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Deep throat... why do they make a fuss over it?
Q. Is deep throat really so difficult? Am I getting it wrong here, when I think it's just taking a man's penis a little further into your mouth? I don't understand why people make such a huge deal of it, is there something I'm missing?...
A. 9 February 2008: I'm sure that some guys place a high priority on that and over the past 40 years or so, I have been deep-throated quite a few times, but usually just for a stroke or two. A whole lot of women were either first-timers with oral sex, or relatively new ... (read in full...)
I usually take the lead in the bedroom but this girl intimidated me! What to do about the marks on my penis?
Q. I am a bloke and usually always take the lead in bed. the tables were turned on the the other night though. I scored with this girl and she was totally dominating in bed almost to the point of intimidation. She also had the vocal skills to match. I ...
A. 9 February 2008: Teach her to watch out with the teeth. Use a little Neosporin on your wounds and stay away from her until you heal. And congratulations . . . maybe.... (read in full...)
Should I let her promiscuous past bother me? I cannot help but think nastily about her in this regard.
Q. Alright, i need some input just to get my head straight: i have been dating this girl for about 8 months, and i am very much in love with her. I think she is a wonderful person and i actually for the first time in my life can see myself marr...
A. 9 February 2008: I'm no expert either, but if she seems to have gotten over this things, especially being raped, then I would try to give her a chance - if you really care a lot about her. I sure hope those b******s were caught and put in jail.... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he like giving me oral sex??
Q. My boyfriend said he doesn't like giving me oral sex and i didn't ask why because i was embarrassed.. why do you think he wouldn't like it?? I like it!!??...
A. 9 February 2008: A douche became popular back in the 1950s and 1960s as a way for a woman to supposedly better clean her privates, then often using an enema bag (rubber container} with a hose and a perforated plastic insertion tube to essentially "flush out" her ... (read in full...)
Does it feel the same when you masturbate as it does when you have sex?
Q. I am a Virgin and I have just started to masturbate. Each time I do it it takes longer and longer until I get this amazing feeling which makes me shiver all over!! Does this mean I'm getting better at it? Also, is this an orgasm and does it feel ...
A. 9 February 2008: I'll agree with most everything LJ001 says below, especially her excellent thoughts on the greater value of lovemaking between a man and a woman in a good relationship.
For a virgin who is perhaps not ready for that, masturbation is almost a nece... (read in full...)
Is there something I'm not doing right?
Q. Im 24 me and my partner have been together for 4 years we have kids and everything is fine apart from in the bedroom. he complains that i dont do any work ie go on top then when i do he acts like its not a turn on and that im not doing it right th...
A. 9 February 2008: Not a lot of information provided about the problem here, but "woman-on-top" is a great position that allows the female a lot of control (such as angle, depth, movements, etc) and also frees the male to use his hands on breasts, torso, legs and ... (read in full...)
I'm not even thinking about sex but holding her hand turns me on.
Q. Hi Everyone! I have a problem, when I hold my girlfriends' hand or when we are close to each other I don't know why but I get an erection. Is this normal? I'm not thinking about sex when I'm with her so I don't know why I get an erection. Please ...
A. 9 February 2008: Reasonably normal at your age, but it will soon enough go away and you will have much more control over your ups and downs.... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he like giving me oral sex??
Q. My boyfriend said he doesn't like giving me oral sex and i didn't ask why because i was embarrassed.. why do you think he wouldn't like it?? I like it!!??...
A. 8 February 2008: Some men have the misguided perception that a girl's private area is somehow nasty, smelly or otherwise dirty. Of course, it is nothing of the sort if she is healthy, clean and balanced.
But the vagina CAN get out of balance and become unpl... (read in full...)
Why do guys think its so hott to make a girl have an orgasm?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex he tries so hard to make me orgasm, it feels so good and I want to be able to Orgasm so bad but I dont know why I cant? Is it the fact I'm afraid we'll have to clean up my mess? Whats wrong? I know alot of girls ...
A. 8 February 2008: No dear, it is not usual to "squirt" and I can't imagine where you got that idea. Some women do, but out of (I'll just say) dozens of ladies I've been with over some 45 years, only two ever did that. So relax and enjoy yourself, the odds that you ... (read in full...)
Should he make more noise when he comes?
Q. I always need to release the sexual pleasure/tension obtained during intercourse by crying out and moaning etc. My boyfriend says nothing but sweats like mad-his only noise is a series of gasps when he orgasms.Is this normal for a man as he's only ...
A. 8 February 2008: Is it not grand that there are so many different kinds of flowers in the world? All of them are natural, although some are a mix.... (read in full...)
Why do guys think its so hott to make a girl have an orgasm?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex he tries so hard to make me orgasm, it feels so good and I want to be able to Orgasm so bad but I dont know why I cant? Is it the fact I'm afraid we'll have to clean up my mess? Whats wrong? I know alot of girls ...
A. 8 February 2008: You indicate that you "squirt" when you orgasm . . . or do you just think that you will? Have you ever done that or even reached orgasm? It is fairly rare, but even if you ARE a squirter, I would think that your pleasure should have priority over ... (read in full...)
My friend and I started getting cosy, but I refused sex, he went into a sulk, I'm not talking to him now, am I right?
Q. so there's this guy i truly care for,but i dont think he feels the same way he's going through a hard time and a separation right now and he has 3 kids.we fooled around and he wanted to have sex but i said no to him evr since that he has had very ...
A. 8 February 2008: In the old days, we used to call this "on the rebound."
Man or woman, when coming off a split, are both easy and usually just looking for a quick affair to ease their pain or whatever. Such situations may or may NOT go much further than being a so-c... (read in full...)
My sex drive is gone.
Q. i can just take it or leave it, but even when i take it, i never have an orgasm or come with my partner. i never have with any partner. im 37 and i realise it must be a mental thing but i love and trust this guy im with so what the hell is my ...
A. 8 February 2008: Okay, this is not likely any physical or medical problem, or even psychological, but most likely the same difficulty that women worldwide encounter. That is, men in their lives who do not understand what makes a woman tick - especially regarding the ... (read in full...)
...he was watching porn and masturbating, without even asking how I'm feeling!
Q. My boyfriend and I were having sex when I felt a severe abdominal discomfort and I asked him to stop. After taking a rest for about 5 minutes, he wanted to force himself into me again but my pain was still there so I said I didn't want to do it ...
A. 8 February 2008: This is not the way a real man treats his woman, nor himself. Yes, it sounds like disrespect for you in my opinion. I hope you are not living together.... (read in full...)
I love my partner, but I need more sex and he cant keep up due to his age
Q. I am 44 met this man 20 years older than me. He made me feel wanted and loved. He knows exactly what I want and I've never feel so good in my life. Two years on now I love him more everyday and want more sex with him. But he obviously cant keep ...
A. 7 February 2008: I'm also an older man who has recently been with much younger women and I am challenged to do the things that I used to find easy. My problem is even compounded by having a heart attack about four years ago, and I fairly quickly get out of breath ... (read in full...)
Too wet!!! Please help!!
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend I get really wet. I'm serious.... really wet but I usually don't even cum!! I just get very wet. My boyfriend says not to worry but I think it bugs him. How can I not get so wet during sex??? ...
A. 7 February 2008: Getting extremely wet is not a problem, but more a blessing as you will learn as time goes by. Your mate has no issue with it, so why should you?
The fact that you rarely orgasm might be a bit more of an issue, but may be related to your conc... (read in full...)
Love sex, but can't orgasm.
Q. I Love Sex!!!! My question is: I am in my 50's, and am I looking for a man. When I have found one, we go out, usually have sex after the event. The problem: I can't seem to seem to organsim. We try all different positions and nothing wor...
A. 7 February 2008: This one seems a bit of a mystery, but as a 60-year-old man still very active, I do know that many women become a bit "drier" in the region with age. Perhaps an extended period of foreplay, including cunnilingus, would stimulate more natural ... (read in full...)
We live apart, but have been meeting up for 18 months now, I want to get more of a commitment but not risk losing him, how?
Q. I'm 22 and have been occasionally sleeping with a man (my age) who I met in a club 18 months ago. We're both single and behave affectionately towards eachother when we're together but he rarely makes an effort to see me and I'm unsure how he feels. ...
A. 7 February 2008: I agree with Collaroy, that you are probably just a "friend with benefits" and he is likely just enjoying the sex above all. If you are enjoying that as well, and do not "want to lose him completely" as you indicate, then it IS what it is. ... (read in full...)
Advice on the perfect handjob please, tell me what I'm doing wrong!
Q. I need some advice about how to give a better hand job. Now I have tried 3 times now to make him cum but I just can't get him to. I am pretty sure I have a right grip. Its pretty firm but not too firm. I always get this cramp in my arm and its so ...
A. 6 February 2008: Well this is an interesting topic. I must admit, however, that just about every hand job that I can recall all my years was accompanied with lips and tongue, and usually with oral completion. I'll admit, however, that one gal used to give me great ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my bisexuality keeps ruining my relationships, someone please help!
Q. I am bisexual and have long struggled with my sexuality. I am so depressed by this all and despite what people say - bisexuals are not greedy. It isnt even so much a sexual thing to me but something deeper and more meaningful. The emotions and ...
A. 6 February 2008: Please answer these questions which I have posed to three other bisexual women I've been with fairly recently - "Is the difficulty of finding a man who really knows how to please a woman orally - with unlimited and talented cunnilingus - the desire ... (read in full...)
We're newlyweds and my wife has no sex drive, help me !
Q. OK, Well me and my now wife have been together for 8 years and have been married a little less than 1 year. We have been together since I was 16 and she was 17. We did not have sex for the first year and a half. but after we would get crazy and ...
A. 6 February 2008: I think "birdynumnums" has the right idea here, but I would add that greatly expanding your repertoire is possibly the key to reawakening her passion.
Specifically, I would suggest increasing "foreplay" to arouse her libido, and stop talking to her ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?
Q. I have feelings for my boyfriend's best friend, we have a lot in common and I really can imagine us dating. How do I tell my boyfriend's best friend that I will break up with my boyfriend to begin a new relationship with him?...
A. 6 February 2008: I must agree with the others answering - an honorable young man and true friend would decline your advances and probably tell his buddy about it right away. You then probably lose both of them because, in their eyes, you would be without honor. Of ... (read in full...)
Help!!! What should I do???
Q. Me and this girl have been dating for 3 weeks and I really like her. We've made out but then her friend said I should make a move. What should I do? (She suggested I finger her while we are making out) help please...
A. 5 February 2008: Assuming that you of about equal age, just move your hand to her breast(s) while making out. If she pushes your hand away, then let it be, but if she responds positively, continue and move your hand inside her clothing.
If that kind of stim... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 5 February 2008: If this was a "long distance" romance as you indicated, and you were not directly involved in bringing her to California, then I really doubt that a sexual abuse of a minor case or statutory rape charge would cross the state lines. However, you ... (read in full...)
Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"?
Q. Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"? First, I am very aware of the sentiments of most of the advisers here, so let me say right off the bat that I have always agreed on the point but I am in such deep distress right now that ...
A. 5 February 2008: I don't think the advisors here are angry at those in such a dilemma, but if you are unhappily married, the recourse is called divorce. Hopefully, no young children are involved.
Of course, some women (and men) remain married for security or what... (read in full...)
I suspect my bf is married. What can you suggest? Am I reading too much into this?
Q. I think my boyfriend my be married but I am not sure. We have been seeing each other since last fall and here is what I have observed: We see each other twice a month for a date night (always checked by schedules). We have lunch or drinks 2 or 3 ti...
A. 4 February 2008: Sounds fairly suspicious to me, but the advice offered below (check his phone number on Internet and call) could possibly let the cat out of the bag.... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 4 February 2008: It depends on where you live, and how determined her parents might be if told. It's a fairly difficult thing to prove, and in some states, the relatively small difference in age (less than three years) may exonerate you.... (read in full...)
I got swollen "down there," why?
Q. Hi... since I was little one of the lips in my vigina has been dark( like elephant skin) and big (like stretch) only one side and yesterday my boyfriend was messing down there with the finger, after that I got swollen and it hurt ? What is it? Can u ...
A. 3 February 2008: Blood rushing the your private region due to sexual stimulation. It is usually perfectly normal but pain should not be part of this. Have you consulted a GYN regarding your concern? ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with her or let her down easy?
Q. Ok I'm 17 and a lot of younger girls have been flirting with me. A few 13 year old girls have already told me they would have sex with me. I'm not sure of what I should do. Yeah I would love to get a little action but I think they are too young. I ...
A. 2 February 2008: "I'm proud of you for thinking these girls are too young, because they are. In most states you would also run the risk of any number of serious criminal charges for having sexual relations with a minor, consenting or not.
Just tell these teen... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm good in bed?
Q. How can I tell if I'm ok in bed? Can I simply tell by somethings that he does? Or should I just get the courage to ask him? Will he think it's weird if I randomly ask how I am in bed? ...
A. 2 February 2008: It is certainly not necessary to "ask" as long as your man is finishing satisfied. Do you have doubts? Is there any indication whatsoever that he is not being satisfied?
Lovemaking is always, or should be in my opinion, a give and receive situ... (read in full...)
I think I'm developing premature ejaculation, help me!`
Q. Ok heres my story. Im pretty sure I have a mild case of PE. I am 22 years old, and have been having sex for 4 years now. I was with my most recent GF for over 3 years, and enjoyed a pretty good sex life. I would PE every once in awhile, but it wasnt ...
A. 1 February 2008: What would avoiding lap dances accomplish?
Well I've never experienced one but would think, based in part on your experience creaming in your pants, that this kind of thing combined with your self-described "nasty porn habit" keeps you at high stat... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have an extra piece of skin on the lower vagina?
Q. On the woman's lower area, near the vagina, is it normal for there to be a little extra piece of skin kind of just 'hanging' there?...
A. 1 February 2008: Yes, both male and female genitalia come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, configurations - and the female labia are particularly susceptible to little variations in this way, such a little extra or larger flap of skin. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm developing premature ejaculation, help me!`
Q. Ok heres my story. Im pretty sure I have a mild case of PE. I am 22 years old, and have been having sex for 4 years now. I was with my most recent GF for over 3 years, and enjoyed a pretty good sex life. I would PE every once in awhile, but it wasnt ...
A. 1 February 2008: First of all I think you have become or possibly have been at least somewhat obsessed with sex, which these days, and going all the way back to my own youth during the 1960s, is not too unusual.
The workable cure for PE is not an overnight happ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't come. How can I help?
Q. Apologies for this being so long, but I feel that background information could help a little. I've been with my current boyfriend for over 10 months now, and we both love and care about each other more than anything. I lost my virginity to him after ...
A. 31 January 2008: Well, I do understand that it can be frustrating, and although by using Kegel exercises I have learned to delay, many times ladies have asked me to please release after an extended session. So yes, I do understand, but I have no experience with the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on me anymore, any ideas?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We're both in our early - mid 20's. When we first started dating for about the first 3 months he would ALWAYS give me oral sex(though not very good) and always talked about how much he liked giving ...
A. 31 January 2008: Well, I have always (for at least 40 years) believed oral stimulation, one of the most pleasurable aspects of making love for both man and woman, should always be a give and receive situation.
I think your boyfriend may be reverting to a common proc... (read in full...)
Information about spermicide. Is there any risk of pregnancy in given situation?
Q. does spermcide really work? B/c i bought a box full of thin desolving spermcide where u put it in u and wait for 15 minutes then have sex. but my boyfriend thought it was ok birth control so he cummed in me. is there a chance where i can be pr...
A. 31 January 2008: The best estimate, according to reliable sources, is that a 40 percent chance of conception remains, especially if within several days of female ovulation, which is about midway through the menstrual cycle. It's quite risky without the additional ... (read in full...)
Should I give blow jobs at parties because all my friends do it?
Q. i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't ...
A. 31 January 2008: Aside from the reputation as a slutty whore you will gain, this is a great way to end up with HIV, gonorrhea of the mouth, herpes and possibly worse. And I would have never wanted to be second in line. What in the world are these girls thinking? ... (read in full...)
Is talking dirty to my college teacher wrong?, I'm 18 he's 31
Q. I am talking dirty with a teacher and i dont know what i should do? It started last week when i seen him out in a club. We got chatting and then i emailed him via the college and said i was sorry if i said anything i shouldnt because i was so drunk ...
A. 31 January 2008: I must agree with the next two replies below. Basically, if you want some no strings attached sex with the guy, go ahead knowing there could be consequences. Nothing wrong about an age difference, but the circumstances could surely earn you an ... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 30 January 2008: A bad influence can certainly lead her astray.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get wet just thinking about sex?
Q. Hi. i am new at sex and i was wondering if it is normal to get wet just thinking about it. like out of nowhere in the middle of class just get wet. also what do i do about it? ignore it or run to the bathroom and finger myself and get it ove...
A. 30 January 2008: Yes, it is perfectly normal for young people in or just beyond puberty to experience sexual arousal - getting "wet" for young girls, getting hard for fellows. Even just thinking about it.
If the "getting wet" is becoming frequent and possibly emba... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't come. How can I help?
Q. Apologies for this being so long, but I feel that background information could help a little. I've been with my current boyfriend for over 10 months now, and we both love and care about each other more than anything. I lost my virginity to him after ...
A. 30 January 2008: This is interesting because most women, especially older than you, would treasure a man who could perform long enough to satisfy her without getting his jollies long before she reaches even one orgasm
You provide little information here, but I pres... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 29 January 2008: Allow me to chime in one more time here. ?
This episode apparently occurred three or more years ago, right? Really worth revisiting now?
So . . . now this friend of hers returns, and you think this friend will coerce your wife, and the mother o... (read in full...)
Cheated before, I have the right to know if she has after we got married
Q. My wife is an oral sex freak, by that I mean going down on guys. Before we were engaged she told me she blew about 12-15 guys and wasn't sure of the exact amount because lots of guys she did lots of times. I overlooked this because her reas...
A. 29 January 2008: Some women become "addicted" to the excitement of bringing men to orgasm this way. I think I may have been responsible for inducting a few girls into this elite club, and thank goodness.
For some, it becomes a bit of an ongoing pursuit for vari... (read in full...)
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