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Crap first time.
Q. I'm not the most articulate person, so forgive me if this is a bit poor. When i was fifteen i lost my virginity, to this day i regret it and if i could turn back time i would. Basically it was a really bad experience with a girl that i wasnt eve...
A. 23 May 2008: Not a big deal. We all learn as we grow. Move on with your life, do no harm and keep learning.... (read in full...)
What happens to your vagina if you don't have sex for years. Does it tighten back up??
Q. I need to know what happens to your vagina if you dont have sex for years. Does it tighten back up?? Does it hurt when you finally do do it again?...
A. 22 May 2008: As an older man who has experienced tight, loose, young, older and quite a variety of vaginas - with no apology to those who criticize me for more than 45 years of sexual experience - the female equipment simply does not "tighten up" without surgery ... (read in full...)
Do I have a small penis for my age?
Q. I am 17 and have a 4 -5 inch penis when erect is this small for my age? and how could i make my penis bigger. thanks...
A. 22 May 2008: While I do not know a lot about penises other than my own, you should not be concerned about length of your "tool" and concentrate more on other aspects of making love to a woman, such as being an attentive lover offering very patient foreplay, ... (read in full...)
I'm not as good on top as I thought I would be...he's different than my past lovers! Help!
Q. I told my boyfriend 'I'll kick your ass in bed' meaning that I'd be really good...Until I got on top, that is. The two other guys that I've had sex with gave me 'rave reviews', you might say because I was very skilled at being on top. They, ...
A. 20 May 2008: While the previous advisors seemed to "take you to task" for your interest in sexual positions and technique, the subject in general is worthy for discussion in my opinion.
As others stated, emotions and a caring (loving) partner are most impo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never washes his hands!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We don't live together and only see each other 1 or 2 times a week. One thing that drives me crazy about him is his level of personal hygiene is not up to mine. Especially when it comes to washing ...
A. 19 May 2008: Men don't change.... (read in full...)
She's never experienced an orgasm - is there a logical explanation for this?
Q. My girlfriend said, she'd before or she doesn't know if she's had one with any of her previous boyfriends. Is there something wrong with her, and is there a logical explanation for this?...
A. 19 May 2008: Unfortunately for women around the world, it is not unusual for many to never or very rarely experience a full orgasm. It has been estimated that 60 percent or more go through life without orgasm, which if accurate, represents the majority.
T... (read in full...)
I gave my virginity to him. How should I take revenge on him?
Q. I'm single and fell in love with a married guy. He is 10 years older than me. His wife was pregnant and got a baby daughter on my b'day. I gave my virginity to him, but after he got his wife back in his bed. He started acting weird, like ignoring ...
A. 16 May 2008: Huh? You will not like my take on this, but let's clarify the issues as you explained it . . .
You knowingly and willingly agreed to a sexual relationship with a married man, and now you think that you should exact some kind of "revenge" beca... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he likes me for my body ...what do I do?!?
Q. Ok so ive been dating my boyfriend for about almost a full 4 months and we kiss and stuff but to be honost he has almost no sexual interest. He will put his arms around me but he wont touch me or anything. I mean jsut last week we were at my house ...
A. 13 May 2008: Many young guys, even older men, are a bit or way too shy to "come on" to a girl too fast or strong for several reasons - mostly related to fear. We don't want to scare-off our prospective love or lover by coming-on-too-fast, and we fear being ... (read in full...)
Why don't I have an orgasm when I have sex with my partner?
Q. hi, i just want to ask why i did'nt feel orgasm every time i had sex with my partner? my partner is good in sex i know it. he always ask me if im finished i said not yet,if i feel that he can no longer to wait for my orgasm, im just pretending and ...
A. 10 May 2008: From a man's point of view, it is difficult and time-consuming to bring a woman to orgasm on a regular basis. Rarely can it occur with vaginal intercourse alone, and usually only after a good deal of foreplay and possibly oral-clitoral stimulation ... (read in full...)
I can't control my ejaculation when she gives me a blow job. How can I last longer?
Q. Alright I've got a strange question for you all. When my girlfriend gives me a handjob it feels good until it starts chafing obviously but then she might switch to giving me head or whatever and it feels good also but its not until she starts giving ...
A. 7 May 2008: Yeah, I have one other suggestion. Don't worry about it so much. The more that you worry about things like sexual performance, the worse the problems seem to grow. You are young, so if you do even a little bit to improve your performance you are ... (read in full...)
I can't control my ejaculation when she gives me a blow job. How can I last longer?
Q. Alright I've got a strange question for you all. When my girlfriend gives me a handjob it feels good until it starts chafing obviously but then she might switch to giving me head or whatever and it feels good also but its not until she starts giving ...
A. 6 May 2008: Okay - Regarding lasting longer. That's a good question, because it can take years to really master. The real solution is age and a procedure called "Kegel exercises." It basically involves squeezing your "pee muscles" over a long period of time as ... (read in full...)
I can't control my ejaculation when she gives me a blow job. How can I last longer?
Q. Alright I've got a strange question for you all. When my girlfriend gives me a handjob it feels good until it starts chafing obviously but then she might switch to giving me head or whatever and it feels good also but its not until she starts giving ...
A. 6 May 2008: The question is rather meandering, but I think that the answer is that you should incorporate lubrication products that are orally compatible, or in other words, consumable. Some, but not all, can provide lubrication and also taste good. My personal ... (read in full...)
I just don't have fantasies-any tips?
Q. I apparently don't have a real active imagination when it comes to fantasies. My boyfriend is always asking me what my fantasies are and I really can't think of anything. I don't know why, maybe it's cause I never really thought about it. When I was ...
A. 25 April 2008: From a man's point of view, I do not think that you are unusual. Women are not quite as visual as men for turn-ons, and I've read and been told that the female perspective on sex is based more on reality, sensuality, attention and togetherness. In ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend having "multiple orgasms"?
Q. My boyfriend is able to ejaculate (usually a few squirts) then put his penis back inside me and continue to thrust until he ejaculates again. Sometimes he is able to do this a few times, usually until his penis becomes too sensitive. Is this ...
A. 23 April 2008: In my opinion, anything is possible - especially in youth. One big, final climax may be more common, but if your boyfriend enjoys his series of ejaculations (and a few squirts is not necessarily small orgasms), then hurrah for him. Many of us can go ... (read in full...)
I can't climax during oral or hand stimulation but I can climax during self-masturbation. Any tips?
Q. Hey, i'm 16 and i haven't really had that much sex before, but when my G/F gives me a blowjob or handjob i find it really hard to cum? I've read the other posts, and i'm pretty sure it's not physological or physical cause it's fine when i have ...
A. 22 April 2008: It sounds to me that you are very possibly masturbating too much. If you have a girlfriend willing to suck you and give hand jobs, why the hell would you spend any time or effort yanking? No apology for my opinion that it is ridiculous to screw your ... (read in full...)
I guess I just accept the fact I will die a virgin. Why do you people lie about penis size? It's cruel!
Q. okay... so i was reading about some size questions because i was overweight and only 5.1 inches, so then decided to lose weight, but i only gain .3 inches, and i kept on reading about the "not the size of the boat, motion of the ocean stuff..." blah ...
A. 22 April 2008: There is a helluva lot more to being a man and a good lover than a bigger dick. Drive your lovers up the wall with your tongue and she/they will not give a damn if you even have a pecker. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my cousin I want the sex to stop?
Q. Well i'm going to start off at my cousin's house. One night me and him began doing sexual things to each other, i know it's gross but i was scared to tell him "no". When he comes around like at family get together's - i feel nervous when he even ...
A. 22 April 2008: I must agree with the Agony Aunts and Uncle below, but offer one additional idea. Tell him that you now have a great boyfriend (whether you do or not). That may help him lose interest and go looking elsewhere, but the main thing is like you ... (read in full...)
He enjoys fellatio whereas he doesn't even touch me in the private area... because he's religious! Any advice?
Q. Hi All I'm 45, in a relatively new relationship (six months). My guy (47) is very religious (Catholic) and believes that sex outside of marriage is a sin. I respect his views and though its not easy, I abide by them (mostly). We have had sex a f...
A. 22 April 2008: Quote:
"He is very thoughtful and kind, trustworthy, honourable and honest."
Those are good traits, but the truth seems to me that he knows nothing about or has little desire pleasing a woman sexually, yet wants his own pleasures satisfie... (read in full...)
He only climaxes during oral if he gets himself off. What am I doing wrong?
Q. please can somebody tell me what i am doing wrong. i am trying to give my partner a satisfying blow job. i am 48 and he is 57. despite reading all the advice on this site and putting it into practice he only ever climaxes by jacking himself ...
A. 19 April 2008: In my opinion, you cannot be doing anything wrong. The reality must be that some men require more of what may be called "friction" or "tightness" around their penile head and shaft to bring about a climax. It is not in my experience, but I truly ... (read in full...)
Will I be healed enough to have intercourse again so soon?
Q. Hey guys, this is kind of personal but i need to know some opinions as i have got loads of different accounts about this of the internet. Ok so monday night i had intercourse for the first time and i bled quite a bit and just finished today.i ...
A. 18 April 2008: Every young woman is different and the hymen that is typically breached during first intercourse may take just a few days, up to more than two weeks to completely heal. As "birdynumnums" mentioned, it is usually a fairly small membrane, but it ... (read in full...)
A one night stand - should I give him a call?
Q. I recently had a one night stand with a man I met at a bar. We were both very drunk. To be quite honest he didn't even know my name until we were finished and I told him what it was. We didn't exchange numbers. Just as I left he said 'call me ...
A. 17 April 2008: This remains a good topic because it happens every day all over the planet, which I think is a major reason that nightclubs and bars exist wherever there is freedom of thought and behavior. Girl meets boy, or vice-versa, and things escalate - ... (read in full...)
Oral sex lies? I have one I've kept from my boyfriend.
Q. Ok so I recently got in engaged to my boyfriend. But i am keeping ONE lie from him, which is that i have never given oral sex before, I have given it to one guy, but i told my soon to be husband that he is the first guy to get oral sex from me. ...
A. 17 April 2008: Since you told your fiance that he was first, then your honesty could someday be seriously questioned should you get into some kind of argument and you throw it back to him, or if your true "first" or someone else who knows it were ever to surface ... (read in full...)
Why do men have such problems with my past sex life?
Q. Why do men i date find my one night stands in the past distasteful?...
A. 16 April 2008: Jealousy and envy are powerful human emotions. The older we live and the more experiences - we sometimes learn to accept others with less judgement, but some never learn. Be honest, but you do not have to advertise the past. ... (read in full...)
Can heart medication destroy the male sex drive?
Q. Can heart medication destroy the male sex drive? My boyfriend takes half a Atehexal 50mg tablet each day for an irregular heartbeat. The active ingredient is atenolol. The leaflet inside the packet lists "Problems with sexual function" as one...
A. 16 April 2008: Absolutely, atenolol can at least cause erectile dysfunction (inability to achieve or maintain an erection), and as a 60-year-old heart attack patient who requires atenolol for maintaining a slower heart rate, I speak with experience.
However, my p... (read in full...)
A one night stand - should I give him a call?
Q. I recently had a one night stand with a man I met at a bar. We were both very drunk. To be quite honest he didn't even know my name until we were finished and I told him what it was. We didn't exchange numbers. Just as I left he said 'call me ...
A. 16 April 2008: Well it depends - did you enjoy? Does he "light your fire?" Was he clean, good in bed and attractive to you? Sounds like it. If you might enjoy some more fun, give him a call one time and he might well be up for more fun. Maybe a lot more. Just do ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my mouth aching when giving him oral?
Q. How can I stop my mouth aching when giving him oral? I've been giving my long term boyfriend oral for months now, but I still don't seem to be able to keep going without my mouth really aching. It gets so uncomfortable that I have to stop after ju...
A. 15 April 2008: The "switching" between oral, licking and hands, as mentioned by the aunts, is always a good way to ease stress on the mouth and jaws. Licking and sucking the testicles should also give some respite for a while. As a man, I've always tried to be ... (read in full...)
I cant seem to make him cum when I give him a blow job
Q. Hi there I have a serious issue here. i've just started seeing someone new and i cant seem to make him cum when i give him a blow job. I've never had this problem before... (Infact past partners have usually cum quite quickly). Its reached a po...
A. 14 April 2008: Many women are able to provide more sensory feeling to the penis with their mouth, lips and tongue than can be experienced with vaginal intercourse, which is one major reason why men typically enjoy blow-jobs, in my opinion. It simply FEELS great. ... (read in full...)
My wife likes endless fondling and foreplay with no sex. Any advice?
Q. My wife likes to fondle. She loves to play with my penis (teasingly, really) every chance she gets. On my days off, she would want me to sit with her for hours sometimes just to talk and fondle. I accommodate her a lot. Playing with my penis, she ...
A. 14 April 2008: Actually, you have at least the seeds of a wonderful relationship - because an ample amount of foreplay is an essential prelude to sexual activity, especially for the woman. The one troubling thing you said is "a lack of penetration." That is very ... (read in full...)
I gave in to his request (oral sex) but he did not return the favour. Am I right to be upset?
Q. I recently gave my 1st blowjob to a guy I was dating. He wanted it so much and so I gave in. Although personally I felt the act demeaning, I didn't mind doing it as I was attracted to this guy so much. However when I asked him if he would return ...
A. 13 April 2008: Oral sex provides exquisite pleasure and fantastic orgasms for both genders, and should always be mutual. You got the short end of the deal. No more for this jerk - he cannot be the only man you may be attracted to and there are certainly better men ... (read in full...)
She's defending the guy that sexually assaulted her whilst she was drunk?!
Q. Hey guys, Well i have a wonderful girlfriend that is most definately the best thing that has ever happened to me! This much i promise.....but i have a problem...... I have come on this site and asked a couple times about what to do when dealing wit...
A. 13 April 2008: Wow. I know something about your feelings as a stepfather whose 16-year-old stepdaughter was raped at a party, yet she even later consented to more sex with the criminal and, in a way, defended him as well. It was more than I could understand at the ... (read in full...)
One for the guys..What's your favourite sexual position?
Q. For the guys here...I am just curious what is your favorite sex position? I think that a lot of guys like the woman on top but I'd like to hear guy's opinions. Thanks!...
A. 13 April 2008: Indeed, woman-on-top, sometimes called "Cowgirl Ride" in Texas, is my favorite for intercourse, but most anything is fine with me. There are some very pleasant positions few really know about unless they have studied Kama Sutra. Just one I'll ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain oral sex to me?
Q. What is oral sex? and what we called that type of sex whisc has done from backside?...
A. 12 April 2008: That is a rather broad topic to address in one sitting. Oral sex is fellatio (sexual stimulation or copulation using and/or with the womans mouth), cunnilingus (oral stimulation of the woman's vulva, notably the clitoris, using the tongue and lips), ... (read in full...)
Is it harmful to swallow a man's discharge?
Q. can we swalow man's discharge. does it harm?...
A. 12 April 2008: As long a the man is clean, healthy and disease-free, is is okay to ingest his ejaculate, if that is what you mean. It is usually rather salty, according to what I have read, but contains testosterone, vitamins, minerals, protein and other ... (read in full...)
Why is he so selfish in bed, I do everything - but get nothing in return!
Q. My boyfriend is so selfish in bed, our sex is praciticly a routine. I do everything for him, i want to be a good lover to him and i put his pleasure first. He asks me to wear sexy outfits and underwear when we have sex, which is fine with me. He ...
A. 12 April 2008: In my opinion, "tick-tick-boom" has a good idea in letting your boyfriend know, in a subtle way, that's he is a lousy lover in bed. That would get the attention of any man with a "pair" between his legs. As it is, you have made him feel that he ... (read in full...)
Sex is amazing for his age-but it doesn't last long
Q. I've met this man 18 years my senior. Im 45. We gets on well and I love being round him. Our sex life is great. He can do it twice times a day. It's amazing for his age. I really enjoy making love to him. But it doesnt last long. A year on he ...
A. 12 April 2008: Are you the same woman basically asking the same question over and over again? You obviously enjoy your much older lover, and even if he cannot "pound" the pud quite as much or hard as you would prefer, you apparently have a great lover ... (read in full...)
The fact that he 'can't get me off in bed' makes him feel less of a man. So how can I make him feel better?
Q. I've been going out with a guy for almost half a year now, and short of little spats here and there, we're pretty compatible. I honestly think he's a real sweetheart. There's only one thing, though - he finds it upsetting that he can't get me 'of...
A. 12 April 2008: Is your lover willing to provide a good deal of foreplay, as well as perform oral stimulation for you to aid your arousal? It is gradually becoming known that women rarely experience full satisfaction from vaginal penetration alone, especially if a ... (read in full...)
What is a clit?
Q. Whats a clit? x...
A. 12 April 2008: It is the heart of a woman's sexuality and will be the focus of your sexual pleasures when the time comes for you to experience the joys of womanhood. You may be nearing the time when you can at least, and hopefully with caution, begin to explore ... (read in full...)
My husband is impotent, will my marriage survive? Please help.
Q. My husband is impotent and feels it's ruining our marriage, we are sleeping separate 'cos of his disabillity. My question is that i've tried so hard to try different things, but he doesn't seem interested. I feel useless. Can marriage survive with...
A. 12 April 2008: What is the apparent nature of the impotence? Lack of any erection at all? Inability to maintain erection? Inability to ejaculate? There are several possible causes and symptoms, some of which are fairly easily handled. Some are more complicated and ... (read in full...)
He's finding it difficult to keep up with my pace, what should I do?
Q. I've met man 63. Annd Im 45. He helps me to get through my divorce. We get on well and I love being around him. Our sex life is great. We can have sex twice a day. It's amazing for his age. I really enjoy making love to him. It's highly ...
A. 11 April 2008: The advice by "Uncle Phil" is good if his difficulty is maintaining an erection, but if he is having a problem with the "pounding" you mentioned, that has to do with stamina. Obviously, older men may not be able to maintain the physical levels of ... (read in full...)
Trying to have sex but he 'can't get it in' and it really hurts, is this normal?
Q. Hi everyone, I am 20 years old and I tried to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time and he was unable to get in me. He tried but just could not get in and it hurt everytime he tried. Is this normal for the first time or do you think there ...
A. 11 April 2008: You should not be concerned about any physical abnormalities if you have previously masturbated including insertion with fingers. My guess it that your attempt did not include enough foreplay to arouse you well enough to be lubricated, although if ... (read in full...)
He keeps losing his erection, could he be getting bored with me?
Q. I am worried because twice this week my b/f has lost his erection in the middle of intercourse! The first time, he said was because well, we're young and horny, so it was like the 3rd or 4th time straight that we had done it in a couple of hours....
A. 11 April 2008: In my opinion, you are reading way too much into the fact that sexual intimacy may not always be like all other times. It sounds like you two have a good ongoing relationship and you should not expect that every session will be incredible for both ... (read in full...)
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