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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I dated a man for about 5 years many years ago. I was in love with him, then and always have been. After seperating I went on to have a 7 year relationship with someone else, and 3 children and also found out that my ex had come out as gay. I was devasted and we didn't speak again. Two years ago we got back in contact and have been so close since. I recently seperated with my partner and he has been there as a great support for me and my kids however my feelings for him have re-surfaced and are now stronger than ever, even though he is gay. The other we spent the day and evening together and had a great day. On leaving my house he went home and sent me an email, saying he still loved me, more than he ever did and he's got what he wanted, by me being back in his life, how he was sorry he hurt me and never will again, etc. When we spoke the next day, we didn't really bring it up and he seemed awkward around me and now I'm even more confused than ever. I don't understand whether he is having second thoughts on his sexuality? I don't want to bring it up because even though I love him, I would rather have his friendship than nothing at all and don't want to risk that. I think he knows how I feel about him and that's why I don't understand why he sent what he did. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 I fully agree with Tisha-1. Couldn't have said it better.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 It sounds to me like he is emotionally connected with you and wants to keep you as a friend. If he is gay, though, he is not sexually attracted to women and is not a likely romantic prospect for you.
The tricky bit is that you are still attracted to him. I sincerely doubt that if he is out as a gay man, that he will switch back to heterosexuality. He probably feels badly about hurting you in the past, but still cares for you as a very close friend would.
Please don't get your hopes up for a full reconciliation, that meaning that you'll enter into a proper boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with sex and romance.
Sorry to throw cold water on your hopes, but I think you are hoping for something that just isn't going to happen.
All the best.
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