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writes:My boyfriend of 3 years wants me to move in with him. He lives 2 hours drive away. We both have our job in two different cities. He operates his own business and I am in a family business. We see each other every weekend. It's not too far of a drive but after 3 years, we really want to just see each other every day. My boyfriend is very understanding. He said to me I can either move up to his city and not having to work (or work, if I want). Or he will plan to move down closer to where I live and we can keep doing our jobs. I feel if he move down, it'll make both of us unhappy. He is away from his family and friends and have to drive to work 1.5 hr everyday. I will be closer to my family, but I have to be in traffic for work for 1hr too. If I move up, I'm afraid I'll be away from my family and friends and need to start a new life in a new city. Lots of people tell me don't move up because I will regret, but does it really make sense for my boyfriend to move closer to me. I just want both of us to be happy. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 If you love each other, you will eventually need to live under the same roof and sleep in the same bed. After three years, I would expect you two to know whether you want to make the relationship more serious or keep it as it is. So, I think that the real question is whether you two are ready to live together.
If you're not ready, then moving would not make sense for any of you. Three hours are not going to kill anyone. You can drive one week, and the he can drive the other. Canada is a large country and I understand that for many people it is like a fact of life that they will have to drive long distances. If you're not ready to live together, losing your job would be far more disruptive than driving.
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 A three hour drive is quite long, and I can understand why you both want to be closer to each other. It makes sense for one of you to move closer. If your boyfriend is willing to move, I think you should let him. He can still see his family and such. You have to move away from the family some time and he can make new friends and still have work friends. It sounds like a good idea to me. And you'd still get to see your boyfriend, only more often.
Wishing you the best
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 hey hun!!!well i think you should ask your boyfriend to rethink..moving to your place just because its a 2 hour drive way makes no sense..yeah but it definitely shows how much he loves you but moving there nah not a good idea..god forbid if ever anything happens he should never blame you for what happened..just tell him that u love him and that both u and him will take turns to meet up with each other,,and things wil work out..best of luck
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