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How can give her the best oral of her life?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend and I want her to tremble when she see me and not just wink. How can give her the best oral of her life?...
A. 11 March 2008: Despite the lack of punctuation in the post by "illbethere" she provides some great advice. In my opinion, I addressed it fairly well in the article mentioned, but I agree that oral stimulation for a woman must begin very gently - much more like a ... (read in full...)
Is there a safe suppliment that will enhance his size effectively? How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. We talk about everything, only have never mentioned one thing in particular to him. I have had past physical relationships with other ...
A. 11 March 2008: There is a vast amount of information (testimonials) regarding one of the major advertisers in the U.S.A. called "Extenze" which most everyone seems to consider a big scam. It apparently does not only fail to work, but the company allegedly rips ... (read in full...)
My GF has rare qualities, biblical I would say. But is this worth a lifetime of sexual frustration?
Q. Hello, My gf and I have been together for more than 8 yrs. There have been ups and downs but never any really really serious arguments. As a person, she is far far better than me. Patient, kind, loving, forgiving, quiet, loyal - she is very much...
A. 10 March 2008: My primary thought here is that, by about the age of 25 or so, people rarely change much. Some do change some behaviors for one reason or another, but I have also seen many revert back to however they were before. For what it's worth. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
What to do to my body to make the first time special? Paint my toenails? Shave my pubic area?...
Q. Just a question. Planning on sleeping with a guy this weekend and am wondering if theres anything I can do ot my body to make it extra nice? Should I shave my pubic area? Paint my toenails? Wear perfume? Scented body mosturiser?...
A. 10 March 2008: Lucky guy I'll bet. Well, from an old man's point of view, mainly just be fresh and clean and perfumed just a bit - not too much. Just do all the things girls do to be pretty. As for pubic hair, maybe I'm older, but I think a trimmed, not bushy, ... (read in full...)
I have become the class joke but I am NOT gay as they tease! How can I cope??
Q. people at school keep calling me gay. relating me to everything gay. they don't stop. they are getting nasty now . i have become the class joke HOWEVER I AM NOT GAY. i feel almost suicidal and if other people didn't need help i would have done the ...
A. 10 March 2008: My suggestion would be to get a girlfriend, or at least make friends with a girl and hang with her a lot. You might even be able to get a girl you know to "act" like a girlfriend for awhile, a bit of kissing and hand holding and stuff. I never ... (read in full...)
What is BAD sex to you?
Q. What, to you, constitutes "lackluster" sex?...
A. 10 March 2008: Ha! I figure more women will chime in on this one than men, but from a man's point of view, at least some of us feel about the same. My answers would include: a woman who just lays there (dead fish syndrome), no imagination, little desire, no ... (read in full...)
I would like a man's opinion about whether or not you would dump someone because of braces? Do you think I should have backed down and said I wouldn't get them?
Q. I'm 20 years old and in university right now... I had been seeing this guy for 2.5 years and it was very serious, talking about the possibility of engagement at some point in the next 3-4 years... very serious. I loved him with all my heart and we ...
A. 10 March 2008: That sounds rather shallow of him to me. Very confusing though. In my opinion, your happiness and self-esteem is more important than a boyfriend who possibly will turn out to be very controlling. Think about that for a moment.
Have the two of you ... (read in full...)
Trouble getting "hard". Is this common?
Q. I had trouble getting hard with my girlfriend totally out of the blue whilst we were fooling around. This has never happened before should I be worried?...
A. 10 March 2008: It happens, but should not happen very often at your age. On rare occasions, it make happen for one or more of several reasons, such as fatigue, nervousness, discomfort, stress, intoxication or just some little thing less obvious. Sometimes it might ... (read in full...)
If you really cared about a girl, would you understand if the sex is not alway mind blowing?
Q. Okay, this is going to sound silly to some. I have been with my boyfriend about 6 months. Due to issues in my past, it is taking me a long time to be able to be myself during sex. He is being patient with me. Anyway, we didn't have sex for about ...
A. 10 March 2008: As a man, yes, I would not expect every session to be all that mind-blowing. And if I cared about the woman a lot, I would not dump her even if several sessions in a row were less than the best. Besides, It's kind of up to the man to make you feel ... (read in full...)
How can give her the best oral of her life?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend and I want her to tremble when she see me and not just wink. How can give her the best oral of her life?...
A. 10 March 2008: If you really want to know how, my best advice has already been written here. Since I would rather not rewrite, please just enter the word "cunnilingus" in the search field at the upper right of the page. She will cling to you if you follow the ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here agree with me that it was inappropriate for her to slap her brother on the butt?
Q. Like a lot of women, my girlfriend really likes a tight butt on a guy. Whenever I'm naked around her, she always either pats me on my butt or softly slaps my butt. This usually happens when she's behind me. Well, recently she told me that when she...
A. 9 March 2008: Must agree with most others here that this innocent sibling banter of sorts.... (read in full...)
How can I get over hating men because it is ruining my relationship??
Q. Hi, I'm 17 and i really need some help; the thing is i really hate the way men are! I hate how they check out other girls and some boys just dont have respect for girls, all they want is sex! If theres a half naked girl on the tv or somethin...
A. 9 March 2008: While I agree with you that many men are crude and vulgar in public by openly expressing or showing their appreciation of women, we are "programmed" to be attracted. Whether you consider it the design of God or nature, or whatever, we normal men are ... (read in full...)
Is there a safe suppliment that will enhance his size effectively? How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. We talk about everything, only have never mentioned one thing in particular to him. I have had past physical relationships with other ...
A. 9 March 2008: My suspicion is that all the supplements being touted for "male enhancement" are probably bogus shams, much like many (but certainly not all) herbal or vitamin supplements. However, if any male on this site have actually experienced positive ... (read in full...)
What do men think about the different "shapes and sizes" of a woman's genitals?
Q. So this is probably a dumb question, but how do guys feel about the different "shapes and sizes" of a woman down there? I was curious because I stumbled on a message board where some guys were saying they preferred a woman to have "big lips down ...
A. 9 March 2008: How do men feel about the variety there? In my opinion, most healthy men simple love the differences. Guess I can really only speak for myself, however, and in that vein, I've rarely met one I did not consider splendid. Even the one or two that were ... (read in full...)
He is a wonderful man but his preferences in bed confuse me! What shall I do?
Q. Dear Sir/Madam I have been dating a real gentleman for the last three months. Nothing is to much trouble for him and our relationship is growing day by day. He is perfect in almost every way and i have found myself falling in love with him. Now ...
A. 9 March 2008: It sounds as if your boyfriend has some fetishes that are very uncomfortable or strange to you. There may even be other fetishes you would dislike. If he continues to insist on activities that make you uncomfortable or unhappy, it may be time for ... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy? Why don't my relationships work?
Q. Why can't I fInd someone who's perfect for me? It seems I find these great guys, but they all have one fatal flaw that just means we'll never get anywehere. I feel like I'm going to be alone forever. Am I being too fussy? Why don't my relat...
A. 9 March 2008: In what way are you perfect? Are you absolutely everything that any man could ever want in a woman? While not impossible, nothing is perhaps, we doubt it. Be alone or deal with someone very compatible.... (read in full...)
He's younger and less experienced, it causes arguements, should I walk away?
Q. Should I walk away? I've been dating a guy for 6 weeks. We get along very well, although he's 4 years younger than me - less experienced and less mature (in some ways). He's very dependable and offers me security. But the immaturity and la...
A. 9 March 2008: If you would like to be with someone who is not childish and self-centered, then do not date someone who is childish and self-centered. ... (read in full...)
We had sex and he's not interested now, what do I do?
Q. Heya I need help im madly in love with someone, I have been for years but there not interested anymore and im quite certain about it. I cant move on we are really close. These feelings arnt going away. He didnt want anything to do with me after ...
A. 9 March 2008: Yep, I agree with all previous posts that you were used, like just another notch on his bedpost. I somewhat disagree with "dearkelja" that "they," meaning most guys, will not respect you. Some will love and cherish you. The ones who will care may be ... (read in full...)
I've tried everything I can think of and he still won't go down on me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I really love him and I do see myself staying with him. However, we've had one problem that I'm at my wits end about how to deal with. When we first started dating, he said he loved to go down...
A. 9 March 2008: Okay, based on your additional information, in which you insist your boyfriend is "great in all other respects," it still sounds like you will have to forego this special pleasure in life with him. He wants to receive but will not give here.
To some... (read in full...)
I've tried everything I can think of and he still won't go down on me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I really love him and I do see myself staying with him. However, we've had one problem that I'm at my wits end about how to deal with. When we first started dating, he said he loved to go down...
A. 9 March 2008: Apologies to other advisors previously, but I must disagree that most any healthy woman who is fresh and clean is all that much smelly or distasteful. My best guess is maybe one in 20 or 30 based on experience. It is true that sometimes a man must ... (read in full...)
Older man ready or not ready?
Q. I need help! I have fallen for the most amazing guy. He is beautiful, compassionate, caring, smart, funny, emotional, etc... We have been dating for about a month which is so soon. I have already fallen for him. I am 24 and he is 42. I have no ...
A. 8 March 2008: You have possibly been coming on a little too strong, seeming a bit "needy" to him. That possibly makes him feel that he has "got you under his thumb," so to speak. For some guys, some degree of "chase" keeps them interested. Other men are ... (read in full...)
Some ideas on reaching orgasms, increasing low stamina, etc? We are both virgins.
Q. So I just got married, and my husband and I are both virgins... I think that its unneccesary to say that neither of us really knows what the hell to do... Lol, I'm asking for any tips you might have on reaching orgasm, increasing his woefully low ...
A. 8 March 2008: Lot's of long, passionate foreplay - passionate kisses, fondling, rubbing, fingering (usually with two fingers or more), kissing and nibbling breasts, etc. Your husband should do these things for you at least half an hour before even thinking about ... (read in full...)
How does urinal infections affect erections?
Q. hi i was having urinal infection and from that time my penis is not erecting. can i satisfy a girl without erected penis?...
A. 8 March 2008: At your age, that is scary. I'd sure head to the doctor's office, or you could hope the problem goes away. But yes, you can certainly satisfy a girl as far as orgasms are concerned, especially orally. Even rubbing your un-erect penis against her ... (read in full...)
Does joining an adult dating site make me look desperate??
Q. I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make ...
A. 8 March 2008: The PlentyofFish site truly is FREE, but it has not been productive for me. Guess it depends partly on where you are, and in my case, age. Younger women often don't appreciate older men, even if experienced, loving and nice. ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me ?
Q. 23 years old and i recently have had sex with my new girlfriend. My question is I've had an orgasm but there was little semen in the condom, could this be because I masterbate three times a day? and when i say little semen i mean very little like a ...
A. 8 March 2008: Little at the show?
"Could this be because I masturbate three times a day?"
Yep, probably.... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if he cheated. Can a guy feel himself have sex if he is drunk?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going together for over 3 years, and i recently just found out that he went to a party and got extremely drunk and says he doesn't remember or know if he had sex or not. I was wondering if a guy could feel himself ...
A. 8 March 2008: Up to you darling. Maybe one more chance, then kaput? He will likely continue but be much more careful to hide his activities from now on. ... (read in full...)
I worry so much about having sex, even after 5 years of being in a relationship. Please help?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we are in a very loving relationship. I really am very happy but there is just one problem; sex. For almost 4 years of our relationship I had constant kidney and urine infections which meant sex ...
A. 8 March 2008: Gee - five years, now of legal age, still no intimacy at all? Wouldn't likely happen in North America, but I'm not very privy to what is usual in Great Britain. It would seem that you may run the risk of the relationship folding at some point, or ... (read in full...)
Will my brace affect foreplay?
Q. Hi i recently got a wire brace in the roof of my mouth i dunno what it is called but it just loops round the rook and isn't that big. My question is... Can I still give my boyfriend a blow job? ...
A. 8 March 2008: Forgive me, dear fellow advisors, but I really doubt that the braces would really be much more a problem than applying a bit more caution. All she needs to do is work him to erection by hand, licking or fondling, then let him insert for a few slow ... (read in full...)
Does joining an adult dating site make me look desperate??
Q. I'm considering joining one of those websites where you find people who are looking for intimate/sexual relationships... But I'm a bit concerned about how that may look and how people look at me. I know it shouldn't matter, but I worry it would make ...
A. 7 March 2008: Well, I have met my last few girlfriends on dating sites, and I'm on a couple of the "Adult" or "Sex" sites as well - but many of the women listed on the latter are fake listings, teasers, sluts or otherwise very questionable. No results at all ... (read in full...)
If I just drink Fanta and Coke till Easter Sunday and eat nothing will I lose weight??
Q. Dear Cupid, what will happen to me if i only drink fanta or coke zero til easter sunday? And eat nothing? I just have one can a day (330 ml) and that it. Will i lose any weight? What side effects would it cause me to have? Is this an awful idea? T...
A. 7 March 2008: In my opinion, an awful idea. Soda pop is one of the major contributors to weight problems. I cut them out more than 10 years ago, added some power-walking and light exercise, and lost about 40 pounds over a few months. I have not consumed more than ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever done what my co-worker did and not use a condom for first-time sex with someone?
Q. One of my co-workers was talking about her new boyfriend the other day amongst several of us women during our lunch break. We knew she usually didn't have sex right away when dating a new guy. She really likes the guy she has currently started ...
A. 7 March 2008: Okay. Safe is good, but I think that you may be a bit phobic about sexually transmitted diseases. Among healthy and reasonably prudent people who do not have relations with slutty people, intravenous drug users or bi- homosexual individuals, the ... (read in full...)
What are some good sex positions?
Q. wat are good sex positions?...
A. 7 March 2008: All of them, but you are possibly too young to ask. Sorry if I sound flippant here, but it's too broad a question. Check out books about "Kama Sutra" if you wish to learn a lot.... (read in full...)
Love, lust, flirting or just friendship?
Q. Hello I wonder if you could help plz I’m 15 and go to school. Recently two older girls (16) I feel has been flirting with me, and I must say I find them, well one especially so attractive, and has a lovely personality. My question is b...
A. 7 March 2008: Yeah, well, you're getting along quite well with them - what is the question? Go with it, smile a lot, look them in the eyes and ask for a kiss (if okay in the situation). Be confident, proud and act sexy. But you are too young for real sexual ... (read in full...)
What is this girl thinking?
Q. What is this girl thinking? She found out I like her, I admitted it to her now since we haven't really spoken With eye contact. She may talk but doesn't smile. We were great friends for 2 years. She is very shy. Should I ask her out or does she not ...
A. 7 March 2008: Be absolutely certain that you will be happy if she says, "No." Be totally prepared for such rejection, but do not consider it rejection - consider it HER loss. Get your mind right about it, be ready to say, "Okay, fine," and then ask her if she ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cannot be cheered up, please help!
Q. My girlfriend is constantly becoming depressed and complaining about her low self esteem. She says she is fat way too many times in one day and I try to convince her that she's NOT fat but she just doesn't seem to get it. Overall she just lacks ...
A. 7 March 2008: Put your arms around her about twice as much as you have been doing, hold her close to you for a long time and kiss her all about her cheeks and neck, and tell her that you love her (if you do). You are the one to nurture her, to make her feel good ... (read in full...)
Confused about what to do...
Q. I have been married for 7 years and I have not been good to my wife. I want to work things out but everytime I try I screw up. I have made my wife's life hell ever since I got back from Iraq. My question is what do I do? Do I keep going down this ...
A. 7 March 2008: Does the military offer any counseling help for you? Take advantage of any help offered to deal with this, and thank you for serving our nation. You are a national pride, not a screw-up. Show your wife love now . . .... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if he cheated. Can a guy feel himself have sex if he is drunk?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going together for over 3 years, and i recently just found out that he went to a party and got extremely drunk and says he doesn't remember or know if he had sex or not. I was wondering if a guy could feel himself ...
A. 7 March 2008: Bull. I agree with "q1605" entirely. If a man gets excessively drunk, it becomes extremely difficult to gain an erection and perform. It's a lame excuse.... (read in full...)
What am I do wrong that makes my husband watch internet porn instead of be with me?
Q. What am I doing wrong that makes my husband watch internet porn (daily), but doesn't want to be with me? He tells me he's tired or his back hurts or that I pressure him for sex and so he's not into it. I don't doubt that he loves me, but I am not ...
A. 7 March 2008: If men-with-women porn, as mentioned by "Tisha-1" and most popular, the activity usually involves a good deal of oral sex. If oral stimulation is not part of your sex life with your husband, then he may be yearning for that type of thing. Many men ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, have zero girl experience and live on the net! Will it be different when I start college??
Q. Hey all :) Im and am still a virgin, im a bit a chubby but can easily lose this weight with a bit of excercise which I plan to do for next year(too busy with exams this year)an think im a decent looking guy, but my problem is that I have 0 gi...
A. 6 March 2008: Girl experience doesn't really matter, in my opinion, although you do need to be confident. College will certainly help, because of "exposure." You need to be around girls every chance you get. Take at least some classes that girls are taking. Go ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my boyfriend did not like the oral, even though he said he did...
Q. Hi I gave my boyfriend a blow job for the first time yesterday,i've never done it before and now im worried that i wasn't any good at it as i did not go all the way down for the fact i was worried about gagging, my guy said he enjoyed and he sounded ...
A. 6 March 2008: My suggestion is to enter "blowjob" and "fellatio" in the search field at the top of this Web site and read several of the answers and descriptions from previous postings. Certainly, teeth are a no-no, and there is little that can go wrong ... (read in full...)
I bled after losing my virginity, is this normal?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm not very confident in writing this but really need advice. Anyway hear it goes, I lost my virginity last Friday to my b/f and hardly bled after more like a spot more then anything, then monday again hardly anything, but then ...
A. 6 March 2008: These are perfectly normal symptoms. What you should do now is refrain from intercourse for at least a few days, preferably a week to 10 days, which will allow you to heal. Your hymen was probably broken the first time, at least partially, and ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever done what my co-worker did and not use a condom for first-time sex with someone?
Q. One of my co-workers was talking about her new boyfriend the other day amongst several of us women during our lunch break. We knew she usually didn't have sex right away when dating a new guy. She really likes the guy she has currently started ...
A. 6 March 2008: Getting the blood test is probably much better than relying on a condom to prevent disease. If everyone in the Western world who is sexually active would do that, we all would probably not have to worry nearly so much about sexually transmitted ... (read in full...)
How can I last longer during sex? And should I give her oral to make up for ejaculating so early?
Q. Recently I've been seeing this girl I'm close friends with. We are both seventeen. I am not very sexually experienced, however, she is (she's clean, don't worry). This is a pretty wierd question to ask on this site, i guess, but, the past few times ...
A. 6 March 2008: Since you are of legal age, the answer is ABSOLUTELY !
You are, or seem to be, well on your way to being a great lover if you are willing to spend the time and effort to please a woman before you get your jollies.
This is the truth about being a ... (read in full...)
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