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writes:Hey i need some help,I am a 21 year old girl and I'm still a virgin, ok that maybe sounds stupid but it really is a bit of a worry for me. I went out with a guy for over a year but was only 17 and felt I wasn't ready to sleep with him even though I loved him. I am quite large and therefore don't get much attention from guys and am worried that I will be a virgin for ages and the first guy I sleep with will think I'm weird. I am quite innocent/old fashioned please give me some advice.
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reader, miss-innocent +, writes (16 February 2012):
miss-innocent is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wrote this 4 years ago.....still a bloody virgin, feel like its never going to happen for me.
I haven't had any sort of boyfriend from i wrote this its absolutely depressing
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008): Hi,
I really don't see this as a problem. I am 21 and also a virgin. I suppose really it depends on what sex means to you. For me it's something sacred between two people - the same two people only and therefore I'm waiting for that one man. Sadly it's the generations of promiscuous people that are now the "norm", the one's who have also created the STD/I's, and the unwanted/illegitimate babies! I'd say be proud of what and who you are - to one's own self be true!
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Perfectly normal to be a virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): Its ok to still be a virgin. I am 22 and am also one.. sometimes you need to wait till you are comfortable and find the right person. no rush
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (10 March 2008):
That's allright honey, no one's chasing you. I lost mine at the age of 24, to my then boyfriend. We broke up recently and I'm still a little bitter about that (that is in fact how I found this site), but I remember my first time as a very kind and nice experience, and don't regret having given my virginity to him.
If you feel bad about your size you might want to improve your looks: sign up for a gym so you can shape up your body, get a nice hairstyle, etc.
And don't worry about being innocent. In my experience, many men like that innocence. Go out, make friends and do not set out to find a guy. Just let him come your way.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Okay, well by all means you should enjoy your first sexual experience with someone whom you not only trust, but care deeply about if not love, and the person should feel much the same for you. If you currently have no prospects that fit that category, then I would suggest you begin cultivating relationships with men you know, or can meet, by expanding your social life.
You are still very young, with a long life ahead, and there should be no real rush into this. Work on improving your physique, as anyone can usually do this with exercise, self control and determination, and love will come your way. Best wishes to you dear.
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reader, miss-innocent +, writes (5 March 2008):
miss-innocent is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want to trust the first person i sleep with but don't want my first experience to be my only one (feidility) or to wait till my wedding nite or any of that
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 March 2008):
Please consider explaining your following statement:
"i also worry that i will lose my virginity to the person i will marry as i will really need to love/trust this person to sleep with them and i don't want this either."
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reader, miss-innocent +, writes (5 March 2008):
miss-innocent is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so i think i need to add more after reading over this again. Yes when i said large i meant overweight. I am not just ging to sleep with a guy for the sake of it and after a year wasn't ready so when i meet someone i'm in love with it'll take me ages before i would be willing to sleep with him. i also have this real romantic idea that it has to be perfect...not the actual thing... but the setting, and i think i have set this imaginary scene in my head with too high standards but i also worry that i will lose my virginity to the person i will marry as i will really need to love/trust this person to sleep with them and i don't want this either. thanks for your answers so far
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reader, iAintYourAunt +, writes (5 March 2008):
 So what if you are a virgin for years to come? Most men would love to have a virgin. Alot of men prefer big women. It's not bad to be a virgin, though. I don't know what your rush is.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (4 March 2008):
You are way too young to be worried about never finding a mate. You say "large," do you mean overweight? There are plenty over overweight men as well, if that is the case, and plenty of happy overweight couples, okay? You are of legal age and available, so just go meet a nice man and start dating. I'll bet things will brighten.
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