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reader, cb +, writes (7 March 2008):
What I did was buy a book called "What is happening to my body- for boys". They also have a "What is happening to my body-for girls". The book explains changes in puberty and a variety of questions that may be too embarrassing to ask. It discusses sex, body hair, hormones and a variety of other issues that young kids wonder about. They have the book at almost every bookstore. I remember my son acted like he didn't want the book and I saw him reading it later on. By age 14, he probably knows a lot more than you think. He probably has gone online looking up questions and you know he has talked about it with his friends. It's not easy talking about sex to your kids. One example would be, "Son, I really have something important that I want to talk to you about. I know that you are getting older and we never really had the sex talk. I want you to know that the door is always open if you ever have any questions about anything. My main concern is that you get a girl pregnant. I really would hate to see you ruin your life at such a young age. If you ever find yourself in a situation that that you are going to have sex, make sure that you use protection. I really don't want to see you catching something or getting some girl pregnant. I worry about you. I know that you are smart and you really have been growing up so fast. When you decide that you want to have sex with someone make sure you choose that person wisely. You don't want to be with someone that everyone else has been with. Make sure you really care about her, she is good to you and most of all, make sure the time is right. Once you decide to take that step, it will change your relationship. Make sure it is with someone you feel a bond with and not just anyone. I want you to be safe. Son, I bought you something. I was looking online and found this gret book that I thought you might like. When you get some time take a look at it. If you have any questions about anything, you can talk to me. I'm serious when I said that the door is open."
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 March 2008):
 It is very important for parents to be having discussions with their kids about sex. Don't make the subject taboo! Sex is normal and everyone has questions and thoughts. Even though your son may be getting all kinds of details from school, the internet and his friends, it's important that he talk to YOU about it as well.
Trust me, even though it's embarrassing, tons of teens wish their parents had talk to them MORE about sex and really helped them to understand, rather than leaving them to figure it all out themselves. You are your child's best teacher.
As for how to bring it up, well, you've gotten some great advice here. I wish you the best!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): "Children in this computer age are very smart.
They can get all those info's online."haha so true i know that when i was his age i knew a lot about sex though im still finding out new things like nostril sex lol had no idea what that was.but for now i would leave it alone if he asks questions answer them but he will probly just get his info from the internet.
-michael
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 Has he actually ASKED you questions about sex? If so then great and just answer the questions he asks honestly. Don't go off on a tangent talking about it for ages, just answer what he wants to know and leave it there. Let him know that if he has any more questions then you're only too happy to talk to him about them and enlighten him.
However if he HASN'T ASKED... then leave it until he does, you'll probably find he already knows anyway through other sources ie friends, tv, school and internet.
~Eve~
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2008):
 Children in this computer age are very smart.
They can get all those info's online.
They know a lot and they may know more than you .
Tell him if he has any questions about sex,
he can feel free to ask you.
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reader, love-him +, writes (6 March 2008):
 HEY!!
Approach the subject gently because he will probly be embarrased about talking about it. He probly will know most things but ask him if he would like to know anything else and let him know that he can ask you anything whenever he wants..
GOOD LUCK! Feel free to mail me at any time x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): I think that he will probably know it all by now, my sons did. I tried to talk to them at the age of 13 and they said that it had been discussed at school, in a lesson. I then asked them if they wanted to know anything else i was there for them, but they didnt. So have a chat with him and you may find that he know quite a bit, if not all, all ready. If he doesnt, then sit down and tell him it as it is, give it to him straight, and he will thank you for it in later life.
take care xx
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 March 2008):
 Be honest. Remember that he will hear all about it, and if you are honest and straightforward about everything, then he will respect your guidance.
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