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He keeps losing his erection, could he be getting bored with me?
Q. I am worried because twice this week my b/f has lost his erection in the middle of intercourse! The first time, he said was because well, we're young and horny, so it was like the 3rd or 4th time straight that we had done it in a couple of hours....
A. 11 April 2008: In my opinion, you are reading way too much into the fact that sexual intimacy may not always be like all other times. It sounds like you two have a good ongoing relationship and you should not expect that every session will be incredible for both ... (read in full...)
IF two girls have sex can you still get STD's
Q. IF two girls have sex can you still get STD's ??? ...
A. 11 April 2008: Absolutely.... (read in full...)
Do young woman say 25 to 35 usually find men say 50 to 58 old and sexually unattractive?
Q. Do young woman say 25 to 35 usually find men say 50 to 58 old and sexually unattractive? I find myself interested in a woman 35 but am not sure if she really feels anything for me sexually or is just being nice as a friend?...
A. 11 April 2008: As a 60-year-old man beginning to show the wear and tear of the years, I share your concern that much younger women generally dismiss us older guys quickly, and for me, it is okay because there are plenty of available women closer to my age. But if ... (read in full...)
Is first time sex painful?
Q. hi i did not do sex even one time but now i have a lot of need to sex but i can't tell any body so any body tell me if i have not any man with me ' some of my friends told me the first sex is so pain ful so what i can do can i put my finger in my ...
A. 10 April 2008: One must assume that the anonymous female reader unwilling to provide any identity believes that first time sex is terribly painful for every woman. My stance remains that it is not so and whomever this person may be is a liar. My answers are the ... (read in full...)
Is first time sex painful?
Q. hi i did not do sex even one time but now i have a lot of need to sex but i can't tell any body so any body tell me if i have not any man with me ' some of my friends told me the first sex is so pain ful so what i can do can i put my finger in my ...
A. 10 April 2008: Truth is truth.... (read in full...)
How long does you wait to have sex in a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone! I was wondering if any of you could tell me how long one should wait to have sex in a relationship. For those who are wondering it's been around 6 months and we're both virgins! thanks in advance!...
A. 10 April 2008: Actually, in all my years I've rarely "talked" much about having sex before it just happened. Maybe some conversation would occur with a girlfriend that revealed that I was open whenever she was ready, but there was rarely if ever any plan or ... (read in full...)
Is first time sex painful?
Q. hi i did not do sex even one time but now i have a lot of need to sex but i can't tell any body so any body tell me if i have not any man with me ' some of my friends told me the first sex is so pain ful so what i can do can i put my finger in my ...
A. 10 April 2008: If you are truly in your upper 20s, or of any mature age, sexual intercourse should not be very painful the first time. In many cultures and even the United States, young women are told of extreme pain to discourage the activity. There is sometimes ... (read in full...)
What do I do when my parents give me the "sex" talk?
Q. I am 14 and my parents still havent gave me sex talk. But when that time comes how do i tell them i know all about sex? Cause i did research on it and my sister told me? Help!...
A. 10 April 2008: You should still listen to everything that either of your parents have to say, and think less about telling them that "you already know it all." That would do nobody any service at all and anyway, you do not "know it all." I'm 60-years-old, very ... (read in full...)
Will the fact that I'm circumsized stop me from having sexual pleasure? I'm a virgin.
Q. hi my names mike and me and my girlfriend have decided to have sex together but she dosent know that im circumsized - does matter if i am or not and will i not stop me from having as much pleasure as men which aren't circumsized?...
A. 9 April 2008: Circumcision has no adverse effect on sexual satisfaction whatsoever. In fact, many are of the opinion that circumcision INCREASES penile sensitivity, although who can know? One thing for certain - there are usually fewer hygiene issues associated ... (read in full...)
Does a guy only want you for sex if he asks for it on a first date?
Q. If a guy and a girl go out on a first date and he then asks her to be his gf and she says yes, then he asks to have sex with her (on the first date!), do you think its fair to say he probably is only really looking for sex and if he doesn't get it ...
A. 9 April 2008: In my opinion, you did good. You wanted more from a relationship than just sex, but that was really all that this guy and his words and actions indicated, so your good sense proved valuable and now you can simply seek or wait for a young man of ... (read in full...)
Does a guy only want you for sex if he asks for it on a first date?
Q. If a guy and a girl go out on a first date and he then asks her to be his gf and she says yes, then he asks to have sex with her (on the first date!), do you think its fair to say he probably is only really looking for sex and if he doesn't get it ...
A. 9 April 2008: My answer to your question, "Is he only really looking for sex?" would be:
Very likely in this case.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sucks at giving head.
Q. My girlfriend sucks at giving me head. How do I make her better....
A. 9 April 2008: The lack of information and double entendre in your question lead me to suspect that your inquiry is nothing more than a tease, or at the very least an insincere attempt to prompt commentary. The advisors can and will address serious questions about ... (read in full...)
He keeps looking at me, does this mean he likes me?
Q. ok I'm a junior in HS and he's a senior. We have the same science class and had gym together. I think he likes me, but I have no clue Every day he stands in the hallway after class, and I pass by him every day on my way to my next class. I always ...
A. 8 April 2008: Yeah, he probably is interested in you - just assume so. Why else would he be looking unless you are the only female in eyesight. What to do? Be just a bit bolder and smile slightly at him once. You CAN smile can't you? People smile at others all ... (read in full...)
I'm only 14 and want to have sex because I can't masturbate!
Q. I cant explain how i feel... I want to have sex but i am only 14 and i cant masterbate because it isnt satisfying what should i do? Plus i have very persistant urges that make me super horny. Im so confused!...
A. 8 April 2008: As "LonelyTwo" suggests, exploring your sexuality through masturbation will help you learn much about your body and its pleasure spots. And I must stress it is much wiser, safer and reasonable that an underage woman learn to relieve her sexual ... (read in full...)
My semen is getting less, how do I increase the amount?
Q. Hi I have been married for almost 27 years and always had a great sex life. I have found over the years that the amount of semen I produce is getting less, much to my wife's disappointment. Is this normal and is there anyway of increasing the v...
A. 8 April 2008: The only physical way to increase ejaculation volume during oral sex, if that is the desire, is a prostate rub just before climax - to my experience. Not everyone of either gender finds this activity acceptable or comfortable, but the result is ... (read in full...)
How can I improve HIS half of the sex life when all he does is please ME? And what's with the diet pills!?
Q. Okay... first off, I would like to just say that I have never, EVER dated a man who put more time and effort into pleasing me as this one. We'll call him 'Jed'... Yea, I know. Anyway, Jed fingers, performs oral, rubs, caresses, kisses, licks... ...
A. 8 April 2008: Sounds like you have found an unusually sexually attentive man in your age range (I presume). Lucky lady. It is not unusual for large men (physically) to be fairly small in that certain area, according to my readings. It is also not unusual for a ... (read in full...)
I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 8 April 2008: You are welcome and hope anything I could offer helped. No doubt that certain traits run through families, so I can't question the discharge thing. The panty liners sure sound like a good idea it would seem. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
How can I get my sex life back?
Q. My wife and I have been married since October last year. We had been living together from January last year though. Up until we got married our sex life was good, but since we have been married we haven't had sex once. I just don't feel like it ...
A. 7 April 2008: My first thought was Viagra or Cialis (sildenafil citrate) as "peaches83" suggested, but it apparently only works if you have the desire during sexual stimulation. But you say that "nothing happens with your libido." That may be why some have ... (read in full...)
What is it with men when they reach their 40's ~ they only want to have sex with teenagers?
Q. I have been married for many years and my problem started after my husband turned 40. Our sex life has gone down hill. He can no longer get hard for me. He said he likes young teens...What is it with men when they reach their 40's they only want to ...
A. 7 April 2008: This a a cute subject - sure, older men may dream or fantasize about sexual encounters with those nubile youths, but the truth is that women closer to our own age are the most pleasing, understanding and wonderfully nourishing in a relationship. ... (read in full...)
Anything wrong with a 19 year old male dating 26 year old woman?
Q. Hello! I was wondering, is there anything technically wrong with a 19 year old male dating a 26 year old female.. with two twin kids? Maybe it's just a crush, but I believe I'm pretty into her. Obviously older men date younger girls, b...
A. 7 April 2008: It is really fairly hard for most people to judge ages within about a ten year range for one thing, plus most anything goes these days. When I was about 25, one steady girlfriend for more than a year was 36, and that was during the mid-1970s. Nobody ... (read in full...)
Was I too accommodating to his needs?
Q. OK, I've been dating a guy since January. All we do is have sex. We've been out just a couple of times in 3 months. At first, he was head over heels for me. Anything I wanted, he was there. Now, all he wants to do is come over, have sex, slee...
A. 7 April 2008: If the situation has become just sexual in nature rather than also including dinners, picnics, movies, concerts, visiting museums and other ways of spending quality time together, then you have possibly just become his sex object. A good ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, so how comes being fingered doesn't hurt me?
Q. I've bin fingered once before and he used four fingers up to his knuckles bearing in mind his fingers are quite fat. It didn't hurt one bit and I didn't think it was particularly 'good' either. I'm a virgin and I don't see why it doesn't hurt me,...
A. 7 April 2008: First of all, the vagina is a remarkably flexible and expandable organ capable of giving birth to eight-pound or larger babies. Secondly, girls are extremely varied in size regarding the capacities of their vaginas. There is nothing unusual in the ... (read in full...)
He really turns me on! Will he respect me if I have sex with him? I really want to do things right!
Q. hi. i need help. i recently started dating again after a year of being single. i was in an abusive relationship.i mean it started physicaly,then mentally then went to emotional abuse. my spirit was not broken though. i Thank God that i still ...
A. 6 April 2008: It seems to me that two to three weeks of dating in America is a reasonable time to begin going sexual these days, providing all things have been going well. In my experience, a third date has been about the average time most gals have been ready. ... (read in full...)
I've had a wierd experience after sex on the pill....is this common?
Q. I have A rather funny question.. since I've started the pill when me and my boyfriend have finished having sex, come just comes out of me but I think its his because the pill stops sperm getting past a mucus ( so I believe) and it didnt happen when ...
A. 6 April 2008: Good, accurate information provided by "MissKin" and "citris" below. A good practice by many women is to go sit on the bowl (loo in Great Britain?) and give your lower abdominal muscles a squeeze, then crawl back into the bed for kisses and hugs. ... (read in full...)
Will we leave a tell-tale mess in the hotel sheets?
Q. me and my girlfriend are ready to start having sex but we don't have any privacy . we've decided to go to a hotel next w/end so we can start to know our bodies and learn what to do. I'll wear a condom but we're wondering if there'll be any mess...
A. 6 April 2008: The hotels and staff are quite used to that sort of thing. You are not the first couple to use a hotel room for pleasures. The advice from "Cindy303" is very good - just strip the bed yourself and the staff will take care of things. Perhaps bring ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of showing my naked body to my soon to be husband, what do I do?
Q. I'm getting married in a few months and im a virgin and so is the man im going to marry but i heard so may people say that the best thing to wear on your weading night is nothing at all. but im so shy and super scared. i dont know how to just spring ...
A. 6 April 2008: Congratulations !
Both for your upcoming nuptials and on saving your virginity for your husband. You should not "spring on him butt naked" in my opinion. It is much sexier to be dressed in a cute nightie and let him take his time making love with... (read in full...)
She is soo outta my league but I still can't get her outta my head!
Q. I started speaking to this girl same age as me and will meet when out with friends. I really like her but I don't stand chance. She is really good looking and suprisingly is sweet with no attitude!!! She is soo outta my league but I still can't get ...
A. 6 April 2008: Many, if not most girls are not nearly as centered on looks as guys. Most guys are comparatively not really all that good looking like movie stars, but most girls have very attractive features to guys.
As "Stayc63088" mentioned, girls will more ofte... (read in full...)
He's not the duplicitous type....so why did he cheat? Just a mistake or more?
Q. Is it true that "once a cheater, always a cheater"? Or are there people for whom it really is just a terrible mistake that they learn from and won't repeat? I cheated on my college bf at the end. Didn't sleep with the other guy, but I got emotio...
A. 6 April 2008: Who can know? I'll admit that I once cheated on my second wife one time with a girl I met at a bar in a distant town. I have asked forgiveness many times. Was later single for many years, but during a third 20 year marriage, I never cheated once ... (read in full...)
Why this feeling of urination in the middle of the sexual act, even while fingering?? May it be female ejaculation?
Q. Hey this is a really embarrassing question! Ive recently started having sex with my boyfriend and everything is great only for one thing. Everytime we have sex when he goes into me deep i fell the urge to pee. It will not go away and i always have ...
A. 5 April 2008: It is normal for many girls to feel this urge, particularly when nearing orgasm or a high state of arousal. It usually does not really mean urination is inevitable or needed, although it may be a good idea to relieve prior to sexual activity. You ... (read in full...)
Why this feeling of urination in the middle of the sexual act, even while fingering?? May it be female ejaculation?
Q. Hey this is a really embarrassing question! Ive recently started having sex with my boyfriend and everything is great only for one thing. Everytime we have sex when he goes into me deep i fell the urge to pee. It will not go away and i always have ...
A. 5 April 2008: It is normal for many girls to feel this urge, particularly when nearing orgasm or a high state of arousal. It usually does not really mean urination is inevitable or needed, although it may be a good idea to relieve prior to sexual activity. You ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over half a million visitors in March!
Q. I'm pleased to say that according to Google Analytics, March 08 was the busiest month ever for Dear Cupid! We had 519,747 unique visitors (i.e. people!) visit the site from 1st March 08 to 31st March 08 inclusive. Over HALF A MILLION people.... ...
A. 5 April 2008: Great job Andrew, Thanks for the concept, and I agree with others that the ease of use and the archives of information is fantastic. Kudos!... (read in full...)
I'm not his "ideal" because he says I'm too skinny! Should I still tell him how I feel?
Q. I have a roommate who is 37 and I am 22. He and I are both seperated from our spouses. My husband (soon to be ex) will be 40 in November 2008. Now I am a tall skinny girl and he is a bit bigger than average and I am attracted to him both physically, ...
A. 5 April 2008: You don't have to feel in a hurry to tell him anything, but you could begin to give him little hints - smiles, some subtle compliments, a touch on occasion, maybe straighten his shirt collar, his tie or otherwise fiddle with his clothes to make him ... (read in full...)
I am a single mom and would like to attract more male attention! Any tips?
Q. I am 39 year old woman with two children. I'm not in a relationship at the moment, and haven't been for six years. I don't go out much as I can't afford it. I haven't got a lot of confidence in myself and become very nervous around men who I am ...
A. 4 April 2008: Have you tried online dating? I'm not sure how well it works in Great Britain, but in the States, the women on dating Web sites seem to get a tremendous amount of attention. Even women in their 60s do very well to my knowledge. Of course, a female ... (read in full...)
Why am I seeing so many underage people asking for advice about sex?....
Q. Why am i seeing so many underage people asking for advice about sex?....do they not have responsible parents anymore?....I know there is a lot more pressure to perform nowadays, unlike when i was a teenager, but it still dosent explain it to me, do ...
A. 4 April 2008: Note that "Lj1001" is very wise for her age. And I agree that your question is valid and very thoughtful. As an older man, I can certainly recall when sexual issues were taboo and difficult for young people to address in America, and perhaps in ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to practice going down on a girl before actually doing it?
Q. Is there a way to practice going down on a girl before doing it?...
A. 4 April 2008: Must agree with others that I know of no way to "practice" giving cunniligus to a girl. You could check out some how-to writings on this Web site by entering that term and others in the search field, but I can think of no way to go down other than ... (read in full...)
I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 4 April 2008: Well everyone is different, and if a discharge is normal for you it might be a good idea to simply clean up real good just before sexual activity, rinse but not douche, and let your boyfriend decide if he can handle it. I've known a few girls who ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my fiance to be drunk enough to not remember having sex?
Q. My fiancee, who admits to dating and making out with a boy,(often), while wearing only her panties, and in his bed, while 300 miles away in college already engaged with the ring, says they had no sex, and she's still a virgin. My question is.....is ...
A. 3 April 2008: Anyone might get intoxicated enough to lose all inhibitions or do something that they would not normally do, but I think we would have adequate memory of having done it as long as we remained conscious. ... (read in full...)
I have a discharge problem, can you help?
Q. Hi. I am getting this clear gooie discharge every now and then and dont know what it is can you help. thanks...
A. 3 April 2008: So little information. But a discharge often indicates any number of possible vaginal or urinary tract infections, most of which are fairly easily treatable.... (read in full...)
I need a confidence boost, can you help, please?
Q. Hi there, I am an 18 year old male that can't seem to get an erection anymore. All through out high school, i would get random erections all day long, and now it seems that i only get one in the morning when i wake up. I believe it is from failed a...
A. 3 April 2008: Confidence is something that will develop over time. I've never had the problem of erectile dysfunction until recently with age and too many medications, and I doubt that your experience is remotely related. You do not detail your so-called "failed ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with being the only one making the effort in this relationship!!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a while now..and since we started dating he never calls or texts me and it seems like i always have to take the 1st step in communication. I've mentioned to him and he sed he will try and change but nothing has..he sed ...
A. 3 April 2008: Some guys just like to have a girl who chases them and they can get what they want from you whenever. You seem a sweeter woman than that and should seek a guy who will treat you much better. ... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to have sex to his friends to make them jealous, I'm tempted to cede... should I do so?
Q. My bf wants me to have sex with his friends. he says I am so good he wants to make then jealous. I'm half tempted to do it because a few of then are really cute and I want to keep him happy. Most of them have seen me topless and almost naked at ...
A. 2 April 2008: One additional comment - I am of the opinion that your boyfriend cares little about you except as a sex object. There is no common sense at all in the notion that his buddies will be jealous of him because you are good in bed and they know it from ... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to have sex to his friends to make them jealous, I'm tempted to cede... should I do so?
Q. My bf wants me to have sex with his friends. he says I am so good he wants to make then jealous. I'm half tempted to do it because a few of then are really cute and I want to keep him happy. Most of them have seen me topless and almost naked at ...
A. 2 April 2008: In my opinion, you will end up with a very slutty reputation as a result. But if you don't mind the reputation or really care much for the boyfriend, have your fun.... (read in full...)
I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 2 April 2008: I would still be a bit concerned about this "discharge" you mentioned, especially if or when it becomes "milky." There is a constant shedding of skin cells from inside the vagina which can sometimes collect around the clitoris and vaginal opening ... (read in full...)
I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. PleaseHelp.
Q. He said I 'smelled' down there...but I had a check up a few months before and have not had sex since. I'm certain I don't have a yeast problem because I have no symptoms of one...I just have this discharge that 'runs in the family'. It's clearish or ...
A. 2 April 2008: Yes, all girls have a slightly different taste and smell due to genetics, but the only situations that usually cause any significant unpleasantness is an imbalance in her vaginal environment. That means that the natural bacterial and hormonal ... (read in full...)
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