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Feminine ejaculation or... did the condom split?
Q. Well, my question is difficult. Can girls cum? I recently had protected sex with my boyfriend and when we'd finished I noticed a lot of white cum-like fluid from inside me. I assumed it was my owm cum, but I can't help but worry that maybe the ...
A. 16 March 2008: Carefully consider what "Irish49" says. Very wise. Sexual intimacy that includes vaginal intercourse invites life changing circumstances. I fully understand the urges, desires and all that, but hand-jobs, blow-jobs, clitoris-licking and a good ... (read in full...)
He is interested in me physically but not in any other way, what do you think?
Q. I'm having a bit of a crisis of conscience. There's a guy who I've known for a good few years who I've recently developed a bit of a thing for. He has on numerous occasions let me know that he would be interested in me physically but not necessarily ...
A. 16 March 2008: A relationship, especially if it includes sexual intimacy, is always much more fulfilling and rewarding when it includes love, understanding, companionship and true compassion. Anything else is just lust. I have nothing against screwing for fun, but ... (read in full...)
"Bad Luck Omen" when it comes to sex?
Q. Hey, My girlfriend (21)and I (18) have been dating for a month now. We've tried to have sex but its a no go. She has had bad experiences in the past with inconsiderate guys and now thinks she has some sort of condition where she cant have sex ...
A. 16 March 2008: Tolerance. Kindness. Patience. Consideration. Love.... (read in full...)
Feminine ejaculation or... did the condom split?
Q. Well, my question is difficult. Can girls cum? I recently had protected sex with my boyfriend and when we'd finished I noticed a lot of white cum-like fluid from inside me. I assumed it was my owm cum, but I can't help but worry that maybe the ...
A. 15 March 2008: A small percentage of women ejaculate a usually clear, watery form of semen through their urethra. It is produced by a couple of glands inside near the urinal tube, and I suspect the glands are somewhat of a counterpart to the male prostate gland. ... (read in full...)
Sex or no sex in a relationship?
Q. I have just recently broken up with a man who I had sex with for the first time, after dating him for two months. Hes 36 and Im 23. We actually met in a dance club (definitely not a place where I imagined myself to find the man I had my first sex ...
A. 15 March 2008: Unless this man was your first and only boyfriend as well, which would seem unlikely, then you have had relationships previously without sex. If that is true, then the answer to your question, "Can I have a relationship without sex?" is yes, because ... (read in full...)
I feel as though I am virgin again, having a new partner. Any advice? Anyone ever felt this way before?
Q. I've only have had one sex partner and we're not togather anymore. I'm in a relationship now and it's becoming sexual but i'm nervous to have sex with him. He says it's always the first time with someone new. I feel like i'm starting out as a virgin ...
A. 15 March 2008: Yes, a sexual encounter with a new lover is sometimes a bit like the first time, especially when young. Age usually tends to make such situations much more comfortable if you have been with numerous lovers in a lifetime. But getting nude and getting ... (read in full...)
The idea of sex with an older guy scares me, as I have only dated men of my age before. Has anyone had such fears and how did you control them?
Q. I'm planning on having sex with a 32 guy im 22. I'm not a virgin but i feel unexperinced compared to him. All so he has to use mega condoms cause regular don't fit right so im scared of his size. Hes tall and thin but i guess his penis is to big. Is ...
A. 15 March 2008: All the other advisors and "anonymous male reader" made excellent contributions. I think that in summary, if the man is truly more experienced as likely, is a turn-on for you and a considerate person, you are probably in good hands. I rather doubt ... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 14 March 2008: Just PG-17 rated, mind you. But I must wonder what this young woman must be thinking, assuming this was a legit question.... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 14 March 2008: Possibly the 90th answer. This should be made into a comedy CD, maybe even a DVD. Everyone at the barbecue must play their part with appropriate props.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm going to be a virgin forever and if I do have sex, he'll just laugh at me!
Q. im 18 a female, i feel im going to be a virgin for ages, i dont want to get to 20 and still be a virgin, although i do value being a virgin but im just frightened i will be one for a long time and when i finally do have sex the bloke will laugh at ...
A. 14 March 2008: There is no hurry, but whatever bloke has that privilege will be among the happiest guys on the planet that day. Just make sure he cares about you, and vice versa, be safe about it and certainly don't think that a nice young man would laugh at you. ... (read in full...)
Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" but it still feels prickly! Need some suggestions!
Q. I'm having a bit of a problem. Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" with warm water, shaving cream, all the things you are supposed to do. My legs are always silky smooth, but it seems no matter how much I try, it still feels ...
A. 14 March 2008: You go girl !... (read in full...)
Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" but it still feels prickly! Need some suggestions!
Q. I'm having a bit of a problem. Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" with warm water, shaving cream, all the things you are supposed to do. My legs are always silky smooth, but it seems no matter how much I try, it still feels ...
A. 14 March 2008: Thanks eyeswideopen, Ask oldersister, Tisha-1, Uncle Phil, sexi -
I think we all know something about shaving (or whatever) human hair.... (read in full...)
Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" but it still feels prickly! Need some suggestions!
Q. I'm having a bit of a problem. Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" with warm water, shaving cream, all the things you are supposed to do. My legs are always silky smooth, but it seems no matter how much I try, it still feels ...
A. 14 March 2008: No I do not shave there, but shaved my face for about 45 years and know how to make it smooth as a plum. What the hell is the difference? Have had several girlfriends who like being shaved (because it was easier). I won't go into details, but also ... (read in full...)
I am very "turned on" by my wife with another man, is this crazy?
Q. This is a little embarrassing, but have been wanting to ask someone about this for some time, but have never had the guts to ask any of my friends. My wife and I have a good friend (David). We've been friends with him for about 4 years. The 3 of ...
A. 14 March 2008: Please understand that I am very or comparatively traditional, perhaps, yet was considered WAY progressive in my youth and earlier years (through your age range today). During those many years (I'm now precisely 60), there was little that I ... (read in full...)
Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" but it still feels prickly! Need some suggestions!
Q. I'm having a bit of a problem. Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" with warm water, shaving cream, all the things you are supposed to do. My legs are always silky smooth, but it seems no matter how much I try, it still feels ...
A. 14 March 2008: Okay, maybe waxing is best as "pickles" recommends, but I know that many older women usually prefer less discomfort and pain. Actually, in the last couple of years, more like a closer trim and some perimeter shaving. We are old fashioned I guess.... (read in full...)
Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" but it still feels prickly! Need some suggestions!
Q. I'm having a bit of a problem. Each time I shower, I shave my legs and "down there" with warm water, shaving cream, all the things you are supposed to do. My legs are always silky smooth, but it seems no matter how much I try, it still feels ...
A. 14 March 2008: The smoothest possible result is to shave as mentioned, followed by additional hair removal with a very good electric shaver. Run the shaver very slowly across the shaved areas repeatedly and in various directions. You may be amazed how smooth and ... (read in full...)
Should I go to a "Gentleman's Club" to lose my virginity or am I selling myself short?
Q. Hey guys, I've been pondering this for a while now, but I'd like to get some outside opinions on this. I'm still a virgin at 20, and quite frankly I'm over it. It hasn't happened yet, I can't see it happening anytime soon, and I just feel bored ...
A. 14 March 2008: Everyone here has provided excellent advice and perspective. May I simply add a few thoughts about attracting a girl in the first place. First, go where the girls are, wherever that may be. Exposure to possibilities is number one. Then, always walk ... (read in full...)
How long do hand jobs and blow jobs take?
Q. 2 questions how long does a handjob take (on average)? and how long does a blow job take (on average)? (both until the guy comes) I know it differs from guy to guy obviously but Id just like to hear some averages and opinions thanks...
A. 13 March 2008: Wondering if "birdynumnums" is right that you may be wanting it to happen fast, but some of us (men) can, and much prefer, to hold back for a good while, say 10 to 15 minutes or a bit more if the girl can handle it. Why? Because by then, the tension ... (read in full...)
How common is it for a guy to give his girlfriend oral sex?
Q. How common is it for a guy to give his girlfriend oral sex? My girlfriend says she wants it but I don't know if I'm ready. Any advice would help. Thanks....
A. 13 March 2008: In my opinion, it has become increasingly common over the past 40 years, and it was happening quite a bit then. I was there. But yes, these days it's pretty much a natural thing in a good or intense sexual relationship. Go to the search field atop ... (read in full...)
Masturbation after childbirth?
Q. I recently gave birth to my first child a little over a week ago. Everything went fine and I only tore a little and have a few sutures. The doctor gave me the normal don't do anything for 6 weeks speech and knowing your most fertile time is after ...
A. 13 March 2008: Call your doctor or ask his nurse and if clitoral stimulation (only) would cause a problem, which is possible because the vulva becomes engorged with extra blood when you are aroused, and the vagina typically has contractions during orgasm, even ... (read in full...)
The idea of sex with an older guy scares me, as I have only dated men of my age before. Has anyone had such fears and how did you control them?
Q. I'm planning on having sex with a 32 guy im 22. I'm not a virgin but i feel unexperinced compared to him. All so he has to use mega condoms cause regular don't fit right so im scared of his size. Hes tall and thin but i guess his penis is to big. Is ...
A. 13 March 2008: How could DearCupid explain to you why you are nervous or scared? Sounds as if he "told" you that he requires a mega condom. Maybe so, and if it frightens you in person, then decline. You could make that a conditional agreement beforehand.
In any ... (read in full...)
We made plans to have sex....could this be his way of asking for a relationship without really asking?
Q. Hey everyone, I need help! I've been telling this guy how I feel for awhile now and he just never seems to catch on. Well, today we had a talk and he tells me that he needs something more than sex. He wants a companionship. He and I haven't had sex ...
A. 13 March 2008: You say that you two have not had sex "recently," which may mean that you have engaged in activity in the past. We don't know, based on your posting, but "Ask oldersister" may be right - You need to make your intentions and limitations clearly ... (read in full...)
She's scared to have an orgasm--how do I deal with this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been going out with this girl for a few months. She's really great and I think we're falling in love. We are sexually active and we enjoy having sex with each other alot. I've been with several partners before as has she. It's be...
A. 13 March 2008: If you have been unable to please your girlfriend orally, I must ask how long you are stimulating her, and after how much foreplay, such as kissing, fondling, rubbing, licking, fingering and such? How much experience have you had giving cunnilingus? ... (read in full...)
When is it okay to sleep with someone you are dating without giving it up too easy or playing too hard to get?
Q. When is it okay to sleep with a guy you are "seeing" without giving it up too quickly OR playing too hard to get? So...I met this guy a couple of years ago. We were just really good friends(I actually met him thru my ex). When my ex and I broke up...
A. 13 March 2008: Sexual relations are always up to the individuals involved, in my opinion. Certainly, after knowing someone for a couple of years, and after seven weeks of "dating," it could be appropriate as long as both are comfortable having pre-marital sex or ... (read in full...)
We made plans to have sex....could this be his way of asking for a relationship without really asking?
Q. Hey everyone, I need help! I've been telling this guy how I feel for awhile now and he just never seems to catch on. Well, today we had a talk and he tells me that he needs something more than sex. He wants a companionship. He and I haven't had sex ...
A. 13 March 2008: You did not say whether you would like a more serious relationship with him, other than just sex, but it sounds as if he would like that. It sounds as if it's up to you. Would not a good companionship be better for both of you? ... (read in full...)
Why does he smell his fingers???
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and we have had sex. I have given oral but not received it, which was more of my choice because of me being worried about smelling bad (even though I don't think I do). Lately, I've noticed that after ...
A. 12 March 2008: And yes indeed, I'm confident, 60-years-old, and know how to please. What is wrong with that? I have girlfriends, thank you. These are opinions and I try to help. ... (read in full...)
Why does he smell his fingers???
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and we have had sex. I have given oral but not received it, which was more of my choice because of me being worried about smelling bad (even though I don't think I do). Lately, I've noticed that after ...
A. 12 March 2008: Guess I missed the part about him "wanting to." That did not become clear until her first response, which posted the same time I was writing. Did not see it beforehand.... (read in full...)
Why does he smell his fingers???
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and we have had sex. I have given oral but not received it, which was more of my choice because of me being worried about smelling bad (even though I don't think I do). Lately, I've noticed that after ...
A. 12 March 2008: In my opinion, you still have a very one-sided relationship with your boyfriend if you are pleasing him orally and he withholds such enjoyment for you. He is being very selfish not to reciprocate, because it will likely be the most pleasurable ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my husband touching me or kissing me...and the thought of sex makes me sick.
Q. I don't know what it is. the thought of making love to my husband makes me sick. I can't stand him touching me or kissing me. In the past and currently he has some anger problems and he says hurtful things to me and about my family and its a turnof...
A. 12 March 2008: It is certainly understandable that you are averse to affection and lovemaking with a husband who is and has been verbally abusive and ugly to you. There may be something else going on that makes him unhappy, but you say there is a history to this. ... (read in full...)
A couple of questions about sex for you...
Q. I've been dating me boyfriend for three years and two of those years we have been having sex, But I have never done it on top! To be honest I'm a little scared to and I'm not sure how to do it. So I have two questions, How do I give by boyfriend ...
A. 12 March 2008: Must agree with both "BigSis" and "Collaroy" previously, it is very easy and natural. They gave good advice, plus you can lean back, "grind," and also turnaround and face away for various kinds and angles of penetration. In this position you have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is premature - anything we can do?
Q. My boyfriend suffers with pre ejaculation, what can i do to help stop this?...
A. 11 March 2008: There is a physical method if he is willing to work at it, by exercising the muscles that can delay ejaculation. At his likely age, the muscles are strong, he just needs to be more aware of it. It's called "Kegel Exercises" and you can enter that in ... (read in full...)
She complains I don't display desirable masculinity...
Q. I don't know how to be "the man" for my girlfriend. She complains that I'm not masculine enough for her. One example: Her managers at work hit on her often, even as far as buying her gifts. I want to do something about it, but I have no idea how ...
A. 11 March 2008: I'll address the issue of "talking dirty" during sex a bit, though I'm not really all that vocal. My hope at times is to let my lady know that I'm very much enjoying our encounter, and I'll say things like, "Oh baby," "Oh yes," and things like that. ... (read in full...)
How do I get the old man I fell in love with back??
Q. Hi there, I would like some advice, I have been seeing this guy for a while, 18 months and it is long distance, thing is it used to be ace! and don't get me wrong but when we are together it is good!! fantastic! but when we are apart now, it's ...
A. 11 March 2008: In my opinion, you should back away and possibly seek another boyfriend. I think that you have been placed on the "back burner" based on your description. You are still quite young and deserve more attention from a man you care about. There are ... (read in full...)
How can give her the best oral of her life?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend and I want her to tremble when she see me and not just wink. How can give her the best oral of her life?...
A. 11 March 2008: Despite the lack of punctuation in the post by "illbethere" she provides some great advice. In my opinion, I addressed it fairly well in the article mentioned, but I agree that oral stimulation for a woman must begin very gently - much more like a ... (read in full...)
Is there a safe suppliment that will enhance his size effectively? How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. We talk about everything, only have never mentioned one thing in particular to him. I have had past physical relationships with other ...
A. 11 March 2008: There is a vast amount of information (testimonials) regarding one of the major advertisers in the U.S.A. called "Extenze" which most everyone seems to consider a big scam. It apparently does not only fail to work, but the company allegedly rips ... (read in full...)
My friend kisses me in front of her husband, I'm a confused puppy!!
Q. I'm good friends with a couple, Paul and Rachel. We've been pretty close for about 3 years. I'm 28, Paul is 28 and Rachel is 27. The 2 of us seem to spend a lot of time together, and most of it is instigated by Paul (he usually invites me to go ...
A. 11 March 2008: The situation you described may possibly be an open marriage, where sensual or even sexual activities with outside individuals are tolerated. You could go along with it for awhile and see what happens, but it would probably be wise not to escalate ... (read in full...)
I always get guys worked up about having sex. But when it comes down to having sex. I chicken out. Any tips?
Q. I always get guys worked up about having sex. But when it comes down to having sex. I chicken out. Any tips?...
A. 11 March 2008: It sounds like you enjoy being a teaser. You provided little information, but a teaser, whatever the kick they get from it, may be asking for some serious trouble at some point with the wrong guy. In my opinion, it is wiser to be honest and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to choke me during sex.
Q. My boyfriend likes to choke me during sex. I told my female friend this and she said "thats hot" Is this normal? Why do people like this?...
A. 11 March 2008: That is something that is totally strange to me. In my opinion, there is nothing that can be considered "normal" about it - it must be some kind of total male dominance thing, or much worse. Perhaps it has to do with sadism. How can that have ... (read in full...)
Why does he smell his fingers???
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year, and we have had sex. I have given oral but not received it, which was more of my choice because of me being worried about smelling bad (even though I don't think I do). Lately, I've noticed that after ...
A. 11 March 2008: Hard to say why he does that. It is very much a turn-on for some men. Many of us love to embrace our woman's lovely aroma long after activities, and may not want to eliminate it if she was fresh. I'm a man who enjoys her taste and pleasantry all ... (read in full...)
What is causing this pain when we try to have sex?
Q. My partner and I are having trouble with our sexual relationship and are not sure what is causing it. We have only recently started to have penetrative sex but I find it excrutiatingly painful and the second time we had sex, or rather tried sex, ...
A. 11 March 2008: My feeling is that there must still be some kind of infection or other medical condition involved. Has this occurred from the first time with this partner?
His size, unless exceptionally "huge" should not be a factor. A woman's vagina can expa... (read in full...)
My GF has rare qualities, biblical I would say. But is this worth a lifetime of sexual frustration?
Q. Hello, My gf and I have been together for more than 8 yrs. There have been ups and downs but never any really really serious arguments. As a person, she is far far better than me. Patient, kind, loving, forgiving, quiet, loyal - she is very much...
A. 10 March 2008: My primary thought here is that, by about the age of 25 or so, people rarely change much. Some do change some behaviors for one reason or another, but I have also seen many revert back to however they were before. For what it's worth. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
How can give her the best oral of her life?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend and I want her to tremble when she see me and not just wink. How can give her the best oral of her life?...
A. 10 March 2008: If you really want to know how, my best advice has already been written here. Since I would rather not rewrite, please just enter the word "cunnilingus" in the search field at the upper right of the page. She will cling to you if you follow the ... (read in full...)
Is there a safe suppliment that will enhance his size effectively? How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. We talk about everything, only have never mentioned one thing in particular to him. I have had past physical relationships with other ...
A. 9 March 2008: My suspicion is that all the supplements being touted for "male enhancement" are probably bogus shams, much like many (but certainly not all) herbal or vitamin supplements. However, if any male on this site have actually experienced positive ... (read in full...)
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