I have sex with a guy he is never able to get all the way in. I've tried relaxing and everything but still the guy can never get all the way in.. I've never had an orgasm niether.. what ...
A. 20 March 2008: You are a "dream" to many guys, but I suspect that they are not providing enough arousal for you to truly relax, get your juices really flowing and become ready for vaginal intercourse. Regardless of your physical stature, unless exceptionally ... (read in full...)
He never answers his phone and told me to leave him alone! Still, should I give him the benefit of the doubt?
Q. ok ive been with this guy for at least 6 months. but before i started talkin 2 him he had an ex of three years that he left becuse she was unfaithful. and he said that he would never get back with her. everything was going good with us. he would ...
A. 20 March 2008: Dump him. Look for a better man.... (read in full...)
Left Wanting More...
Q. Hey :) I broke up with my 2 year boyfriend, whom I lost my virginity to, about two months ago and a month after I started out with another guy. We've been having sex too but I'm quite disappointed, and I know it sounds cruel and it's not the mos...
A. 19 March 2008: Depending on how much emotional involvement you have invested in the two-month boyfriend, which would not seem to be too extensive, I am compelled to agree with "Collaroy" that this relationship may be headed "south," as we say in the U.S.A. I'm not ... (read in full...)
He doesn't 'return the favour' in oral... what could I do about that, without telling him specifically?
Q. Ive just started sleeping with my bf he's amazing and we're so close it's amazing and the sex is great, any way i went down on him the other night and he omg he loved it....last night he hinted that he wanted me to do it again which i did happil...
A. 19 March 2008: There is always a possibility that he has some kind of hang up about putting his mouth "down there," but he probably simply lacks experience and confidence at his likely age bracket. I think all of us "willing" guys need a bit of guidance from a ... (read in full...)
Tips about cunnilingus.
Q. Looking for advice here on how to eat out a girl. I like doing it, but I'll be the first to admit I'm no pro at it. So ladies what is your advice? Thanks....
A. 16 March 2008: The following response includes an advisory that some readers may consider "gross" or unnecessary, but it is not intended to be simply nasty. It is fair notice to any guys who may try the referenced position. ... (read in full...)
Tips about cunnilingus.
Q. Looking for advice here on how to eat out a girl. I like doing it, but I'll be the first to admit I'm no pro at it. So ladies what is your advice? Thanks....
A. 16 March 2008: Wholly underwear !!! A reputation as a master pussy licker ??!!
I don't think that I need to try to rewrite that article much differently than the one archived, but there are some variations on positions and things. As long as it remains in that... (read in full...)
Is it a problem that I've had previous sexual partners, but he's only had me?
Q. my boyfriend lost his virginity to me, however ive slept with men prior to our relationship. he knows about the men ive slept with, just that it makes him feel uneasy. he told me he has tried to block that out of his mind. does this pose a problem ...
A. 16 March 2008: Be his mentor to some degree - but do not treat him as if a clumsy dunce. Many women have had the joy of introducing and teaching their lovers, younger or older, the joys of sexuality. Unless he is a jerk or egomaniac, he should and likely will ... (read in full...)
Feminine ejaculation or... did the condom split?
Q. Well, my question is difficult. Can girls cum? I recently had protected sex with my boyfriend and when we'd finished I noticed a lot of white cum-like fluid from inside me. I assumed it was my owm cum, but I can't help but worry that maybe the ...
A. 16 March 2008: Carefully consider what "Irish49" says. Very wise. Sexual intimacy that includes vaginal intercourse invites life changing circumstances. I fully understand the urges, desires and all that, but hand-jobs, blow-jobs, clitoris-licking and a good ... (read in full...)
Feminine ejaculation or... did the condom split?
Q. Well, my question is difficult. Can girls cum? I recently had protected sex with my boyfriend and when we'd finished I noticed a lot of white cum-like fluid from inside me. I assumed it was my owm cum, but I can't help but worry that maybe the ...
A. 15 March 2008: A small percentage of women ejaculate a usually clear, watery form of semen through their urethra. It is produced by a couple of glands inside near the urinal tube, and I suspect the glands are somewhat of a counterpart to the male prostate gland. ... (read in full...)
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