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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. We have lived together for about 6 months. About 4 months ago i found out that he was regularly looking at porn on my laptop. I confronted him then and he said he would stop. A month or so later same thing over again. This has happened now 5 times. I dont know what to do. I went away for the weekend and i came home and there was dozens of downloaded sex videos on my laptop. What do i do? I dont trust him at all when it comes to this. I wouldnt care so much but he has completely lost interest in me. We used to have sex multiple times a day nearly everyday. Now...nothing at all!! I dont get it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): The amount of sex you have decreases as the relationship gets older. That I'm assuming you know. Now an important question is: "why are you upset?"Is it- A) you're upset because you're horny and want to have sex. OR B) The main reason you're upset is because he doesn't want to have sex.He might be bored. Instead of feelin unwanted and waiting for him to get horny you should find a way to make him horny. Buy the sexiest langerie you can find or something of that nature.Consider that you may have played a part in his lack of interest. Maybe he's lacking confidence. How often do you cum during sex? You have a porn star ex bf?
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reader, wildman +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Unfortunately to me it sounds like he may be loosing interest in you. Have you been giving him a hard time or riding him about something lately besides the porn?
He could just be exploring a new adventure, but there might be something else. I would try to evaluate what else might have changes lately and try to remedy whatever it might be if you are willing. I view porn and feel it is a crutch for other missing elements in my relationship. good luck
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 First of all I would ban him from using your laptop or it won't be long until you have a virus on it (if you haven't already). You need to tell him why you're not allowing him to use it any more and tell him you're sick of all this shit taking up space on your laptop. Ask him to his face WHY he continues to do this and why he doesn't find you attractive any more and see what he says.
You hold the key here. I'ts YOUR laptop. Your laptop is YOUR property! If you continue to allow him access to YOUR laptop until he can be trusted then you only have yourself to blame I'm afraid.
If you do allow him back on it, set up a parental lock so he can't log into ANY porn sites... simple!
~Eve~
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 March 2008):
 It is excessively early in a relationship for a lapse in sexual interest to occur for any couple. There should be a special word to call this seemingly widespread development - a suggestion might include "porno frenzy," but in any case, substitution for real sex with a mate should certainly trump masturbation by anyone, in my opinion.
I don't get it either, young lady, but counseling may help if your love for this boyfriend is utmost in every other way. The issues of trust, honesty and sexuality between a couple are paramount if there is to be any future here. At least you are plenty young enough to move on, if necessary, and bank the brief affair to useful experience. I know of no easy or quick solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): Sounds like he's gotten bored. Find out if there's something in the video's he likes and if it's realistic try it. Don't just do something because it's a fantasy of his, most likly the reality won't live up to the fantasy.
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