My wife shared a hotel room with a male colleague!
Q. Is it ever OK for a married woman to spend the night in a hotel room with another man? My wife has been working at this new job for 2 years. The company scheduled an out of town trip for seminars which will help her get a promotion that s...
A. 9 November 2011: I think that if something would have happened in there, she would not have told you she slept there. I always say honesty is the best politics because otherwise, you could have found out accidentally and assumed the worst. I think you should talk ... (read in full...)
I am addicted to porn!
Q. I am quite badly addicted to porn and it makes me struggle concentrating on anything else properly. If it was happening once in a week , then I guess it would have been okay but I spend most of my time watching porn and getting jerk off in front of ...
A. 5 November 2011: The best way is to put yourself out there, try to meet someone and have a relationship. The sexual part will come naturally. However, expecting a future gf to be or act like porn stars is unrealistic ... porn is misleading, we don't all look good ... (read in full...)
Miscarried, should I tell the dad?
Q. I want some advice as its a very sensitive issue. I recently had a affair with a married man which I posted about on here and after getting advice I ended the affair however I have since miscarried our baby and I just don't know if I should tell him ...
A. 13 October 2011: If you have ended the affair, good for you. I think, no matter how good a man he is, he would feel relieved deep down. Maybe it's better to keep this one for yourself and rely on your friends/family to help you get over the grief. I never went ... (read in full...)
She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in ...
A. 13 October 2011: Perhaps when you get older you will understand that virginity is not something all women should have when they meet you, every woman as well as a man have a sexual past and the only thing that should matter is that she has been with you for the last ... (read in full...)
Is my post-orgasm refractory period unusually long?
Q. When I have sex, I typically have no physical interest in sex again for at least half a day. And if I do try to have sex at that time, arousal is difficult unless my wife is wearing something particularly arousing. Also, the orgasm takes more time ...
A. 13 October 2011: No, it is not unusual to wait 2 days before having good sex again. However, if you feel the need to satisfy your woman more often or if she asks for it, you could offer a good and prolonged oral stimulation, which I am sure will make her think about ... (read in full...)
A sex question!
Q. I have been dating this girl for quite some time now. I would say about a month. We do a lot of relationship type of things like going out, spending the weekend together, and staying in. We kiss, hug, cuddle... real basic stuff. However, we have not ...
A. 12 October 2011: The anonymous female reader put it the best way. Bow to her and the truth she said :)... (read in full...)
A sex question!
Q. I have been dating this girl for quite some time now. I would say about a month. We do a lot of relationship type of things like going out, spending the weekend together, and staying in. We kiss, hug, cuddle... real basic stuff. However, we have not ...
A. 10 October 2011: My first thought is yes, she wants sex if she feels attracted to you. And unless you decide to talk about it, you will both feel when you are ready. Basically, there is no timeline, it's up to both of you. I have been in a relationship where, ... (read in full...)
What are the ethics of dating and intimate relationships in the workplace?
Q. I would like to ask a question....what do ypu think of intimate relationships/dating between co-workers? for example are they right? should they be avoided? also is dating between a boss/supervisor and a lower worker ethical? also can some of the ...
A. 6 October 2011: I used to work in a place where the boss expressly prohibited any relationship between employees. Nevertheless, 2 people got involved with colleagues and 1 couple even got married. Personally, despite all the obvious advantages of dating a co-worke... (read in full...)
Do you think she is cheating or will do so soon?
Q. New situation, only a week old. Need some other minds to consider my reality, as I lack hard evidence (you may disagree) or objectivity to say what is up. Background - In early 2010, I took on a new assignment that had me flying out of state onc...
A. 2 October 2011: While some people would have enough with the change in sexual behavior(not wanting oral anymore, the Brazilian waxing), I beg to differ. You have gathered a lot of indirect evidence that points to cheating I am not the confrontational ... (read in full...)
I've gained 40 lbs since he seen me last. Should I postphone meeting till I lose the weight?
Q. 6 years ago I regretably broke up with the greatest man I have ever been with. He recently found me. My concern is that at the time, when we were together, I was drop dead gorgeous. Since then, I have gained 40 pounds! I am scared to death of what ...
A. 16 September 2011: Men are visual, they like to present the woman next to them as "trophy" so that the other men would envy them. I would postpone the meeting 6-9 months, meanwhile fighting to lose the extra weight. Eat healthy, do gym, love yourself. I figure i... (read in full...)
How can my wife and I regain our sex life after a long drought?
Q. For reasons I won't get into, my wife and I stopped having sex completely at some point in the past. It has been years now since we have had any sex or even kissed. We were separated for a while before getting back together. Now that we are back...
A. 14 September 2011: My first impression is that the thing that made you grow apart in the first place hasn't been resolved. It happened to me that after 5 months of not being with the man i loved, hooking up again and trying to get intimate after some time resulted... (read in full...)
Leading a Happier Single Life
Q. I'm exhausted from overanalyzing and despairing about the tendency for love to just randomly fall into people's lives, and how this random occurence has never happened for me, and how there isn't much I can do if it never does, because attraction ...
A. 28 August 2011: I have asked the same question not long ago and I got some very good answers: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/will-i-always-be-single.html
Fact is I helped a friend move from her apartment 2 days ago and she had also asked some guys she knew to c... (read in full...)
Is he into me, even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. Okay so I've just started in a new school where no one know eachother so it's a new fresh start. I like my class and everyone else in the school. But in my class, one guy has catched my attention. I started talking to him on our introduction trip to ...
A. 28 August 2011: I refused being in a relationship with a man I was in love with for not knowing if I could trust him in my absence and because he had met me while being with another one. That left me free to meet a man who I could rely on 100%.
Sure, for you it c... (read in full...)
Can 14 negative pregnancy tests be wrong?
Q. Can 14 negative pregnancy urine tests be wrong. I just want to know if it's possible to get 14 consecutive tests wrong and nothing else. I'd appreciate some feedback, thank you....
A. 26 August 2011: If you still are not sure(although you should), check with your gynecologist to tell you when is the right time to take blood tests(the hormone beta HCG). It never fails, it is so sensitive that is used for following the pregnancy all the way. It ... (read in full...)
How do you recover when being traded for another person?
Q. Hey all, I have a pretty interesting problem. So my ex left me last year and two weeks later was in a relationship with her new boyfriend. Suffice to say that entire experience stung and hurt me in ways that I could never even imagine. Fast forward ...
A. 25 August 2011: First of all, you are not alone. Every strong person out there has been at least through one tearing heartbreak before becoming wiser and able to better choose their partner.
We all have our ways of coping with this type of loss and disa... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and a boring girlfriend
Q. Hi, I have recently been suffering from both PE and ED (the ED is suspected from low testosterone levels - only 20 years old - and the PE from anxiety etc., however, despite being prescribed cialis\viagra my girlfriend of a few months does not ...
A. 23 August 2011: I come from another generation and to me one month and a half is awfully short before having sex with someone. I don't rush things into bed before knowing the person, before I get to meet his friends(equivalent that he wants to stay with me). But ... (read in full...)
I got back with my ex but its not working out
Q. Dear agony aunts, I'm really desperate for advice. This situation has kept me awake at night and I don't even have the guts to tell friends or family about my predicament. 3 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We'd been dating for 3 years...
A. 23 August 2011: You should put in balance the advantages and disadvantages of being with your (ex)boyfriend. If you feel he is not treating you like at the beginning of your relationship, as you know he can - means he is not making an effort and maybe he is just ... (read in full...)
I want to love him, but its just not happening
Q. Ok, i have been seeing this guy Dave for a year now. He is good looking , hard working and really kind to me and my two children from a previous relationship. The problem is no matter how hard i try i just dont get proper feelings for him. I thou...
A. 23 August 2011: I think you should try and let him go. Slowly if you need time to get used to the idea that he isn't going to be around anymore. Or just abrupt if you think you can handle it.
I once was with a guy I thought I loved. Handsome, funny, GREAT in bed,... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my kid's father's brother but I think the family and my kids will be feel hurt if we get together
Q. I have fallen in love with my kids father's brother and we want to be together. We have always been attracted together but we never expressed our mutual attraction for one another til his wife passed away 5 yrs ago and his brother went to prison for ...
A. 23 August 2011: I don´t see how either of these relationships could work. There is a reason why you don´t date the best friend of your ex or his brother. And this says a lot about your brother-in-law too, sorry to say. Not to mention the part where your kids wil... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and a boring girlfriend
Q. Hi, I have recently been suffering from both PE and ED (the ED is suspected from low testosterone levels - only 20 years old - and the PE from anxiety etc., however, despite being prescribed cialis\viagra my girlfriend of a few months does not ...
A. 23 August 2011: I think that what you are experiencing is lack of passion. I don´t dismiss any medical problems that you could have and that need being looked into but it just seems that she isn´t interested in YOUR pleasure. As someone wiser than me stated on this ... (read in full...)
Do women really like the direct approach my friend says he takes?
Q. I have recently discovered a very secret side to a good colleague and friend of mine. He’s a few years older than me at 35, not particularly good looking I would think, not really rich either. Just a regular guy (like me!). I knew for quite some ...
A. 22 August 2011: It is only once in my life that I would have said yes to a man asking me that. He was particularly attractive and the reason I would have said yes was that I would have mentally substituted him with my ex and at the end I would have said to ... (read in full...)
Falling in love was great but now it hurts like hell. I am 50 she is 18. Will she come back to me?
Q. i am a 50 and male,and i have been working with this young woman who is 18. She is the owners daughter so I first was aware of her when she was 11. About 8 months ago,we fell in love,believe it or not, both our first love... i have never dated be...
A. 20 August 2011: First of all I fail to understand when you say "we fell in love,believe it or not, both our first love" For her - OK, but you? Never been married? Kids? When you say you are old fashioned, sex after marriage ... you make it sound like you are a 50-y... (read in full...)
I've just caught my boyfriend using cybersex chat rooms
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, the relationship has never lacked anything. We love each other, we don't fight, and we have fun together where ever we are. Here's the problem, during the first year i caught him for ...
A. 18 August 2011: Serial cheaters will always cheat. You already caught him more than once. Do you need more motivation to leave the boat? As I can see you are a smart girl, you are starting to feel he is taking away your self esteem. Don't let him!... (read in full...)
Dear guys: how do you see a married man solicting cybersex?
Q. Dear guys: how low on your scale of values is a married man who never says he wants to leave his wife but complains about lack of sex and after a few weeks/months of flirting online, asks for explicit pictures, cybersex over skype phone and video? T...
A. 14 August 2011: From what I know, there have been many infidelities from both parts during the years(they've been married for 20) - real life cheating. So now he just seems like a hunter for any online thrill he can get. I denied him that saying it was under my... (read in full...)
My married lover destroyed my life!
Q. hi, i am single and had an affair with a married man. I managed to hack his mail ID and found he has chatted and flirted with many young girls. saying 'i love you' and all. he's definitely playing with innocent lives. I know his daughter's mail ID. ...
A. 13 August 2011: Serving his daughter with a bitter disappointment will not bring him back to you. Most men (99%) will not leave their spouse for another woman. No matter how much they complain about their wife, they still come back to her. Every time. Even if he wo... (read in full...)
My wife would rather surf facebook than have sex with me!
Q. Why do women say they are too tired to have sex, have a headache, etc. when the reality is they just have little to no desire to have sex? I got married quite recently, and my wife has often said she's too tired to have sex and has to go to sle...
A. 7 August 2011: I don't want to be mean, but have you considered that maybe something is getting her attention up there on FB? I mean, as a recently married couple, nothing is supposed to be keeping you off of each other. If this is the way your sex life was before ... (read in full...)
How do you get through those first few days after a break up?
Q. I will keep this short and sweet. Whats the most effective method of mending a broken heart, in the early days when you dont even want to get out of bed and when you feel so low you actually dont know what to do. I know the cliche - time is a good ...
A. 30 July 2011: It has been said time heals all wounds. I don't agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens, but it is never gone.
I used to focus on the bad aspects of my ex and of the whol... (read in full...)
27, never had a girlfriend, now can't even go out...
Q. I'm 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship with a girl at all. I can talk to girls though. In my job there are maybe half a dozen girls, all of whom I find attractive and I can chat with all of them. I got on really well w...
A. 22 July 2011: I am 28 and I haven't been able to connect again with a man in the last 5 years. No, I didn't go to a convent! Starting September 2006, after a nasty break-up I have been through a period of 3 months when I refused to get out of the house and ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to pleasure my girlfriend and give her an orgasm?
Q. what is the easiest way to give my girlfriend a orgasm?... the first time me and my girlfriend had sexit was amazing. But now everytime we see each other thats all she wants to do. Sometimes even 3 times in one day. Is this good or bad? Does thi...
A. 22 July 2011: I once had a boyfriend who was several years older than me. He taught me something very important about how to please a woman: ask her what brings her close to the point of no return, let her show you and guide you and you will both get very happy ... (read in full...)
Am I just hoping for too much?
Q. Both me and the man in question look in our thirties/ years younger (not being vain,it is just what people say) and believe me there have been so many fireworks going on between us. but we are both very professional about our roles etc. I just want...
A. 22 July 2011: I have been in a similar situation a few years back ... the problem with men who have to teach you something - whatever that may be - is that you run the risk of feeling attracted to them due to the power they hold - such a man knows way more than ... (read in full...)
Should I meet him? Long distance relationship advice needed
Q. I have met online a guy 8 months ago. He lives in Northern Europe, me in the South (distance 2200 km). Nothing serious at first, just flirting, sharing music and photos of each other. Age difference about 20. He owns a big garden and, as I live in a ...
A. 13 July 2011: Assuming he is married, which we don´t know but could explain the webcam interest from his part ... traveling up to there would just be a very very expensive booty call? Cause I´m starting to see it as a VERY bad investement.
If he could not embr... (read in full...)
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