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How do girl's squirt?
Q. How do girls squirt???? ...
A. 28 February 2008: It is as rare as titties on a boar hog. When it does occur for the few, it is a female form of semen emitted from her urethra, and is generated by a couple of glands located near her urine tubes, but it is not urine. You will not likely see it in ... (read in full...)
We slept together and now he is avoiding me...what happened??
Q. So after 3 weeks of dating and getting to know this guy who was planning future (months ahead) dates for us... we slept together. Now he is avoiding me? What happened?...
A. 27 February 2008: Many men are just out for conquest, as hinted or indicated by others here. It is hard for me to understand, because these jerks apparently do not realize that sexual activities with a woman always seem to improve the second, third and fourth time - ... (read in full...)
The age differecen would be huge...but would it be right??
Q. The problem is that I am 28 years old, a mature student at University, and the female students are younger than me, aged 19-23. Am I too old to date a younger female student aged 20-23? Is it morally wrong? The age gap (say I found a girlfriend aged ...
A. 27 February 2008: In my opinion, six or eight years is not an "enormous" difference, and if of no concern for the young lady, why should it bother you? Personally I have dated a gal 22 years younger a few years ago, others often 10 or 15 years younger, and many ... (read in full...)
Why won't he french kiss me anymore?... he does everything else
Q. My longtime boyfriend of several years used to french kiss me (really well) all the time during foreplay and sex. Now he will go down on me and is very oral sexually EXCEPT when it comes to French kissing. He will no longer French kiss me, only a ...
A. 27 February 2008: Men are often very impatient about sexual matters. Once they have been to "home plate" some feel that they do not have to always go through all the kissing and petting stuff to have their satisfaction, but women usually need (or at least want) the ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm overdoing it, as I even do it at work... Should I be ashamed?
Q. Me and my boyfriend, began to send dirty text messages the other day, i really enjoyed it and ended up having to go to the bathroom at work at masturbate. It was rather embrassing. I try to get the dirty conversations going all the time because it ...
A. 27 February 2008: It is called "Lust" and there is nothing to be ashamed about generally, except that you might not want everyone at work knowing. You did not say whether you have been sexually active with your boyfriend, but I agree with "Annalisa" that he needs to ... (read in full...)
My wife has a low sex drive, I can live with it but would really like if she gave me blowjobs, any ideas to convince her?
Q. I have a sad and serious problem. I have been married to a fantastic woman whom I love very much for almost 5 years. But our sex life is not satisfying for me. She has a very low sex drive and basically only likes the missionary position and ...
A. 27 February 2008: Oral sex is undoubtedly one of the most intimate sexual experiences a man and woman can share, but not every person is comfortable with it. You say that you perform some oral stimulation on her "occasionally" yet she does not particularly enjoy it, ... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend of 7 years was having relations with another man...
Q. This is probalbly the dumbest question there is.... I found out my girlfriend of 7 years was having relations with another man. This was last April that I found out. It's almost been a year of recovery and trying my best. Well everything was f...
A. 27 February 2008: Women do strange things, man. I suppose folks of any gender do, but gee, if you ever learn a way to understand females, bottle it up and I'll help to sell it worldwide - we will each retire right away to our own personal islands with 100 sirens ... (read in full...)
Can anything be done to help my partner maintain an erection??
Q. Can anything be done to help a man who is unable to maintain an erection long enough to have intercourse. My new partner is unable to complete sex because his erection doesnt last, is this a common problem and how do we sort it? It is very ...
A. 27 February 2008: Is the man on blood pressure medication? Some medications have an adverse affect on sexual function, notably Beta blocker meds to control blood pressure. From some personal experience, I was unaware and had to risk higher blood pressure for manhood. ... (read in full...)
My girl is very loose, but I like it that way, problem is I cant stay hard, help!
Q. hello everyone, I have a unique problem I believe. Let me say first I love my girlfriend and want to spend the rest of my life with her. We have been going out for about 3 years now, and things are really serious, marriage is on the horizon. My...
A. 26 February 2008: "Collaroy" offers excellent advice below, in that positioning is paramount, at least at times, and that the size of previous lovers or other insertions rarely has much to do with a lady's capacity, in my opinion. Many ladies may have birthed any ... (read in full...)
How to get her more attracted to me, by specific gestures?
Q. yo, does anyone have an idea how i can get someone turned on/want me without something sexual, some kind of a gesture? I'm average built but a little heavy i'm willing to work on it any ideas? (specific exercises would help) ...
A. 26 February 2008: Walking a long distance every day or every other day, eventually walking as fast as possible up to a mile or more. Always look a young lady that you are interested in directly in her eyes, but not in a creepy way.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have anal sex more often but it's very painful for me but I want to satisfy him, what can I do so it won't hurt as much?
Q. Well my boyfriend wants to have anal sex more often but it's very painful for me but I want to satisfy him, what can I do so it won't hurt as much? ...
A. 26 February 2008: If it is "very painful" for you as you say, and your boyfriend does not care, then you need a new boyfriend, even if that includes none at all for a little while.... (read in full...)
Pornography and relationships
Q. As some people reading this will already know, I moderate and write regularly on this site. Porn is one those issues that is often cited as a problem and also causes a fair amount or moral controversy. On the one hand are the people whose ...
A. 26 February 2008: Let's get together and toke one on that, Angel. Just kidding, but you are sweet. DoubleM... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to start paying attention to me,instead of masturbating to porn?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and lately I feel that he doesn't think that I am attractive. He is always looking at pictures of naked girls online. He admits that he likes masturbating to these pictures even though usually I am ...
A. 26 February 2008: My goodness, I hope that no children are involved here. The husband is obviously distracted from the marriage to a serious degree and you are only a victim, not at all at any fault. You absolutely must know and believe, full in your heart and mind ... (read in full...)
For guys, if you slept with a girl while drunk, would it put you off? he's not answering my text!
Q. This isn't actually a question as such but am needing some advice possibly from a male perspective. Theres a guy that lives in the flat below and we know each other pretty well, we've been flirting a lot reacently. Last Saturday night I saw him when ...
A. 26 February 2008: Right! Never appear needy, but you were of legal age and, despite admittedly tipsy, apparently enjoyed the encounter. No doubt he did. It would be great if you believe that a hot sexual encounter should at least lead to more of a relationship, and I ... (read in full...)
How do I know when I cum?
Q. So basically I'm kinda confused and think there might be something wrong with me. Guys are always asking me to tell them when I'm about to cum during sex. This so frustrating and annoying because 1. I have a hard time talking about thing like that ...
A. 26 February 2008: It does not sound like you are of legal age or nearly mature enough to be having multiple sex partners - or even one - but I'll offer a slightly different take on this than "Namatjira." Never would I ask a new lover about "when she has an orgasm" ... (read in full...)
Vaginal balloon............. Is it normal?
Q. I was fingering my girl the other day and was playing with her Gspot for sometime while she was on her stomach when I felt all of the sudden that her vagina from insside was so wide and like a balloon...the walls of the vagina also became so soft ...
A. 25 February 2008: No, not squirting, just arousal and possibly close to or experiencing orgasm. It does not occur with every woman, although most expand to some degree with arousal, and the smoothness is normal. Her G-spot should possibly feel like a different ... (read in full...)
Would sex be a problem because of my hight?
Q. Hey. I am a 6"1 girl and haven't had sex before. I am nicely built (slim) and quite pretty and popluar, but am worried that boys won't want to have sex with me because I am so tall. What is it like for a boy of similar hight or just slightly ...
A. 25 February 2008: Okay, this one is cute. I'm five foot six if I lie a little (actually a half inch shorter). An older man now, but have dated quite a number of young ladies taller. In fact, MOST were taller including two past wives, and one gal was 6'4" - which did ... (read in full...)
Pornography and relationships
Q. As some people reading this will already know, I moderate and write regularly on this site. Porn is one those issues that is often cited as a problem and also causes a fair amount or moral controversy. On the one hand are the people whose ...
A. 25 February 2008: All interesting and thoughtful posts, in my opinion. It all boils down to - to each their own. And when married, I did occasionally rent tapes (way back before DVDs) and wifey was aware of it - did not bother her apparently, because we lasted for ... (read in full...)
When I offer him oral he ejaculates very quickly, is this bad?
Q. this one guy when i give him blowjobs and stuff he ejaculates really quickly is that bad?...
A. 25 February 2008: The BAD part is that you are doing this type of activity which you should reserve for things you might consider at least four or more years from now!... (read in full...)
How to show my teacher that I'm available without settling our friendly relationship? How to tell if he has (supressed, due to regulations) sexual feelings towards me?
Q. I'm 17 (skipped 2 years of school, now a freshman in college), my teacher is 32. We're intellectual equals and he thinks i'm very smart and funny, and in class he singles me out and playfully banters with me in front of the others.. basically,i get ...
A. 25 February 2008: I would normally think that you are merely infatuated, like a school girl crush, but if you are about age 26 to 29, you should be beyond that. If you are indeed in that age range, and he is 32 and truly "available" then you are both mature enough ... (read in full...)
My husband has lost interest in sex, I have tried every sexy seduction method, what do I do next?
Q. Hi all, I'll get straight into the problem..i'm married for 7years now and i've got three beautiful children and my problem is my husband...he doesn't wants sex anymore i tried everything wearing the sexiest clothes offering massages, scented ...
A. 25 February 2008: There is always the possibility of an outside interest, but it sounds as if your husband is usually at home or working, or watching news and sleeping, so if you know his activities and whereabouts most of the time, infidelity would seem doubtful. ... (read in full...)
New relationship, how long should I wait before having sex, I'm 28?
Q. how long should a nice girl wait before getting naked w/ a new boy? i'm 28 and dating again for the first time in years. my ex was the first guy i ever went 'all the way' with, and we'd been dating close to two years before we did (i was 25 when w...
A. 25 February 2008: I'll agree with "Laura 1318" that you are the one to decide, but in my opinion, within three to four good dates and if compatibility is obvious, the man should at least believe that he will be making love with you very soon. For many, especially ... (read in full...)
He's big, but he cums too quickly, how can we deal with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been together for alittle over a month and just recently started having sex. My boyfriend has quite a big penis. We have had sex about five times now and each time he ejaculates quite quickly which doesn't give me enough ...
A. 25 February 2008: Your boyfriend needs to give you more foreplay to get you heated up which, if he wants to please you, may include lots of touchy-feelie stuff like rubbing, fingering, kissing, breast rubbing and ideally, if he really cares, oral stimulation with ... (read in full...)
Can you lose your virginity through masturbation?
Q. what are difference between virgin pussy and un virgin pussy? and can a girl lose her virginity while masturbating (fingering only)?...
A. 24 February 2008: You may break your hymen (a thin membrane of skin that partly protects the vaginal opening just inside), but this should not be considered loss of virginity, even if a man is the person doing the insertion with his fingers. If it is breached by a ... (read in full...)
What is this liquid?
Q. hi. i have had sex and in the process of my penis entering my partner with in 10 to 15 secounds of the begining of sex a gush of liquid had come out of her. im not sure if she had ejaculated because she seemed unawear of what was going on. the liqu...
A. 24 February 2008: This is very likely vaginal discharge. In other words, a shedding of the old, dead skin cells from the vaginal wall, possibly mixed with natural lubricant secreted from various glands. It could also possibly be mixed with other vaginal fluids or ... (read in full...)
How long can someone last without food?
Q. heyx I am 15 years old, and just out of curiosity, how long would you say i can last without any food? And dnt tel me about how its bad for me, i already know that. Im just curious how long a girl like me, about 5 ft 3 weighing in about 9 and a ha...
A. 24 February 2008: After three days, the body will really begin to be in sad shape. Don't fast like that to lose pounds of size for more than one day, but just eat healthy and begin to include exercises, especially fast walking. And I agree with 'dearkelja" that a ... (read in full...)
How does someone get to a size zero????
Q. heyx i was just wondering how u can get to size zero, and dont tell me that its bad for you, i already know. And looking so skinny isnt even attractive. I just want to know for my bestmate, she is really skinny now and she tells me that she is a ...
A. 24 February 2008: It may be far too distant and unrealistic a goal for many, and completely unnecessary as well, but it is amazing how much a young body responds to some simple and easy exercise. Begin by just WALKING for a half hour or so everyday, and gradually ... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there agree with staying a virgin until they are married?
Q. heyx I was just curious, is there anyone out there that agrees with me when i say i want to stay a virgin til im married? Does anyone think thats good? Im 15, and believe that you shouldnt have sex untill you have had your wedding. do you think th...
A. 24 February 2008: Sweet darling, you are more natural and normal to hold your ideals in your heart than many if not most young women today. I'll admit that I became sexually active even a year younger, but it really was too early to do me any great good.
You shou... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 23 February 2008: You are NOT too sensitive for this life and you will NOT end up being alone. That only happens to horny old dirty-minded men like me. lol
You will be fine, be friendly but not overly anxious and allow the guy to ask you out. Don't worry, be happ... (read in full...)
How do I politely deny their invitation to go on a date?
Q. I regularly work in the evenings at my parent's family business. Of course, I get customers who are in their 20's, 30's, all ages. I'm 18, and some of the men have giving me their numbers,or myspace..or shown some sign of interest, such a...
A. 23 February 2008: This is where I tell a young lady how to discourage an older guy like myself who encounters a hot gal I would love to enjoy and entertain. lol
Here is the man's perspective: Be lonely, or hit on every possibility.
Sometimes, it may prove a worthwhi... (read in full...)
If you have oral sex and finger sex are you still a virgin?
Q. Hey I was wondering.... if you had oral sex and finger sex are you still a virgin? I was just wondering....
A. 23 February 2008: Technically, it seems that virginity is described as vaginal penetration that usually "breaks" the woman's hymen if intact (and I suppose you know what that is). Fingering of the vagina may also result in such elimination, as may other activities ... (read in full...)
White stuff in sexual activities... help, is it normal?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend over a year and he's only the 2nd person I've slept with. We have a great sex life but my self confidence drops as sometimes when he fingers me there is white stuff on his fingers. It doesn't smell and it's not cum, ...
A. 23 February 2008: This is most likely normal vaginal discharge, which is a self-cleansing of the interior walls of the vagina, just as your outer skin surface sheds dead skin cells daily. Some whitish discharge is typical daily especially at your age and for some ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship and I am thinking about oral sex with him what should I do?
Q. I am in a relationship and I am thinking about oral sex with him what should I do?...
A. 23 February 2008: Not much info here. Is this you do or he do? If you want to either way, or better yet both ways, then get it on !... (read in full...)
His age is holding him back on the sex front and it's frustrating me! Help!!!
Q. I've been with this man 18 years older than me. We get on well and sex with him is fantastic. It's amazing he can have sex with me 2 or 3 times a week. A year on he is not as good as he used to be in bed. I know it's his age. But I am always ...
A. 22 February 2008: While "duskyrowe" may trade experience for Everready batteries, which is fine (to each their own), your lover must be able to offer a wider range of pleasures for you.
However, as an older man myself, I must admit that I can't do some things as I... (read in full...)
How do you convince your partner to give you a blow job without actually asking?
Q. Do most women enjoy giving a blow job or do they do it because their mate pushed them to? How do you convince your mate to do it without you asking and many times giving you the ultimate rejection?...
A. 22 February 2008: I'm not sure about other men, but in some 45 years of sexual experience, I cannot recall a single time that I first asked a girlfriend to give me head. Later on, after they had done it a few times and oral became part of our sex life, then sure, ... (read in full...)
Pornography and relationships
Q. As some people reading this will already know, I moderate and write regularly on this site. Porn is one those issues that is often cited as a problem and also causes a fair amount or moral controversy. On the one hand are the people whose ...
A. 22 February 2008: Way too complicated a post. My opinion? Pornography is here to stay, but it can certainly be addictive and screw people up to an extreme. If only used for occasional arousal, it is reasonably acceptable. When either men or women become obsessed with ... (read in full...)
I hear a lot about negative aspects, now what are the benefits of having sex?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for over a year. We love and care about eachother. We enjoy spending time together. We like to make out and kiss. We are both virgins. We have been talking about sex. I think we will end up doing it. We have both...
A. 22 February 2008: If you are both truly virgins, sexually transmitted disease is rather unlikely, but pregnancy could certainly result from sexual intercourse. The best bet is, of course, birth control pills, which should be a regimen began at least two weeks prior ... (read in full...)
He just doesn't do passion! How can I get him out of his hole?
Q. my fiance has never given me oral and nor has he had an orgasm. This worries me. I always give him oral, he loves it. I've tried to talk to him about it but he changes the subject he also has never given me a passionate kiss, just quick pecks; he ...
A. 22 February 2008: My question would have to be, "Why is this less than passionate man your fiance?" I really do not intend to be insensitive, because I would not be here if the case, but why do passionate women hook up with such cold fish? It simply baffles me, ... (read in full...)
How long do I have to wait for oral?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years - He has yet to finger fuck me or perform oral -I know it is not a problem with me cause other guys have loved to do it for me - He says he loves me but doesn't have to prove it that way - I say ...
A. 22 February 2008: My opinion is going to differ with most other advisors responding and side with you. This boyfriend accepts and apparently enjoys receiving oral pleasure from you, yet will not likewise return pleasure in all the ways you would enjoy. And he ... (read in full...)
I'm 23, female, Irish, never dated, struggling with the dating scene!!
Q. I'm 23, I've no idea how to meet someone, or how to deal with it at all especially just meeting someone in a club and not knowing them. I like to get to know someone for a long time before dating them. This habit, isn't getting me anywhere at all. ...
A. 22 February 2008: I'm not certain how things work in Ireland, lass, but here is how a gal might get my attention in Texas (or throughout America). I would think that anywhere, at a pub or bar or wherever, there must be a few nice, available men around.
The next few ... (read in full...)
I can't get the fact that she went to a 'naked party' out of my head.
Q. I'm having a real problem getting my girlfriend's past out of my head. I know there have been some other questions like this on the board, but nothing that really matches. Basically, I've been dating a wonderful woman for three months. She's am...
A. 21 February 2008: Wow, man. If you found a "great woman" as you say, I would suggest that you put this away. I'm just jealous that, to my knowledge, those types of things were not going on in my college days - a long time ago.... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 17 February 2008: I would agree with "Laura1318" that you should talk with the man. If you like this guy, give it a chance, as long as he is unmarried and available.... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can forget about this or at least feel ok??
Q. I slept with a colleague from work a night but didn't properly had sex as I explained him I'd rather know him better for such and he said it was ok so we did sort of getting off a bit and so on. He told me to phone him to have sex if I felt lik...
A. 17 February 2008: In order to even try to help, I think we need to know a bit more. How old are the two of you? What exactly happened when you "slept together?"
It kind of sounds like he is only wanting sex here, based on what he said and the way he now treats you ... (read in full...)
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